The topic says it all. I don't think there's something I really can't forgive my spouse, though may not forget in a haste. Does not forgetting mean dat one hasn't really forgiven?

I cant get over infidelity and abuse. I dont have a spouse, but if I did, I would never be able to get over infidelity and abuse. I think that it takes alot to abuse a person. You dont ever abuse a person you love/respect. There is this sort of respect (i find it difficult to explain but its very similar to what you have for a parent; you love them so much, you become almost fearful of the person) that you have for a partner that prevents you from harming them even when you have the opportunity to, and when they have done you wrong.

So, to me, everything is forgivable. I would always forgive because to forgive, is to release yourself from the burden that the pain holds. But I cant get over it. The relationship would have to be over.

Word! But infidelity go hard for me o after all d good things I've done 4 her?!

If he abuse my teddies, I will never forgive him ever!!!!!

if he says this "falling in love with you is the worst thing that ever happened to me" DEATH

Sleeping with my best friend or friends, or dropping STDs on me.

Cheating with my sister!

cheating!

Cheating & decite

@Kevinj: which one 'be decite'? Nawa o!

I can never 4give my spouse 4 promiscuity or infidelity eventhough i forgive her my mind wil neva 4get it forever, so d best is let her go.

There is nothing that I can't forgive, but that is, if it's done once; If it goes on as a habit or done repeatedly, I'm quite sure my spirit will not accept it.

"To err is human, to forgive divine". There's nothing I cannot forgive him but some things I would never forget.

I tink i can 4gve him abt anytin xcept him murderin me.

freecocoa:

I tink i can 4gve him abt anytin xcept him murderin me.

ROFL

Where will u be to do d forgiving if he murders u? Funny pple.

coolier:

"To err is human, to forgive divine". There's nothing I cannot forgive him but some things I would never forget.

no insult here but please give me a break
do you know it is easier said than done

coolier:

"To err is human, to forgive divine". There's nothing I cannot forgive him but some things I would never forget.

Would you forgive him if you caught him in the act on your matrimonial bed with some slut?

Inexculpation

i.e. I will not forgive her for not forgiving me because I refused to forgive her when she didn't forgive me.

LOL Just kidding. I dunno, but I guess I will always forgive her as long as she is ready to make necessary adjustments and a 360^o change for the better.

P.S. Forgiving her no-matter-what will be the insurance against the future in case I mess up really bad too. Don't say I told you, but I did

humblemate:

There is nothing that I can't forgive, but that is, if it's done once; If it goes on as a habit or done repeatedly, I'm quite sure my spirit will not accept it.

same here

Nothing? You guys must be kidding or you must be gods or something.


Anything that leaves me direly vulnerable and betrayed.

@H2O2: Like Samson and Delilah?

If you kill except in self defense or accidentally I can never forgive you enough to take you back




if you, my spouse, intentionally cause me physical harm i can't forgive you. you will make me paranoid everytime i am around you.  I cannot trust you.

Physical abuse, I guess. 

Forgiving and forgetting are two different things though. You can forgive and not be with them, which means you haven't forgotten.

ancel:

@H2O2: Like Samson and Delilah?

That's an exceptional example.  Even God warned us severally and consistently about deceitful women- vis-a-vis.

I can never forgive my spouse if she disrespect my mom in my house.

Awesome topic.  I can't wait to add more.

OgidiBoy:

I can never forgive my spouse if she disrespect my mom in my house.

That's a good one.  I can forgive it once but not twice LOL. Something about us Naija dudes and our moms.  My mom should not humiliate my wife either.

i cant forgive her  if she  refuses to give me   

H2O2:

Awesome topic.  I can't wait to add more.
That's a good one.  I can forgive it once but not twice LOL. Something about us Naija dudes and our moms.  My mom should not humiliate my wife either.

Once is even too much for me, my house belongs to my Mom and if my spouse should ever try it, she'll have to GO. If she can disrespect my mom in my house only God know what else she can do.

H2O2:

Nothing?  You guys must be kidding or you must be gods or something.

okay, here it comes:
i can't forgive a guy who rapes anyone, because i'd begin to fear for my kids' safety.
i can't forgive a guy who kills intentionally except in self defense.
i can't forgive a guy who gives me STDs.
i can't forgive a guy who abuses me or my kids repeatedly (it would even be difficult to forgive the first instance).
i can't forgive a guy who intentionally embarrasses me in public repeatedly.
i can't forgive a guy who repeatedly shows a lack of respect for me.
i can't forgive a guy who is so jealous/obsessive he tries to control my life (but we won't even go beyond a few dates)
i can't forgive a guy who cheats on me with a maid, anyone in my employment, or my relative.
i would find it very hard to forgive a guy who cheats on me and lies when i ask about it (but i might be able to forgive eventually).

INFIDELITY - I can't overcome the betrayal of trust. Also makes me feel like our commitment was vain. Even if I maybe forgive you, I won't be able to forget and that alone will cripple our relationship because I will hound you about it.

No need to apologize either. I won't wait for an apology.
Most apologies are done to relieve a bogged down conscience or out of compulsion and not necessarily out of sincerity. Even if you tender a heartfelt apology, I would be too disgusted by your presence to continue to live with you or be around you. Moreover, I won't be able to forgive myself if I forgive you and it happens again. Fooled once shame on me, fooled twice the joke's on me.