MzHolly:
I cheat back as revenge always

May the Almighty God forgive you this morning. Bloody flirt. Even though we are not seeing each other, know it that you do not worth a woman.

Actually, its a known fact for marriage to work forgiveness has to be given priority but then, it shouldn't call for doing wrongs daily and every minutes. For everything we do in life has a reward. No 2 ways about it. That which u find in Another or appreciate try and find it in ur spouse and always praise one another

kayojosephy:
It all depends on my mood in proportion to her state of true repentance..

hahahahaha see dis learner



I laughed u in Chinese,


Hihihihi chachuchonhun

Sleyanya1:
There are complex factors and situations that could cause those that truly love you (In your confirmation &
theirs) to cheat on you.

However you should watch out for their Genuine remorse, extra efforts to make things right & also play back a memory of their worth to you.

After weighing all these & they're checked correctly.

It's Okay to Forgive but Once.

I disagree with the highlighted! Cheating is not an involuntary action. There's no justifiable reason to cheat especially in Marriage. Even outside Marriage, once there are irreconcilable differences between u and the guy instead of cheating just quit the relationship and move on. The worst is if the guy is not performing up to expectation and u can no longer cope then quit. Personally I believe if u can cheat on ur spouse then u can kill him. There are lots of erroneous teachings out there and that's why the society is defective

komekn:


All this rhetoric is individualism and personal ideology, preference that emanates entirely from self. Because it is self based it is self justified and therefore SELFISH.

The self is constantly inconsistent and therefore dependent on emotional sentiment which goes up and down. It's like happiness which is dependent on what's happening around you. So what you feel is a product of you environment and circumstantial experiences. Operating and being led by what you feel is a recipe for disaster.

Using the infallible and unquestionable standard which is set by God. Which is in the Bible, there is no end to forgiveness it's never ending, it's intrinsic to your Christian walk.

Forgiveness doesn't leave bitterness, rancour, animosity, discontent, rage, revenge, hatred it redeems you from all that. It enables you to love truly.

However, if you are not a Christian or you are just church goer or member. Then you can follow what you feel. In this case this adopted assumed superior Eurocentric ideology. The same ideology that has birthed the bestial, perverse and unnatural practice of homosexuality and now crowned with same sex marriage. These Ideologies are totally alien and an affront to Afrocentricity and our Nigerian norms and values.

In my experience responding to your husband cheating with divorce will never lead to SATISFACTION in most cases you will lead a life of discontent and unhappiness and may never remarry. Well for absolute certainty no Christian will EVER be married to a divorced woman.

On the contrary Forgiveness will allow you to experience JOY which comes from God and is indeed great strength.

There is no limit to forgiveness. Because the joy of the Lord hath no understanding it's beyond the limited intellect of man. FORGIVENESS is a precursor to the Joy of the Lord.

Easier said. What happens to doing the right thing and avoiding plenty avoidable issues. Titus 2:11 (NIV). The Bible said let not this things be mentioned among u being believers. I'm sure u know cheating is not an involuntary action, one things always led to the other and to the other. Every body has his part to play, forgiveness is divine and the Grace of God differs

It would have been a more interesting read if people declared their marital status first before theirene response. 9 out of 10 posting comments are not married....

komekn:


All this rhetoric is individualism and personal ideology, preference that emanates entirely from self. Because it is self based it is self justified and therefore SELFISH.

The self is constantly inconsistent and therefore dependent on emotional sentiment which goes up and down. It's like happiness which is dependent on what's happening around you. So what you feel is a product of you environment and circumstantial experiences. Operating and being led by what you feel is a recipe for disaster.

Using the infallible and unquestionable standard which is set by God. Which is in the Bible, there is no end to forgiveness it's never ending, it's intrinsic to your Christian walk.

Forgiveness doesn't leave bitterness, rancour, animosity, discontent, rage, revenge, hatred it redeems you from all that. It enables you to love truly.

However, if you are not a Christian or you are just church goer or member. Then you can follow what you feel. In this case this adopted assumed superior Eurocentric ideology. The same ideology that has birthed the bestial, perverse and unnatural practice of homosexuality and now crowned with same sex marriage. These Ideologies are totally alien and an affront to Afrocentricity and our Nigerian norms and values.

In my experience responding to your husband cheating with divorce will never lead to SATISFACTION in most cases you will lead a life of discontent and unhappiness and may never remarry. Well for absolute certainty no Christian will EVER be married to a divorced woman.

On the contrary Forgiveness will allow you to experience JOY which comes from God and is indeed great strength.

There is no limit to forgiveness. Because the joy of the Lord hath no understanding it's beyond the limited intellect of man. FORGIVENESS is a precursor to the Joy of the Lord.

no clapping smiley on nairaland � that is your opinion too as regards cheating spouse.

Fidelity is a feminine virtue......zip up. women must learn to forgive, men must be moderate in their indulgence.
Stop this gender equality stuff.

dabeto:
Fidelity is a feminine virtue......zip up. women must learn to forgive, men must be moderate in their indulgence.
Stop this gender equality stuff.

Hmmmm very interesting, men must be moderate in their indulgence? Women too can be moderate in theirs .

mikedimeji:

I disagree with the highlighted! Cheating is not an involuntary action. There's no justifiable reason to cheat especially in Marriage. Even outside Marriage, once there are irreconcilable differences between u and the guy instead of cheating just quit the relationship and move on. The worst is if the guy is not performing up to expectation and u can no longer cope then quit. Personally I believe if u can cheat on ur spouse then u can kill him. There are lots of erroneous teachings out there and that's why the society is defective

I respect your opinion. The difference is in our perceptions of the act. Also It is not really something anyone that truly love will decide before it happens.

When it does happen that's when you truly know what you'd be capable of doing.

Happy Sunday

I always want to b committed to who I love...Once I caught u cheating,
forget it, once u leave, no more room bcoz I would have move on with better person.

Sleyanya1:


I respect your opinion. The difference is in our perceptions of the act. Also It is not really something anyone that truly love will decide before it happens.

When it does happen that's when you truly know what you'd be capable of doing.

Happy Sunday

Like I said it's not an involuntary action, it's not something that just happen all of a sudden, cheating takes process. U can't wake up one day and decide to cheat it takes several process. My take, when it has gotten to the point of cheating then quit. Cheating is done consciously and deliberately that's why I said there's no justification for it. It's very important to set boundaries. Once lack of trust sets in the end has come.
Enjoy ur week sir.

mikedimeji:

Like I said it's not an involuntary action, it's not something that just happen all of a sudden, cheating takes process. U can't wake up one day and decide to cheat it takes several process. My take, when it has gotten to the point of cheating then quit. Cheating is done consciously and deliberately that's why I said there's no justification for it. It's very important to set boundaries. Once lack of trust sets in the end has come.
Enjoy ur week sir.

I agree

Sleyanya1:


I respect your opinion. The difference is in our perceptions of the act. Also It is not really something anyone that truly love will decide before it happens.

When it does happen that's when you truly know what you'd be capable of doing.

Happy Sunday

if you love someone, you don't cheat on the person

braine:


It's risky doing business with someone who just created an account some days ago.

mr risky abeg park well

dabeto:
Fidelity is a feminine virtue......zip up. women must learn to forgive, men must be moderate in their indulgence.
Stop this gender equality stuff.

Sorry bro

The world does not work like that anymore

Divay22:
It can only be once for me.... But with the cold feet, it will be more better if i didn't forgive at all. Once trust is broken it can never be whole again.

Cheaters never Quit

dabeto:
Fidelity is a feminine virtue......zip up. women must learn to forgive, men must be moderate in their indulgence.
Stop this gender equality stuff.

Did you know what my ring tone will be JAPA..I won't go into marriage again once I am left out of my Union , honestly , every woman that comes my way will be a victim of treating them badly , once a thief will always and forever be a thief and also as the Do say , FORGIVENESS IS A SIN..

@ babyface Africa , where is the love or true love in a Union , most marriage fails cause of too much of cheating..

braine:
I'd say 0 times.

But then...

...in as much as I think cheating is horrible, I feel we'll have to deal with it whether we like it or not. Almost every girl I've dated cheated which led to breakups. Now it's like we have to accept it, else one may stay single forever.

That is why you have to use juju to tie your intended wife for yourself only. Na so politicians, pastors and kings and Oba dey marry.

plessis:
if it is more than once, believe me it will continue because it has turned to attitude as your spouse will always have it at the back of his or her mind that you are a legend when it comes to forgiving

Forgive her twice, then after the third time use her destiny for ritual and breakup with her.

I can't forgive a cheating affair. For me, this is a harsh offense! I think I am so dubious and I even started using http://smstrackers.com/can-i-track-my-boyfriends-sms-messages-without-him-knowing-for-free/ to find out if I am cheated on or not. I had a bad experience with it and now I am really suspicious.

bamisepeters:
It is a known fact that Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each other but there must be limit to the extent of forgiveness as it will be taken for granted.

Apart from one or more characters of your spouse that you might find uneasy to contend with, i think cheating is the greatest crime one's spouse can commit which can warrant that extra ordinary spirit of forgiveness.

I know of someone whose women cheated on him for up to four times and he has been forgiving her, four times is nit cheating any more, it has become an attitude.

There is limit to everything in life, so also in relationship there is limitations to everything you do to your spouse.

If you cheat ones and your spouse forgives you, you should just count yourself to be lucky because many cannot forgive a cheating spouse.

It is not because of ego or anything but because there is limit to what everyone can accept.

For someone who cheated just ones it takes the intervention of the supernatural forces to be forgiven, and it shouldn't pass just that once.

If it is more than once, believe me it will continue because it has turned to attitude as your spouse will always have it at the back of his or her mind that you are a legend when it comes to forgiving.

Like i said in a post that divorce should not be the last resort to all marital troubles it doesn't mean that you should now turn yourself to complete fool all in the name of keeping your home.

Divorce may not be the last resort to marriage issues, but it is the ultimate solution to many other people's matrimonial challenges and no matter how hard they try to defend the union in the face of persecution they can never win that battle.

If your spouse cheat on you for the first time I think they deserve another opportunity to make it right.

Like a colleague made mention of a quote sometimes ago that fool me once, shame on you. Fool me again, shame on me.

And you will continue to be that lovely and romantic fool if you listen to another reason why your spouse cheated on you again when you know you are up and doing when it comes to your union.

I know that for some people the idea and reality of cheating is innate, hence, they will never stop even after you forgive them, if you know you cannot cope just give yourself a final break.

You are not worth that torment that comes along with a cheating spouse.
The thought of someone else over-smooching a woman you deal with gently in bed or the thought of another lady over-satisfying your man to the brim to the extent that he finds it hard to satisfy you when you are in the mood alone is enough to deal with you greatly.

I trust you will not try that 77×77 times that the Holy book preaches for forgiveness as this is not that kind of offence you can apply such law for as you even find it so hard to forgive just once let alone 7 times.

After one more chance I don't think someone in his or her right senses should even smell cheat anymore, else, you will be taken for granted for life.

This is my opinion, kindly add your contributions as it is important to me.

Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/08/the-amount-of-times-you-can-forgive.html

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Sometimes it's more complex than that. If kids are involved, the effect of a split on the kids, how remorseful he/she is, etc.

Its a complex situation where one may not know how one would react until , God forbids , it happens.

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Ones trust is broken, it can never have a solid foundation. The best is to move on and get a better life.