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Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ooni: 10:42pm On May 26, 2016 |
Kingnonny:go to literature section and start releasing stories 2 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by SweetGuy225: 10:51pm On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices: I'm also from orlu, we marry other tribes a lot. In fact, the wife of our village king is a yoruba woman. The only thing keeping you from getting married is you and your fiancee. If you people want to get you'll get married. After you're married you can appease his parents with your charm and goodwill. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ooni: 10:54pm On May 26, 2016 |
Vickyydera:my yoruba brother stop decieving our sister. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ooni: 11:00pm On May 26, 2016 |
kingdavidG:ogbeni your are my yoruba brother. I know one of us why i sight them |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ooni: 11:03pm On May 26, 2016 |
Chukazu:this is why ibos see us as inferior. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ooni: 11:07pm On May 26, 2016 |
Gabby91:did Bible also say that marriage is by force? |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 11:25pm On May 26, 2016 |
Ooni:I bet it's an old man that is behind this moniker...an old man whose life depends on nairaland...an old man who sits at home while his mates make money...pretending to be yoruba while you aren't 3 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ooni: 11:27pm On May 26, 2016 |
kaziblake:thats your business. I am just calling out liars and decievers |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 11:30pm On May 26, 2016 |
Ooni:Shut up!i have watch you and that other one with a Yoruba moniker spew trash...you mate are making money,you are here clowning yourself. Anuofia, |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ooni: 11:35pm On May 26, 2016 |
kaziblake:you can continue making money at night when responsible people are sleeping. Later u'll want to force urself on an iboman. I am a yoruba and wont watch pple cheat a fellow man, tribe notwithstanding. 4 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 11:37pm On May 26, 2016 |
Ooni:Anumanu |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ooni: 11:41pm On May 26, 2016 |
kaziblake:is that your surname? 4 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 11:42pm On May 26, 2016 |
Ooni:Ikpu nne gi..aragbagi there..onye ara |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ooni: 11:48pm On May 26, 2016 |
kaziblake:i've exposed you. I want op to know you can't give any reasonable advice. Imagine an unmarriageable person like you giving marital advice bring it on, I am enjoying ur frustration. If not i would've called for ur ban 4 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 11:51pm On May 26, 2016 |
Ooni:I have said my own...I have better stuff to do |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ooni: 11:57pm On May 26, 2016 |
kaziblake:u can now continue with ur fake bible bible quoting my two-faced yoruba sister claiming ibo. That is why other tribes dont marry you people except we yorubas. U guys are burden to us. That is why we marry second wives. Even our ooni married from Edo. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nyceguy92: 12:38am On May 27, 2016 |
DedeNkem: Thank you my brother. Yours is one of the very few realistic and objective comments on this crucial issue. Parents always succumb in the end to superior argument. They can only advise but not have the final say. Some people look at if the marriage did not work. They are just being pessimistic and ignoring the fact that these adults love each other But what if it became a huge success? Sure the guy has uncles, aunts, etc, who will have a different view from his parents. My father in law initially kicked against our marriage because of his own preferences. Her bothers and sisters, uncles...everybody told him to leave her daughter to choose. Because we knew the depth of our love and how well we knew/complemented each other, we stood our grounds. She left home for Lagos in frustration. I refused to listen to my people when they advised me to search among the "numerous women" around. In fact, I took the decision not to marry any more and I meant it. Fast forward 3 years later, dad changed his mind. Now I am his best guy and our marriage has been the envy of my friends. Love is the key. 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by SWITANN(f): 1:16am On May 27, 2016 |
legalspices: IF you really love this guy and he also loves you,you guys can make it work. one thing about parents is that they love their children and want them to be happy. obviously they want the best for their son thats why they think an Igbo lady is suitable for him. you have to show them that you are more suitable than the igbo lady they prefer. if its to learn how to prepare those igbo delicacies they think their son will stop enjoying,prove them wrong. parents can be stubborn but you have to be more stubborn too but not disrespectful. i know many people that their parents are from different tribes,surely it wasn't easy for them to get their family approval but they made it work. if u really love this guy and he the same,you guy have to sit down and discuss deeply how to convince your parents. parents can prove stubborn but their hearts are not made of stone,they are human. you just have to made them understand, talk to them softly. it will take time but they'll surely change their mind 2 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by DedeNkem: 1:24am On May 27, 2016 |
Nyceguy92: Thanks for liking my response to the main post. My post made sense because I've had a similar experience. My woman's father wanted all his daughters to marry from a certain Igbo region. Her mother and siblings didn't care about where I came from. Her father being a very strict man wouldn't have it, but my woman boldly defied his wish, to be with who she love. The man later became my buddy after he realized that no geographical location has a monopoly of good men. Parents always come around if you've the right attitude. Nobody has any right to dictate to any adult on who to love or marry, and no real adult should tolerate that. 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by prettyboi1(m): 1:38am On May 27, 2016 |
I won't talk long,..."Love conquers all!" If you love him and he loves you too, that's almost all that matters. You both would need to protect each other from tribal issues on both your side and his. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IGLE25(m): 3:03am On May 27, 2016 |
I see no reason why I should fabricate story when someone needs an advice. To you it is story to some others it makes a lot of sense. You that is not telling story render you own advise and if you don't have any to contribute you had better stop quoting pple.. I am not here to seek people opinion but to offer the little I can when it is most needed. Thank you Mr. Sabi all, that is why you are still where you are. Grow up... 2 Likes
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Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 3:13am On May 27, 2016 |
Ooni: What is wrong with you mister? |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by cococandy(f): 4:17am On May 27, 2016 |
What do you mean by typical Igbo people? We marry other tribes. It depends on individuals. Nothing typical about it. PresVA: 2 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by chrispratt: 4:39am On May 27, 2016 |
legalspices: Funny that it happened to me too and what's worse? We were both igbo but just because we were not from the same state? Wtf? His parents refused. After dating for so long. Anyway it ended up in my favor because I'm happily married to someone else and you know what? We're from completely different tribes and I couldn't be happier What I'm trying to say is that don't waste your time for a man that would not make his own decisions regarding whom to marry. This is 2016. Girl, you don't want to settle for less, no time to waste. If you want to wait around for him to change his mind that's on you, but that was my experience. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 7:16am On May 27, 2016 |
chrispratt:My male friend fiancee parent also refused him to marry their daughter because he is from abia and she is from anambra state..He his even on nairaland. Anambra sees their selves superior to all igbos |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 7:35am On May 27, 2016 |
Odichi:It's IGBO stop this Imo and anambra igbo thing you harbingers of separation and disunity. IGBO IS IGBO. An IGBOs state of origin dsnt make him more or less igbo. Stop this segregation amongst our pple. We don't say ekiti or OGUN Yoruba is dis or dat. Respect yourself. You are warned |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 7:45am On May 27, 2016 |
To understand people better you have to respect their culture. IGBO culture sees an igbo man and woman in marriage as sacred and divine. It has nothing to do with tribalism as this culture has been ongoing by our ancestors before they knew any Yoruba or hausa. We prefer to marry amongst ourselves because of the longevity of the igbo race, similarities in culture and mutual understandings. You will notice that IGBOs marry the efiks/ibibios probably more than any other tribe because we have some things in common with them. Bear it in mind that the asians(Chinese, Japanese) , and even East Africans(Somalia, Ethiopians) marry amongst themselves for d same reasons but aren't termed as 'tribalist'. I am especially dissapointed reading the comments of some self acclaimed "igbos" here probably those born and bred in lagos who have never entered their village spewing extreme ignorance about their culture which they have no idea about. Respect igbo culture. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 7:48am On May 27, 2016 |
kaziblake:What do you want to gain from this post other than likes and disunity. Why don't you go about posting the disunity problems of your own tribe for the world to see? You better stop this nonsense and keep quiet on issues you know nothing about. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 7:51am On May 27, 2016 |
TellingItAsItIs:My father didn't see tribalistic as an issue before marrying my mum...I'm from a mixed tribe of you don't know. 1,i didn't quote it mention you. 2,I'm a child of God I don't engage in E-war 3,God bless you |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 7:55am On May 27, 2016 |
kaziblake:I don't care if you are from a mixed tribe but I know you are definitely not mixed with igbo. So leave igbo cultural issues for the igbos instead of promoting disunity amongst us. This is the problem with mixed tribe kids as you guys are neither here nor there. Have a nice day 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 7:56am On May 27, 2016 |
TellingItAsItIs:I think you are silly 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 7:59am On May 27, 2016 |
kaziblake:I have nothing else to say to you "child of God that dsnt insult pple online". My word stands. Bye. 1 Like |
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