bukatyne:


I am not married to my boss so I do not see the correlation besides, my boss has learnt that nagging/'shouting' doesn't work as well as discussing/instructing with respect.

Infact, nagging/bossing about has never worked with me so I find the OP very strange. I would assume that he would be preaching respect and civility to everyone.

But what do I know? We are referring to 'Nigerian' relationships here.

Timbuktou:


So, then, you were subjugated by your class two when you were in school? Yes, I know you weren't married to the class two either.

bukatyne:

I am not married to my boss so I do not see the correlation besides, my boss has learnt that nagging/'shouting' doesn't work as well as discussing/instructing with respect.
Infact, nagging/bossing about has never worked with me so I find the OP very strange. I would assume that he would be preaching respect and civility to everyone.
But what do I know? We are referring to 'Nigerian' relationships here.

bukatyne:


@ your question in bold, the highlighted below is your response. I have never been subjugated before.

Timbuktou:


Then your definition of the word subjugate is irrelevant and a waste of time.

bukatyne:


Not my definition, apologies I omitted the source.

SO husbands no longer 'control' their wives? Husbands no longer dominate their wives?

I thought that was how you 'Nigerian' husbands roll. At least, that is the theme here on NL.

Any body esp. female who preaches mutual respect is 'unhappily married'; 'a feminist'; or 'old, bitter and lonely.'

Or you preach one thing and do another?

Timbuktou:


My bad, I meant to say your 'defining' not 'definition'.

Surely, you can open a thread for those kinds of arguments, I may oblige you there. This thread, so far, has been about how women can best present their case especially when they feel strongly about a matter.

bukatyne:


@Bold:

Everybody needs good case presentation when they feel strongly about a matter. Infact, one of the sterling qualities of a leader is the ability to re-create your passion in your followers/team mates which is definitely not done by nagging/bullying people into it.

We all need respect.

Timbuktou:


I don't if my complained to you about me having poor presentation skills, but if she did, she's lying.

bukatyne:


Pictures or I donbelieveit

DAMMYORES:
Very inspiring. One of the best piece have read here on nairaland. Marriage is sweet if you get married to the right person. I am a testifier. I pray for the grace to continue to be submissive to my husband despite all odds.

Sylvester70:

i tire no be small but some ladies needs to be showed their place,due i condem the act but sometimes ur hand cant resist the cheek of a lady when she misshaves.
i hope u are not like that?

5minsmadness:



Its interesting so many people liked this and no one could see the irony in the post.

Where did I mention sex in my post? Where did I mention lapdance? It shows the kind of mindset that the generality of you have. For your information a woman's powers of persuasion go beyond sex.

Let me reiterate the post for you and bring out the main points for you since u were probably too lazy to even read the write-up.

Timbuktou:


You're just using cliches out of context. How will their marriage work if they cannot resolve conflict effectively? I'll tell you how. By employing effective strategies. Some people shout their way to a resolution, some using physical force, some sulk, silent treatment, etc. Stop painting relationships as a place where husband and wife are programmed robots whose thoughts will always be in tandem and when there is a disagreement all that's needed is a reset of the programme.

I would like you to show me where OP or other married men have prescribed subjugating the women in their lives in this thread. The message has been simple: use your femininity to your advantage. I wonder why females are resisting femininity. No wonder there's so much homo sexuality in the world today

MmmS:
will you bribe your wife with gifts and surprises all your life just to get her to do something in the house?

5minsmadness:


Hahhhaha bro

I mistakenly bumped into a very notorious one once at my office. Was shocked to hear her refer to her husband as "daddy" Of course she didnt know I was 5minsmadnes and I had a hard time keeping my chuckles to myself as she browsed Nairaland. Mentioned it it men's room once and was quickly cautioned by the mod and the post hidden.

Why be so humble offline then come online to spew venom like a snake? Why does it titilate them so much?


Abeg mod I no mention name o, biko!

Mindfulness:


I should have written a lose one before people end up having a hormones controlled frenzy.


And I was wondering why they didn't treat me in a harsher way for speaking out on such delicate issues..

darkenedrebel:


Where and when did I mention anything about opinion or advise? I was only debunking her ignorant and faux pax claim that the OP has no right to talk on marital issues because he is single. Besides, what makes you think the OP was giving an advise and not merely airing his opinions.

darkenedrebel:



It's only google-smart people with superficial knowledge that never fail to remind others that they have superficial knowledge. It's called insecurity and paranoia.

darkenedrebel:






Going by your logic it is impossible for a civilian to offer advise on how to squelch the insurgency simply because he hasn't experienced it first-hand? You lack intelligence.

darkenedrebel:


And what do you mean by imaginative thesis? People grew up among family members, they witnessed the relationship between their father and mother and also between parents of other children in the locale they reside. They read books. They see things. So it is not imaginative but something that has been experienced.

darkenedrebel:




What you need to learn is how to comprehend sentences and how to refrain from quoting people when you have nothing sensible to say.

Goodbye.

5minsmadness:


I can't stand seeing a woman cry. It breaks me to pieces.
All my muscle, biceps, triceps, pectoralis and deltoid, all melt like butter when in the presence of a weeping woman.

Call it manipulation if you like but I'll do anything to make a lady stop crying. You can imagine how many battles I have lost due to this weakness.

But come at me with your mouth, rudeness, manliness and nagging, and I will flex those muscles and my mind for war.

crackhaus:

At least the one you saw has a husband she calls daddy...some of them are married but living single, some don marry divorce then marry again...some married, but not really 'happily'.

Abeg mod me sef no mention name o..lol

Kimoni:


Lolzzzzz
After one year of marriage, will your wife have any more tears left in her? Not after using one bucket per day to have her request granted.
Ezioku!

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
What!, you are being submissive to a man, you are weak. You are supposed to be independent, and stand up to oppression against the opposite sex , and Resist decimation of your self esteem which this submission to a "man" has brought upon you. Stop being submissive and start being a string independent woman, who can hold her ground.

DAMMYORES:

I will forever be submissive to my husband because I can't the rule the fact that he is the head and he will always be. Mind you, I am an independent lady and not a liability. I so much love and respect my CULTURE. Cheers!!!

Ishilove:
Single folks giving marital advice. It reminds me of Catholic reverend fathers and sisters handling marriage counselling.

Opinions are like ass holes. Everyone's got them.

5minsmadness:


All this for me?

You are obviously jobless and lonely

mrblessed:
This is a poor defence mechanism. It reveals an ugly part of you that is averse to divergent views. So you want every lady to nod in agreement to your opinion. That is awful. Why not stay on the issue?