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Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Nobody: 11:21am On Mar 31, 2016 |
Ray360: I concurr intoto.. Things one cannot condone for one person, he condones for another. |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Youngpo413: 11:23am On Mar 31, 2016 |
VickyRotex:if he has a fat bank account, that's what naija ladies are interested in. |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Ab025(m): 11:23am On Mar 31, 2016 |
pinkpebbles: Why do you want to shiver...?? Do you have malaria...!! Stop deceiving ursef, all those shivering stuffs only exists in novels... |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Nobody: 11:25am On Mar 31, 2016 |
why do some people seek advice from the wrong source? what level of brain power does the op operate on? romance section for that mata.... chai!!! I weep for my generation. |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by lodscott(m): 11:29am On Mar 31, 2016 |
Joavid: oya sorry, no cry abeg |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Youngpo413: 11:29am On Mar 31, 2016 |
pinkpebbles:I'm sure you have had numerous cute Ex'es, what stops you from marrying just one? 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by brightology3: 11:30am On Mar 31, 2016 |
Women self. Hmmm LuveU2: |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by lodscott(m): 11:41am On Mar 31, 2016 |
op, pls and pls before men knew what love was, marriages have been existing and they went well or sour, not depending on love, no no.. but on the two partner s involved. you have to know what you want, he has to know what he wants,you have to know what he wants, he has to know what you want. from your post its clear you don't know what you want. whether love, or money or his character. how then would he satisfy you when you wouldn't know when you're satisfied? in my opinion your not ready for marriage yet. else you wouldn't be asking this. go sit down and find out what you want in the marriage, consider what he is offering, both his good and bad sides. is it something you can cope with? cuts marriage is mainly about tolerance, consider what your offering too.as for now ur offering him an unstable mind, one not ready for marriage. finally ask urself if u r ready, Cuz marriage is for better and for worse, know that people change, marriage would change him and you also, those things u saw in him that you liked or hated may and may not disappear. in truth no one is ever fully prepared for what is to come but you must be prepared to hold on till death do you part. and already you seem like ur one leg in and out. 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Youngpo413: 11:43am On Mar 31, 2016 |
pinkpebbles:just marry the man you are crazy in lust with, tall, dark, rich and handsome. But pray he will be nice to you. 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by JERRY1925(m): 11:48am On Mar 31, 2016 |
I dnt understand why women look 4 love..wen it's easy for dem to fall In and out of it....if u feel d man love u much..dont waste time o..accept him o....because I promis u will love him very soon...because women are wired dat way....but it's opposite 4 men....just let him promise u to always love dats ok 4 u. 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by ifeomaekol(f): 11:51am On Mar 31, 2016 |
Ray360:I totally agree wt u, if dias true passion in ur r/shp, it survives d test of time. |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Toks2008(m): 11:57am On Mar 31, 2016 |
pinkpebbles: Sure you can but on one condition...He must sincerely want you and be truly in love with you. Women are naturally wired to fall deeply in love with a man who truly cherishes them even when the lady never loved him initially. The movie Beauty and the beast is not just a fiction but very practicable in real life scenario. In fact one of the most rampant reasons for divorce is because ladies tend to marry men who they love so much but does not love them or pretends to love them.Ironically many ladies could tell if a man really cherishes them but they tend to overlook it because of the rush of unreasoning desire they have for the dude and later regrets it. A prince charming who treats you like poo will look uglier than a beast to you in no time while that short fat ugly pot bellied guy will be so adorable to you latter when he continuously treats you like a queen. Its up to you to make your decision. 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by andyanders: 11:59am On Mar 31, 2016 |
It is hard to find true love. |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by tunde82seidat(f): 12:03pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
I know what d op is talking about cos v been dere' when u not physically attracted to a man That seems to v all d qualities u desire .Its a v difficult situation cos u not sure to come by Dat type of man if u lose him. It goes down to two things one if u are d type Dat believe so much in "love "its good that u quit to avoid cheating on him, a man u love will always appear v cute to you even if hes ugly to d world, love can not b forced, its either dere or not but if u can overlook ds attribute by considering his other good qualities. U can give it a trial.but jremember nothing certain in life, u can easily grow outa love wt who u once loved n its possible u fall in love wt him eventually |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Nobody: 12:11pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Honestly you must search your Soul because love is one thing but true honesty to yourself is what matters. If you don't love him now what guarantees you would love him eventually. Sometimes you might be lucky because people change after all is said and done so you might have the advantage Loving slowly and lightly at first so you notice some negative traits you know will never keep a household and you can leave just as you came. Love grows but if it isn't there to begin with I doubt if it will be there in the end |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by VickyRotex(f): 12:21pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
catlova2: lol. It shouldn't be all about money na. |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by VickyRotex(f): 12:23pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Youngpo413: Nah I disagree with that notion. |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Nobody: 12:23pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
VickyRotex: Yea, for a woman it is most of the time. U know nah |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Nobody: 12:24pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
LuveU2:is dat ur only criteria 4 marrying someone |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by VickyRotex(f): 12:27pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
catlova2: lol. I see. Different strokes then. |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Nobody: 12:32pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
VickyRotex: Hain, are u forming a different specie now ni |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by ehjiwummy(f): 12:34pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
pinkpebbles:You don't hav to call it quit yet,jus give it a time nd let d love germinate in ur heart.nd mind u let d ur mind be stable. |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 12:42pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Thank u. I am takin ur advice Toks2008: 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by VickyRotex(f): 12:58pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
catlova2: Yes ke I'm Unique ni! |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by professore(m): 1:07pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Smellymouth:This holds water |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by David4best(m): 1:17pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Love does not exist . That passion or emotional feeling u are calling love fades away with time. Most divorcee or marriage in crises u are seeing today had experienced this fake passion or feeling u call love before getting married. But they later became worst enemies to each other. Listen! Two partners need compatibility, understanding, respect, submissiveness, loyalty, patience, tolerance, companionship, and vision with each other before getting married. 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Youngpo413: 1:19pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
byvan03:The one you want to be with will surely have someone else on his mind... And the cycle continues. 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Mosandie(f): 1:20pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
pinkpebbles: Love is truly overated. Do you respect him enough to submit to his authority as your husband?Will he be up to his responsibilities as a man? Are you going in the same direction?....i mean is he your ideal man? When it comes to love, trust me you are safer if he loves you more, naturally yours will grow. Question is Does he love and respect you? 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Toks2008(m): 1:38pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
pinkpebbles: I am humbled. Nevertheless,please understand that there is no perfect choice of spouse but its all about tolerating the bad sides and celebrating his good sides. Wish you all the best sis and have a great day. 2 Likes |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by chival1960(f): 2:04pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
pinkpebbles:hoping is a strong word which can go both ways! If for instance a lady marries a man hoping to love him and it goes south she will end up enduring her marriage instead of enjoying it. With all the ups and downs of marriage love is what makes it enjoyable so if it can't be sorted now,no Need to follow through IN the Name of Hope! |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by ikp120(m): 2:07pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
VickyRotex: That your last paragraph says it all. And the problem with infatuation is that it can last for years under certain conditions, but once the fuel is gone, their eyes will clear. At that point you'll hear things like "How on earth did I marry a bitch like this?". Of course you know the next thing "DIVORCE!". That's why celebrities divorce like it's a religious ritual. Listen to their music and you'll hear that line that tells you the root of their relationship problem: LUST/INFATUATION. Please if your eyes have not cleared yet, DO NOT MARRY THAT GUY YET! You're still like Alice in the wonderland. That burning thing is PASSION, not LOVE. Passion is an attribute of both Love and Infatuation. Please don't make the mistake so many musicians and actors across the world are making. I REST MY CASE! THANK YOU! 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by VickyRotex(f): 2:50pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
ikp120: God bless you so much for this. You've said it all! 1 Like |
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