cyril700:
this should b a lesson to those ladies that enjoys having unprotected premarital sex. I just started dating one too she hided it from me and I discovered n confronted her b4 she opened up to me. its a choice m not condemning her but have moved on.

Nma27:
This is why I love oyibos and their free spirited nature...

motherfucker:
Keep telling whoever wish to hear. NEVER deny your child.

One of our childhood friend, my elder brother's age mate, came to Benin and dated a lot of girls. He never settled down with anyone.

But as God would have it, he married a single mother who child was already above 10 year old. It was struggle for them and before long, he got a job with a construction company.

After about 2-3 years he resigned and started his own kabukabu business because he was tired of the construction job. He did that for another 2 years and last year, an opportunity came that took the entire family, excluding him to US. As I type this now, all his children( 3 of them), the step daughter and the wife are in US. He sold all his property to raise money for the journey.

I personally don't see anything wrong in marrying a single mother as long as she a good woman and yes, my bros wife is a good woman. I missed her delicious meals like crazy lol.

I have come to realise that Nigerians are the biggest hypocrites on earth. The scream racism and discrimination on other's head but in their own land, there are different kind of discrimination and stigmatisation going on.

OP, non of those guys truly love you. Is your child not a human being like them?

I know a lady who never had a lasting marriage because they found out her mum died from Cancer and she had a child in her first marriage but I thank God today she has found a man who really love her. I also pray that this one last long and from all indications, it wil LAST!

Keep your faith ALIVE!!!!

PaperLace:
OP, just like someone said up there _make good money, that's all. You may see the one who likes you for you, but just be ready from all angles. It's only on Nairaland I see people claiming only women are materialistic. Men are, but more coded about theirs. A man and his family would find it easier to accept an 'independent' SM, that way they know their son won't be saddled with raising another man's child.


Nne, make money. Be more independent than July4th. Never deny your child. Focus on adding more value to yourself and see how attractive you become.

Dyt:
Nawa ooo
I can't even believe a mother will think of denying her child cos cheap silly men are leaving her
Orisirisi

Pls change your circle of men and don't fall for society pressure

Nma27:
Hided? hhehehehahahajajaaaahhahahahhahahahaaaaa

chiomababy22:
I had a child 8 years ago. Ever since then, having a long lasting relationship is a big problem because they leave me with the excuse of my child been an issue. My last relationship has left me shattered and the last thing i want to do is deny my baby. Am confused pls friends what do you advise i do? Am not getting any younger. Thanks as i await you comments.

JustinSlayer69:


Thank you for your response.

As someone said...it would have been harder if the child was younger. Which man out there would want to buy pampers for another man's kid?

Personally I can't think of any reason to want to marry an after-one.

Believe me, I have witnessed this. You can be 100% nice to a step child and he would still hate you like excrement.

Dyt:
Nawa ooo
I can't even believe a mother will think of denying her child cos cheap silly men are leaving her
Orisirisi

Pls change your circle of men and don't fall for society pressure

TundeHashim:
you're dating boys not men...I think your options are limited to older men coz young guys won't wanna marry an after one..even if deh want...in mumcy no go free..it's the way of the world that we can't change...

Nma27:
Hided? hhehehehahahajajaaaahhahahahhahahahaaaaa

enshi:


Enshigabriel@ymail.com
08062360567
You seem to be lonely just like me
I dont mind being a friend

Nma27:
A teen? Why entangle yourself in d first place?

chiomababy22:
I had a child 8 years ago. Ever since then, having a long lasting relationship is a big problem because they leave me with the excuse of my child been an issue. My last relationship has left me shattered and the last thing i want to do is deny my baby. Am confused pls friends what do you advise i do? Am not getting any younger. Thanks as i await you comments.

TonyeBarcanista:
Nobody is above mistake... I'm sure he meant "hid".

What is expected of you is to correct and not mock him because nobody is infallible!

cyril700:
my sister I was confused at that juncture , Is it hid or hide. past tense of hide is what biko?

Cutehector:
lmao.. Marry one na

Nma27:
Naaaa...

golddust6000:
As i type i have similar problem, she has a 2 year old baby, and she is 19 years. I'm 35 years, she always force her self on me even i told her that i am almost twice her age but she say its not a problem. To be honest i dont like after one girls, most nigerian men or african young men dont like women with kid. We all know that its a big problem at long run. The advice i will give you is to give the baby to her father or leave the baby with your mother,hmm, but still finding a man that will accept you and the kid its very microscopic. I am looking for the next big lie i will tell her so she can leave me, i dont wanna let her know that why i left is because of her kid.

modelmike7:
Honesty pays.... Never ever deny your baby at any time pls. She should be your EVERYTHING for now. The most important thing now is to work on your self to be a real lady with good prospects and not like our self proclaim "slay queens and slay mamas". You have a bright future ahead sis. The Mr Right will come in due time. Regards to your daughter...........
Btw, you are beautiful!! All the best!!

Nutase:
Go back to politics section before we stone you comot for here.

Nma27:
What of your dp addicted gf? anyway the op has enough friends. She needs a good husband.

Nma27:
Lol I'm sure he knows. The mistake cracked me up though