ThoniaSlim:

I think the question here should be why women run from boring guys. . .

because my definition of a nice guy is a man who respects, loves and treats you well. . .and you can't tell me no woman with a sane mind doesn't want this. . .

So to answer the question I rephrased. . .because boring guys bore you to the point of death. . .most women want a man who's funny, entertaining, charming,loving, easy going and someone you can share a lot of things with. . .

And from experience a nice guy can be all these too. . . So women do not run from nice guys but they run from boring guys. . .

agreed. it is not the nice ones, but the boring ones

platinumnk:

agreed. it is not the nice ones, but the boring ones

You are right because I cares alot,I treat my girl as queen and I spent alot on her and I don't give damn if she gonna hurt me in future or not because she always bought cloths and boxers but I stopped her myself because I hate to get things from ladies and secondly I spank on her if she upset me, dance for her and jokes at the same time, she knew I love Star and Stouts but she always fight me over my drinking habits but I don't take more than 2 bottles a day,to my greatest surprice, I and my girlfriend went to restuarant and she saw me boring and asked why and I said No problem,she replied and said its because you haven't take your drink, I told her I don't feel like drinking.to my greatest surprice, she took money from her pocket and bought me a bottle of star even though I tried to pretend I don't feel like drinking, my mood change immediately and I talks like parrot and I even give her kiss infront of the many people eating.

Niceness, boorishness - it's almost a synonym these days and I'll explain why.

What's boring? Something boring to you may be interesting to someone else. If my interests don't interest you, you'll call me boring. To someone who likes the things I like, I am VERY INTERESTING.

The reason many girls find nice guys boring is because they don't have "nice" interests.

n-guage:

Niceness, boorishness - it's almost a synonym these days and I'll explain why.

What's boring? Something boring to you may be interesting to someone else. If my interests don't interest you, you'll call me boring. To someone who likes the things I like, I am VERY INTERESTING.

The reason many girls find nice guys boring is because they don't have "nice" interests.

Succint!

Sometimes nice guys are too preoccupied with being nice, it's like they should let their hair down once in a while. I know they can, I mean I'm not trying to create an animal, but it's cool for people to let go every once in a while, we don't all have to be the same, as surely someone who comes across as being bland can really seem interested to someone who maybe like all that stuff, like tasting teas, or watching butterflies, or trimming grass to the same height with a pair of nose hair clippers.

Who knows, I've noticed most nice guys I know, put me first above other things, they are quick to agree with your opinions, they are quick to try and satisfy you, which doesn't give you the impression that you are special or anything different, since they are >>really<< nice to everyone, they are usually on their best behaviour so as not to offend you or disagree with you, and often I feel like I'm using them, even though they so easily lend themselves, life will teach everyone to get a little backbone, some will become charismatic, strong-willed and determined, whilst others can become really brash and unapologetic with almost robotic rationalism.

A nice guy who has an interesting personality, goals, interests and character is a C.A.T.C.H.!! Get him girls!!

We can afford to ask for everything we want in guys because in life, if you don't ask you don't get. . you know when you're at someone's house and they serve you a delicious desert, which you are dying for them to ask if you want seconds, but they never do. Then the little kid next to you goes; "uncle can I have some more. . " at which he answers; "yes, of course, we have too much to fit in the freezer anyway." and you feel kinda silly for feeling so inhibited.

(I know asking can be seen as greedy and isn't really encouraged in Nigerian tradition, but you understand right??)

complete sense. nice guys here i am.lol

if you"re not nice bug off!

toryland

VGA:

complete sense. nice guys here i am.lol

if you"re not nice bug off!

I love nice guys too.  I have never been the type thats attracted to useless, lazy, cheating, lying men lmao.  I dunno why they just don't appeal to me.  

Yumi:

I love nice guys too.  I have never been the type thats attracted to useless, lazy, cheating, lying men lmao.  I dunno why they just don't appeal to me.  

Hear Hear!!! Its not stamped on their foreheads.
I will appeal to you if you see me. . . . .
I am not saying i am lazy, cheating or whatever u wrote above, Just one of the ''un-serious'' type.
The thing is, You will never see it coming so stop deceiving yourself.

I love nice guys too.  I have never been the type thats attracted to useless, lazy, cheating, lying men lmao.  I dunno why they just don't appeal to me.

a guy needs to be nice. that just it. remember we want them to be their real self. we also want them to be crazy. like i said in previous post you cant serve two master is impossible. a guy is a guy very nice and polite

The Sly:

Hear Hear!!! [b]Its not stamped on their foreheads.[/b]I will appeal to you if you see me. . . . .
I am not saying i am lazy, cheating or whatever u wrote above, Just one of the ''un-serious'' type.
The thing is, You will never see it coming so stop deceiving yourself.

rofl   . . . but true dat

Nice guys?! What are the features of a nice guy?? I need to know so as to recognise him when oen comes my way

The Sly:

Hear Hear!!! Its not stamped on their foreheads.
I will appeal to you if you see me. . . . .
I am not saying i am lazy, cheating or whatever u wrote above, Just one of the ''un-serious'' type.
The thing is, You will never see it coming so stop deceiving yourself.

Thats true we can all be conned, even the most intelligent among us as we have inherent weakness as a human being of wanting to be loved and love someone.

So tell us how do we see it coming, how can we tell so we can protect ourselves a bit from the wolves in sheeps clothing

We are all ears.

Nice guys?! What are the features of a nice guy?? I need to know so as to recognise him when oen comes my way  Cheesy

He does things naturally. no pretending just real compare to other guys.watch the way he move he use his body the clothe he put on. a nice guy will appear resonable like a mature person not all this playboy guys they come to you saying this and that. just be real guys.simple no need to worry yourself too much.just bring yourself how you are

wale.star:

I don't understand what you mean by nice guy but as for me. I have dated 3 girls in my life, I am still spending 3 yrs with the 3rd, I am nice because I care about my girl,give her everything she want ,make her feel like a queen, dance for her and sit her down watching be dancing, she knew I love alanta dance and second, I get upset if she didn't listen to my words, I club, take acholic and Bleep club girls. she told me I'm nice and desperate at the same time because she knew I used to Bleep around before but  though she thought I have stop but no, she fear me no be small but she says I am a very nice guy because I don't even spend on her alone,I extend it to my friends also while i don't care if I get broke but to be honest. I enjoy caring like I enjoy shayo too

You need to stop drinking and sleeping around. Then maybe you will qualify as a nice guy. Till then your on probation.

guys dont get confuse or brainwash. be nice to a girl am sure she"ll like you. if you reading all this dating stuff forget it

be nice be real. good night

Yumi:

Thats true we can all be conned,  even the most intelligent among us as we have inherent weakness as a human being of wanting to be loved and love someone.

So tell us how do we see it coming, how can we tell so we can protect ourselves a bit from the wolves in sheeps clothing

We are all ears.

What you want me to say?
They are not easy to spot because they can be what they want to be,
If they know you love the bad guys, It doesnt take them anything to act like one
And if they know you love the church going ''extremely nice'' guys too, They can be whatever just to ''get there''
I for example, To worship is not the only reason why i go to church, U know what i mean.
Only God can protect you from 'em.  . . . .
Be closer to God. . . .Use common sense and roll with the right sets of people, With that, you should be fine.

The Sly:

What you want me to say?
They are not easy to spot because they can be what they want to be,
If they know you love the bad guys, It doesnt take them anything to act like one
And if they know you love the church going ''extremely nice'' guys too, They can be whatever just to ''get there''
I for example, To worship is not the only reason why i go to church, U know what i mean.
Only God can protect you from 'em.  . . . .
Be closer to God. . . .Use common sense and roll with the right sets of people, With that, you should be fine.

I think your right only God can protect us. How can you get to know the real man though and see beneath the mask of pretence. Be less readable perhaps. If he can read you, he can be what you want, if you close yourself to him he can't penetrate and determine what you are into. Do you think that works?

Its difficult really, yep I treat guys at church the same as guys outside it. Cause I don't trust the fact they are in church makes them any better. I have had married pastors hitting on me before so I am not impressed or convinced just cause a man goes to church anymore.