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Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by Nobody: 10:35pm On Jan 11, 2017 |
Toks2008: Abeg keep your advice.. It's not needed. I didn't even ask for it Use it for yourself Am good 2 go where I am. So don't worry about me Ok? |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by Toks2008(m): 10:37pm On Jan 11, 2017 |
carmag: This is my point bro..there is a stage you gget to and the sound of courtship is like a cacophony to your hears. As far as im concerned, the lady i will marry will be surprised at the speed it will take. I don't give a hue about courtship and if i must court you maybe for the fun of it. Real men know what they want. 1.If you are pleasing to my eyes then you have gotten me 70% 2.If i make my findings and i discover you are good enough for me than i marry you..simple. Why waste time sexing each other in the name of courtship? why do i have to waste my time observing what could be pure pretense? If you meet someone, go near those that know him,his neighbors,colleagues,friends.family members,ex if possible... no matter how they all try to hide him i believe you might just have a very clear picture of who he or she is and that will make you more prepared. This is marriage we are talking about and not just mare fling. 2 Likes |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by Toks2008(m): 10:43pm On Jan 11, 2017 |
Amelian: In a cultured world where i belong, a proper cultured and well mannered lady would respond by writing something more dignifying and not this .. A guy who does due diligence on you would know with this single comment that you are very saucy,arrogant and uncultured..please try and adjust. Your response to that innocuous post is totally sarcastic and unwarranted. I guess im done with you lady..whatever rocks your boat. Good night. 1 Like |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by Nobody: 10:54pm On Jan 11, 2017 |
Toks2008: Hahahahahahaa Toks2008, u can argue for Africa and u want everyone to accept your advice.. Well sorry every one of us have our own mind and beliefs.. I told u from day one, no need clarifying your reasons cos I won't accept because I have my own personal reasons. All this your unsolicited advice is uncalled for. I had to be sarcastic and saucy to make u stop Or else we will argue back and forth tonight And me? Am. Not ready for your writeups tonight Am even way more cultured than you. So don't even go there No. Need throwing insults all over again.. U should. Be matured in what u are he'll bent on saying. I don't need it.. No need clicking on my. Mentions.. Just focus on other audience. Is it so hard to for u? |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by abike12(f): 11:51pm On Jan 11, 2017 |
Toks2008: This makes a lot of sense and thanks for sharing. These days people spend courtship having sex and feeding each other lies. Due diligence will put you in a better position to make an informed decision. It's not by force to marry someone with from certain type of background or with baggage, and instead of sitting around to let them romance you and tell lies you're better off going to find these things out yourself. The only problem is for people outside the country, how do we go about verifying the many tales that Nigerian men tell us here? Some people's oriki should be omo oniro lati iya oniro to loyun fun baba oniro. Tufia! 1 Like |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by xest(m): 12:36am On Jan 12, 2017 |
Estharfabian:Bae u said it all n that is how it should be |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by Toks2008(m): 3:10am On Jan 12, 2017 |
abike12: Thanks sis. You made a valid point I must say. As regards someone in abroad in an affair with someone in Nigeria I guess one needs to be more cautious. But then one can still do a little due diligence based in the info you have. Then watch out for red flags by asking yourself some deep questions like...does he ask for money? why does he want to be with you? are there no decent ladies in Nigeria? Can you video chat with him and his family members? Ask for his Facebook Twitter or any social media ID and check his records pics and so on...if you are OK then go to step two... No matter how distant you are at least you should have someone in Nigeria you can trust a little...let this person find out certain things about this guy based on the info he provides... The last line of action is taking the risk by filing a k1 visa which is fiance visa or intending to marry ....if that scales through then you two can be together in your country for like 6months to court each other..if he misbehaves just move on..at least you are not married to him but if he proves to be genuine...you marry him and hope for the best. My submission.....some will see it as stressful doing due diligence but remember that marriage is a veery big deal 1 Like |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by jozz(m): 8:00am On Jan 12, 2017 |
Toks2008: Best comment |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by queencalipso(f): 10:05am On Jan 12, 2017 |
Toks2008: Going to meet people will only open room for gossips and lies, some people may feed you lies out of jealousy and contempt for the person and even family members are not exempted in this. Now how will you know if you are being told the truth about the person when you don't know a thing about him/ her? Is it right to judge the person on the basis of what you are being told, right or wrong? In my opinion, due-deligence can also be done in courtship by your self, you need no external body and if you must listen to people, at least give him/her a benefit of doubt. And toks, stop forcing you opinion down people's throat, I notice you do that a lot. To each their own. |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by Toks2008(m): 1:04pm On Jan 12, 2017 |
queencalipso: Aww! how I wish you did not end your intelligent comment with unfounded sarcasm about me forcing MY OPINION gown people's throat because on the contrary...they are the ones getting so personal and sarcastic just as you just did. Sometimes I wonder why people can't just state their opinion in a civilized manner without getting personal. |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by queencalipso(f): 1:34pm On Jan 12, 2017 |
Toks2008: Hey dear!! I didn't get personal, I only stated an obvious observation. But if you feel offended, my appologies. I meant no offence. |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by Toks2008(m): 3:50pm On Jan 12, 2017 |
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Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by Toks2008(m): 3:50pm On Jan 12, 2017 |
queencalipso: Fair enough Now back to the matter. it is true that there is every likelihood that people could lie just to tarnish the person's image and anyone doing due diligence should know this but that is the beauty of it all because there is always an aorta of truth in most lies and that will keep you on guard. |
Re: Which Of These Two Is A Better Option For A Purposeful Union? by Olanna45(f): 8:58pm On Jan 13, 2017 |
Toks2008:Woe betide you if you happen to ask unfriendly friends and jealous neighbours.... The thing is, no matter how long someone pretends, if you are smart enough you will still find out... You can't hide character for too long... The problem is that most couples intend to overlook some traits and habits exhibited by their partners.... Some are of the opinion that they will change.... While some are just not observant enough... Due diligence is mostly done to ascertain the family's medical, marital and ancestral history... |
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