sexybabes:

Bcoz he said d truth , I ges u disagree.
Well d only duty I have as some1's gf is 2 luv him if dts wt i told & promised him.

Babes I concurr with u._{Am just dissing dat yeye man.}

koolchicco:

Babes I concurr with u._{Am just dissing dat yeye man.}

Thank you!

@Ujuoan

you have posted well. I had to read this because lately I doubt if I could be a good BF, but reading through your post, I realise I haven't been doing badly.


The recession has made it impossible to do much of #4 lately. I call though, and I text excessively. I text more cos messages can easily be stored and the memory lives on. I have an ex who saved all the romantic messages I sent her from back in college and they were still in her phone in my special folder from 2004 to 2008 when the phone was stolen.

The handyman part is my strength, only sometimes when I've just started going out with a girl, I pretend. Then when It's all those "what a man can do", I let them be the handywoman.

as a guy ur job as boyfriend is to give ur woman lots of money. as a lady ur job is to give ur guy lots of sex and food to eat.

albridge:

as a guy your job as boyfriend is to give your woman lots of money. as a lady your job is to give your guy lots of sex and food to eat.

& wt kinda r/s is dt? R u payin for d sex & food. Lol!

albridge:

as a guy your job as boyfriend is to give your woman lots of money. as a lady your job is to give your guy lots of sex and food to eat.

Is that so?

seems very fair enough

Ujujoan: I noticed that most people shy away from their duties as someone’s Boyfriend and Girlfriend. By GF/BF I mean anybody you are in a committed relationship with (with or without sex). Of course for the married/engaged couples, it goes beyond duty; it becomes a responsibility.

For a guy, these are the things he would expect from a GF.

1. Help make his meals: Even if she doesn’t know how to cook, she should ensure he always has food to eat. Either by making him cook and store or by getting a cook for me. Either way, his feeding should be her responsibility. Of course the guy does the funding!!

2. Help keep his house clean: Now I know this is hard for most ladies to understand but guys operate better in a clean environment. Even though he’s a bachelor, his apartment should always reflect the presence of a woman in his life. If you can’t clean, get help!!

3. Help with his Laundry: Okay, that’s a no-go area for most girls but the truth is that, guys expect it. It’s not right to sit back and watch you BF wash his clothes. A lady should ensure that her guy is at his best appearance always! If you can’t wash, take them to the cleaner and pick them up! Of course he should foot the bill.

4. Help with his personal hygiene: Well some guys can be pigs you know. It’s a girl’s responsibility to ensure her guy gets a timely haircut, manicure/pedicure, shave and other things that come with looking good.

5. Host his friends: Guys like to host their friends once in a while and as his GF, you should try your best to be there for him. Don’t just write it off as a guy’s thing . .  be there to serve the drinks, serve the snacks/meals, make the small talks, and know when to leave if they want to get down to the guys talk. Just being there makes him happy that you can blend into his life!!

6. Be with him: As a GF, as far as the r/ship involves sex, it’s your duty to satisfy your BF. Sometimes, it’s not even about the sex, it’s about knowing he can hold you in his arms all night long. A guy needs comfort from a girl, so as his girl, you should let him know you are there! That’s very important.

As a girl, these are the things I expect from my BF.

1. Handy-man: Okay the word’s a bit derogatory, but if I have a BF, he should be there to fix my things. Electrical faults, plumbing, household appliances and even my car. Even if I have to pay for it, he should be the one to take it to the electrician/mechanic and make sure it gets fixed! If I have to travel a far distance, he should be ready to drive me, if I have a flat tire, he should be ready to change it and get it fixed. Infact, if I need anything done, he should get it done. That’s why we really hare their numbers on speed dial :d

2. My escort: Well I can’t go for that wedding/ Party alone! He has to come with me.

3. My protector: Okay, before you say another word to me, I’ll have you know that I have a BF :d I actually let a guy go cos he let someone else toast me while I was with him. Before you talk to me, you think of what my BF will do to you!

4. Money: I know you guys don’t want to hear this but it’s the fact! My BF (poorer or richer than I am) pays for my hair and my clothes. Now I don’t expect him to take up totally financial responsibility of me, but if I’m throwing my B/day party, he shd pay for it or at least pay for most of it. He should at least once in a very blue moon, take me and my ladies out! He should pay for some lil things that I need and he should contribute, no matter how small, in anything I do!!

5. Call me: Now this is a very tick one. If I have a BF, he should be the one calling more often. No matter how busy he is. He should call and check up on me while I’m at work, he should call me when I’m sick, he should call me when he wakes up in the morning and before he sleeps at night. . .  cos I’ll expect him to!

6. Be with me: It’s not just the guys that want sex, we want it too. We also love the feeling of curling up in his arms all night long. We love company, we love knowing he’s there!!

Pls dont attack me for the looooong post oh!   

Yes nah as i expected u must mention money for the options.ehn u naija girls and money sef .Una and Judas i wonder who like money pass

Ujujoan:
3. My protector: Okay, before you say another word to me, I’ll have you know that I have a BF :d I actually let a guy go cos he let someone else toast me while I was with him. Before you talk to me, you think of what my BF will do to you!

Uju was it wrong for your boyfriend to let someone toast you in his presence, or wrong for you to let someone else toast you in your bf presence??

Ujujoan: I noticed that most people shy away from their duties as someone’s Boyfriend and Girlfriend. By GF/BF I mean anybody you are in a committed relationship with (with or without sex). Of course for the married/engaged couples, it goes beyond duty; it becomes a responsibility.

For a guy, these are the things he would expect from a GF.

1. Help make his meals: Even if she doesn’t know how to cook, she should ensure he always has food to eat. Either by making him cook and store or by getting a cook for me. Either way, his feeding should be her responsibility. Of course the guy does the funding!!

2. Help keep his house clean: Now I know this is hard for most ladies to understand but guys operate better in a clean environment. Even though he’s a bachelor, his apartment should always reflect the presence of a woman in his life. If you can’t clean, get help!!

3. Help with his Laundry: Okay, that’s a no-go area for most girls but the truth is that, guys expect it. It’s not right to sit back and watch you BF wash his clothes. A lady should ensure that her guy is at his best appearance always! If you can’t wash, take them to the cleaner and pick them up! Of course he should foot the bill.

4. Help with his personal hygiene: Well some guys can be pigs you know. It’s a girl’s responsibility to ensure her guy gets a timely haircut, manicure/pedicure, shave and other things that come with looking good.

5. Host his friends: Guys like to host their friends once in a while and as his GF, you should try your best to be there for him. Don’t just write it off as a guy’s thing . .  be there to serve the drinks, serve the snacks/meals, make the small talks, and know when to leave if they want to get down to the guys talk. Just being there makes him happy that you can blend into his life!!

6. Be with him: As a GF, as far as the r/ship involves sex, it’s your duty to satisfy your BF. Sometimes, it’s not even about the sex, it’s about knowing he can hold you in his arms all night long. A guy needs comfort from a girl, so as his girl, you should let him know you are there! That’s very important.

As a girl, these are the things I expect from my BF.

1. Handy-man: Okay the word’s a bit derogatory, but if I have a BF, he should be there to fix my things. Electrical faults, plumbing, household appliances and even my car. Even if I have to pay for it, he should be the one to take it to the electrician/mechanic and make sure it gets fixed! If I have to travel a far distance, he should be ready to drive me, if I have a flat tire, he should be ready to change it and get it fixed. Infact, if I need anything done, he should get it done. That’s why we really hare their numbers on speed dial :d

2. My escort: Well I can’t go for that wedding/ Party alone! He has to come with me.

3. My protector: Okay, before you say another word to me, I’ll have you know that I have a BF :d I actually let a guy go cos he let someone else toast me while I was with him. Before you talk to me, you think of what my BF will do to you!

4. Money: I know you guys don’t want to hear this but it’s the fact! My BF (poorer or richer than I am) pays for my hair and my clothes. Now I don’t expect him to take up totally financial responsibility of me, but if I’m throwing my B/day party, he shd pay for it or at least pay for most of it. He should at least once in a very blue moon, take me and my ladies out! He should pay for some lil things that I need and he should contribute, no matter how small, in anything I do!!

5. Call me: Now this is a very tick one. If I have a BF, he should be the one calling more often. No matter how busy he is. He should call and check up on me while I’m at work, he should call me when I’m sick, he should call me when he wakes up in the morning and before he sleeps at night. . .  cos I’ll expect him to!

6. Be with me: It’s not just the guys that want sex, we want it too. We also love the feeling of curling up in his arms all night long. We love company, we love knowing he’s there!!

Pls dont attack me for the looooong post oh!   

This is total rubbish!!!! it is a very useless post!

This is the exact type of stereotyping that has been messing up our relationships!!!

I know this topic is old, but i must say that the OP is something else, her ideology now might have changed,actually 4yrs after. Funny post tho

noted

For a guy, these are the things he would expect from a GF.

1. Unless he is handicap or mentally ill, he can also cook for himself. I like cooking but men also need to be able to make themselves something to eat. Specially if he is not working and I am.
2. Again, unless there is something physically wrong, he needs to help keep the house clean. I don't mind cleaning the house, but he needs to help keep it clean. If he likes luring like a pig, well, he can stay living by himself. I think that a guy that has a dirty place, well, it says a lot about him.
3. Just like before, he can help do laundry if he has the time and I don't. Or at least help if I am doing the laundry but helping fold clothes.him sitting down watching TV while I do the laundry, cook for him, clean for him, and so on is not acceptable. This is 2016, not 1916.
4. Help with his personal hygiene. Hmm, seriously? I am not his mom to make sure he washed behind his ears. First of all, for a guy to attract me, he needs to be clean to start of. I do not date men who smell back or can't make themselves look presentable. Once more, the way he dresses and takes care of himself and his home says a lot about him.
5. That is fine has long as he hosts my friends when I have them over as well. Perhaps go to the store and buy us some cookies to eat with our drinks. Yeah why not, if ai do that for him he can return the favor. Oh yeah, and when he is done with his friends, he can clean their mess or hire a servant.
6. No it is not my duty to satisfy my man. I am not a intimacy gadget of his. It goes both ways. If he can satisfy me then I will return the favor. But the 1-2 minutes of sex and rolling over and falling a sleep while I lay there wishing for more will not work with me. He better learn how to please me as well because I can start suffering from bad memory and forget how to please a man. I do not believe that he would like it if he gave me an orgasm and I rolled over and went to sleep. Why do guys think that it is OK do to that to a girl? Because there are some girls who feel that it is their obligation to please their men sexually like a sex doll. Sorry, but with me sex goes both ways and more and more men are learning that women want to be pleased too. So he either learns that quickly if he hasn't yet, or go back to dating his old right and left hand girlfriends. I am sure his hands don't mind pleasing his toy member. Oh and he also needs to be there for me when I just want to be held and don't feel like having sex.


As a girl, these are the things I expect from my BF.

1. Handy-man: Okay the word’s a bit derogatory, but if I have a BF, he should be there to fix my things. Electrical faults, plumbing, household appliances and even my car. Even if I have to pay for it, he should be the one to take it to the electrician/mechanic and make sure it gets fixed! If I have to travel a far distance, he should be ready to drive me, if I have a flat tire, he should be ready to change it and get it fixed. Infact, if I need anything done, he should get it done. That’s why we really hare their numbers on speed dial :d

I do not expect a guy to do anything for me. That is right, I can fix my own car and have done it in the past. I often times correct car mechanics when they want to steal from me because they think I am just another ignorant girl. Just two weeks ago I change the brakes on my own car. True story. My dad thought me well. If he can do it then wonderful, if not then why would ai expect my boyfriend to do it for me? I am not handicap.

2. I have never been. Into going to weddings or b-day parties. But if I did and he didn't want to go, that is alright with me. Just don't get mad if the girls decide to stop by a male strip joint after the wedding to watch some guys dance for us. Haha!

3. It is nice when a guy stands up for you, but not nice when he is about to or gets his butt kicked and you have to rescue him. My parents put me in martial arts classes since I was a little girl. I have practice ninjutsu, aikido, jujitsu, boxing, and for the last three months I have been learning mix martial arts but I am not liking it too much. So I can take care of myself, thank you very much.nI m also an adult and I know how to tell a guy that I am not interested in him.

4. No thank you, I can pay for known clothes, hair, nails, and personal hygiene products. If I don't pay it for him, why would I expect him to pay it for me? Unless I am not working and stay home being a house wife (something ai will never be for extended periods of time), I can buy my own stuff.

5. Him calling me is nice. But I can call him too. At the sake time if he calls too often it makes him look needy and desperate. Even though my parents thought me to take care of myself and never depend on a man, guys can be here today and be gone tomorrow living you with kids and all, I am still a girl and like romance. Being surprised with flowers and a gift (regardless of how expensive it is) is nice.


6. This is the inly one I agree with you 100%.

Bottom line for me is this. I am a modern woman who knows what she wants and goes after it. I love taking care of my guy as ling as it does not become a mommy and son type of relationship. If he wants a mommy to take care of him, he can move back with his mom. In the world we live in today in which both men and women work, the old fashion rules when out the window long ago. I want a man who can be my partner in crime. My equal, not superior. Is not afraid of doing the laundry if he has time and I don't. Because if I have the time and he doesn't, I would not mind doing the laundry or fixing something around the home if ai know how. It is about helping each other out in which ever way we can and in whichever way works for us both. Not in whichever way social rules says we should.

Pls dont attack me for the looooong post oh! wink cheesy