When you fall in love, it's natural to want to express your love in physical ways. But you also know God wants you to remain sexually pure—in both your actions and your thoughts. Sometimes it's a tough balance, but showing love for another while remaining pure is possible. Here are some suggestions:











1) Keep innocent expressions special. Rather than making the innocent expressions a mere prelude to the "heavier stuff," make the most of them. Let holding hands mean something. Express tenderness by simply putting your arms around each other. Make sure a kiss communicates true feeling and isn't just the first step to further physical involvement.












2) Pace your passion. Every marathon runner knows that you don't use up your energy at the beginning of the race; you need most of it at the end. Pacing your passion means that you realize you're trying to remain pure all the way to your wedding day. It's OK to express your love in little ways, but don't start messing with the package that is sex. To get really practical, avoid French kissing and petting—anything that is sure to ignite the fires of passion.









3) Don't feed your fantasies. It's normal to think about sex sometimes. In fact, with the way advertising and Hollywood exploit sex, it would be impossible not to think about it. So choose your entertainment carefully. Soap operas, certain songs, books, television shows, movies and Web sites only turn up the pressure. Feeding your thought life with junk only makes it harder to remain pure in your actions.









4) Remember whose property you're touching. You do not own the person you're dating. That person belongs to God. Imagine there's a sign on everyone you date that reads: PROPERTY OF JESUS.









5) Make a promise to God, and daily renew your commitment. Decide where you're going to draw the line, and tell God that with his help, you are not going to cross that line until marriage. Don't commit to it unless you mean it, though. The Bible says it's a serious thing to make a vow to God. At the same time, realize that you can't stick to your promise without his help. That's why it's important to renew your commitment
daily.









6) Acknowledge Jesus' presence on every date. Before a date, it's normal to spend a lot of time getting ready. After all, you want to look your best. But you also want to make sure you're spiritually prepared. So spend at least as much time in prayer as you do in front of a mirror. As it says in Proverbs 3:6: "Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths."









7) Agree on your standards. Before sex becomes an issue in the relationship, talk about your standards with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Don't dwell only on the negative—what you won't do. Hebrews 10:24 tells us to "encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds." Discuss ways your friendship can help each of you become a better person.

Thank you ma'am for this expository.

It is also important to strictly establish physical and emotional boundary when towing the path of purity.

Nobody toys with the devil and goes unscathed. Just flee from its appearance.

But I think a lot of people are not themselves willing to take this path of purity. Deep down in the subconscious of many, the desire for bodily pleasure is simmering with tension.

Therefore, the talk of purity these days would die in the wind. However, Laurel wreath to the courageous ones who are striving to live a life of purity. Wishing you More strength.

Lilyqueeny


IT_took_me_a_lot_of_time_before_I_could_find_your_new_monicker.




Its_not_fair

stanluv:
Lilyqueeny

IT_took_me_a_lot_of_time_before_I_could_find_your_new_monicker.



Its_not_fair

lol
life it's not fair to everyone.

Lilyqueeny:




lol

life it's not fair to everyone.

I_want_to_be_your_friend

stanluv:



I_want_to_be_your_friend

everyone is my friend

stanluv:
Lilyqueeny


IT_took_me_a_lot_of_time_before_I_could_find_your_new_monicker.




Its_not_fair

You have derailed this thread.
Now you finally found her, congrats but stop derailing threads. Be relevant in your submissions please.

Threads such as this don't sell on nl.

stanluv:



I_want_to_be_your_friend

I don't need any friends right now




my life is a bit complicated .


I need some time to sort myself

Lilyqueeny:




I don't need any friends right now





my life is a bit complicated .



I need some time to sort myself

I_hope_u_are_ok

Sincere4u:

You have derailed this thread.
Now you finally found her, congrats but stop detailing threads. Be relevant in your submissions please.

I_dont_know_u

kimbra:
Threads such as this don't sell on nl.

Because they're boring & not based on reality. Just look at the Cinderella reference. Virginity doesn't guarantee anything. Princess Diana was a virgin too when she married Prince Charles, did it last? Instead he cheated on her with a divorcée. Didn't she go on to have sex with other people after the marriage was dissolved?

Besides, it's a personal choice. Nobody wants to hear the preachy, tedious sermons about it.

stanluv:



I_hope_u_are_ok

I'm. Ok


Just need to be alone

stanluv:



I_dont_know_u

You don't need to know me.
I'm a brother to the Lady you are chasing up and down on nairaland.
We had a breaking point quarrel last night and you were the reason for it.
I'm just advising you to do things right and show decorum.
You really don't know her. Show maturity and sincerity and all will be fine, mess up and you won't find it funny with her, apart from what i'll come at you with.
A word is enough for the wise.

Sincere4u:


You don't need to know me.
I'm a brother to the Lady you are chasing up and down on nairaland.
We had a breaking point quarrel last night and you were the reason for it.
I'm just advising you to do things right and show decorum.
You really don't know her. Show maturity and sincerity and all will be fine, mess up and you won't find it funny with her, apart from what i'll come at you with.
A word is enough for the wise.

na wa ooo. Bros na u go marry ur sister? I believe she is an adult and can take care of herself...

Sincere4u:


You don't need to know me.
I'm a brother to the Lady you are chasing up and down on nairaland.
We had a breaking point quarrel last night and you were the reason for it.
I'm just advising you to do things right and show decorum.
You really don't know her. Show maturity and sincerity and all will be fine, mess up and you won't find it funny with her, apart from what i'll come at you with.
A word is enough for the wise.

Take_it_easy


I_mean_no_harm_to_your_sister


I_just_love_her_personality