Windflower:

Its really hurts especially when your own family doesn't understand you.I couldn't help but come back to read your post,because everything you have written is just like ure describing me. Today was the last straw,Its like I should just go somewhere else and be alone. Anyways, Is there any changes,did you take to the advice here

Well they said I should socialized, that was a disaster. There was a nice gentleman I met after my broke up with my first bf, he seems nice but he didn't understand me. There was a day he asked to see me, just hang around somewhere nice to have a chit chat. My God, the last minute I broke the promise... I felt nervous, felt my heart beating. That would be the first time since 4 years ago I would want to go out with someone.

I called it off, apologized to him which he took. He came to visit me instead but maybe I was too strict with the going out stuff and he was that type. He invited me on two occasions to visit him since he located. If I did, that meant he would be the first guy ever to get a visitation from me. (apart from my ex).

He won't understand, I felt he wanna suffocate me with his positive outbursts which was a good thing however he should have taken it slowly. I was depressed also, plus my introverted self made it very difficult for him so I won't blame him. I let go...he wasn't worth it. It still hurts cos I liked him a lot. ..(the price of being introverted and weird)

At the start of the topic I mentioned i had 4 people I share deep emotional talk with, well, let's make that 3.... I lost one. Out of the 3, I only talk with one face to face , two are via phone and I have only seen one.

Life most go on, I can't change myself. I don't go out of the house. ....24/7 I'm indoors worsened by the fact I no longer go to work. Oh, I went to visit my aunt this year! At least I went out.

What I do is try to go to the stadium every Saturdays, say hi's to few people.....smile...feel happy. I'm no longer depressed, if people decide to take me for what I am then it's OK, if they don't, it's OK too.

Life is too short. Please be happy, accept your personality, know it, exploit it, let it defined you instead of waiting for people's approvals. Don't seek a pat on your back cos you won't get it.

*****

I read novels,... have a talk with my dog( he hears sit, stand, sleep, come, back and are you crazy? ) I look for his trouble a lot.... quarreling with mom helps too( I can't be having a mouth odour na, let the air out of the mouth sometimes ). I pray, read the Bible, sleep and eat( I do that with passion)

I have added a little weight (* no wonder the guys won't stop staring at my bum bum, could you imagined a J.S.S 3 kid be calling me on the street? )

I'm happy. Be happy too. Live your life.

By the way, my cousin came to visit me early this month. We both introverts, we never stepped out of the house but what a blast we had......em music be playing, em novels be sliding....em food be vanishing...em farts be smelling ...it was a blast.

Ginaz:


Well they said I should socialized, that was a disaster. There was a nice gentleman I met after my broke up with my first bf, he seems nice but he didn't understand me. There was a day he asked to see me, just hang around somewhere nice to have a chit chat. My God, the last minute I broke the promise... I felt nervous, felt my heart beating. That would be the first time since 4 years ago I would want to go out with someone.

I called it off, apologized to him which he took. He came to visit me instead but maybe I was too strict with the going out stuff and he was that type. He invited me on two occasions to visit him since he located. If I did, that meant he would be the first guy ever to get a visitation from me. (apart from my ex).

He won't understand, I felt he wanna suffocate me with his positive outbursts which was a good thing however he should have taken it slowly. I was depressed also, plus my introverted self made it very difficult for him so I won't blame him. I let go...he wasn't worth it. It still hurts cos I liked him a lot. ..(the price of being introverted and weird)

At the start of the topic I mentioned i had 4 people I share deep emotional talk with, well, let's make that 3.... I lost one. Out of the 3, I only talk with one face to face , two are via phone and I have only seen one.

Life most go on, I can't change myself. I don't go out of the house. ....24/7 I'm indoors worsened by the fact I no longer go to work. Oh, I went to visit my aunt this year! At least I went out.

What I do is try to go to the stadium every Saturdays, say hi's to few people.....smile...feel happy. I'm no longer depressed, if people decide to take me for what I am then it's OK, if they don't, it's OK too.

Life is too short. Please be happy, accept your personality, know it, exploit it, let it defined you instead of waiting for people's approvals. Don't seek a pat on your back cos you won't get it.

*****

I read novels,... have a talk with my dog( he hears sit, stand, sleep, come, back and are you crazy? ) I look for his trouble a lot.... quarreling with mom helps too( I can't be having a mouth odour na, let the air out of the mouth sometimes ). I pray, read the Bible, sleep and eat( I do that with passion)

I have added a little weight (* no wonder the guys won't stop staring at my bum bum, could you imagined a J.S.S 3 kid be calling me on the street? )

I'm happy. Be happy too. Live your life.

By the way, my cousin came to visit me early this month. We both introverts, we never stepped out of the house but what a blast we had......em music be playing, em novels be sliding....em food be vanishing...em farts be smelling ...it was a blast.

I think you should listen to
Heavy by Linkin Park.


you are just holding on to what you dont really need

Ginaz:


Well they said I should socialized, that was a disaster. There was a nice gentleman I met after my broke up with my first bf, he seems nice but he didn't understand me. There was a day he asked to see me, just hang around somewhere nice to have a chit chat. My God, the last minute I broke the promise... I felt nervous, felt my heart beating. That would be the first time since 4 years ago I would want to go out with someone.

I called it off, apologized to him which he took. He came to visit me instead but maybe I was too strict with the going out stuff and he was that type. He invited me on two occasions to visit him since he located. If I did, that meant he would be the first guy ever to get a visitation from me. (apart from my ex).

He won't understand, I felt he wanna suffocate me with his positive outbursts which was a good thing however he should have taken it slowly. I was depressed also, plus my introverted self made it very difficult for him so I won't blame him. I let go...he wasn't worth it. It still hurts cos I liked him a lot. ..(the price of being introverted and weird)

Exactly, my ex too didn't really understand me,I feel suffocated sometimes and the cure is just to be left alone for a while.

At the start of the topic I mentioned i had 4 people I share deep emotional talk with, well, let's make that 3.... I lost one. Out of the 3, I only talk with one face to face , two are via phone and I have only seen one.

Life most go on, I can't change myself. I don't go out of the house. ....24/7 I'm indoors worsened by the fact I no longer go to work. Oh, I went to visit my aunt this year! At least I went out.

What I do is try to go to the stadium every Saturdays, say hi's to few people.....smile...feel happy. I'm no longer depressed, if people decide to take me for what I am then it's OK, if they don't, it's OK too.

Life is too short. Please be happy, accept your personality, know it, exploit it, let it defined you instead of waiting for people's approvals. Don't seek a pat on your back cos you won't get it.

*****

I read novels,... have a talk with my dog( he hears sit, stand, sleep, come, back and are you crazy? ) I look for his trouble a lot.... quarreling with mom helps too( I can't be having a mouth odour na, let the air out of the mouth sometimes ). I pray, read the Bible, sleep and eat( I do that with passion)

I have added a little weight (* no wonder the guys won't stop staring at my bum bum, could you imagined a J.S.S 3 kid be calling me on the street? )

Lol,I can imagine because a five year old boy once tapped me on my bum bum

I'm happy. Be happy too. Live your life.

That's it exactly, I am me and I like me,I don't care about what people say about me. In my compound,I only greet them ,don't have any friends but people look at you, as if sure being proud

By the way, my cousin came to visit me early this month. We both introverts, we never stepped out of the house but what a blast we had......em music be playing, em novels be sliding....em food be vanishing...em farts be smelling ...it was a blast.

Its not that I can't socialise,my family knows am a talkative,even my friend's. Before I get comfortable talking to you,then it means I trust you. That's my issue,I can say the only guy have gone on a date with is my ex,not that guys don't ask me out but I feel Its pointless going because their intentions aren't pure.
I am not really into making friends online, asides from nairaland,the only social media I use is WhatsApp except for Facebook that I just read stories. A guy sent me a pm on nairaland last month, since am all about change I replied,he asked for my contact and I gave him. The first thing he asked was am I single,when I questioned him he said why did I give him my contact if I wasn't interested.since then I don't think I can reply any PMS.
I also distant myself to avoid having issues with people because I can't stand hypocrites.

pryme:


I think you should listen to
Heavy by Linkin Park.


you are just holding on to what you dont really need

Like what? Holding on to what I don't need? Should that be people that are so not understanding and think I'm weird and antisocial? If that be it then yes.

pryme:


I think you should listen to
Heavy by Linkin Park.


you are just holding on to what you dont really need

Like what?

Ginaz:


Like what?

its never about ppls opnion about yourself, its about your outlook on life.

Ginaz:


Like what?

you just have to take a pen and a paper and write down all your fears about yourself, and be honest about it.
this piece of paper should be one of your priced possesion.

pryme:


you just have to take a pen and a paper and write down all your fears about yourself, and be honest about it.
this piece of paper should be one of your priced possesion.

On what aspects? Every areas of my life?

Windflower:

Its not that I can't socialise,my family knows am a talkative,even my friend's. Before I get comfortable talking to you,then it means I trust you. That's my issue,I can say the only guy have gone on a date with is my ex,not that guys don't ask me out but I feel Its pointless going because their intentions aren't pure.
I am not really into making friends online, asides from nairaland,the only social media I use is WhatsApp except for Facebook that I just read stories. A guy sent me a pm on nairaland last month, since am all about change I replied,he asked for my contact and I gave him. The first thing he asked was am I single,when I questioned him he said why did I give him my contact if I wasn't interested.since then I don't think I can reply any PMS.
I also distant myself to avoid having issues with people because I can't stand hypocrites.

Lol, a guy in my compound asked if I'm into yahoo. Only yahoo people stay indoors.... I can't stand hypocrites myself. I tell people a lot about me, somehow it always backfires. Anyway, we got to love ourselves regardless.

facing the same challange too, mine is worse cos am the only male child of my parents and soooo much is expected of me. gush!

Ginaz you are just like me. Sometimes I feel like the world is looking at me or people are watching my moves, I actually hate greeting people or being introduced to people (Note: I'm not nothing close to ugly)

Some think am a snub or I feel too big, they dunno I don't know how to associate with people.

Social gathering is not my thing, even if am there, I won't contribute anything, maybe pressing my phone to take away attention from me, I'm looking forward to changing, I pray someone will come along and change me a little, too much of everything is bad .



A guy in my hostel noticed how I stay indoors all alone, sometimes he comes to my room, sit down and we gist, from there we became platonic friends, if I need something and he doesn't have, he will go get cos its better you shoot me than for me to go to other student's room to ask, the other one won't stop telling me to come to his room let's be friends, the other said I don't greet him ( so many things).


Being gentle is now a crime.

I just like being alone.

I dunno if its affecting my relationship too, I like dating extroverts but don't talk too much, I develop headache when people around me make noise or talk too much.

I'm a good listener too, when I'm with my friends, I can talk very well cos I'm comfortable with them.

Ginaz:


On what aspects? Every areas of my life?

Am sorry I should have told you earlier.
You should do this if you don't like the type of life you are leaving.
This was suppose to identify the problem.

But like they say - if it's not broken don't fix it.