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Solution? fuc.k them and don't look back
Maybe you look good, some might take you as player.

shitt happens.

It's simply a case of you don't want what you have, but need it the moment someone else grabs it.
It might be psychological, I guess when ladies meet you and you begin the toasting/pre-dating phase, you don't leave much to be desired.

Ladies access guys from dates, I might be wrong but it's possible either you do too much at first, so they feel your boyfriend roles even when you haven't gotten the boyfriend position

or you do too little do they don't feel you meet up with the expectations for the position.

go waah ur head for river niger.

MrDojo:
Good day everyone, who else among the guys here on NL has experienced this..?!

For the past 6yrs that I've been on the dating scene, I've experienced a lot of misses rather than hits in my dating game, this is not due to the fact I lacked the looks, charm, smarts etc. I noticed a scenario that always repeated itself, which was when ever I approached a girl, we would click instantly, she would flash all the green lights flashable, we would have a lot in common & get along really well, then whenever I finally ask her for us to be "exculsive".... The horror film begins...

They never tell me No or a yes.. I'm not friendzoned neither am I in the dating zone, I more than a friend to her but less than a BF, when I ask them why they can't give me an answer, they give all manner of reasons such as; you are too good for me, I like you a lot but I don't love, let's be more than friends but I can't date you ( WTF ), I don't know what I feel towards you...let's keep what we have....and blah blah blah...


Most times I give them time to sort out their feelings coming back again to ask hoping to get a good answer but their emotions are still in a state of flux.. I'll give up and move on ( when I move on I move on totally no looking back ), only for this ladies who seemly had nothing for me to come back (vengeful) when they see me hooking up with another chick, then they start all manner of theatrics....then I begin to wonder is it not the same girl who had "Nothing" for me...

This scenario as played out more than 5 times with me... I'll like to know if other guys here have experienced this or are also experiencing this....

Sorry for the long essay..

Are u sure u don't lack the looks charm and style!?

Mine is, we will immediately start dating, like one months time, I go just tire dey find new catch, in fact, we dey tire for ourselves

Women faa... The most complex set of creations on earth

@ Mrdojo. you are simply too nice and not been decisive enough .

No two ways around it bro.

Bros eh. You're not alone. It's the way many of them (not all sha) are wired. Many Nigerian girls are indecisive. They want Haliru, they want Omolomo and they also want Okechukwu. When I see such character, I take my leave before I'm friend-zoned. If you're not for me, you're against me. Shikena!


One has called, called and called and is now carrying face for me but who dey see her? When I come and you don't know if it's me you want or Musa, nnaa nwanne, before you turn around, I'm gone. Her loss!

It has happened to you like upto 5times and in those timez u v asked otherz out(I assume 5),making it ten plus miscellaneous(whc is alwayz bigger dan the main thing), we r looking at 30chickz in 6yrz(5 per year)... I go like b like you oo when I grow up..lol

cruzita:
sometimes women no understand themselves

Hope u r diff?

Abeg ooooo, which one be friend zoned & enemy zoned again. Make una explain o, abeg.

It's called friendzoning

Hmmmm. you are a learner.

Different Strokes For Different Folks

your destiny

FakeNEWSevryday:

I don't get the moral lesson of this message
Op?

eno get moral lesson, make I run back to the MONASTERY before op Corrupt me.

FakeNEWSevryday:

I don't get the moral lesson of this message
Op?

eno get moral lesson, make I run back to the MONASTERY before op Corrupt me.

MrDojo:
Good day everyone, who else among the guys here on NL has experienced this..?!

For the past 6yrs that I've been on the dating scene, I've experienced a lot of misses rather than hits in my dating game, this is not due to the fact I lacked the looks, charm, smarts etc. I noticed a scenario that always repeated itself, which was when ever I approached a girl, we would click instantly, she would flash all the green lights flashable, we would have a lot in common & get along really well, then whenever I finally ask her for us to be "exculsive".... The horror film begins...

They never tell me No or a yes.. I'm not friendzoned neither am I in the dating zone, I more than a friend to her but less than a BF, when I ask them why they can't give me an answer, they give all manner of reasons such as; you are too good for me, I like you a lot but I don't love, let's be more than friends but I can't date you ( WTF ), I don't know what I feel towards you...let's keep what we have....and blah blah blah...


Most times I give them time to sort out their feelings coming back again to ask hoping to get a good answer but their emotions are still in a state of flux.. I'll give up and move on ( when I move on I move on totally no looking back ), only for this ladies who seemly had nothing for me to come back (vengeful) when they see me hooking up with another chick, then they start all manner of theatrics....then I begin to wonder is it not the same girl who had "Nothing" for me...

This scenario as played out more than 5 times with me... I'll like to know if other guys here have experienced this or are also experiencing this....

Sorry for the long essay..

Nwanne leave long story...
u ve strong spiritual wife warding them off..

Karashika bu aha ya..

chuksnwoga1:
your destiny

so live with it

Ewu!......... which kain thing be this now

salabscholar01:
[size=13pt]Bab your hair of bad luck..... just my take.... if not the hustle is still real for you......[/size]

critically analyse

D fact is dat women need men to handle 85% of there needs,once u take up d role they deem it felt to deny u of all d benefit u can get from them,cos they are afraid dat once u get what u want,u might leave them,and they would not lik to lose u because of ur usefulnes.nxt time dont b nice,let dem know what u want and if they can redeem it,then dont grant dem any request no matter how small,u lose u ground once u please dem hoping dat will soften they heart.if she cant give u a simple answer to what u want then dont grant any of they request.a woman dat love u wil never stress u in friendship or relationship.and she wont deny u any thing including s3x.and wil 4give u easily even when u wrong her.and wil believe every lie u say to b true.d problem does not lie wit d gals but it lies wit ur approach.dont beat around d bush.take d bull by d horn

What am I doing here

@MrDojo as a Sage i have the perfect answer to this mystery that has so entangled your free-flow-thought-process let me share my conclusion after going thru similar experiences... Ladies are indecisive and constantly seeking after even they've reached what they want they dont recognise it and remain in a perpetual state of confusion,it takes old age or wrinkles to pull them out of it.I'm not broke.I don't ress my worth but like you i just dey waka them pass thesedays,thank goodness i'm a virgo i stay for long stretch without strong desires over taking me and even when they try to without minutes i've re-calibrated don't feel bad

My final word of advice dress good,look confident,dress more than ur worth and u would be chased the game would reverse in your favor where u wont need to pursue,but rather be pursued and then u can begin to do the cherry picking.


All the best Amigo

Sage !

An average woman don't knw what they want it's as simple as that.the most confused creature.dont be surprised thata a girl that iss crushing for u for so many years,will say no to u when u approach her first,expecting to drag it as long as possible bfor she say yes.then if u re nt gentle man enough nd move to her friend,she might go nd pour her friend acid or some wil come here nd lament hw thier girl friend snatched thier guy.then u begin to wonder the kind of creature women are.

noted,

it's becos you ask them out;u don't ask women out expecting a "yes" or "no" answer...u assume you guys are already dating,soon as u tap the a5s...why do u still have to ask?

Mprex:
mrdojo, its either you're actually too good for the ladies and you are always meeting them at the wrong time. Or maybe you make the wrong moves, or probably......

There are a thousand and one reasons for that specific behaviour so if you can be more precise in your story, we might be able to decipher where the problem lies

as usual someone comes up with an excuse for their cryptic behaviour, this one sounds pretty flimsy.

If I meet a girlfriend, all I do is bang her axx and get her trust.

They will never learn.