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Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 2:20pm On May 31, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu: You have some point but I think its harsh to say a lady shouldn't lament about such situation in public Women are not naturally built to comply to such |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 2:59pm On May 31, 2016 |
I am harsh`,`c`os i dont smoke harshish |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 5:46pm On May 31, 2016 |
theDEVILisHERE: Noted But I said the fact |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 6:58pm On May 31, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:Definately |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 7:10pm On May 31, 2016 |
kaziblake: she decided to take in while her father is still adamant??! ha children of these days IMHO this should only be allowed to happen if the lady is in her mid-30's approaching 40's |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 7:15pm On May 31, 2016 |
theDEVILisHERE:She is 26yrs but they both love themselves that why she took in |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 7:21pm On May 31, 2016 |
dragonking2: In fact they need to be more tribalistic if you asked me cause their very existence as a people depends on it Their being to liberal in the past is what put them in the current mess they're in now 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 7:39pm On May 31, 2016 |
kaziblake: 26yrs and she did that? ha, some of una dey tryoo Anyway, most Igbo will not easily abandon the mother of their child so she might not have that problem in the future, but the fact is doing such decision is not smart of any lady You ladies need to learn to make rational decision cause this sentimental emotional decision making you people do all the time is what is always putting you in problems I know it's hard for most of you to do but you have to learn it After all you guys want equal rights with men so start trying to reason like them too |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 7:49pm On May 31, 2016 |
theDEVILisHERE:if my parents refuse my choice of husband I will do the same to(pregnancy) |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 7:50pm On May 31, 2016 |
Meanwhile How una take dey do did 3,5,10yrs boy friend girl friend relationship thing If 1 stay with you a day after 2yrs then you must be sure I'm marrying you cause I cannot stay with someone that long except you are proper for my future there no point wasting time on who is not ment 4 you |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 7:53pm On May 31, 2016 |
kaziblake: This is why you ladies always run into trouble Always irrational with your decision making |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 12:07am On Jun 01, 2016 |
sammied: You don't force people to give you their daughter to marry If they refuse, you pack your bag and go somewhere else it is not your birthright 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 12:15am On Jun 01, 2016 |
femmefetale: Igbo's marry Akwa Ibom (efik/Ibibio) people more than any other group or tribe What is ur Man talking about?! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 12:18am On Jun 01, 2016 |
udoka2: Abia is not as open as you think Most prefer marrying from their constituency sef |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 12:53am On Jun 01, 2016 |
richyblink1: Parents have duty is to preserve the culture and traditions of their forefathers by passing it down to their kids INTER TRIBAL, INTER RACIAL or inter what ever MARRIAGE SHOULD NEVER EVER BE ENCOURAGED Those who want to engage in it for themselves can go ahead but such ABNORMALITY should not be promoted in any way whatsoever You don't encourage abnormal situations if you want society to remain balanced |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 1:09am On Jun 01, 2016 |
waternogetemeny: lol |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 8:34am On Jun 01, 2016 |
prettyboi1: What Rubbish love Look there is nothing love when it comes to relationship!!!!!! What you have is attraction of various degrees and forms Love is in the blood and only exist within family/blood lines This is what the natural setting of Love is! Not the Romantic Bunkum which the white man brainwashed most of you African zombies into believing in That is why it is impossible to hate your blood You might resent your blood but can never hate your blood Resentment can be corrected but hate cannot be corrected cause it stems from a permanent issue 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by theDEVILisHERE: 9:15am On Jun 01, 2016 |
Chinaimporter: The imbalance from your mix-heritage is exhibited in this confusionist post of yours if your knowledgeable you would have known that Abia, Anambara, Umuahia, Port Harcourt, Imo, Ebonyi etc are not original but mere creations of Imperialist and their black slaves They are not true identities and should not be used for nonsensical superiority grading crap ment to create confusion among Igbo's When the time is right things would be sorted out the way they originally used to be 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 2:06pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
kaziblake:Nawa |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 5:06pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:Yes!I will get pregnant for him. Any problem? |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 12:07pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
richyblink1: There's this feud between Anambra men and ladies from other states. mma anti siri it will only take the grace of God for me to date an anambra man again. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 12:13pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
udoka2: Anambra men love marrying them selves no doubt. I can testify to that. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 12:15pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Unibenfucker(m): 4:53pm On Sep 01, 2016 |
legalspices: |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Unibenfucker(m): 4:53pm On Sep 01, 2016 |
[quote author=legalspices post=45964154]Hello fellow NLs, am at a cross road here....I have been dating this Igbo guy for over 5yrs now, am Yoruba tho but we both didn't see it as a barrier what matters to us is the love and connection between us.....he is well known by my family and accepted too but the problem is his parents...his brothers and sisters are indifferent about it...but his parents frowns against any of them marrying outside Igbo...his kid sis is over 30 and still single cos of this issue. Hi sup bae Wont I be treated like an outcast?? My kids?? Whose MIL or FIL doesn't show up for their son's wedding?? She won't show up for my 'omugwo'?? A part of me thinks I can handle the situation, but then another part is asking me to move on. Words of advice pls....I really love this guy[/quota te] Hi sup baby |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by dprincedej(m): 12:19pm On Mar 24, 2017 |
Five yrs is long. It may not be as long as the sad days ahead. If the hav not come to terms in five yrs, they may never. Mil would frustrate u. Love is not enough. If ur man can stand up for u, by now, he would hav changed their minds. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by ellamines(f): 10:00pm On May 22, 2017 |
Hello fellow NLs, am at a cross road here....I have been dating this Igbo guy for over 5yrs now, am Yoruba tho but we both didn't see it as a barrier what matters to us is the love and connection between us.....he is well known by my family and accepted too but the problem is his parents...his brothers and sisters are indifferent about it...but his parents frowns against any of them marrying outside Igbo...his kid sis is over 30 and still single cos of this issue. Hmmm! It's really funny how I stumbled upon this thread that is just a exactly what I experienced too. My dear, I hurt like mad and thought I was going to die cos I loved him too. Our stories may not end up the same way but I'm still going to share with you what I did: 1) I moved on after dating him for 5 years 2) I prayed for divine Healing and Grace to move on 3) I told myself I wasn't going to put him under any pressure of having to choose between me and his family 4) I didn't want to end up being a desperate unhappy daughter in law who would seek tirelessly to please her inlaws. I deserved better than that. Every good woman deserves happiness in her home. 5) He (my ex) wasn't exactly a 'fighter', his Dad was headstrong about it and told him point blank he would not be a part of it. Now, did I really want to strain his relationship with his family? NO! 6) I had to tell myself some truth... There are many good men, infact better men. If after praying and crying for this one, we're still 'jamming rock' from his end, then GOD must have far better plans for me. 7) I ensured I harboured no bitterness against him or family. Forgiveness is key if you must move on. I didn't let their rejection tamper with my self esteem. I am a strong beautiful Igbo woman. If Benin will not accept me, it's by no means my headache. My Creator did the best job on me, no one was going to make me think different Few years down the line, I am married to the most wonderful man in the world. Honestly, words can't describe. So Sweetheart, fight till your fist bleed, give it all you got but when push gets to shove, pick up your wonderful self and prayerfully move on to where your Man will pick you without hassles. And when you do, don't be in a haste to date again. Take time to heal, pray, work on being a better woman. God bless you. 4 Likes 1 Share |
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