IkpuMmadu:


Oga what is meaningless


Let us start encouraging people marrying their likes ...it's not a nive thing disobeying parents just to marry

We will all be parents someday so why will you advise somebody to disobey

And why should a lady throw herself on a man that his family doesn't want her...there should be dignity

Why can't the lady simply walk away and let the man sort this thing out of he really wants


This is shameful a lady comes to public forum to lament about Igbo man not marrying her...for Christ sake sue can find men in her tribe or is her tribal men not marriage material


This is shameful ..and for a lady for that matter ...we know husbands are scarce but there should be dignity NAA



A man should be the one doing the chasing .....

theDEVILisHERE:


You have some point

but I think its harsh to say a lady shouldn't
lament about such situation in public

Women are not naturally built to comply to such

IkpuMmadu:

Noted
But I said the fact

kaziblake:
My dear this is tough o..i will advice you to seek God face,if it doesn't work out then find your way.
My cousin is married to an Igbo guy and they are doing fine.
His parent approved the marriage cos they are well learned and aren't tribalistic likewise her parent too...Tribalism is mostly common among the illiterates.
My yoruba friend is facing the same the same issue from her father cos of her igbo boo,her boyfriend parent accepted her wholeheartedly but her own father is the main issue..She took in and she is currently 8month gone but her father is still adamant.
May God help you and morenike

theDEVILisHERE:


she decided to take in while her father is still adamant??! ha children of these days

IMHO this should only be allowed to happen if the lady is in her mid-30's approaching 40's

dragonking2:
In the past Igbos were not too tribalistic but now Igbos are very tribalistic. Its a big shame

kaziblake:
She is 26yrs but they both love themselves that why she took in

theDEVILisHERE:


26yrs and she did that? ha, some of una dey tryoo

Anyway, most Igbo will not easily abandon the mother of their child so she might not have that problem in the future, but the fact is doing such decision is not smart of any lady

You ladies need to learn to make rational decision cause this sentimental emotional decision making you people do all the time is what is always putting you in problems

I know it's hard for most of you to do but you have to learn it
After all you guys want equal rights with men so start trying to reason like them too

kaziblake:
if my parents refuse my choice of husband I will do the same to(pregnancy)

sammied:





You're a green snake tribal idiot... my fiancee is igbo and we're presently going through the same issues. my Yoruba parents and siblings have accepted her with overwhelming love.... yet her tribalistic igbo parents have not done the same by accepting me....very shortsighted igbo folks....

Putting her under undue pressure, treating their own daughter as though she's a commodity... thank God she's madly inlove with me and I have been the best man she will ever dream of... she has stood her ground, it's either us or nobody else for her...

so we should throw away 2 years of our life together cos her igbo parents cannot get over their myopic tribalistic views? in this 21st century...

in choosing who to marry.... You all should know that as important as your parents are, they're simply your past not ur future, your intend hubby or wifey is your future and you have the choice either to get Stucked with the past or move on with your future....

It's a pity in this part of the world that bad things that has been long abolished in other countries is still been celebrated here....

femmefetale:


My dear, I'm In an inter tribal relationship presently and my man sef is already castigating where I'm from. It's not easy calming him down. I'm from Anambra, he is from Akwa ibom, and all he says is that the igbos hate to marry from his place. I don't find it funny at all, because he always rings it like a bell bin my hears ALL THE TIME.

udoka2:
i will Segregate abit here... please pardon me.

If he is from Anambra... my advise is please move on. They love marrying themselve.

if Imo or Abia., the will likely accept you if you behave well after marriage. l trust typical yoruba woman to appear humble whether they mean it or not. You will get the love of an average igbo parent with typical 'yoruba attitude of humility'.


This is just an option, please dont nail me if you are from Anambra, there is always exception to the rule.

richyblink1:


Brotherly, yeah it's true we will all be father's sooner than later. But a son (man) calmly and boldly telling/ making his people know where his heart and genuine feeling lies, isn't an act of disobedience if you ask me. It's simply obeying and following your heart to make a decision that will either make you unhappy for the rest of your life, or make you a better man in the future.

Parents should learn to guide their children in decision making and not to control and force them to do their bidding

waternogetemeny:
Anybody that thinks OP is woman need to get their head checked. That is a tribalistic Yoruba man obessessed with marriage to Igbo.


He joined nairaland this month and this is the only valid topic to post on FP despite all the problems Nigeria is experiencing.


Go and cover ur head in shame.


igbos should think deeply of baning marriages to Yoruba so dey can rest and let us rest too.

prettyboi1:
I won't talk long,..."Love conquers all!" If you love him and he loves you too, that's almost all that matters. You both would need to protect each other from tribal issues on both your side and his.

Chinaimporter:
[b][size=13pt]As an igboman who have nothing against other tribes in Nigeria, I will like to ask you to do the right thing by refusing to marry my brother.
We igbos care about out genetic integrity and genetic hygiene so much that we find it difficult to dilute the genes of our progeny with that of people with inferior genetic makeup.
This same thing is happening in the north where the superior Fulani blood is gradually been diluted with threat of the Chadic and Proto kwa inferior elements.
I am a product of a mixed race marriage and my mother is Yoruba. As such I have always hated myself and always quarrel with my father for diluting the blood of eri that flow through my vein with that of the Yoruba race.
It is better for all Africans to allow the igbos remain pure since just like the Germans are helping Europe today,igbos will be the savior of the black race.
I have nothing against other tribes or people but I strongly believe in the blueness of the Igbo blood and I have no problem with people believing in their own blood too.
In other to return my progeny to their initial height, I have decided to marry only a lady from the purest Igbo stock that can be found only in anambra(onitsha inclusive since the few Benin blood have been assimilated and over diluted with obosi and Ogidi material)Enugu state and asaba areas of delta state(agbor exluded due to Benin admixture)....other Igbo state have these kind of people but it is now difficult to detect since a lot of dilution have happened over the years especially in imo[/size][/b]

kaziblake:
if my parents refuse my choice of husband I will do the same to(pregnancy)

IkpuMmadu:

Nawa

richyblink1:


Since you are Igbo, let me make it easier for you.
Ask what it means for an Anambra man to marry outside his town, not to talk of marrying outside his state and tribe. Are you forgetting this slogan,"mma anyi siri"

udoka2:
i will Segregate abit here... please pardon me.

If he is from Anambra... my advise is please move on. They love marrying themselve.

if Imo or Abia., the will likely accept you if you behave well after marriage. l trust typical yoruba woman to appear humble whether they mean it or not. You will get the love of an average igbo parent with typical 'yoruba attitude of humility'.


This is just an option, please dont nail me if you are from Anambra, there is always exception to the rule.

kaziblake:
Yes!I will get pregnant for him.
Any problem?

legalspices:
Hello fellow NLs, am at a cross road here....I have been dating this Igbo guy for over 5yrs now, am Yoruba tho but we both didn't see it as a barrier what matters to us is the love and connection between us.....he is well known by my family and accepted too but the problem is his parents...his brothers and sisters are indifferent about it...but his parents frowns against any of them marrying outside Igbo...his kid sis is over 30 and still single cos of this issue.

Hi sup bae


Wont I be treated like an outcast?? My kids?? Whose MIL or FIL doesn't show up for their son's wedding?? She won't show up for my 'omugwo'??

A part of me thinks I can handle the situation, but then another part is asking me to move on.

Words of advice pls....I really love this guy

Hello fellow NLs, am at a cross road here....I have been dating this Igbo guy for over 5yrs now, am Yoruba tho but we both didn't see it as a barrier what matters to us is the love and connection between us.....he is well known by my family and accepted too but the problem is his parents...his brothers and sisters are indifferent about it...but his parents frowns against any of them marrying outside Igbo...his kid sis is over 30 and still single cos of this issue.

[b]
Wont I be treated like an outcast?? [/b]My kids?? Whose MIL or FIL doesn't show up for their son's wedding?? She won't show up for my 'omugwo'??

A part of me thinks I can handle the situation, but then another part is asking me to move on.

Words of advice pls....I really love this guy