foolinlove:


I don't want her to go through any unnecessary suffering, by forcing her into a way of life she is uncomfortable with. I presented a reasonable option - celibacy.

Imagine if the norm was to be gay. Thay being straight was shameful. And someone tried to force you to be gay. That's how she is feeling.

Be kind to her.

She didn't say anybody is forcing her, just that she's ashame of her lifestyle and wants a change yet you're here giving her reasons to hold back and thats what is irritating me....

jpride:
@Foolinlove

Please get the point straight. If u are not here to offer positive advice, flee from this thread. I'm here narrating d ordeal of a young girl to u, you are being unreasonable. Its unfair. Do u know what it took her to narrate this shameful story to me Do u know how much she need ur helpful advice?? You live a normal life, do u know how it feels to know ur lifestyle is abnormal, shameful and irritating?? Do u know the trauma dat comes wen all ur friends flee from u because of ur nature? Someone is telling u she was lured into the act wen she was tender and feel so ashame and want to get out of it, you are encouraging her to continue in it?? No one is created homosexual, pls get dat into ur skull.
She want to live like every other girl. More so, she knows her lifestyle dishonours God and it will not mean good if she eventually marry. Why cant u keep quiet if u cant help?

You had better shutup and listen when wise ladies talk.
My 2 cents tho.

UndisputedBosom:



She didn't say anybody is forcing her, just that she's ashame of her lifestyle and wants a change yet you're here giving her reasons to hold back and thats what is irritating me....

She's ashamed, we get that.

But Op has already said she doesn't want to have sex with men. I fear that if she does, she'll be damaged even further because she doesn't feel comfortable.

So the reasonable option is celibacy.

Maybe one day she'll come to terms with herself and accept the way God made her. Telling someone to be ok with themselves is not a negative message. Except in your society amd your church.

Seems like the message seems to be "you are only ok if we decide you are ok because of some things we picked out of the bible, while ignoring other things because they would be inconvenient for us".

[quote author=foolinlove post=47162053]If she lived in the western part of the world she wouldn't be so ashamed of herself.

She'd learn to accept and love herself for what she is - a lesbian.

People are born this way. There is a difficult path ahead of her. You can't "cure" homosexuality. It's like trying to cure your eye or hair color. You can use contact lenses, or dye your hair, but underneath your genes are still the same.

I implore you to support amd love your friend while she comes to terms with who she is. Often gay people turn to drugs and alcohol and suicide in order to cope with the shame they feel.


She may need to hide her sexuality, due to the laws in Nigeria , but she shouldn't feel ashamed for the way she was born.

I am praying for her. God loves everyone.[/quoteAT]
Umm.

She would just ve to believe in herself dat she can overcome dis, nd she will. I was once in d league of masturbators. Buh because i embrace mysef, change my mindset wenever its arises. She can change too

foolinlove:


I don't want her to go through any unnecessary suffering, by forcing her into a way of life she is uncomfortable with. I presented a reasonable option - celibacy.

Imagine if the norm was to be gay. Thay being straight was shameful. And someone tried to force you to be gay. That's how she is feeling.

Be kind to her.

The girl in question is not being pressured to change her lifestyle. She is not just comfortable with it. She want a normal life. GET IT STRAIGHT FOOLINLOVE

UndisputedBosom:



She didn't say anybody is forcing her, just that she's ashame of her lifestyle and wants a change yet you're here giving her reasons to hold back and thats what is irritating me....

Like i knew she was going to support d act. Buh yet, it wasn't her fault. Her heart has been broken into pieces!!

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:

Serious ..... Anyway I want to stop it because I love to marry and have my kids....but is still not working

Lol, got married tried to disassociate my self from it, had kids , kept myself busy with family. But babe I found myself falling back to it. Went to my pastor , confessed to him, we prayed and fasted but here I am today still battling with it. I made up my mind this year to stop fighting it and live my life daily as it goes weather I have a gf, found love or not.

jpride:


The girl in question is not being pressured to change her lifestyle. She is not just comfortable with it. She want a normal life. GET IT STRAIGHT FOOLINLOVE

You already said she was uncomfortable having sex with men. I don't think it's right to force her into a sexual relationship when she feels uncomfortable.

If she wants a so-called normal life, then there's nothing stopping her, since according to you she's not even a lesbian.

Btw, thanks for ignoring my suggestions on how to change your life to more accurately reflect the teachings of the bible. I guess its just too inconvenient for you. You'd prefer to tell people how they can and can't have sex.

jpride:



Incase u dont know, read Romance 1:26,27 and tell me whether God condemn homosexuality or not

what is that

iamdurent:

what is that

Some part of the new testament. I'm a Christian, but I'm not down with the bible. Especially since it's been so heavily censored by the catholic church :-/

seyezy:


My dear, you need to read the post well before posting yours, The poster said she was initiated into lesbianism and I quite disagree with you on the opinion that people are born as lesbians. Because if they are,God wouldn't have had any reason to destroy the people of Soldom and Gomorah.

And your Sodom and Gomorrah had only people involved in same sex relationships?

foolinlove:


Some part of the new testament. I'm a Christian, but I'm not down with the bible. Especially since it's been so heavily censored by the catholic church :-/

Last time i checked its Romans not "Romance"

Natotogokillme:
You don't ask. Tell her to come for special deliverance from the evil spirit of lesbianism. Free of charge.
www.nairaland.com/attachments/3921814_images4_jpegc9fde20fd03e82b2cce033fc19f5260b

Rubbish

iamdurent:
Last time i checked its Romans not "Romance"

Yeah, but the poor guy isn't very bright. I'd let that one go and stick to the main topic of debate.

pinkberries:


Lol, got married tried to disassociate my self from it, had kids , kept myself busy with family. But babe I found myself falling back to it. Went to my pastor , confessed to him, we prayed and fasted but here I am today still battling with it. I made up my mind this year to stop fighting it and live my life daily as it goes weather I have a gf, found love or not.

I have a big thought DAT I can overcome it once am married...because i can't live DAT kind of life style .....seriously I regretted leaving in hostel and I can never allow my kids to stay in boarding school because dats d root of all of it

iamdurent:
Last time i checked its Romans not "Romance"

That was a mistake....... d issue under discussion was more of inappropriate romance. Guess dats wat led to dat

iamdurent:
You had better shutup and listen when wise ladies talk.
My 2 cents tho.

Are u an asshole too??
Una many o

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:

I have a big thought DAT I can overcome it once am married...because i can't live DAT kind of life style .....seriously I regretted leaving in hostel and I can never allow my kids to stay in boarding school because dats d root of all of it

Boarding school?

Like I ever attended a boarding school?

jpride:

Are u an asshole too?? Una many o

Put ur pride aside and gain knowledge. you are very dumb, bye.

foolinlove:


Yeah, but the poor guy isn't very bright. I'd let that one go and stick to the main topic of debate.

Screw u...........

Shame on you...... Satan is really very powerful. Demonic powers shouldnt be underestimated. Good is now bad n bad is good. I despise u and ur orientation.

You just registered in NL few weeks ago and u have only registered ur presence in "Romance" thread bevcause u know dis is were u will meet ur fellow "toy admirers".......

I rather marry a LovePeddler than befriend a "toy owner"

jpride:


Screw u...........

Shame on you...... Satan is really very powerful. Demonic powers shouldnt be underestimated. Good is now bad n bad is good. I despise u and ur orientation

You're just mad that I dont agree with you.

You're mad that people can explain something that you have been taught to fear and hate on the basis of a couple of passages in an old book.

Interestingly, people who have the most violent hateful reaction to homosexuality are actually homosexuals themselves. Latent homosexuality. Look it up.

I'm straight, so there's no point trying to say I'm a lesbian. Not thatI consider it an insult anyway. It's just important that you know the homosexual community has many more allies than just homosexuals.

I hope you lead a happy life, and I pray your friend finds someone a lot more well educated, supportive and loving than you.

bayocute:
She would just ve to believe in herself dat she can overcome dis, nd she will. I was once in d league of masturbators. Buh because i embrace mysef, change my mindset wenever its arises. She can change too

comparing this issue with masturbation is far fetched.... the best way to compare the OP's story with masturbation would be for you to masturbate for 9 years to gay porn (while claiming to be straight), saying you did it because your friends told you it was the way to go.
would it make sense to you?

MRBrownJ:


comparing this issue with masturbation is far fetched.... the best way to compare the OP's story with masturbation would be for you to masturbate for 9 years to gay porn (while claiming to be straight), saying you did it because your friends told you it was the way to go.
would it make sense to you?

True, Ur comparism is quite riqht. Buh nevertheless, she can change if she reali wanted to.

Lesbianism is a choice, if she isn't comfortable being a lesbian, then, she should choose whatever dat suited her. Meanwhile, being straight is a choice. Like me, am attracted to both sex. And i loved it.

Lesbianism is a choice, if she isn't comfortable being a lesbian, then, she should choose whatever dat suited her. Meanwhile, being straight is a choice too. Like me, am attracted to both sex. And i loved it.

jpride:

Did Jesus promote same sex thing??

Did Jesus *discriminate/hate* same sex thing??

iamdurent:
Rubbish

Look at this guy. You don't know the power of prick.

I can be of help to her but I won't say it here let her contact me at toochsamn@yahoo.com

foolinlove:


Some part of the new testament. I'm a Christian, but I'm not down with the bible. Especially since it's been so heavily censored by the catholic church :-/

I dont doubt u are a christian,thats wat everyone say nowadays,in the begining God created Adam n eve, not Adam and steve or Eve n jenny,He knows y He did that,if because of ur advice she\they miss her way n continue in that sinful thereby disobeying God,it will be beta u were neva born than to face what awaits u at the judgement day. Continue following the Americans. If ur generations were lesbians would u ve ever been conceived. I weep for our future generation.

stnglobal:
I can be of help to her but I won't say it here let her contact me at toochsamn@yahoo.com

Whatever assistance u can offer her, pls do it here or pm me. Thank u

Vivos:
I dont doubt u are a christian,thats wat everyone say nowadays,in the begining God created Adam n eve, not Adam and steve or Eve n jenny,He knows y He did that,if because of ur advice she\they miss her way n continue in that sinful thereby disobeying God,it will be beta u were neva born than to face what awaits u at the judgement day. Continue following the Americans. If ur generations were lesbians would u ve ever been conceived. I weep for our future generation.

May God bless you to the fullest. His immense blessings will be on you. Just imagine the stupid words that inhuman is uttering..