coderXO: dear God.

I don't understand why people cannot just leave sex out of it for a minute.
Christianity (and even Islam) teach sexual purity for a reason: save yourselves from heartaches such as these.
I bet that burning desire to have sex comes nothing close to the pain and panic the concerned individuals are now experiencing.


She has to have to the baby.
Her husband will have to forgive her.



Na wa oh!
This one is a real stinker.

MRbrownJAY: the important question IS: how the hell did she get pregnant for another man?!

CalienteMi:

She opened her legs, the guy entered, and ejaculated inside her.

chukham: Pals, dis is abt my frnd whose wife is pregnant 4 another man months after thier wedding. Pls help advice on what he should do. Thanks.

charles316: beat the hell out of her them send her out of ur house. make sure u beat her first

MRbrownJAY: the important question IS: how the hell did she get pregnant for another man?!
- if it is due to deceit then there is no other option than to drop the skank.
- if it is due to r.ape then there is not much a man can do but to be supportive (unless they can still abort).

chukham: She was nt voilated. The worst part is that the guy he did it wth is our frnd to. He is even dia best man at dia wedding. Nawa 4 guls o. I don tire.

CalienteMi:
She opened her legs, the guy entered, and ejaculated inside her.

fresh_dude: And she was foolish enough not to use pills haba, not in this days of Postinor 1-10.

Kay-Dee:

What kind of r.ape ? Consensual or Non-consensual ?

If it is due to genuine r.ape, then she must have told her husband when it happened. But if you were r.aped and you didn't tell your husband then it was most likely a consensual one.

MRbrownJAY:
consensual ra.pe?! sorry bro but thats an oxymoron of the highest order! if the s[b]e[/b]x is consensual then it CANNOT be r.ape, and vice versa.

MRbrownJAY:
as for ra.pe, due to social stigma or shame, i can fully understand why a Nigerian woman wouldnt tell her partner and instead try to solve the issue on her own. we all know that 9ja men and their ego can be quite nasty in such situation, so i would surely understand (although it aint right) why a wifey wouldnt say anything.

MRbrownJAY:
also, remember that many ra.pists threaten their victim of murder/reprisal etc if they talk, and that also could be a reason for these women to be quiet.......... so please, dont be too quick to say that someone who didnt say anything is automatically guilty of anything, as such things happens everyday.

Kay-Dee:

LOL!! yes, i know. That is when a girl carries her 2 legs to a man's house and when the guy touches her she says 'no' with a smile or "stop it, i like it" and in the end, claims she was ra.pe.d. That is the kind of ra-pe you wldnt want to tell your husband about.

why wouldn't my wife tell me if a guy touches her in a way she doesn't approve of, not to mention r.ape.

How will my wife be living in fear of threats from another man . Any man, that my wife reports to me about trespassing or threat is a dead man walking and should better run for his life.

Bottom line . . . . r.ape is not an excuse in this case.

MRbrownJAY:
lol, you are funny!!!! yes you may feel tough but sadly some men out there may have GUNS, they also may be POWERFUL men that you can never defeat. what if the ra.pist is a powerful gov. official, who happens to be your boss, and who threatened her that he will fire you or even cook up some story and kill you? do you still think that wifey will come to you without a fear in the world?

MRbrownJAY:
some do, others dont, it all depends on the kind of husband they got. many men will view their wives as soiled goods, if they are ra.ped, rather than VICTIMS........and since we know that many will do ANYTHING to get (and stay) married, this silence is fully understandable.

MRbrownJAY:
so what you are saying is that a woman CANNOT be ra.ped and be afraid of her attacker to the point of being quiet?!
i guess the day you look down the barrel of a gun and your life is threatened, you will understand why many live with FEARS.

Kay-Dee:

Not trying to sound like tough Don chichi but powerful man o, Governor or my Boss, sexually harasses my wife, he's dead meat.

What kind of man will consider his wife to be 'soiled goods' because she was r.aped ? The man must be a callous husband and the woman, an insecure wife. If she doesnt tell her husband about her most embarrassing problems then who will she tell? That is why I suspect that those that hide it have some degree of approval of the act.

So if your wife comes home crying that a man assaulted her for no just reason, you will sit back and say he's too powerful to face.

I see no reason why your wife cant't tell you just about anything, this is your wife who you pillow-talk with every night, if she can't, then there's a problem. Those so called 'powerful' men, governors and rap.ists should be afraid of what you will do to them if they messed with your wife.

If my wife has that confidence that i will stand for her then she can tell anyone off and even prevent the act from happening.

I had a girlfriend that used to come home and report to me that guys tried to hit on her and I told her what to tell them anytime anyone tried something funny and anytime she says it, they just back-off.

MRbrownJAY:
bwaaaaaah!!!!! pls care to tell me how can your wife stop a gang of arm robbers from ra.ping her at gunpoint? how can she fight her big boss twice her size of ra.ping her? how she can stop a ra.pist from beating her into unconsciousness before ra.ping her?! you are funny, and clearly have no idea of what it means to be ra.ped.

MRbrownJAY:
lol, that is in r/ships where couples are in synch with one another and trust each other fully.....but we all know that such r/ship are very seldom and most marry for the wrong reasons in 9ja. lets be real here!
did you just compare toasters with ra.pist?! toasting someone is not a crime and therefore you shouldnt even try (not in a million yrs) to compare the two.

~Killz~:
I'll forgive her and support her in anyway i can. But the marriage will definitely end, and she'll move out of my house. . . I'll never condone infidelity. . . Ever!

naijasexy:


It means you did not forgive her or at least, not entirely.

ronkebp: If a woman can forgive a man for sleeping around and giving birth to kids with every woman he has slpet with or still sleeping with, why can't the man forgive his wife

~Killz~:

Who says this particular man sleeps around and has kids outside?