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Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by histemple: 5:56pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
sunkky83: My sister calm down please. |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Taryur3(m): 7:49pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
sunkky83:Are you just seeing this post?ok...u can simply help me with the man contact and I promise to give u feed back when I call him |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Juzzybabe(f): 8:39pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
thorpido: He has started o! calls has been coming in from my aunts in Nigeria that he's been calling insulting n demanding money he paid for bride price. |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Onegai(f): 10:10am On Aug 18, 2016 |
Juzzybabe: Ignore him. Where is your lawyer? Get a good one (everyone in the family should donate to get one if need be) and let the lawyer henceforth be the only one having any contact with him. Let your father inform your family that under no circumstances should anyone in the family engage him in any sort of dialogue. No-one beg, no-one insult, no-one from familiarity with him, no-one say anything other than "please speak to the lawyers concerning this matter. Good day" and drop the phone. If he wants his bride price back, it was paid to your family by him and his family, so let his family come and collect it after doing the necessary traditional requirement for the return (you don't just return the money). Keep your child away from any of his family unsupervised. They may only visit when you and several family members are present. 9 Likes |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Prettiepearlz(f): 3:22pm On Aug 18, 2016 |
Juzzybabe:Mtchewww,which money? He should return you back to the way he met you first and then you can think of returning the bride price. Nonsense! He knew he has been defeated, and it's painful to him, that's why he is coming up with different drama. First it was his child, now marriage certificate, wedding rings(Is the ring a family jewelry?) and bride price, na wa ooooooooo, the thing is the man doesn't want a divorce, he is only pulling stunts because if he is truly serious he would have sent the divorce papers. He feels you would come begging since he knows he is the only man you have known for 9 years, so he feels he has you under his wings. Ignore him and tell your siblings to do the same. He will get tired. 1 Like |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Juzzybabe(f): 6:22pm On Aug 18, 2016 |
Prettiepearlz: you got my ribs cracking. Anyway its just the fact he is defeated and its hard to accept so he's forming drama. |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Juzzybabe(f): 6:31pm On Aug 18, 2016 |
Onegai: OK. My father is late but i got uncles. And i am not in Nigeria so he and his family have absolutely no access to my kid. |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by MGtravels(m): 8:56pm On Aug 18, 2016 |
My dear, I read your story and I can understand your pains but as a true Christian and as a consultant on relationships matters I will advise and prescribe God for your case and not a divorce. Divorce will damage the real better part of you. I wouldn't know if you are deep Christian of which I know you are but not deep at but however you have a spiritual demonic foundation fighting against your happiness on the area of your marriage and you need a pastor to pray for you. I want you to locate a bible beliving church for a free counseling and conducting of a deliverance but you need it. Locate Winner's Chapel known as Living faith or locate Omega Fire Ministry. My dear sister I just want to offer you this free counseling but I charge for my services. You need a touch of God and let God decide and order your foots steps than advancing your intentions out of frustration. God bless you. My email is rajoku8@gmail.com |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Nobody: 3:04pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
histemple: I wasn't high before bro |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Prettiepearlz(f): 5:03pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
Juzzybabe:Lol, don't mind him he will get tired, he is only an attention seeker. When he is serious he will send the divorce papers or better still why not send yours to him? |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Juzzybabe(f): 5:23pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
Prettiepearlz: I was told by the priest and lawyers i contacted that in order to push forward my case, i have to be present, and i just switch jobs which am not entitled to any leave for now. |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Notyourb1tch(f): 1:52am On Aug 22, 2016 |
Onegai:So after pregnating her and leaving her to take care of herself and hospital bills he still wants bride price back.Since he is not paying any maintenance costs for his child which cost way more in the end than bride price. Then she better not pay him a dime. What kind of useless man is that! |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Eneze1(f): 9:23am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Juzzybabe: How are you Juzzybabe? |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Juzzybabe(f): 7:26am On Nov 16, 2016 |
Eneze1: I am fine o. Thanks so much for checking up. |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by RIH345: 5:47am On Nov 23, 2016 |
Juzzybabe: We are literally going through the same situation. Married for less than 7 months, newborn baby, a husband who went from worshipping me to now only wanting to talk about the baby, demanding that his mother is able to take our daughter to care for her while i sit around and do nothing i guess, and so much more drama. All i do is pray and fast because this pain is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. All my family is saying i married into the wrong family, my marriage was built on a faulty foundation based on lies & deceit & that I should divorce. As much as I can agreex i love my husband so much I can't bear to think of divorcing him, but he hasn't tried to reconcile with me for almost 2 months now not one time. I now see that the hold his mother has on his family & him is stronger than our love. 1 Like |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by RIH345: 5:48am On Nov 23, 2016 |
Smh |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Juzzybabe(f): 7:51am On Nov 23, 2016 |
RIH345: My dear, even though your story is not so clear but I will like to point out few things. My decision to leave my husband and his parents was the best thing I ever did. But I will not encourage someone else to do the same because, in my case, leaving was the only and best choice I had. I don't know the reason why your husband said his mother should help with the kid...does he want you to be a full time house wife, relaxing all day while his mum handles your baby and he works? or you go to work while his mum help with the kid? are you in good rapol with his mum? please explain better what the situation is. Another thing, please do not be so hasty to make people give you some bad talks about your marriage. Every marriages have challenges some can be overcome with patience while some can't. Just of recent my husband file a petition against me and what was written in that petition made me got on my knees and praise God for the wisdom to make the decision of leaving with my kid. My point is, be mindful of the decision you make. Am here if you want to talk. 1 Like |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by RIH345: 9:15am On Nov 23, 2016 |
I'll send you a private message! |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by sisisioge: 9:33am On Nov 23, 2016 |
Wow...it is well. |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by seizethaBae(f): 10:48am On Nov 23, 2016 |
God!!! I read many similar threads on NL and i don't even know how to edit my prayer points. I don't think i can survive 20% of what these women are going through. 3 Likes |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Juzzybabe(f): 5:42pm On Dec 08, 2016 |
I can't imagine how wicked and evil some people can choose to be. I waited patiently for my husband to make the move for divorce and he attempted, his only and biggest troubles now is getting divorce in the catholic church is like picking salt amongst sand. Especially as he refused telling the obvious truth. He has been pestering me to send the rings and marriage certificate and we both assume the marriage is nullified which I refused and can never grant unless he follows the right path to nullification. According to him, we don't need the church. Well he and his mother desperation forced them to get a half educated lawyer and he filed a petition against me which I will gladly share here. Of all the lies he told, only one got me thanking my God and people here for helping me out of that evil family. One of the reason my husband wants divorce is because I stayed hours in labour pain and finally had a CS. I can't imagine a married this wild beast...BTW, even animal have feelings,so I don't know which category to put him. His mother is also pressing all buttons as I speak to free her son off this marriage. But I pray that God forgives her after punishing her accordingly. What is this world turning into? |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by soonest(f): 7:37pm On Dec 08, 2016 |
@juzzybabe, don't you want to move on. Catholic church will hardly give nullification to a consummated marriage that wasn't based on deceit. 1 Like |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Juzzybabe(f): 7:48pm On Dec 08, 2016 |
soonest: I want to move on ooo in short I have even started moving on but I also need to officially settle this in order to be right with God before moving one finally. I am as well pleading with the priest involved to help us out but the guy is just very restless. I can't get why he is requesting ring and marriage certificate and concluding marriage is dissolved. The direction my life is going, I need the nullification more than that dude but I don't want him to sense it. |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by dataideas: 2:29pm On Feb 09, 2018 |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Nobody: 12:25pm On Apr 04, 2018 |
Juzzybabe: I don't know you but I believe you have also Fes Us all here with lies about the true story. I don't believe a single thing you said about your Husband and your Mother inlaw. I believe there's more bad things you have done to them for you to be treated like that. Yoruba Adage says "A gbo ejo eti kan da Agba Oshika ni " |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Nobody: 12:30pm On Apr 04, 2018 |
I have this feeling you are not Submissive to your husband and mother inlaw. I will advice you to drop your Ego and go to them and seriously apologise to them for whatever you might have done. Trust me there is no perfect marriage out there. You said he beats you. What did you do to him before he beats you. YES Say the truth. What lead to the beating. You need to ask yourself a serious question. Am I ready to Settle down ? |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Radiants: 1:16pm On Apr 04, 2018 |
baddy404: Someone should help me with that Odunlade Adekola's meme where he wanted to slap someone from behind. My brother, just say you don't understand what is going on here... just waka pass biko. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Juzzybabe(f): 3:37am On Sep 05, 2018 |
baddy404: sweetheart, your unbelief haven't stopped God from blessing me so what do I care? kids like you would just wake up and judge over things you know nothing about. SMH. May you experience such in your life so that you would believe. Amen. 1 Like |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Juzzybabe(f): 3:51am On Sep 05, 2018 |
I know most people who are not linked to me on social media may be wondering how I am doing. Well, I must admit that God has blessed me beyond my imagination. I am doing extremely well, and my kid as well is growing so fast and performing well in her academics. Her dad isn't responsible to his duties but my job is well paid so I don't even feel the burden. My mum looks after her for me while am at work and I adopted two other kids. So I have three kids I'm sure I mentioned that he filed for divorce and custody of the child, well I got a lawyer in Nigeria and the case is still ongoing. But it will surely end in praise. Thanks to you all! I will keep u posted 4 Likes |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Gloriagee(f): 6:43am On Sep 05, 2018 |
She's also supposed to be submissive to her mother in law N her wife beater hubby? I hear u baddy404: |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Eketem: 9:58am On Sep 05, 2018 |
Juzzybabe: Happy to read this. I hope you have evidence against him so he doesn't get custody of your child 1 Like |
Re: Advice: After Two Wasted Years, I Want Divorce Now by Nobody: 12:02pm On Sep 05, 2018 |
Eketem: evidence on what? |
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