blackweaver:

bush man, you've made your bed and now you're complaining 'cos you have to lie in it
the onus is on you to make it work
pay attention to your wife and for God's sake stop complaining that you don't love your wife
make up your mind that you are going to love her regardless of whatever it is that turns you
off; especially since she seems to be crazy about you and of course pray about it
'cos it seems to me that you have a problem

Witi:

@poster u need to let your partner no how u feel about your relationship if divorce is out of the issue. then prayerfully both of you can tackle the problem together. love usually starts like a seed and it is space-time continuum, let your mind open and let the seed be planted.

spikedcylinder:

Is love by force these days sef?

saintade01:

U no know. no be the 'feelings' o
in short na by fire self

tpia.:

what's love got to do with "it".

emma-ola:

you weree shagging someone you didnt love skin 2 skin, is it water you ejaculate that you think she may not get pregnant?brother, carry your cross!!!

segan:

your biggest mistake was having sex with someone outside marriage , which is a sin,
thaz the genesis of your whole problems,
well you are on it try to get used to it,
with time you adjust,
all the best,
i am married did not have sex with my wife b4 marriage,,i was her first,
is good to keep bible principles,
take care,mate

I-egenti:

guy, i don't have any much thing to say than, " you will never appreciate or value what u have untill u loose it".

richard10:

@pinkielove what do u mean by saying i am breaking my marriage vows and that i lied in the prensence of GOD sometimes i just wonder,so it is a crime for one to express his real feelings this is one of the hyporicy going on the church today i have read the bible over and over again and i have come to see that GOD valueshonest and true worship than all these hoiler than thou attitude we put up in church and that he is a GOD of love and liberty and not of bondagethere are many people in my position today but who are too afraid to speak up because of people like you, for your information i respect the marriage insitution and that is why i came out for help instead of decieving myself and lying to my myself and i thank GOD i did that

Busy_body:

95% of the posters on Nairaland says richard10 should find a way to love his wife by fire by force, and what this means for unmarried youngies like me is that I am going to marry a mega rich man only just for his money, because I now know that when we start having marital problems and my rich husband discovers he does not love me/I don't love him, i will point him in the direction of Nairaland because I know the dependable 95% would be there to chastise him and remonstrate with him to bend over backward to love me and my trifling ways by force, yippee, heavenly bliss

I don't wanna push it, but if you don't ask, you don't get, so my humble request to you when he comes to you guys is to please work your magic on him if I cheat on him occassionally with his richer friends, convince him i mean well and still love him, thank you in advance, God bless you all I know I can count on you Nairalanders anyway to have my back anyday

MORAL OF THE THREAD/STORY: Ladies can eat their cake and still have it, and we don't even have to force ourselves to get pregnant and disfigure our body to get a man