nkemdi89:

For own safety and comfort, it's better than being beclouded by "love and lust" and later you will start helter skelter when your roof is on fire by then the scale covering your eyes would have removed.

SmartMugu:

OP, your topic started with "abroad", your story ended with "yankee". Where have you been to to concoct this nonsense, "abroad" or "yankee"? I asked because you sounded like you have no idea what "abroad" means and probably is hell bent on making some goro-chewing cats on nairaland feel like they're prettier and smarter than Beyonce, Alicia Keys, Taylor Swift etc,

Abeg, deal with ur problem wherever ure located.

If you are having problems with talking to girls wherever you are in any foreign country, you don't need TB Joshua to help you solve your problems. Stop discouraging people by saying all the crap you said above. Their problem is different from yours. Who knows if you're dealing with erectile disfunction? There you go trying to tell females to come to people like you and avoid others. Who wants to come to something that can't stand up as needed?

Na you suppose control ur idea, na ur idea dey control u. Abeg go si down.

odehaj:
the op must have hit you below the belt abi..?The guy is educating our Nigerian girls on how not to fall prey to wicked men using the language he knows and you went gaga on him. What brings out erectile matter here now?? Anyway, as you reading this, somewhere somehow 'marriage to an abroad guy is being arranged for another mugu',may God help them.

SmartMugu:

I just disagree with his points, and thought it might be a post from someone hurt when he lost his girl to someone abroad and chose to write something to show his hatred for folks living abroad.
I don't even know of people importing women from Nigeria anymore, most that did it ended up regretting the idea later in life. So, who has the time to explain credit profile, job history etc to a girl in Nigeria when everyone knows most of them would jump at the opportunity to relocate with you?
I just disagree with the criteria he's suggesting for women. His writeup will probably break some relationships if the girl is that gullible to believe everything he said, who knows.

SmartMugu:

I'm actually past that stage, but I was sure to avoid women that think like that before settling down.
I have a friend currently going through marital problems because his wife is notorious for digging into his life at every opportunity. I don't know of anyone that can cope with someone like that. I stopped going to his house when he told me his wife started running background checks on all his friends. It's apparent she has a problem she doesn't know, no one wants their lives scrutinized.
I had to let go of a girl I once dated in Nigeria when she started asking me certain questions because her mom needed the answers to do some traditional investigation about our compatibility. I simply can't stand people with fetish and investigative mindsets - it gets worse when they get closer to you.
I ended up with one that doesn't think that way at all, and enjoy my peace of mind.

nkemdi89:

You really won't know when it is done, even our parents started it, they will enquire about the persons background, kindred, village to know if some certain traditions they do is acceptable in their own place, to know if some certain ailments like epilepsy, madness and the likes runs in the family, in the east they look out for OSU and freeborn. Even witch craft and death too. When your record is clean you have nothing to fear, just like most guys will leave the shore of Nigeria going to Malaysia and Dubai without convincing you of any legitimate activities so because you want sleeping dog to lay you won't conduct enquiry. Marriage isn't a day affair na. So many women have exchanged their true love for all these foreign based just because they display affluence, at the run many are single, dead frustrated and even regretting it.

godsluvee:
There is nothing special in living abroad

I once rejected a proposal because the guy lives abroad

Such a shame because he was so handsome

NaWetinDey:
You are writing as if you are addressing responsible and god-fearing women, but no! You are a addressing a section of low-minded, ignorant, lazy and weak Nigerian women who are so empty and worldly to think that abroad is synonymous with paradise on earth. None of them cares if you sold your kidney or killed white men and women, steal your way into reaches or even peddle drugs to make money, as long as you can buy them iPhone and stuff and allow them fool themselves of Facebook, Instagram and all those places, then you are a boo for life. Forget these people.

SirJeffry:
Everything I'm about to write down here is based on a family feud currently going on between a young man and his new wife here.

This young man has no steady job, lives a flamboyant life and post all kind of pictures on social media where he met the wife. I'm pained because the wife in question happens to be my town's girl and after hearing her side of the story, I was mad at her. Well, this is not the topic for today but let me give our sisters some advice here.
These are questions to ask before someone brings you here to suffer unnecessarily;

WHAT DO YOU DO ABROAD? Let him tell you where he works and possibly show you his work ID. If he tells you he's a biz man, watch him closely, that could be a red flag. I know there are genuine bizmen but most unserious and unemployable guys abroad pose as bizmen.

WHAT'S YOUR DEBT PROFILE? Generally in America, if you don't have some debts especially credit cards, you don't qualify for certain things but that doesn't mean one should live on credit.

IS THAT YOUR FLASHY CAR OWNED OR FINANCED? This may lead to you driving today and trekking tomorrow. Without a steady job, car financing coys may take back their car anytime there's a default in payment.

DO YOU LIVE ALONE? This is self explanatory.

WHAT'S YOUR TOTAL SAVINGS AMOUNT? I know this sounds odd but try to get an extimate by calculating the amount he saves monthly. Ask him jokingly if he saves for his future family. He should be more family oriented than friends oriented. "Too much sending my guys money at home" is a no no.

Lastly, if he doesn't personally come down for your wedding except with a very cogent reason maybe life threatening, he probably isn't a legal resident ie no green card or citizenship. In this case, you may likely stay longer in Nigeria until he gets his papers before you join him. Refuse such union because sometimes, he may be tangled with a lady here already for papers, a union he may not easily come out from.

If ladies do this simple research before accepting marriage proposals from obodo oyibo husbands, rate of domestic violence among Nigerians in the States will be at its minimum.

Yankee marriage is favourable to ladies who their husbands already made the ground running. They come to consolidate on their husband's achievements and prosper it more.

SnowJay92:


So using the credit card more and being able to pay on time, increasing your limit? And having more limit increases your ability to get say mortgage approval for instance?

Lexusgs430:


Our politicians don't do mortgage. They just present a debit card and swipe the whole $400,000

Titilayooni:
goodmorning sire,i sent u a pm...i just want to ask you some questions off the thread..thank you

tolutweety:


Ma'am ,

Pm?

jaybee3:


Fiction of your imagination as it rarely works like that

PEP's (Politically exposed persons) usually go through a whole lot of web to hide stuff like that

Besides, you usually have to provide evidence of where the funds are coming when buying a house

Tazdroid:
And that bobo no fit arrange beta lies for each of these questions??

Hmmm, by the way, all these questions are closely related to materialism. Na only money una dey find? Na gold diggers dey ask these kain yeye questions.

nkemdi89:

You really won't know when it is done, even our parents started it, they will enquire about the persons background, kindred, village to know if some certain traditions they do is acceptable in their own place, to know if some certain ailments like epilepsy, madness and the likes runs in the family, in the east they look out for OSU and freeborn. Even witch craft and death too. When your record is clean you have nothing to fear, just like most guys will leave the shore of Nigeria going to Malaysia and Dubai without convincing you of any legitimate activities so because you want sleeping dog to lay you won't conduct enquiry. Marriage isn't a day affair na. So many women have exchanged their true love for all these foreign based just because they display affluence, at the run many are single, dead frustrated and even regretting it.

Lexusgs430:


It was said tongue n Cheek ........

jaybee3:


Gotcha

I'm on steroids this morning fa

kimbra:
You said the gospel truth op. Those people live on credit card. Always working to pay off outstanding loans.

Lexusgs430:


Are you sure you have not overdosed ?

ikp120:

Hmmm. What if you pick race and fly out of the country to another continent?

Aystarz:


Bwahahaha... It would take a re-orientation of gigantic proportion to get our sisters to walk this particular talk o. Greed, and Fish brain things

jaybee3:


Limitless threshold things na...Yesoooooo

MsNas:

Speak for yourself and your acquaintances auntie. Not all of us live on credit cards. I have multiple credit cards, but I don't owe anything on them, neither do I pay interests. I use it to build my credit profile and creditworthiness and get some cool cash back from them. Like I said, speak for yourself and for the people you know and not for all of us. Wehdone

Joavid:
I don't have a boo

Joavid:
I don't have a boo

toyetade:


There is something special living in the western world if it works out well for you. You must have missed an opportunity. Nigeria is not a place to build your future. Things are so unstable. Living abroad affect your health, finances, spiritual level, etc positively. No basis for comparism

Tazdroid:
And that bobo no fit arrange beta lies for each of these questions??

Hmmm, by the way, all these questions are closely related to materialism. Na only money una dey find? Na gold diggers dey ask these kain yeye questions.