Ginaz:
gsainttrinity thanks for your advise, I'm into sport but guys won't let someone jug in peace so I stopped

Let's say I love novels, novels are the only thing I would go extra mile to get.

gsainttrinity:


Miss Gina, this issue about boys and flirting is something that girls should not over react to, especially One like you who needs as much people around to boost your level of happiness.

I have to speak from my point of view, as a young man, I personally can not bring myself to ignore a woman's physical attributes while wanting to just strike up platonic friendship.

for me, the search for platonic friendships is strictly restricted to guys Alone... and that would be guys who share one or two activities together with me. so this leaves me naturally flirting with women at first meet or subsequent meets.

But I am saying on behalf of myself and many other guys like me, these flirting gestures are mainly harmless.

I have had many female friends whom I had hit at who were able to manage these flirty behavior and this is where girls who have many male friends and company succeed. they are not intimidated by guys flirty behaviour they take advantage of the advantage to show the guys the other side of their personalities which is beyond the looks and believe me, guys respect girls who can prove a things or two with or without good looks.

the reason for this long story is go out, Jog or pursue whatever sport you love to do. guys will always hit at you but it is left to you to show them that you can beat them at their own game.

challenge them in the sport of your prefrence, practice, be good at it. challenge them
show them who you are apart from having a beautiful face.

enjoy the game.... don't be intimidated by male advances....... at all..... in fact I dislike girls who cower at every guys advances. take it as fun and as challenge.

time to leave the novels behind... go out and face those guys.. let them toast you, while you show them you are not a weakling of a girl.

I guarantee you would have more fun this way.

Ginaz:


OK, but you know a girl got to play safe, you won't know a guy that's a cultist or bad. That was why I stopped, cos I was thinking I'm being followed.

Anyway, I had some talents for drawing, somehow I slackened and it's non existence. I probably should try to ignite my passion for it, that's one thing I feel passionate about. I tried holding a pen, it felt awkward in my hands.

I'm learning how to sew too, so you see? I'm trying. My friend at where i'm currently learning how to sew invited me to her house this coming Sunday and I refused. I don't feel like going anywhere, don't want to see anybody outside my house.

Making friends is not my problem, but finding a reason to leave the house is. I'm very fond of being alone in the house, the thought of leaving makes me suddenly lazy and tired. People's company bores me, except a very few though.

Ginaz:
I don't know the right section to post this but I really need to know cos I'm tired already so forgive me.

I'm in my early twenties, I'm the kind of girl that just love being alone with herself. I don't go clubbing, don't go to parties( except I don't have a choice and I'm being forced by my mother, marriage tinx)

I have few friends, just 4 I share deep emotional matters with. I'm always alone when at home, in fact I get excited about it.

I have never visited anyone this year, except on 2 occasions. Only 2 have visited me also, I close from work straight home and sleep, read novels or watch movie.

I like social stuff but too much of it kills me, makes me shy and tired. Now I'm at my aunt's house, I've been inside my room since Saturday, I only come out to do house chores. This is my personality but I feel people don't understand.

My aunt just had a talk with me right now that I keep myself from people, and it's getting me mad cos I didn't think it that way.

Nairalanders, please am I too introverted or what? Is there something I'm missing? Please.

Ginaz:
gsainttrinity thanks for your advise, I'm into sport but guys won't let someone jug in peace so I stopped

Let's say I love novels, novels are the only thing I would go extra mile to get.

Ginaz:
Thanks so much for the contributed comments, now I know nairaland is truly an online family. I'm grateful and lost of words for the kind advice I have gotten.

Today I went outside to weed the compound, had small conversations with my neighbors(it was hard) and slept all through the morning, just waking up now and logging in to nairaland and I saw those that gave me mentions.

Thanks a lot, I appreciate. One step at a time and i'll learn to associate myself with people.

sekxy:
i am just like u..i like excluding myself from my family whenever i visit home. and atimes i just feel it's abnormal cos i have a very lovely and wonderful hommies.the last holiday I didn't come out till the day i left and the holiday lasted close to a month. i sometimes feel too shy when people are around me.
God help me

Ginaz:
I don't know the right section to post this but I really need to know cos I'm tired already so forgive me.

I'm in my early twenties, I'm the kind of girl that just love being alone with herself. I don't go clubbing, don't go to parties( except I don't have a choice and I'm being forced by my mother, marriage tinx)

I have few friends, just 4 I share deep emotional matters with. I'm always alone when at home, in fact I get excited about it.

I have never visited anyone this year, except on 2 occasions. Only 2 have visited me also, I close from work straight home and sleep, read novels or watch movie.

I like social stuff but too much of it kills me, makes me shy and tired. Now I'm at my aunt's house, I've been inside my room since Saturday, I only come out to do house chores. This is my personality but I feel people don't understand.

My aunt just had a talk with me right now that I keep myself from people, and it's getting me mad cos I didn't think it that way.

Nairalanders, please am I too introverted or what? Is there something I'm missing? Please.

Ginaz:
I don't know the right section to post this but I really need to know cos I'm tired already so forgive me.

I'm in my early twenties, I'm the kind of girl that just love being alone with herself. I don't go clubbing, don't go to parties( except I don't have a choice and I'm being forced by my mother, marriage tinx)

I have few friends, just 4 I share deep emotional matters with. I'm always alone when at home, in fact I get excited about it.

I have never visited anyone this year, except on 2 occasions. Only 2 have visited me also, I close from work straight home and sleep, read novels or watch movie.

I like social stuff but too much of it kills me, makes me shy and tired. Now I'm at my aunt's house, I've been inside my room since Saturday, I only come out to do house chores. This is my personality but I feel people don't understand.

My aunt just had a talk with me right now that I keep myself from people, and it's getting me mad cos I didn't think it that way.

Nairalanders, please am I too introverted or what? Is there something I'm missing? Please.

UrennaNkoli:
You're just like me. I dont keep too many friends either. If you make no meaning to me then just **** off.

Winnelyn:
you are exactly like me.. but I think I love myself this way

Ginaz:
Please o, I really need advise from y'all. I've always be misquoted and misunderstood cos of this. What should I do to lose up.?

Ginaz:


I never had any experience, let's say but my dad. I had a very bad vibe with him. I just wanted to know if maybe it's too much. I hate public places, and won't want to go except I am with someone I know very well. I'm confused what I really am, I don't want people hanging round me and don't want to hang round them either. I am not scared of being alone, I wonder if I'm alright mentally or its Part of me.

UrennaNkoli:
You're just like me. I dont keep too many friends either. If you make no meaning to me then just **** off.

Winnelyn:
you are exactly like me.. but I think I love myself this way

Omoluabi16:
Thank God your introverted nature does not bring feelings of loneliness. Either ways, you've got to let it go..as you get older, there is a need for interpersonal relationship that will be beneficial for you career wise and personally now and in the long term. It may be our nature, but you can change it GRADUALLY. you may not need a thousand friends, but just try to get acquainted with lots of people. Improve your social life..That means more church. . more weddings and all. If you're in a relationship, your guy can help you a lot.If you are single, you can occassionally go on dates with one of your 'pests'.You are a very beautiful woman, so I don't think its esteem issues.

sekxy:
i am just like u..i like excluding myself from my family whenever i visit home. and atimes i just feel it's abnormal cos i have a very lovely and wonderful hommies.the last holiday I didn't come out till the day i left and the holiday lasted close to a month. i sometimes feel too shy when people are around me.
God help me

Ginaz:
I don't know the right section to post this but I really need to know cos I'm tired already so forgive me.

I'm in my early twenties, I'm the kind of girl that just love being alone with herself. I don't go clubbing, don't go to parties( except I don't have a choice and I'm being forced by my mother, marriage tinx)

I have few friends, just 4 I share deep emotional matters with. I'm always alone when at home, in fact I get excited about it.

I have never visited anyone this year, except on 2 occasions. Only 2 have visited me also, I close from work straight home and sleep, read novels or watch movie.

I like social stuff but too much of it kills me, makes me shy and tired. Now I'm at my aunt's house, I've been inside my room since Saturday, I only come out to do house chores. This is my personality but I feel people don't understand.

My aunt just had a talk with me right now that I keep myself from people, and it's getting me mad cos I didn't think it that way.

Nairalanders, please am I too introverted or what? Is there something I'm missing? Please.

solbinho:
Having the same shit problem, I get nervous easily n find it so hard to have a single frnd

davidif:


Tell them jare

Ginaz:


I'm more nervous than you, anyway, there is always a way out for us introverts.

Ginaz:


I'm more nervous than you, anyway, there is always a way out for us introverts.

solbinho:
Nah I don't think xo

solbinho:
Nah I don't think xo

africanman85:
Babe let's rock it together now ? U are my kind of gal and am a semi introvert and looking for miss ryt. My digit is there just put a call across.

davidif:


Did your parents not send you to boarding school?

Presh9OO:
lol.. Bruh Boarding School saved my Life.. I used to be a Hermit

davidif:


I am telling you ehn

Boarding sxhool should be a rite of passage for every kid in Naija. All this things the op is complaining about would have been straightened out by boarding school.