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Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by RapportNaija(m): 8:14am On Aug 03, 2017 |
PaperLace: This is best reply I have seen on Nairaland. Almost brought me to tears... The first reply said "women are always the cause...", I am a man and that is the shittiest thing to say! Blame women for practically chasing other women? Nonce! Naija men self, sense run from many of una! See how he was so convenient and then act as if he was talking about all men. Bloody cheats! 3 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Rett0: 8:16am On Aug 03, 2017 |
bigtt76: Have you been pregnant before? Do you know the frustration and tears your sperm has just brought to her life? Do you know the hormonal changes she's going through? This is a time to be your best self. Your cross is to understand and be patient. Pamper her and nurture her. You'll likely not sleep with her for months because she might be dry and hate sex. It's called Hormones.... She could romance you and play with you till you are fine. Things will restore to normal after weaning the baby. This is why marriage is meant for Men and Not Boys who think pre-wedding shot is all that matters. 8 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Lordcenturion2(m): 8:17am On Aug 03, 2017 |
tomi87014: Bbe, this is the early stage of ur relationship, although am not in Nigeria but am from there and I have mature a little bit before I left the country, am a psychologist and I haven't experienced marriage issue before but I have learnt a lot and seen a lots around,people learn from other people experience and mistakes in order for them to maintain and know how to keep their future family grow perfectly. Knows that this is early stage of your marriage,you needs to calm things down,he's a matured man even than me because u said he's in his late 30's, just check your own side if there is a change in your behaviour compare to when you just know him,if u can't find anything change in u, call him and talk to him calmly, because for him to tell u that "he didn't owe u his faithfulness" definitely there is something wrong, call him in the middle of the night or anytime you see that he's in happy mood with you,behave as if you have never had any quarrel with him regarding the issue before, ask him if he has something in mind towards you or something that u are doing but which you are now failing to do or if u have offended him in any way , just do it calmly don't fight him. Use your lower voice volume to speak to him,if he says there is something ask him for forgiveness and promise him that you are going to change and ask him to promise you as well because he should know that deep thinking is not good to your health presently. Dear, relationship is not easy, those couple u are seeing that are celebrating 5, 10, even 20 years has seen a lots, it's not easy, especially for women side, they endure for them to archive those years. Most marriage balance after 4 to 5 years, once it's reached 5 years, then that kind of marriage is out of desperate times and it now survive,you don't need to panic or scare, just handle things peaceful with him just for you to archive those years,remember that you guys are still new to each other, you've known each other for 10 years as bf and gf doesn't mean anything, getting to know each other start the day u got married to him. No panic, everything will be fine and don't try to fight him,just think about the baby you are carrying and the ones in future,this is one of the desperate times for u, I believe that you are going to survive it if u applied wisdom,this is real temptation, don't let it defeat you, that is your home forever and u are ready to endure everything that comes out of it.. Best of luck 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by abutee: 8:17am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Madam, what u need to do is just to sit him down n talk over it OK, pls consider ur condition now n be very polite with him about the whole thing OK. also put it in prayers, d enemy just want to destroy ur home but don't relent OK. Its well with u. 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by xamilola(f): 8:19am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Prevho: YES SIR |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Ballmer: 8:20am On Aug 03, 2017 |
tomi87014: OP as a man though not married I can tell you never studied your man enough before stepping into marriage with him. Have been in and out of love, I have cheated on countless occasions but I have never being bold enough to tell any lady I dated I do not owe her faithfulness because that's what dignity n pride in marriage is all about. That your man can playfully or stylishly affirm he does not owe you that means he is a chronic cheat. I have friends like that n their wives simply resolve to man up or as the case maybe woman up to the reality of a cheating husband. Especially since they are financially buoyant. I believe you situation is one that needs a miracle if you believe in it because you definitely need the supernatural to bring him back to the place you guys were before you married him no amount of talk can take him back there. 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by jashar(f): 8:22am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Peterosky: Not all men cheat. I stand by that statement any day, any time, any where..... 2 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Jman06(m): 8:25am On Aug 03, 2017 |
herveze:All men don't cheat! Only irresponsible men do. Cheating is also not an exclusive preserve of the menfolks as women too are are capable of cheating. It is individual CHARACTER that makes the difference. Cheating is like every other vices like stealing, fraud etc because in all vices laws are being broken. Also, just like some people are responsible enough to live above those vices while others are not, there are many men and women who do not cheat and break their marital vows. 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Confor(m): 8:35am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Infact, you have said it all. I am having the same experience like seeing her unclothedness all the time when I don't like and also using wrapper at early in the morning to run errands without Top. Taking Financial decisions on her own when I am away and carelessness with some valuable things. Saving all her new clothes for the old ones and some other things. herveze: |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by delishpot: 8:36am On Aug 03, 2017 |
herveze: Quite a silly excuse. So you think being pregnant is like eating eBa and your favourite soup? You think your wife is not also missing her single days and the freedom she enjoyed then? You believe only you have missed something from your single days ba? Did you bother to ask Hy she thinks sex is bad while pregnant? Some men even deny their pregnant wives sex out of fear. Does it mean she should go hook up with someone else because her husband has denied her sex? So if a wife is being denied sex she can also jump into the arms of another man ir start acting like you ain't there because she still want to enjoy things she did while she was single? Are you still attractive to him? Hahahahahaha dem dey give attraction? This is what happens when people are miss informed about marriage. Any tiny excuse is reason to stray away unfortunately many will agree with this theory and cause their spouses pain. Will you sit down and pray that God would bring your obviously cheating wife to repent and come back to you? Why do some men feel like women have no feelings? That they should just sit and pray for straying husband's to return home. That is a silly brainwashing technique. Women deserve better put yourself n her shoes sometimes and see how it feels. 3 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Nobody: 8:39am On Aug 03, 2017 |
My greatest fear ,is a man giving me disease. Dear op, I am not married, but from cases i have seen from friends to neighbours to family ,no man is worth the stress. The important thing a woman needs in marriage is children ,and i am glad you are already pregnant. Talk to him ,don't beg and don't cry and hand him variety of condoms. Have the number of kids you want and leave that man. I can categorically tell you,that man will never change since he was that bold to say such a thing to your face,except Jesus comes down . You should focus more on how to protect yourself from the consequences of his stupidity. I have a relation who infected his wife with HIV, they didn't find out on time, and that was when the disease just came out, they are both dead and the children are now orphans. So my dear, no human being born of a woman should make you stressed. Consider your condition and that of the baby. 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Daeylar(f): 8:40am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Sexina851: Don't mind them 3 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by jamesbridget13(f): 8:51am On Aug 03, 2017 |
YourCoffin:dats a lie pls. Not all men 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by bigass123(m): 8:52am On Aug 03, 2017 |
PaperLace: My guy I understand your fury.. Ur wife dey nairaland too and you can't afford to have her read this hard truth that "all men are the same" You no want make one person pour sand sand for Ur garri. But truth still remains truth.... All men everywhere are the same. The differences are just the level of endurance before the trait comes to play. The most disciplined of men will still cheat at some point either voluntary or involuntarily. Ask our pastors, they'll explain better. As long as you still this mortal flesh, quit talking about sexual discipline, it will fail you at some point. The best you can do is to continually ask for God's grace.. That's the sad but plain truth! 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by omachonu112: 8:52am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Please dont pick a fight with him on this issue, quietly talk to him with respect and remind him of the promises you both made when you got married. then in love ask him what the problem is and why he has decided to keep single ladies as friend, them remind him of the implication it could cause to your union if he goes on...... remind him of the Bible verse'' WHO EVER BREAK THE EDGE THE SERPENT WILL BITE" love him more, more than b4...He is only trying to have fun, nothing has happened btw them so u need to act fast and act in love.....dont be paranoid when talking to him, try to be calm and stop crying.....I CAN TALK TO U IN PERSON IF YOU WANT....enjoy your day... 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by freshvine(f): 8:55am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Op, avoid any post made or liked by cococandy. They'll tell you you've your own money, you already have a kid of your own in your Tommy, the man don't deserve you, you're a strong woman, you don't deserve less and the advice you came to seek to better your marriage will be defeated. Her husband is an Edo guy with tattoo all over his body, a sailor that hardly visit home and a confirm system man yet she's managing but will come here and paint a picture of eldorado of her home but will go ahead to poison the mind of women trying hard to make their marriage work. Any day she start giving advice as a married woman with her experience in marriage and how she was able to navigate such issues, please begin to believe her but right now it's demonic for her and her legion to think no one is without blemish. She's a hypocrite and a double standard personality. Be guided and be warned. 3 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by snowblaq(f): 8:58am On Aug 03, 2017 |
herveze: Not every man thinks of having sex once he sees a beautiful person... Of course there would always be someone more beautiful or handsome than your partner but that is where self control comes into play.... Do you simply eat any food just because you can think of it?... An idle mind is the devils workshop.... If you have the fear of God in you amd respect for Him amd the vows you took before Him... Then you wouldn't have the time to think about the vanity of beauty..... Neither would you have to follow it through until you end up cheating. No matter the reasons a man gives for cheating.... He has only himself to blame and he should take responsibility for that.. Not turning around to blame the wife for one thing she did or didn't do that led him to it... 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by donspero(m): 8:58am On Aug 03, 2017 |
First and this myt be hard for you but Men! need their privacy to be respected. so you broke that trust bond, secondly you acted on emotions, since your pregnant i would let that slide 4 you. See sis the truth is let me not generalise, "Some" men can't be teamed cos it's inbred in or DNA, and note it's only Christians that have a rule for faithfulness to one woman. but even our bible tells us of this times wen women would surpass men in number and a woman would settle 4r another women's hubby. So because again your pregenant and your homo are high would give you a few pointers on how to keep your Husband in your marriage atlest 60%faithful 1. This is very import obey his privacy, don't be snooping around his fone to find somtn, you know you can't handle cos trust me you would. this ryt here makes us weak and guilty, a woman that does care about our dirty secrets or pretends not 2 spark guilt in men. 2. Don't be quick to judge, yah remember before you got married when you applied make up in other to gain attention from the opposite sex, Yah men got that to and trust me this small gals and despirado's out der have graduted with first class in how to sweet tongue your husband, wey go give them 1round come dash dem plenty money, than the single boy wey go wen bleep! 20 round come give them tp of 5h. So sometime up your game omo wash your husband find his weak spot and own that, he myt not be chatting on you physically but is enjoying a romance Phonically by a small pulling all his Ego string, So don't judge if possible learn 4rm the gal scoop and pull that string. 3. Give a room that he has a man Cave, in nigeria this myt not be possible cos how was place our homes. but, instead improvise find a way to get his frnds 2 your side instead, through football at your house menh! enter kitchen turn avatar, so most outing go be your crib, but consider your husband financial capacity b4 this oh. 4. Rub em Ego small, see this one dey important his ego is like every tin, so try they hail am as man of the house mk em the feel important, once once pay a bill and be like honey i know your financially strained from pampering me and i appericate it, so i want to chip in small. 5. and very most important one PRAY!PRAY!PRAY! Ask God to bless him wen una they pray 2gther infact mk him a centre of the prayer then spread am 2 odas. this are but a few tips but i guess this one would help. 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by byvan03: 9:09am On Aug 03, 2017 |
The truth about marriages like yours is that if it doesn't end today, it will end tomorrow . Choose when it will end at your convenience .Ask those that started praying for cheating husbands before you how market .it's so painful that you have to start dealing with this now you are pregnant . To think some idiots are quoting bible to justify infidelity. 2 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by dapolaw(m): 9:11am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Never go through your husband's phone... That's rule number 1 to have a happy home. Most men are like that including myself, but my only concern is that he wasn't remorseful when you confronted him. Well, its a phase in your marriage and I believe it will surely pass. You need to still sit him down, he needs to know he is wrong. |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by mrssho: 9:23am On Aug 03, 2017 |
I am going to give you advice from my own experience. First of all everyone saying that you shouldn't check your husbands phone, the truth is that when something is wrong you will know whether you check or not. Anyway I caught my husband a few years ago and i informed me of my discovery. His first instinct was to lie and i quickly let him know that I do not believe him and he should try again. Then he goes oh well it was because we were having issues, at that point i packed my bags and said i was leaving that such behaviour is totally unacceptable to me and I wont stand for it and when his parents ask I will tell them what he has done. Then he started begging and apologising. What I'm I trying to say, you need to set the tone early on in terms of what you will accept and what you will not accept. Before we married he told me he cannot forgive infidelity, so something that you can't forgive why would you dish it out to someone else. Madam you need to tell your husband that it is unacceptable and there are consequences for his actions 3 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Nobody: 9:25am On Aug 03, 2017 |
PaperLace: Baby how much be your bribe price. I mean bride price. I want start to dey gather money to come marry you. Damn! He who finds a PaperLace finds a good thing. Bible Chapter 1 v 1a |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Jelal0007(m): 9:34am On Aug 03, 2017 |
TheArchangel:Hmmm,wehdone ma. Adult BULL D0G |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by vuc1(m): 9:35am On Aug 03, 2017 |
selflessmaya:Easier said than done. You think she'll find happiness by walking away from her marriage. Not a good idea to encourage people to leave their marriage. Nowhere is a safe haven.Real and strong women face their challenges and overcome them.How many of those that left their marriages are happy? They might deceive people they're happy but the truth remains they're not.Anyone not ready for marriage should remain single . Running away when it can be fixed is an act of cowardice. 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by midehi2(f): 9:39am On Aug 03, 2017 |
mrphysics:dear, you can actually train yourself out of unfaithfulness, there are still 30% men out there who are faithful, marriage is understanding, no man want unhappiness in marriage, it can be worked out with the very right person. 2 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by sugarwiz(f): 9:45am On Aug 03, 2017 |
herveze: What enjoyment U mean sinful living? 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Olopsy01(f): 9:45am On Aug 03, 2017 |
I really understand what you going through but please for the sake of that "bundle of joy" relax your mind so that you don't develop Blood pressure in pregnancy.When Men cheats,people begin to ask what has the woman stopped doing?watch war room,pray naked etc.But when its the other way round,no one cares!Please stop checking his phone because you will hurt yourself the more.Just get busy and make the most of your life.May God intervene. |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Nobody: 9:50am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Flashh:*Faints mode* Resuscitate me and I'll comment 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Nobody: 9:51am On Aug 03, 2017 |
@op take this advice and u will see how quickly it works,we men hate being ignored, ignore him,show him less attention, but still do wat is expected of u at home to d fullest,talk to him very formally, respond to his conversations nd questions very formally, show him the I don't care attitude and initially he will tynk u r acting up but do it smoothly until he's convinced DAT u truely don't care anymore nd u r OK lyk DAT,act smoothly DAT u r happy with urself,play games or watch movies nd laf excitedly, don't go about massaging his ego as people r saying here,it won't work,just let him see DAT ur happiness matters a lot to u nd he cant b a bridge to DAT.wen u start noticing he's stylishly koming around, don't be too quik to jump on him,let him be d first to talk abt it,nd ur response initially shld b I am fine nd happy,let him insist DAT u both talk abt it, den u can now pour ur heart out.Do all these with wisdom and see d effect sharply,den u can now shapen him to d man u want him to be.Pray more as u r doing all these nd let him notice how closer to God UV bkom kos of his attitude. Thank me later. 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by Flashh: 9:56am On Aug 03, 2017 |
Olabisidebra:Hmm. *Kissing mode* I believe that would wake you up. 1 Like |
Re: I Caught My Husband Chatting With A Lady On Facebook & WhatsApp & Confronted Him by mercy87(f): 10:03am On Aug 03, 2017 |
tomi87014: Sweetheart. Sorry about your ordeal. Just face your God and your work now and prepare for the coming of your baby. |
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