halfricanadian:


Na i av helped guys in d past

Givin out my money for investment to get him fone nd wears nd i never harmed him cos of d fact i spent

Wen i do anytin i put God into it cos he sees even in d hidden nd pays every man according to his or her deeds

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

Benita27:
I have a family friend that works in shell, though! He's married, the wife works with the state government.

You won't believe that that man pays the wife monthly salary, ouside what she earns, and he still takes care of the home running.

That's who a man is.

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

Well said

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

sapiosexual1:


You really should sit her down and give her an education. I'm however not surprised this is coming from a western Nigeria lady, they are more exposed and lovable than those from the other divide of the Niger who would never use a dime of theirs for their man. Little wonder men from that side soo covet the ladies from the west.

hardbody:
https://www.nairaland.com/3246211/advice-needed-please#47844774

This post is yours, the only other post you have on NL, you must be a hustler or very ostentatious, or worse still a scum of the earth. Get some self worth, it helps.

Benita27:
When he dumps you, you can go extra miles to harm him, because of all you gave.

olagold79:


You're making sense jaare . it's really terrible the kind of mentality that's been entrenched on nairaland. Now I understand why peeps seems to complain when some stuffs makes front page. So many childish and stereotypical thinking. It's becoming annoying, or just that some of you just like attention


So ,what if you're the richer?,you still must keep collecting instead of spending. I hope you remember the case of Cynthia Osikogwu ( hope I get the spelling correctly), that's how she fashioned her own death. She decided to still collect money from guys she is even rich enough to buy.


I remember this op's response on a particular post. It quite obvious you have a deep seated archaic view, we already have many of your kind n you're unfortunately infecting your ilk. No 2 relationships are the same, so your point is if you spend less on a guy n he leaves you...you'll feel less pain.So childish n Myopic,goes to show how much money means to you. I have lost over 3k euro on investments in just the last 6months, why don't I go n kill my investors or kill myself because of some wrong choices.Many of you shouting will spend less than half on that on your boyfriend in his whole life.

It's really annoying how a lot of Nigerian youth think these days. And the stuffs I see in here scares me. Of all d problems we can solve with our thinking ...we have someone wake up n start giving this kind of advice. Op even said she has a family that works in shell n still pays the wife , "that's a man"....so every1 that can't work in shell n be that rich is half a man?.

My gal can spend anything on me, I have never asked n I am not more broke than she is , I am generally richer.But we both came from a poor background, and we have helped each other thus far. Even when she was doing IT, she'd spend at least 2k of her 10k salary on me every month.I have said it severally , I probably have spent far more on her....but in comparison it's just because I had more.We compete to see who spends more n can suprise the other with d best gifts. I partly sponsored her to Europe and I don't even see myself saying it in a way to brag...I can't just imagine.She in every way worth more than that. And if any1 of us leaves the relationship; which has almost happened a few times it won't be totally d others fault. She has done things for me that I wll never forget even in my grave. And if by any means we part way....walahi the last thing on my mind will be how much money I lost on her, I am sure that's true for her also. Money is totally inconsequential, can't we just reason past this nonesense.

Jay542:

A man shouldn't care really how much his woman earns. He is meant to still give her allowance even if she earns 500k and he earns 200k. A womans' money is for herself while the guys' earnings is for the family.

EmperorLee:


I talk am say aga dey spit sense today.


Onstelly Sexytemi Naniawini Omonighoblessing make una kan see ooh.




Ladies should spend for their men gaan

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

supersystems:
i wouldnt want a lady to spend on me so i can call it offs easily without too much sermon should the relationship not fly on the high i expeted of it.i dnt even collect a sweet from a lady unless i'm close to been sure every gift a woman gives is a trap.

Cutehector:
Halfricanadian please there is a difference between being in love and being stvpid.



@op


You are right. Though a lady can support her guy when in need, dah doesn't mean she should become his mugu. Personally I won't tolerate a girlfrnd cooking feeding and paying my bills, so that when things go awry, she'll start saying crap like, after all i've done for him. I just don't Wana hear Dat statement!

UIA04:

That's a very wrong notion o. Dont indulge a stingy woman, if the husband has financial hardship he will suffer it alone with his children while the wife will be living large.

There's nothing wrong in 80:20 or 90:10 division in the finances FOR THE FAMILY

Blackfire:



@smhart1 can u spend for me?

*takes cover*

Benita27:
I have a family friend that works in shell, though! He's married, the wife works with the state government.

You won't believe that that man pays the wife monthly salary, ouside what she earns, and he still takes care of the home running.

That's who a man is.

Benita27:
When he dumps you, you can go extra miles to harm him, because of all you gave.

Jay542:

A man shouldn't care really how much his woman earns. He is meant to still give her allowance even if she earns 500k and he earns 200k. A womans' money is for herself while the guys' earnings is for the family.

Benita27:
When he dumps you, you can go extra miles to harm him, because of all you gave.

mizzbouqui:

Alright its my decision not yours