obiorathesubtle:
well well well.. What do we have here..

-- T-Bag. (rubs palm)

mizzkweenbee:
I'll try and make this as brief as possible. Have been dating this guy for almost a year now. Things were going smoothly till he travelled(outside the country)early this year, I got to find out he is married but the wife stays outside and he has relocated to go be with her. After he left, his best friend started calling me often, sending me messages, tryna check on me and all that. I didn't really take it serious till few days ago, he called me and was like since we both didn't av a date for val, let him take me out. I obliged. He took me to a fancy restaurant and was telling me how much he has always loved me and had wanted to tell me about his friend but didn't wanna betray him. I was shocked outta ma senses when he brought out a ring and proposed in front of everyone. Now my question is, can u marry ur ex's best friend, can I really trust this guy, isn't he like his friend. He's a nice guy really but I dnt know if i can marry him. Your advice'll really be appreciated.

I can marry him if he loves u and if u loves him too

mizzkweenbee:
I'll try and make this as brief as possible. Have been dating this guy for almost a year now. Things were going smoothly till he travelled(outside the country)early this year, I got to find out he is married but the wife stays outside and he has relocated to go be with her. After he left, his best friend started calling me often, sending me messages, tryna check on me and all that. I didn't really take it serious till few days ago, he called me and was like since we both didn't av a date for val, let him take me out. I obliged. He took me to a fancy restaurant and was telling me how much he has always loved me and had wanted to tell me about his friend but didn't wanna betray him. I was shocked outta ma senses when he brought out a ring and proposed in front of everyone. Now my question is, can u marry ur ex's best friend, can I really trust this guy, isn't he like his friend. He's a nice guy really but I dnt know if i can marry him. Your advice'll really be appreciated.

If its take shim that long before he can come out to tell you how unreliable his friend is,then himself is not far far from been same as his friend.

He is a wolf in sheep clothing.......... and put your self in his friends shoe.................look elsewhere for you own hubby not your ex best friend.....its morally wrong.

mizzkweenbee:
I'll try and make this as brief as possible. Have been dating this guy for almost a year now. Things were going smoothly till he travelled(outside the country)early this year, I got to find out he is married but the wife stays outside and he has relocated to go be with her. After he left, his best friend started calling me often, sending me messages, tryna check on me and all that. I didn't really take it serious till few days ago, he called me and was like since we both didn't av a date for val, let him take me out. I obliged. He took me to a fancy restaurant and was telling me how much he has always loved me and had wanted to tell me about his friend but didn't wanna betray him. I was shocked outta ma senses when he brought out a ring and proposed in front of everyone. Now my question is, can u marry ur ex's best friend, can I really trust this guy, isn't he like his friend. He's a nice guy really but I dnt know if i can marry him. Your advice'll really be appreciated.

What's your nationality?

Somewhere in aba

AfroKnight:
I can never date my friend's ex no matter how beautiful she is. This guy had to date his friend's ex. Who does that? It is sad that you even agreed to date him. Instead of you to run far from such guys.

Well, maybe you don't value loyalty. A man that cannot let his friend's ex be is a man without loyalties.

my dear thats ur personal opinion. provided they hav ended d relationship nothing is wrong in dating d ex's best friend. he was even loyal in covering up for his friend who he knew was married,even though he might have been in love with d girl all along. what d op needs is time to check d compatibility level and other things. my opinion though.

From my observation you are giving it a serious thought. You seem okay with him. Youve known him for as long as you known your ex.
1. What happened to his gf or ex gf or he is a virgin/rev father?
2. Seriously he could have had a crush on you since and your ex could have told him gr8 things bout you in bed or financially or family wise. For your ex bf's friend to come for you you are special or he has heard wonderful things bout you from the guy or out of pity. But to marry out of pity is not good . You must rily get ro be in love with anyone you want to marry.
3. Ask this guy serious questions about his ex y he brokeup n about himself.
4. The killer- send a mail to your ex about the recent development and see the reaction and tell the other guy you have told your ex. Lets see how things will go.

It's a super story!
Remember, we are pencils in the hand of the Creator.

Sharp guy, d guy wan collect his share. Dnt worry, he wl use n dump u d same way ur ex did. Ur ex must v told him 1 or 2 things abt u n daz what he try to confirm or put into pracice. Dnt worry, ur eyes wl soon clear.

mizzkweenbee:
I'll try and make this as brief as possible. Have been dating this guy for almost a year now. Things were going smoothly till he travelled(outside the country)early this year, I got to find out he is married but the wife stays outside and he has relocated to go be with her. After he left, his best friend started calling me often, sending me messages, tryna check on me and all that. I didn't really take it serious till few days ago, he called me and was like since we both didn't av a date for val, let him take me out. I obliged. He took me to a fancy restaurant and was telling me how much he has always loved me and had wanted to tell me about his friend but didn't wanna betray him. I was shocked outta ma senses when he brought out a ring and proposed in front of everyone. Now my question is, can u marry ur ex's best friend, can I really trust this guy, isn't he like his friend. He's a nice guy really but I dnt know if i can marry him. Your advice'll really be appreciated.

Babe, don't mind all those bashing you. Just see this as the beginning of a relationship, just like any other relationship. But try to hold back on sex for as long as possible, in case he wants to chop and clean mouth.

A male friend once told me about a girl he was dating while he was married. One of his single friends told him he liked his girlfriend and wanted to marry her. He arranged for three of them to meet somewhere and right there he told his girlfriend that his friend was interested in her and handed the girl over to his friend. The girl started crying that he betrayed her (girl wey dey date married man ooo). They are married now with kids.

RoyalBlak007:
Is he financially stable

You are very wrong to have asked that question. What has that got to do with marrying an ex's best friend? Think of more sensible questions and ask again...

How well do u know d guy? U didn't even mention dat u guys are dating n he propose....hmmmm.

How far did u collect d ring?

mizzkweenbee:

Had to hug him to save him the embarrassment but I didn't take the ring.told him I needed time

Do u really knw hw men think? To him,dat hug has jst confirmed it dat u v fallen whether u collect d akpako ring or not. Next meeting, na sexx e go introduce to u

AfroKnight:
I can never date my friend's ex no matter how beautiful she is. This guy had to date his friend's ex. Who does that? It is sad that you even agreed to date him. Instead of you to run far from such guys.

Well, maybe you don't value loyalty. A man that cannot let his friend's ex be is a man without loyalties.

There is room for flexibility in life, a colleague of mine the lady the brother married was his best friend girl that usually comes visiting them in same flat, the guy proposed to her despite she was still dating his friend, she agreed on the ground that her main guy hasn't proposed. Today they are happily married with kids.

mizzkweenbee:

Can't marry a poor man but equally cannot marry a guy cos of his money

Aren't you poor too? If you don't have more than 500k in your account,you are poor.

STFUareyouGod:
Are you related to Gollum Smeagol?

hahaha, bros Smeagol of al people

EOOJ:
hahaha, bros Smeagol of al people

seems she's also obsessed with rings. Lol

if truly your ex is married, give this guy a chance. reasons, he knew his guy was married yet he remained loyal to their friendship despite his desire for you. some other guys would have place their emotion, secondly, you have to understand that he had take his time to study you both at your good and bad moments and finally I think you already love him in return you are only trying to be sure you are not wrong in your decision. if your heart says yes, pls hit the green button and move on. success.

Hi. Please do yourself a favour and #RUNAWAYFAST

It is a very fishy arrangement. I mean does he think that you are desperate to marry. My guess is that if he has his way with you, he would quickly move on with his life. Be wise.

I totally disagree....the dude is a bad guy, so all the while you were dating his friend him eyes dey your body....I pity am, he will someday love to date your friends if u travel even for a short walk....go find another suitor and leave their circle, single men full outside like me..

Well, I do understand the 'bro code' ish where he wouldn't wanna cast on his friend but in my honest opinion, if he really liked you whilst u were in a relationship with that crook, he will av dropped signs. Constant unexplainable fights with his friend, withdrawn and moody disposition when u three were together, and other subtle hints. So my dear, you have to do ur soul searching. Its up to you to know if he has always loved u or he just wants a taste of d pie.

What can happen only in the zoo!

mizzkweenbee:
I'll try and make this as brief as possible. Have been dating this guy for almost a year now. Things were going smoothly till he travelled(outside the country)early this year, I got to find out he is married but the wife stays outside and he has relocated to go be with her. After he left, his best friend started calling me often, sending me messages, tryna check on me and all that. I didn't really take it serious till few days ago, he called me and was like since we both didn't av a date for val, let him take me out. I obliged. He took me to a fancy restaurant and was telling me how much he has always loved me and had wanted to tell me about his friend but didn't wanna betray him. I was shocked outta ma senses when he brought out a ring and proposed in front of everyone. Now my question is, can u marry ur ex's best friend, can I really trust this guy, isn't he like his friend. He's a nice guy really but I dnt know if i can marry him. Your advice'll really be appreciated.

nothing is wrong with marrying him just get to know him better that's all after no one knows were a person's husband will come from and besides your ex is married so move on I wish you de best

you won't get answers here,just go and talk to God in prayers,he will tell u wat to do.cheers

What is the big deal my room mate married my ex girlfriend.

My dear sister twins born on same day are not of d same character, ur boyfriend betrayed u doesn't mean d friend is going to do the same thing. moreover if u r a Christian or Muslim go before God and ask for the right thing. remember in marriage if ones rush in he/she runs out. Pls marriage is for life be very careful

Hmmm....your ex travelled earlier this year.....but we're only halfway in February!... he recently travelled. Mr Proposal and your ex are two beans in a pod....birds of a feather... loyal to each other. He knew your ex was married.... was going to abandon you.... but never said a word until he left. If truth be told... your ex is fully aware of all this happenings. He is finished with you... and has given his buddy permission and advice on how to get between your legs before a stranger. No man goes after his friend's ex.... at least in such a rush and with a proposal. If he can rush after you..he can rush after your sister or even mother... such a man is unpredictable and capable of anything. This is like incest....shut him down....clear your head...move on.

u cant marry hr ex best friend....u live ur life regreting it

ceejay80s:

What if after a few years, ur ex returns and wants to visit his friend ur husband, which eye Ana wan take look Ana self?

That's why she needs to confirm first whether the said ex was actually married why dating her as a single man.

Op..remember mehn sabi jealous pass woman...imagine the said ex comes around for vacation, u wouldn't stop him from visiting his friend! Would u? Now imagine ur husby needs to get something urgently and u are left alone with ur ex..blv me once he comes back might hv d idea dat u guyz just knack something..


What we don't know is better than what we know..hv u slept with ur ex? If no then u might consider d offer but if yes then free am abeg, how are u sure he's not only looking to service ur Congo?

Sounds somehow. There are other guys out there. Your ex's best friend sounds awkward to date not to talk of marrying. Its a big no for me.


Besides you shouldn't be in a rush to marry,marriage isn't a one day event. You need time to figure things out.

Analysiscorner:

That's why she needs to confirm first whether the said ex was actually married why dating her as a single man.

Husband and wife must surely quarrel, u know Wetin go come out for the man mouth when una dey quarrel?
"after sleeping with my friend and all the street boys, I manage marry u" talk must plenty for the marriage