Fhemmmy:

I thot as much too.
Cos it is the work of the man as much as it is that of the woman

no mind am.everything is always about the mother and the girls. forgetting the father and boys have a responsibility too

But individuals aren't made of general. It is right to deduce, but induce?? Too many fallacies.

michelin89:

But individuals aren't made of general. It is right to deduce, but induce?? Too many fallacies.

You have a point and that is why ur own view dont have to be everyone else's
So as to your own person, When and how would u know that you as Michelin is ready for marriage?

Bah I do imagine myself married but I am never serene in my fantasies. I keep thinking of all those marital difficulties and haven't yet found the best way to deal with them, always in my mind of course.

michelin89:

Bah I do imagine myself married but I am never serene in my fantasies. I keep thinking of all those marital difficulties and haven't yet found the best way to deal with them, always in my mind of course.

i will admit that you have been real.
Cos if most ladies think about all the problems that might face them in marriages and do something to find a way to be able to fix it, most wont be in the dilemma they are in now, but most ladies sees to just wanna marry cos all their friends are married.

No fixed time, I think when one is ready they know it them selves.

lexandra:

No fixed time, I think when one is ready they know it them selves.

You think so a woman:
That is still an undergrad in some university.
That dont have a job yet
That has no potential biz going on
Yet worrying the boyfriend that Tola, shade, and others are now married, so she think they need to marry soon, regardless of the age and how much the husband is making

Do u think such woman knows how and when she is ready for marriage

I feel that one thing that a man should never attemp and that is to raise a grown women.
If this happen what may take place, she will realize and develope her new mind and it may not include you.

So you know the rest of the story; A SAD DAY IN PARADISE.

^^^ Not sure what to make of this

let me share my story with y'all.
my ex gfriend used to disturb the hell out of me, talking about us getting married n all that shit . meanwhile she just started serving and i was just about to go for service, all this was last year anyway' but we'r both 2ru now.I had no job and neither did she, maybe it was the car i had that we were going to sell to feed ourselves, i don't know!
Imagine she disturbed the hell out me that i had to lie to her that we were going to do introduction this year and the funny thing was when we were about to have sex she would say we shouldn't , that her body is the temple of God, but as a sharp guy, i fcked the shit out of her and she fcking luves sex.
Do all these girls really have sense!

seun07:

let me share my story with y'all.
my ex gfriend used to disturb the hell out of me, talking about us getting married n all that shit . meanwhile she just started serving and i was just about to go for service, all this was last year anyway' but we'r both 2ru now.I had no job and neither did she, maybe it was the car i had that we were going to sell to feed ourselves, i don't know!
Imagine she disturbed the hell out me that i had to lie to her that we were going to do introduction this year and the funny thing was when we were about to have sex she would say we shouldn't , that her body is the temple of God, but as a sharp guy, i fcked the shit out of her and she fcking luves sex.
Do all these girls really have sense!

I was enjoying your post till u started degrading the woman with your statement.

^^^

Lol

^^^ Na true now

Financially stable, gotten her BA, MAs e.t.c, good career/ not a job, emotional ready to take responsibilities, strong in d Lord(b/c u need God guidance), e.t.c
Getting married is not an easy task,it takes patience, understanding, Love and especially God
Gud Attitude (very very important)

tRoOE:

Financially stable, gotten her BA, MAs e.t.c, good career/ not a job, emotional ready to take responsibilities, strong in d Lord(b/c u need God guidance), e.t.c
Getting married is not an easy task,it takes patience, understanding, Love and especially God
Gud Attitude (very very important)

You seems to be the only woman that has been honest about this issue.
So why would a woman wanna worry a man about marriage till she achieve all listed above?

Fhemmmy:

You seems to be the only woman that has been honest about this issue.
So why would a woman wanna worry a man about marriage till she achieve all listed above?

Fhemmmy:

You seems to be the only woman that has been honest about this issue.
So why would a woman wanna worry a man about marriage till she achieve all listed above?

Am speaking for me myself and I, so y shuld i be worried abt other women
People have different priorities, but I have a purpose that need to be fulfilled
God gave me life, so y not accomplish my goals before worrying about marriage
Men comes and goes, but my success stays wit my 4ever

tRoOE:

Am speaking for me myself and I, so y shuld i be worried abt other women
People have different priorities, but I have a purpose that need to be fulfilled
God gave me life, so y not accomplish my goals before worrying about marriage
Men comes and goes, but my success stays wit my 4ever

Lol at that

Fhemmmy:

You think so a woman:
That is still an undergrad in some university.
That dont have a job yet
That has no potential biz going on
Yet worrying the boyfriend that Tola, shade, and others are now married, so she think they need to marry soon, regardless of the age and how much the husband is making

In a country like Nigeria where jobs are hard to come by i don't feel a job should be among the criteria a woman must have before she is ready for marriage. I know some of my colleagues back in school who got married in their second/third year.
They are all equally working now. So the most important thing is for the lady to have an education or some skills that can make her employable.
But of course the ability of the prospective husband to sustain a family on his paycheck alone must be considered before marrying an undergrad or presently unemployed lady.

tkjoke:

In a country like Nigeria where jobs are hard to come by i don't feel a job should be among the criteria a woman must have before she is ready for marriage. I know some of my colleagues back in school who got married in their second/third year.
They are all equally working now. So the most important thing is for the lady to have an education or some skills that can make her employable.
But of course the ability of the prospective husband to sustain a family on his paycheck alone must be considered before marrying an undergrad or presently unemployed lady.

I agreed with you that there is and shd always be an exception, however, you think it is fair for the ladies to be a bugger and worry that man that it is time to settle down when they dont even have the basic needs.
A man that is making barely enuf to take care of himself and how the woman wanna make him go to the alter, so what will happen, if 2 months after the wedding, the wife get belle, how would they cope?
These are some of the reasons why i think a woman shd at least have something to fall back on, and not just base "time to marry" on her friends are all married.

Fhemmmy:

I agreed with you that there is and shd always be an exception, however, you think it is fair for the ladies to be a bugger and worry that man that it is time to settle down when they dont even have the basic needs.
A man that is making barely enuf to take care of himself and how the woman wanna make him go to the alter, so what will happen, if 2 months after the wedding, the wife get belle, how would they cope?
These are some of the reasons why i think a woman shd at least have something to fall back on, and not just base "time to marry" on her friends are all married.

No i don't think it's fair for ladies to bug their guys about marraige when they have nothing to contribute financially and the guy is just finding his feet. The decision to marry an unemployed lady must come from the guy himself if he feels he can cope.
I have found that this is usually the case with men in their late thirties who are not married yet but are very comfortable- they have probably worked for like 10yrs and are ready to shoulder whatever responsibilities arise. They are usually the sort that go for undergraduates.

tRoOE:

Am speaking for me myself and I, so y shuld i be worried abt other women
People have different priorities, but I have a purpose that need to be fulfilled
God gave me life, so y not accomplish my goals before worrying about marriage
Men comes and goes, but my success stays wit me 4ever

I love the highlighted part well said

tkjoke:

No i don't think it's fair for ladies to bug their guys about marraige when they have nothing to contribute financially and the guy is just finding his feet. The decision to marry an unemployed lady must come from the guy himself if he feels he can cope.
I have found that this is usually the case with men in their late thirties who are not married yet but are very comfortable- they have probably worked for like 10yrs and are ready to shoulder whatever responsibilities arise. They are usually the sort that go for undergraduates.

Yes oh.

Ladies seems to wanna know a man`s worth from what he says and what he wears, yet his bank account is not saying same thing

Woman that has not contributed into seeing better life for his guy and making noise about settling down . . . .seems have no clue on when she is ready for marriage then

I enjoyed the post yoooo naira's you make me laugh oooo! thank you all for that though. Anyway I agree with most posters on pesonal growth issues, so true. But then again let us not forget that personal growth is not a destination its a lifelong and neverending journey. Some peole meet their partners before they can acquire much and then they help each other grow from there, by giving the right support, learning from each other etc and they make it. But I guess its always safe for marriage to come after one has worked hard on themselves, and maybe this rules out the age factor.

whenever she really knows and [b]sure [/b]she is ready.

SA Lady:

I enjoyed the post yoooo naira's you make me laugh oooo! thank you all for that though. Anyway I agree with most posters on pesonal growth issues, so true. But then again let us not forget that personal growth is not a destination its a lifelong and neverending journey. Some peole meet their partners before they can acquire much and then they help each other grow from there, by giving the right support, learning from each other etc and they make it. But I guess its always safe for marriage to come after one has worked hard on themselves, and maybe this rules out the age factor.

I so much agree with the red bold.

lannre:

whenever she really knows and [b]sure [/b]she is ready.

Some dont even know what they want.

Most women just wanna marry, dont even know if they are ready or not

^^^ good observation.

Its one thing to open a thread and another to let it die,

Fhemmmmmmmmmy abeg let dis thread rest, HABA!!

leave him na! make hin dey enjoy hin thread. 

HABA!! The thread has since expired by virtue of time. NO?

Nope----