Money and/or finances should be 'a' criterion in marriage, never 'the' criterion.

He's at the top of the ladder in his career. I have a job and a thriving business, I can't date or marry a man with no job or business he's doing,I don't want your money. Men like that take out their frustrations on their ladies. Go hustle and make I go hustle too.

In that story of yours, is Abigail an orphan? Or is it the boyfriend that gave birth to her?

Besides, you didn't complete the story.

Here's the conclusion, So Abigail married the rich guy and two years and one child later, Abigail was admitted in the ICU section of the general hospital for broken ribs and fractured arm b e'er side of a little misunderstanding she had with her husband.

This won't be the first time for both of them. In fact, the hospital staff seemed to be quite familiar with Abigail and her parents, as she is brought in constantly to have her repaired after being bashed by her husband.

I could write that story in a thousand ways all of which won't favor the lady.

True love is always enough.

Talk2Bella:
love will never be enough neither will money

nawa o. Death will shall be enough. Kuku comman kill us na.

sweetestjane:
Hmmmm

whats smelling?

sweetestjane:

its on my profile

Hi, sorry to point this out but you must learn how to answer a direct question whether its on your profile or not ..
Its a harmless advice

[quote author=amokeme post=54406396]
So why go into a relationship when you can't even take care of yourself alone first?I am of the opinion that if you are not financially stable to an extent, you have absolutely NO business being in a relationship/dating or even married.
I don't like it when write ups like this drag the whole gender through the mud because of some few bad eggs.
And my advise to the guys always complaining about women leaving them because of their financial status is this; struggle to be financially balanced to an extent before you think about being in a rltnshp
I couldn't avv imagined a more sensible write-up dan diz. May God bless u sis. I will rather stick 2 my relationship wit W**d,alcohol&phones dan 2 involve mah broke self in any foolish relationship.

purityval:



Edipee oya come and carry your bae

Purity how far ? Any new story for junction?

Toks2008:
Kunle has been in a committed relationship for 5years with Abigail who happens to be an unemployed graduate of struggling parents.

Kunle who is still trying to find his feet can't provide anything more for Abigail except affection but Abigail needs more than that..she needs a job,finance to start her dream business and money to take care of little things that matter to a lady and fair enough..Abigail is no money freak neither is she materialistic but she is just so unfortunate to find herself in a jobless situation and frustration is setting in.

But as fate would have it,Abigail..meets Daniel..a gainfully employed bachelor who expressed deep desire to have her as his woman.

Abigail suddenly found herself caught between the true desire she has for Kunle and her deep need for financial succor so she throws caution to the wind and starts dating Daniel and eventually got married to Daniel leaving Kunle with a terrible heart break which made Kunle swore never to give his heart to any lady again....

This story is a typical occurence in Nigeria due to the harsh economy that has turned many hard working and decent ladies to be with rich dudes they don't really desire.

The harsh reality I want any Nigerian guy reading this to know is that LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH.

You either forget having any commited affair with any lady if you are not financially buoyant enough to spice up that romance or risk losing that lady to a dude who is more loaded but if the lady is nice enough...she just might decide to still be with you while dating another guy to get enough money to take care of you and herself.

While it is expedient for responsible ladies to strive to be financially independent in order to be with the guy they truly desire,it is a fact that ladies are naturally designed to fall for financially successful men and this does not mean they are materialistic or lovers of money....its just the way they are.

As a guy If you know you are still hustling with just enough cash to propel only you please stay clear of any committed affair with any lady who has no source of income good enough to cater for herself except you want to risk having your heart terribly broken..

Many single ladies out there expecially in Nigeria are not interested in flimsy,empty,fruitless,stale love talks....the language they understand is getting employed,starting a business,making money to take care of their needs....
and the fact that your lady is still coping with your broke state might just be because she has not found a rich dude who wants her.

If you know you are not man enough to be in any commited affair at the moment please remain single and work hard or stand the risk of losing that lady to another man who is more financially capable to be the man because LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH.

I don't know if this makes sense.

Well said!!!!!

purityval:



Edipee oya come and carry your bae

Lol. How far bro? Na serious matter dey here o. Make I kukuma go find money eh.

Toks2008:


If I wrote this many will come for my head for pulling the age and inexperience strings but than God this is coming from a lady.

Unfortunately many ladies in Nigeria must brace up to either remain single for long,risk starting with a man or probably settle for a second wife or mistress of a made guy because 8 out of every 10 made guys out there already have a lady who stood by them and for those who don't have,they will hardly take you serious but only see you as a leech.

A terrible devil and deep blue sea situation.

i would rather remain single, than settle for less or even worse a guy who doesnt know his square root. It is better than getting married and regretting. After all cucumber dey. When trials come, love would take a backseat, it is only the mutual respect, trust and determination to be committed that would remain. Love is not just feelings, it is a decision we make everyday saying i have decided to love u no matter what happens.

purityval:



Edipee oya come and carry your bae

But why?

mikeade11:
No use style spoil their relationship na... If na babe wey no fit think straight you don cause gbege like that oo

Na her palaver be that

This is one fact I already know but it got me thinking and reflecting on something. Indeed love is never enough.

Who sticks with a guy who only gives her transport fare each time she visits? Kolewelk

Ioannes:
In that story of yours, is Abigail an orphan? Or is it the boyfriend that gave birth to her?

Besides, you didn't complete the story.

Here's the conclusion, So Abigail married the rich guy and two years and one child later, Abigail was admitted in the ICU section of the general hospital for broken ribs and fractured arm b e'er side of a little misunderstanding she had with her husband.

This won't be the first time for both of them. In fact, the hospital staff seemed to be quite familiar with Abigail and her parents, as she is brought in constantly to have her repaired after being bashed by her husband.

I could write that story in a thousand ways all of which won't favor the lady.

True love is always enough.

... so said the eternal pessimist.

love is enough.. one thing ladies should understand is that you are meant to assist ur man. it's not right to depend solely on him as if his ur dad. ..will d society kill u if u support ur man? or they will kill u if u suffer with him before pleasure? or its wrong for u to be independent .... if u can't stick to ur man becos his not financially buoyant then u can never be a virtuous woman. .

BlaQWolf:



Purity how far ? Any new story for junction?

Baba new one is coming up soooooon, e don almost done hope you're good?

EmpresFIDEL:
love is enough.. one thing ladies should understand is that you are meant to assist ur man. it's not right to depend solely on him as if his ur dad. ..will d society kill u if u support ur man? or they will kill u if u suffer with him before pleasure? or its wrong for u to be independent .... if u can't stick to ur man becos his not financially buoyant then u can never be a virtuous woman. .

#word


Which planet are you from bae?

EmpresFIDEL:
love is enough.. one thing ladies should understand is that you are meant to assist ur man. it's not right to depend solely on him as if his ur dad. ..will d society kill u if u support ur man? or they will kill u if u suffer with him before pleasure? or its wrong for u to be independent .... if u can't stick to ur man becos his not financially buoyant then u can never be a virtuous woman. .

who virtous woman epp, free us dat one abeg

purityval:


#word


Which planet are you from bae?

am in same planet with u.... ladies should be independent for Christ sake.

funmisticqueen:

who virtous woman epp, free us dat one abeg

it helps u and ur generation. .a virtuous woman is industrious. according to d book of proverb, the virtuous woman is not lazy but industrious. a number of times I have asked some undergraduate girls what dy hoped to do with their degree after school... dy will just say no plan. dy just want to get into a man's house...

Talk2Bella:
love will never be enough neither will money

so what will be enough?

Mznaett:



But why?

Sorry na

McBrooklyn:
Guys, if a lady dumps you because you don't have money and after you made money, she comes back begging... My brother, just forgive her, promise her marriage and then tell her family you want to renovate their house... REMOVE THEIR ROOF AND DISAPPEAR...!!!


#Soft_Work

i dey tell you.... Soft work is our work ooo

firstking01:
And in as much as i agree with you and would not wanna banter words with you this time around, i'd also would 've prefered a lady i wanna marry to follow me climb the mountain so when i get to the top we can both seat there together and count the stars of our success.

how many ladies will want to follow u climb the mountain..... Guy hustle urself and later tell them d story...

Jhamzy:

I bliv you to an extent. I even prefer starting up from friendship before going into serious relationship. But that solo struggle is not applicable in all situation because sometimes on your path of challenge, you might just find your God's sent spouse who is compatible with you.

Must it be a spouse? Can't it be a friend or even a stranger? The help mustn't come from a boyfriend or husband naw. That's what I'm saying

iamadonis2:



... so said the eternal pessimist.

On the contrary.

I'm an optimist...and a realist.

McBrooklyn:
Guys, if a lady dumps you because you don't have money and after you made money, she comes back begging... My brother, just forgive her, promise her marriage and then tell her family you want to renovate their house... REMOVE THEIR ROOF AND DISAPPEAR...!!!


#Soft_Work

shei you get PhD for wickedness!!

Larasisi:
shei you get PhD for wickedness!!

Lol, you think so??

Benita27:
You all are right about "love is never enough" but, you should still know that money isn't everything.

Money is everything, if you don't know. I only need my children. And with money, I can have as many as I want.

That these children may not be properly brought up is another thing. That "another thing" is better than trusting a woman.

purityval:

Sorry na

Ok o
Bye