falconey:
Do you love him?
If yes drop those excuses up there and start planning a family.

Wait a minute is it all area in ikorodu that is unsafe? am sure he won't wanna live in danger as well.

alexialin:





I like him cause of his sense of responsibility

Have not thought about love with him, cos am in the school of thought that one shouldn't date neighbors, cos we dont know if it will end in marriage or breakup as usual.
Thats one.. So inlove? Nope am not but I like him.. Hes a good responsible guy.

Sighs but my fear is ikorodu
With the killings going on there and the terrible traffic to and fro to my buisness, I can't risk both at all

First my biz? It took me 11years to keep it running, stable and successful. If am going to relocate my biz, not anywhere near ikorodu at all!

I can't afford to loose my company for anything in the whole world and I can't afford to move my biz to a location where it wil not prosper.
And ikorodu is too fetish for my liking
With oro festivalsa and all

Then thieves abeg.

Where I live is very secured and safe

Am very paranoid about safety.
Due to past experience. Sighs

And on the second hand, I would love to start a family but not at the detriment of my peace of mind.


I just taya.

SlimHan:
Actually, I would like to make my thought known and air my view about your story but the truth of the matter is that as much as would love to give you a reasonable suggestion and bring you out of your dilemma, i can't but make known to you the fact that i really don't know what to say...


BTW

Why is Mr John rushing you with a proposal na, is not even like you guys were dating abi you omitted that part in your story

Lionessza:
Firstly do you love him enough to commit to him? Jumping to marry someone because he's a nice guy who proposed and you feel you're no longer younger sounds a little bit desperate to me.

Secondly , why would he propose marriage after deciding he's leaving and has made all the preparations and he knows you have a job in your area. He sounds selfish to me, a relationship is about both your comforts not just his. In this case it sounds like he thought about his needs only and expects you to make the compromises and sacrifices and that's not a great way to start a serious relationship especially marriage.

You are saying he wants to move to a place that's dangerous, not to make you paranoid or anything but be careful that he is not planning something dangerous for you, why propose now when he's made arrangements to move there. Why not ask you out before ?. Maybe you should forget abut the marriage thing now and start dating, and he should do the visiting at first to check his true intentions and how sincere he is as a potential husband.

alexialin:





I like him cause of his sense of responsibility

Have not thought about love with him, cos am in the school of thought that one shouldn't date neighbors, cos we dont know if it will end in marriage or breakup as usual.
Thats one.. So inlove? Nope am not but I like him.. Hes a good responsible guy.

Sighs but my fear is ikorodu
With the killings going on there and the terrible traffic to and fro to my buisness, I can't risk both at all

First my biz? It took me 11years to keep it running, stable and successful. If am going to relocate my biz, not anywhere near ikorodu at all!

I can't afford to loose my company for anything in the whole world and I can't afford to move my biz to a location where it wil not prosper.
And ikorodu is too fetish for my liking
With oro festivalsa and all

Then thieves abeg.

Where I live is very secured and safe

Am very paranoid about safety.
Due to past experience. Sighs

And on the second hand, I would love to start a family but not at the detriment of my peace of mind.


I just taya.

alexialin:






Abi?

You are right on that.

Although he wanted us to date but I told him I dont do neighbor relationship, Infact street relationship I no do

And maybe he feels, am scared he will dump me after sexxx? Which is one paranoia I have as well. U know how guys are? After sexxx? They move on.
I don't want such to happen to me on the same street. I will just die of shame! God!

So I made it clear to him, no dating.
So he came up with marriage and he said I can ask people around, he's a good man and husband material.


My problem is ikorodu. I can marry a man am not in love with, as long as hes presentable, has a good job, and he cares for me and hes good, loving and faithful, I have no problem. With time I will fall in love. Love is overrated jare

I pray he doesn't take it to heart I said no

If only he had consult me before taking such drastic steps!

It would have been a different story. I would have gladly say yes! And hang my boots on dating, just focus on making my new family work! And also understand him too.

If only he asked for my opinion!

A potential husband slipping off my hands.

Cos hes indeed a gentle man.

FortuneTeller:
Why is he rushing? Why no courtship? Is relocating you for ritual killing? Be careful.

amedualiyu:
People are just generalizing ikorodu for Badoo. I live in Ikorodu( agric ) and work in Lekki. I leave by 5am everyday and I won`t be back until pass 9pm.Am not ready to leave this area for anywhere in Lagos except Lekki,Ikoyi & V.I. Badoo guys only operate in the remote area in ikorodu. I don`t expect your assumed fiancé to get accommodation in such area. Please, ask him the area in ikorodu before you conclude. please, revert back!

alexialin:





I doubt but I wil be very careful

Thanks.

lefulefu:
na wao but na dating dey suppose come b4 marriage proposal na.alexialin if u dont have that love for him no enter o.

alexialin:






I know lefulefu

I will think about it thoroughly before taking any huge step.
But,
Love matter taya me jare

Too many lies and make believe.

I will be careful.
I promise

leonard002:
Date him for a while and know what a real romantic relationship with him feels like. Then know what next to do