ibkaye:

Maybe we need to create groups.

In terms of kissing and telling there are those who may discuss with a few close friends that he/she has slept with his/her girlfriend/boyfriend plus a few very minor details, sometimes it cannot always be controlled, fair enough, this guy/girl knows his/her boundaries, what to tell and when to keep tight lipped.

Then there's the guy that brags indiscriminately about his sexual exploits, non stop, usually to boost his ego, it's almost always a competition to see who can get the better girl, who can manage to lay this or that girl, etc thus the only way to get points is to 'kiss and tell', now this is where the whole thing about 'self confidence' comes in, locker room behavior.

Then there are the girls who gossip about their bedroom antics to belittle a guy.

Both males and females do it, we can't pinpoint it to one gender.

Sometimes you just can't help letting a few things slip but like with most things, it's your reason behind your actions that matter the most  

eldee:

@poster
Your friend is a demented idiot.
For bleep's sake is that what people do in the choirs these days??
S.h.a.g each other and abort babies?? I'm sure she's one of the 'lift u holy hands' people.

I've never seen any more justifiable case than this.
[b]You judge a man for telling his friends about what he's done when you can't keep your legs shut??
[/b]Ladies are a joke sometimes.

~Sauron~:

These ladies have turned our Churches into a shagg[i]i[/i]ng ground.
You are more likely to find a LovePeddler in the Church these days than on Allen Avenue.

~Sauron~:

Buncha hypocrites!!!!

eldee:

I know . . . it's these same people that call themselves worship leaders/praise team.
They're meant to be examples for people like Ibkaye that go to church every Monday, Tuesday, Friday and Sunday

eldee:

I know . . . it's these same people that call themselves worship leaders/praise team.
They're meant to be examples for people like Ibkaye that go to church every Monday, Tuesday, Friday and Sunday

I saw four pages of bashing and I decided to read the story.
So one chorister sha[i]g[/i]s and eliminates a life, and the badguy is the one that told a friend??
They can't shut their legs but they expect us to cover their secrets for them . . . fuc[i]ki[/i]ng whores.

Sagamite:

Just to clarify, if you are in your man's house late at night (and sleeping over) and your best female friend calls you or a discussion leads to you having to reveal you slept over, you would lie to your friend that you are at home? That you have never slept at his?

Since you and Ibkaye are exceptions (I can understand hers as she is 18 years or less, so there is a higher chance she can still be a "V", you look in your 20s, your's is possible but more rare), I know for sure girls discuss such easily amongst themselves, and they would bi.tch if another girl is receiving (gist) and not giving. That girl would be isolated and excluded after sometime. It is even a talent competition amongst them to show how many [quality and eligible] guys make a move on them and which one was romantic and made them melt. Maybe you and Ibkaye just overplay the religious veil even with your best friends.

ayo84:

wh0o says it's only men who kiss and tell
women do too, infact, they shldnt blame anyone when their female friends start disturbing the guy because of his prowess

~Sauron~:

These ladies have turned our Churches into a shagg[i]i[/i]ng ground.
You are more likely to find a LovePeddler in the Church these days than on Allen Avenue.

eldee:

For bleep's sake is that what people do in the choirs these days??
S.h.a.g each other and abort babies?? I'm sure she's one of the 'lift u holy hands' people.

~Sauron~:

She was expecting the dude to cover up the murder of an unborn baby.
The same chorister is the one telling us to always follow the Lord's commandments.
Tell you what. . . . . We are in a bottle.

ibkaye:

Pffffft!

Sagamite:

Chei, na so?

I dey go church next sunday be that. Abeg wey that my fine good boy shirt make I iron am.  

eldee:

Weren't you the one inviting me to Prayer Meeting the other day??
Just promise me you won't join the choir

eldee:

Infact, I think I need to visit one of these Nigerian churches.
I was wondering why you suddenly got extremely interested in church and 'house fellowship'

~Sauron~:

U don't wanna miss those hugs on Sunday evenings.

luvbooks:

I just turned 19.
If i was sleeping over in my boyfriends house, yeah of course i would tell her just in case there was an emergency or something and she needed to get hold of me.

But there are two things involved here . Telling your friends that you are sleeping over, and then there is actively boasting to your friends of the guys you have or haven't slept with. The latter is what I am strongly against. Also, some guys take it too far. They say that they've slept with a girl even though they haven't.

And among my friends, everyone knows that they are allowed to keep some things private. Your sexual or non sexual life is your business.  But then I'm quite a secretive person so if someone started asking me too many questions, i would just blank them after a while.

Sagamite:

Thanks for clarifying.

At least I can say I never roll with guys at that level of thinking (boasting or lying). My guys are very open about when they are successful and when the girl plainly says no. There is no shame there between us. They say it as it is and "No" that is most likely outcome anyway.

What we do is that we sit down, conduct a detailed step by step analysis of why he was unsuccessful. Brainstorm on likely mistakes, develop a root cause analysis map, exchange ideas on previous success in similar types of scenarios, we throw out individual advice, consult some female friends to review and validate points and he goes out to practice what he has learnt armed with new tactics.  

Sagamite:

Thanks for clarifying.

At least I can say I never roll with guys at that level of thinking (boasting or lying). My guys are very open about when they are successful and when the girl plainly says no. There is no shame there between us. They say it as it is and "No" that is most likely outcome anyway.

What we do is that we sit down, conduct a detailed step by step analysis of why he was unsuccessful. Brainstorm on likely mistakes, develop a root cause analysis map, exchange ideas on previous success in similar types of scenarios, we throw out individual advice, consult some female friends to review and validate points and he goes out to practice what he has learnt armed with new tactics.  

Sagamite:

Thanks for clarifying.

At least I can say I never roll with guys at that level of thinking (boasting or lying). My guys are very open about when they are successful and when the girl plainly says no. There is no shame there between us. They say it as it is and "No" that is most likely the outcome anyway.

What we do is that we sit down, conduct a detailed step by step analysis of why he was unsuccessful. Brainstorm on likely mistakes, develop a root cause analysis map, exchange ideas on previous success in similar types of scenarios, we throw out individual advice, consult some female friends to review and validate points and he goes out to practice what he has learnt armed with new tactics.  

jay bee:

all dis cos una wan enter game of jigi jigi? na wa oh.

ibkaye:

I joined already, quit after 2 weeks

~Sauron~:

U don't wanna miss those hugs on Sunday evenings.

luvbooks:

Chai . . . you really broke it down like you were going in for the kill . . . " Armed with new tactics ". Na war ?

Sagamite:

Thanks for clarifying.

At least I can say I never roll with guys at that level of thinking (boasting or lying). My guys are very open about when they are successful and when the girl plainly says no. There is no shame there between us. They say it as it is and "No" that is most likely outcome anyway.

What we do is that we sit down, conduct a detailed step by step analysis of why he was unsuccessful. Brainstorm on likely mistakes, develop a root cause analysis map, exchange ideas on previous success in similar types of scenarios, we throw out individual advice, consult some female friends to review and validate points and he goes out to practice what he has learnt armed with new tactics.  

~Sauron~:

This is BUSINESS.

Sagamite:

Na war when some of these guys are going 2 months without o. At that point dem dey hold WMD (Weapon of Mass Destruction). Just pray say no be you dem woo o.  

luvbooks:

I assume you are one of those guys . . .   . It cant be me sha. I've learnt my lesson. No more chewing - gum boys . . . a .k. a Uni undergraduates.

Sagamite:

Me ke?  I no get game o.

I suffer from Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD), so that type thing no they happen for my life. 

And thanks for thinking I am a Uni undergrad. 

luvbooks:


U no get game abi? Liar!!!!!
IF you are not a uni undergrad, what are you then?

Sagamite:

Me, I am a bit slow with chics o.

What made you think I was undergrad in the first place?

luvbooks:


Lol . . . part of being a student i guess . . . u just automatically assume that everyone else is. Especially if you don't know them from Adam.