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Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by biggie73(m): 2:45am On Aug 03, 2017 |
herveze:....please talk for yourself. Stop assuming or generalizing that "all men are like"..... 4 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Eluwilussit(m): 2:45am On Aug 03, 2017 |
tomi87014: My dear sister, calm down. Don't fight him yet. Most men are surprisingly never ready for marriage sacrifices. His answer is very wrong and arrogant, but that is because you caught him. If you didn't catch him and only suspected him, he would have denied it and professed his love for you. He is only being macho. Talk respectfully to him about it. Ask him what he needs from you that you aint giving him. Sweet talk him. Lol. Let him know that you are hurt by his actions. Never challenge him or threaten him with retaliation. Men are bullish. Kinda asinine. They will rather die wrong than admit their wrongs. Ego. He will change. By the time he goes through labor with you and holds that bundle of joy in his hands, he will be eating from your palms. Make sure you kiss him a lot and hold his hands regularly. Look into his eyes and tell him how much you love and care about him. Never argue with him for now. Use your seductive powers, woman. It is in you. Tell him whatever he wants to hear.....massage his pride. Men are easy to manipulate.Trust me. Above all, be prayerful. Pray for him in particular. He needs it. May God help you. 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Daeylar(f): 2:51am On Aug 03, 2017 |
bamisho:Thank you, please tell them, we all know how it would go if it was the wife that was cheating, 6 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by DISkills: 2:54am On Aug 03, 2017 |
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Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by midehi2(f): 2:58am On Aug 03, 2017 |
herveze:just keep shut, when i read your first comment on this thread, i immediately became scared of marriage.....men like you are most reasons women prefer success than "bondage marriage" 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Eluwilussit(m): 3:03am On Aug 03, 2017 |
ImaIma1: Unfortunately, in life we use generalizations in every sphere. Even in scientific results. Every rule has an exception. So not all men cheat but that generalization stands. Human beings mess up a lot more than we wanna believe. It is not natural to stay monogamous. This came by way of civilization. Through the ages, men have been known to be polygamous. Male species are known to exhibit this trait throughout the animal kingdom. Now that is not to say that men can't control themselves. They can and should, but if the logistics are right, most men will cheat. Same goes for women too. The difference is the price. Women tend to cost more than men. |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Praktikals(m): 3:06am On Aug 03, 2017 |
TheArchangel:A man is telling you about men and you are arguing. Take it or leave it, he is right. Or can you be eating rice rice rice all the time? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Eluwilussit(m): 3:08am On Aug 03, 2017 |
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Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Maski87: 3:09am On Aug 03, 2017 |
In that case just hook up with your old boyfriend, I mean that one that was promising you marriag e,when he becomes rich,do me I do you God no go vex |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by AKWAPROPHET: 3:19am On Aug 03, 2017 |
All men are not the same , bad man is a bad man 2 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Okeikpu(m): 3:19am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Prevho:To be sincere, over 90% of men re like that I don't know y some of you like to pretend as if we don't know ourselves 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Eluwilussit(m): 3:21am On Aug 03, 2017 |
LoveWifee: I admire your level of commitment. Generalization is as bad as particularization. |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Praktikals(m): 3:28am On Aug 03, 2017 |
PaperLace: I have two questions for you. Are you male or female? Are you married for upto 10 years and have not played 'away match' since you got married? Thanks in anticipation of a truthful answer. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Nobody: 3:30am On Aug 03, 2017 |
herveze:I beg to differ sir. Men were born with brains, while taking their vows, they were not forced to make the 'I will be faithful" declaration. A man with true compassion for his wife would not just be thinking sex with all the discomfort his wife might be feeling while she is pregnant. A good man doesn't mind that she has a dedicated spit cup, isn't in the mood for sex even if he really wants it at that time and even if he is cheating, will never just throw it in her face like she is nothing. He doesn't mind that she walks around the house with only her most comfortable and very torn panties and bra, wagging her big belly everywhere, upandan.bA good man sees God's grace in his pregnant wife, tries to understand what she is going through even if he doesn't and will never understand and pampers her. You won't be talking so selfishly if you were wired to be the one getting pregnant. 2 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by chuksbogus2001: 3:30am On Aug 03, 2017 |
selflessmaya: Be careful with thus advice |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Okeikpu(m): 3:30am On Aug 03, 2017 |
tomi87014:Young lady I advice you to stop bothering urself for now or u will hurt that lil child inside you. Or do u wanna give him an slowpoke ?I bet nobody wants that... Stop confronting him for now. I will tell u what to do later |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by youngvito: 3:30am On Aug 03, 2017 |
tomi87014:Ok. For starters i am terribly sorry about what ure currently going through and wish this air of negativity blows away in no time. Ok, so their is a saying that goes " if it aint broke dont fix it" rule number 1, if you truly love ur husband, trust him and have a smooth marital life like you claim then you have no business probing his social media activity. It speaks volumes about ur degree of insecurity and idleness. Your husband makes a friend on social media, how is dat bad? This sort of attitude is what drives men to cheat... when a woman starts acting too nosy and unnecessarily jealous. Has his attitude changed towards you? No... is ur sex life great? Yes. So i agree he is ur husband and u deserve to know certain things about him but unless it is impacting your marriage negatively then he can chat with a friend or 2 on social media. Its a marriage not a prison sentence where ur every move is monitored. Ure pregnant and need as much strength as u can muster both mentally and physically, at this point count ur blessings. Take some time out with ur husband to state ur case logically. Maybe after lovemaking when he is vulnerable and make it him understand how his seemingly divided attention is affecting u. He deserves a fair hearing. Ask him if their is anything ure not doing right cuz if he needs to chat with anyone u are always here for him as opposed to some social media lady. U might just be panicking over nothing. And dont take everything he says to heart, human beings say alot of things they dont mean especially when they feel compromised. Good luck and have a great day. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by fuzzywuzzy: 3:37am On Aug 03, 2017 |
OP don't mind the men saying you should sweet talk him or kiss him or be loving. Imagine what will happen if a man came to nairaland to say his wife was hooking up with a guy from facebook and boasting that she does not owe him faithfulness. This thread will be filled with countless men telling him to divorce her and all manner of insults will be hurled against the woman. Now when a woman is the victim suddenly prayers and humility are the best solutions. Men are f*cking hypocrites that will treat you like shit simply because they feel they are better than you as males. Since you have the financial means I would advice you to not let his behaviour upset you. Make yourself happy, go for spa treatments and fun outings of just treat yourself to a good time anyhow you can. Don't plead or beg him to be faithful, rather show him you can be happy and fulfilled without him. Seperation would have been a good option since you are pregnant and don't need any stress but from your tone it doesn't seem like you want that 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Nobody: 3:45am On Aug 03, 2017 |
tomi87014:I am sorry you are going through all this but you really don't need all the stress with you being pregnant and all. Anything happen to you(God forbid) oga will continue his chatting, it won't stop. Soooo, please just focus on yourself for now. Dress well even if at times it would be annoying to right now. Rock your pregnancy, enjoy the random attention you get from people based on your condition, eat whatever you want, watch a marathon of funny comedies or telemundo sef if that is your thing. Bottom line, make yourself happy, look good and be healthy. He will come crawling back apologising himself. Stop looking through your Hubby's phone, you will always find smtg and confronting him will just make him more defensive and abusive. Just comot mind biko. I know say na your husband but u sef, do shakara small. Shakara never finish with marriage o......ehen |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by successinlife: 3:45am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Op something is weong somewhere,i will tell you this plain truth,you should check yourself.Some men like myself would not talk much before taking actions.I experienced a similar experience though not within naija and not with a naija woman.we were together fot good 8 years and madam thinks my faithfulness is equal to lack of confidence to chase women outside the home,over confidence took over her.I am that type that believe in what i have,i love my partner and our kids,ladies close and far try to come into me and i always put them off.Then stories from my partner on daily basis,i have back pains,you always want this thing everytime,please i am tired etc then at a point i decide to look outside,i got a prettier lady than her.I am a frank person,i told the side chick i am no more happy with my partner,this is why i am dating you outside my home, she appreciate me alot,she wondered why a woman will like to let go of me or not doing enough to keep her home.At a point i wanted to call it quit save for the children because i don't want a breakup trauma for them,i don't know the type of man she will hook up with later.Mind you this is not naija,she would have the care of the children.Then i unlocked my phone and few days later she saw all our discussion,her pics etc,her senses was reset, she realised her mistakes and said she never think i can look outside,after three good months of her i don't care,after three months of not asking questions,i sleep in visitors room and she sleeps alone,i don't believe though that a naija woman will do same.At long last i called it quit with my friend and remain with my partner but i warned her i will not be nice the next time,when a man is too good ladies take them for granted.All in all, madam check yourself,no man will be crazy to hurt his wife.You hurt him somehow/somewhere,sit him down and talk it out,then adjust,invest on yourself,make yourself attractive to him,ask him of his day to day events at work etc. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Nobody: 3:53am On Aug 03, 2017 |
successinlife:Omg! You are really defending your cheating self?now I haff seen everything ke. A side chick who can't find a man of her own querying your wife's ability to keep her home? Does that even sound reasonable to you? Because your wife is a good woman and chose to forgive you doesn't give you bragging rights about being the victim Infact this thread is just bringing out how twisted the world is becoming morally 7 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by waldigit: 4:02am On Aug 03, 2017 |
tomi87014: There is something inherently wrong with him which you fail to know before marriage. one and half years is too short to get fed up with a marriage. I think he need Christ. 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by solexjefe: 4:02am On Aug 03, 2017 |
[quote author=tomi87014 post=58998990]Help, Trouble In My Marriage Hello Nairalanders. I have been married for a year and half. I thought hubby and i have been living happily and i would've swore he was faithful. A few days ago i saw that a random lady messaged him on Facebook and they got talking. I was shocked at first to see that he was chatting her up. Fast forward to yesterday I checked his phone and saw that himself and the lady had more conversation and what started as facebook chat had progressed from phone calls to whatsapp chat. The content of their chat seems they were eventually planning to hook up. I confronted hubby but he wasn't remorseful and told me he doesn't owe me faithfulness and went on to sleep in the other room. Hubby and I pray together and are looking towards a very bright future together, this is not something i really saw coming from him. I am very troubled in my heart and pregnant for our first baby. He dozent feel any atom of pity that the whole issue might cause me problems and I have been wondering what has come over him. I am 100 percent faithful to my hubby and want the union to work out. I am at work typing and holding back tears. Please i need advise from mature people in the house, how do i deal with the situation. I am in my late 20s, he is in his late 30s.to be sincere with you all men are the same, I will advice you handle it calmly and then pray consistently over it, never underestimate the power of player. Then be talking to him gradually and begging him to go back to the way u people were before and he should consider the pregnancy u are carrying , he is human, I believe he will come back to his senses |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by bigtt76(f): 4:29am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Exactly. Not judging the OP or supporting her hubby, but women no matter how hard it may seem, always look your best while pregnant. Do not let pregnancy weigh you down or destroy your marriage please. herveze: |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Sexina851(f): 4:30am On Aug 03, 2017 |
herveze: But any reasonable husband would understand that sex during pregnancy irritates a lot of women. The fact is men are always selfish only a few of them can stand the test of marriage 2 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Sexina851(f): 4:34am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Prevho: I nailed it. I think his sudden change in character Is as a result of bad companies 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Sexina851(f): 4:40am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Daeylar: Hell no! Women should always play the dummy because dey are women. They have water flowing in them rather than blood. 3 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by puzzler: 4:44am On Aug 03, 2017 |
angelusbrut:u too get brain.. My kinda woman.. D one DAT can keep a home, not some freedom seekers.. Not like I support cheating or a slave master marriage/relationship...but a wise woman will give her man d captain role and just love him more.. I used to be very stubborn and naughty,thought I wld never marry cos I hate all dis freedom girls,but wen I met my woman.. She accepted me,gave a front role and gradually changed me with so much love and gentle words,now I call her Mummy. Cos she became my mum... Still av dat atom of naughtiness in me,but wen I remember Mummy & luv I go just behave mysef.. So op it is up to u to either make ur marriage work or be become a free bird who is not even sure of her next nest.. Peace 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Kaycee625(m): 5:03am On Aug 03, 2017 |
tomi87014:Most men cheat but their reaction when caught goes a long way. Sobfor your husband to blot out he doesn't owe you faithfulness to be honest this is just the beginning, he is going to cheat alot more without remorse Advise# ask him if he feels he doesn't owe you faithfulness what about you? How would he feel if he sees you chatting with a man, Truth is mostly cheats are very jealous of their possession,so he wouldnt want that |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by 989900: 5:17am On Aug 03, 2017 |
lecturerdabo: Just do the above, and be patient and persevering, if it fails, then no regrets you've done your best. P.S. I find the part where your husband thinks he does not owe you faithfulness worrying, is there something you're not revealing? Is he a Muslim? Anything dark about you or him, or some fore-knowledge faithfulness won't be on the menu? 1 Like |
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