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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by shotizzy: 3:52pm On Sep 06
today will mark a week i masturbate last, I joined nairaland because of this post, formally a guest who follow every post here.. I always thought am the only one with this problem, I started masturbating in the year 2011, ever since then things just have been fluctuating for me, there was a time i go one a two week streak of not masturbating (longest I ever gone) but I still go back to this devilish act.. but am now determine to stop it once and for all. I came here everyday to get motivated by other guys who also masturbate. And am sure together we are going to overcome through strong zeal of determination and God.. here are some bible verses to help us guys
Scripture tells us to be on guard against sexual immorality.
1. Ephesians 5:3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality , or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.
2. 1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee immorality . Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man
sins against his own body .
3. Colossians 3:5 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust , evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.
4. 1 Thessalonians 4:3–4 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you
abstain from sexual immorality ; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor.
Scripture teaches us to guard the heart and honor the Lord with our body. Masturbation violates these Scriptures.
5. Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
6. 1 Corinthians 6:19–20 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been purchased at a price. Therefore glorify God in your body.
In masturbation you are coveting and lusting for someone who is not for you. It’s not only hurting you. It’s hurting someone else. It’s treating someone like they are a piece of meat.
7. Exodus 20:17 “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”
8. Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That
whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
9. Job 31:1 “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.”
Any type of sexual activity is to be within marriage.
10. Genesis 1:22-23 God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and increase in number and fill the water in the seas, and let the birds increase on the earth.” And there was evening, and there was morning—the fifth day.
11. Genesis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
12. Hebrews 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure , for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Satan finds a way to pervert sex within marriage, which is good with masturbation.
13. Acts 13:10 “You are a child of the devil and an enemy of everything that is right! You are full of all kinds of deceit and trickery. Will you never stop perverting the right ways of the Lord?”
No one can honestly say that they are going to masturbate for the glory of God.
14. 1 Corinthians 10:31 Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God .
15. Colossians 3:17 And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Masturbating once can lead to addiction, slavery, and danger. That is why it is essential that you stay away.
16. John 8:34 Jesus replied, “Very truly I tell you, everyone who sins is a slave to sin. “
It might seem hard, but God has given us the Holy Spirit to help us overcome any addiction.
17. 1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but
with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
18. 2 Timothy 1:7 For God did not give us a Spirit of fear but of power and love and self-control .
19. John 14:16 “I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may be with you forever.”
If you’re doubting and you still proceed that is sin.
20. Romans 14:23 And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin.
Sin grows larger overtime.
21. James 1:14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
Discipline yourself and cry out to the Lord for help. Occupy yourself, find an accountability partner, listen to sermon jams, put a child block on your computer, go be around people, stop following sensual people on social media. Distract yourself with something positive so you won’t sin.
22. Matthew 5:29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell .
23. Matthew 5:30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away . It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
24. 1 Corinthians 9:27 No, I keep on disciplining my body , making it serve me so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not somehow be disqualified.
Go to the cross and confess your sins daily. Christ can set you free from anything.
25. 1 John 1:9 If we acknowledge our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive our sins and cleanse us from every wrongdoing.
Bonus
Galatians 5:1 It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.. 7/7 together we can stop it.....

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Ahmedhussain3463: 5:07pm On Sep 06
REB3L:
Here's my own solution to this problem.
You have an addiction. U download a porn video,self-service off to it. And delete it because of the guilt that follows after wards.
A few days later,you have the urge to do it and once again. You download a new one and self-service again.
Here's what I suggest.
Have a porn video on yourphone,one of maybe 5-7 minutes.
Now the first time you would be tempted to self-service. Try to hold your resolve. You woukd definately not last. And would self-service off to this.
Now after youve done that and were not successful,dont delete this video. Keep it.
Now anytime you get the urge. Check the video. Even when you dont have the urge,check the video.
After sometime you would see that the video holds no interest to you.
You woukdnt even get erect.
.
Keep doing this till like 2 weeks and youll notice the urge isnt there no more. After like a month delete the video.
The key is not to download videos.
And how do you not download videos is by having a steady video .
This i feel is the best solution.

yes o i swear i support u cos am guilty abt dis downlaoding and deleting
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Ahmedhussain3463: 5:10pm On Sep 06
ammyluv2002:
I'm enjoying this thread! I'm happy for you guys, those who are really trying to stop. God will help you guys.


I just wanna add something....I think, it has to do with the mind! What do you conceive as a thought? If, you can keep your mind busy with other better stuffs, it goes a long way!

u are right madam bt is nt just as easy as u think,sometime this feelings comes when u least expect it ,i think total alienation of one self from salacious stuff is d best step to overcoming masturbation
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Ahmedhussain3463: 5:28pm On Sep 06
Safiaa:
Mastubating seems to be a huge problem for Guys
and mild pblem for woman.u are right dough my greatest challenge is to win the battle
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Ahmedhussain3463: 5:36pm On Sep 06
Lalas247:
this is for GUYS grin
Scarcity of Pusey causing issues since 18bc ... op u can't change it
shut up which pussy is scarce.?
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by whizzyleejr(m): 5:48pm On Sep 06
It's a damn spirit, whenever i feel like watching it, i will just enter the site straight and download till i'm tired it's an "irresistible urge"

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Porn0addict: 4:12am On Sep 07
Glad, someone referred me to this thread. I created a thread on this issue yesterday. Good to know I have people I can learn from.

http://www.nairaland.com/4036415/porn-addict-needs

My story is below:

Help guys!!! I am a 25 years old guy who is seriously addicted to pornography. I spent 5 hours watching pornography and masturbating yesterday. 2 hours in the afternoon. 3 hours at night.

It started 10 years ago with a porn DVD a friend lent me after I finished secondary school. Since then I have been in this mess. It affected my results in the University. During normal school days I miss some lectures due to masturbation. When it is exam time, I partake in it even more. Thereby I procrastinate reading till the day before exam or some hours before an exam starts. I was very brilliant in secondary school and even in my Part 1 days.

Even during my NYSC days, I continued.

I am a freelancer and I work from home. I was supposed to be working on projects worth hundreds of dollars with a various deadlines but I spent 5 hours out of that time watching porn. Working at home has been a sort of disadvantage like I have power on my laptop and I have access to good internet too.

I don't think working outside will solve it. When I was on 400 level IT. I wake up as early as 5 am to get to work early. Yet I can watch porn from 11 pm to 4 am. Valuable time that I could have spent perfecting my web design and programming skills. So, I sleep in the bus in the morning and the evening. I also sleep at work during my break time then. Getting an outside job won't solve it.

I am an introvert who hardly talk to girls. I am kind of shy and hardly look anyone in the face. But I am financially comfortable, average looking with taller than average height. I dress okay but not flamboyant. Girls try to talk to me at times but I don't respond well due to my shyness.

I feel like an hypocrite. Among my friends, I go to church the most and they have a kind of respect for me since I don't sleep around, drink or indulge in other vices. But I masturbate almost everyday. These guys may not sleep with their girlfriends for a week. But me, I hardly go without masturbating. Deep inside me, I know I am far worse than them.

When I gave my life to Christ, the urge went away for about 2 weeks and I was very happy with my life generally. But I fell back to it again. A lot of times, I feel so guilty that I can't pray. I was one of those mocking our chaplain in secondary school when he talked about the hazards of masturbation. This was because I hadn't engaged in it then and I didn't know the consequences.

Now I am so unproductive. I used to be very innovative and creative, brimming with several ideas that a lot of people look up to me. But now, I hardly have time for anything. It's just from one deadline to another. I know I can finish my jobs comfortably but pornography takes a huge chunk of my time. Plus after you masturbate, you get depressed and you don't have that deep motivation to work fast and accomplish lots of things in little time.

It's been 10 years now. My life is wasting away. I have started facing that marriage pressure from my parents. On the outside, I look perfectly okay and many people admire me. They come to me for advise and financial aid. But on the inside I am dying. I know I have a lot of potential in me. I know I am not meant to be mediocre. I don't want to live that average life of just earning some money, marriage and death. I know I am meant to impact a lot of people. I had a lot of plans that went dead.

Sometimes I even have suicidal thoughts. I feel death will be better rather than this misery. I have tried a lot of things but I can't just stop. The worst part is pornography make me see women as sexual objects some times. A lot of Nigerian men also hold this viewpoint but I know it is terribly wrong.

Sometimes after listening to Christian tapes and messages, the urge goes away for two days but it comes again and I fall. I don't to fall at all.

Maybe I will just start listening to Christian tapes and music 24/7. But I can't concentrate on work if I do that. Or I could just take 2 hour breaks to listen to Godly messages.

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Porn0addict: 4:29am On Sep 07
So 1/7 for me
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by acevic(m): 4:53am On Sep 07
Porn0addict:
Glad, someone referred me to this thread. I created a thread on this issue yesterday. Good to know I have people I can learn from.

http://www.nairaland.com/4036415/porn-addict-needs

My story is below:

Help guys!!! I am a 25 years old guy who is seriously addicted to pornography. I spent 5 hours watching pornography and masturbating yesterday. 2 hours in the afternoon. 3 hours at night.

It started 10 years ago with a porn DVD a friend lent me after I finished secondary school. Since then I have been in this mess. It affected my results in the University. During normal school days I miss some lectures due to masturbation. When it is exam time, I partake in it even more. Thereby I procrastinate reading till the day before exam or some hours before an exam starts. I was very brilliant in secondary school and even in my Part 1 days.

Even during my NYSC days, I continued.

I am a freelancer and I work from home. I was supposed to be working on projects worth hundreds of dollars with a various deadlines but I spent 5 hours out of that time watching porn. Working at home has been a sort of disadvantage like I have power on my laptop and I have access to good internet too.

I don't think working outside will solve it. When I was on 400 level IT. I wake up as early as 5 am to get to work early. Yet I can watch porn from 11 pm to 4 am. Valuable time that I could have spent perfecting my web design and programming skills. So, I sleep in the bus in the morning and the evening. I also sleep at work during my break time then. Getting an outside job won't solve it.

I am an introvert who hardly talk to girls. I am kind of shy and hardly look anyone in the face. But I am financially comfortable, average looking with taller than average height. I dress okay but not flamboyant. Girls try to talk to me at times but I don't respond well due to my shyness.

I feel like an hypocrite. Among my friends, I go to church the most and they have a kind of respect for me since I don't sleep around, drink or indulge in other vices. But I masturbate almost everyday. These guys may not sleep with their girlfriends for a week. But me, I hardly go without masturbating. Deep inside me, I know I am far worse than them.

When I gave my life to Christ, the urge went away for about 2 weeks and I was very happy with my life generally. But I fell back to it again. A lot of times, I feel so guilty that I can't pray. I was one of those mocking our chaplain in secondary school when he talked about the hazards of masturbation. This was because I hadn't engaged in it then and I didn't know the consequences.

Now I am so unproductive. I used to be very innovative and creative, brimming with several ideas that a lot of people look up to me. But now, I hardly have time for anything. It's just from one deadline to another. I know I can finish my jobs comfortably but pornography takes a huge chunk of my time. Plus after you masturbate, you get depressed and you don't have that deep motivation to work fast and accomplish lots of things in little time.

It's been 10 years now. My life is wasting away. I have started facing that marriage pressure from my parents. On the outside, I look perfectly okay and many people admire me. They come to me for advise and financial aid. But on the inside I am dying. I know I have a lot of potential in me. I know I am not meant to be mediocre. I don't want to live that average life of just earning some money, marriage and death. I know I am meant to impact a lot of people. I had a lot of plans that went dead.

Sometimes I even have suicidal thoughts. I feel death will be better rather than this misery. I have tried a lot of things but I can't just stop. The worst part is pornography make me see women as sexual objects some times. A lot of Nigerian men also hold this viewpoint but I know it is terribly wrong.

Sometimes after listening to Christian tapes and messages, the urge goes away for two days but it comes again and I fall. I don't to fall at all.

Maybe I will just start listening to Christian tapes and music 24/7. But I can't concentrate on work if I do that. Or I could just take 2 hour breaks to listen to Godly messages.

Few tips bro
1. Pray about it every day and night.
2. Find something you love doing apart from watching porn and try to do it more.
3. Watching porn video is the root of masturbation and no matter how hard you try to stop masturbating without putting an end to porn, you may not make any headway. avoid porn like plaque and any movie that is xrated
4. Masturbation makes you feel lesser than a man, puts you deeper in the introverted cave, strengths your shyness, erodes your confidence and self esteem, affects your memory negatively, destroys your conversation skills, alters your sexual performance, makes you look older than your age, shrinks the he'll outta you....and on and on and on......think about all the negative effects and resist the urge of watch porn first. Stopping masturbation becomes easier afterwards.
5. Start with a day target, 3 days , 7 days ,30 days. Chances are you might have a relapse in between but don't give up.
6. Rewards yourself with a nice treat after any target completion. You go see a movie, go to restaurant and have a good treat.
7. Make having a relationship a priority. Start talking to people more than you ever did. Your skill may have become rusty but keep trying.
8. Use rubber band reminder caution. Put a rubber band on your wrist. Anytime you feel like watching porn, masturbating. ...just give yourself a hot snap and smile.
9. Christian audio books and messages will help too and try to read books about that interests you.
10. Pray more about it.
11. See the act as more of a betrayal to yourself.
12. Don't judge yourself or curse yourself thinking it will make you stop. Won't work. Instead see yourself as a better person when not indulging in the act.
13. I bet you agree with me that you are a happier and more productive person when you go 3 days without it.

Nb. You might start experiencing wet dreams few days or weeks after withdrawing from masturbating. No worries. Pray about it every TIME. It will just pass and you won't even notice.

You can pm me.

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by antiFapping: 8:24am On Sep 07
Porn0addict:
So 1/7 for me
Bro welcome to the community, I read your story and believe me, you're not alone, that's a typical story of those of us that got addicted to this stupidity called masturbation, that poo kills creativity, zaps you of both mental and physical energy. But not to worry, just like any other addiction ,this one too can be conquered absolutely. Just as you've joined us in the NoFapping challenge, please and please stick to it, don't give in to the urge, if it does come(which is certain).
But I noticed that since I created this thread and started the NoFapping challenge, I haven't felt the urge, I think it's probably cos of all the people commenting and viewing this thread tricked my mind into believing that I'm actually in a room(e-room) full of people, so I can't afford to fap in their presence, that consciousness alone kills the urge faster than any prescribed therapy believe me.

Stay positive, see you on the brighter side.
#We_Can

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by antiFapping: 8:26am On Sep 07
It's really a beautiful morning here.

I am in 8/14
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Prinsola(m): 8:40am On Sep 07
I'm in 7/14
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by shotizzy: 9:16am On Sep 07
Porn0addict:
Glad, someone referred me to this thread. I created a thread on this issue yesterday. Good to know I have people I can learn from.

http://www.nairaland.com/4036415/porn-addict-needs

My story is below:

Help guys!!! I am a 25 years old guy who is seriously addicted to pornography. I spent 5 hours watching pornography and masturbating yesterday. 2 hours in the afternoon. 3 hours at night.

It started 10 years ago with a porn DVD a friend lent me after I finished secondary school. Since then I have been in this mess. It affected my results in the University. During normal school days I miss some lectures due to masturbation. When it is exam time, I partake in it even more. Thereby I procrastinate reading till the day before exam or some hours before an exam starts. I was very brilliant in secondary school and even in my Part 1 days.

Even during my NYSC days, I continued.

I am a freelancer and I work from home. I was supposed to be working on projects worth hundreds of dollars with a various deadlines but I spent 5 hours out of that time watching porn. Working at home has been a sort of disadvantage like I have power on my laptop and I have access to good internet too.

I don't think working outside will solve it. When I was on 400 level IT. I wake up as early as 5 am to get to work early. Yet I can watch porn from 11 pm to 4 am. Valuable time that I could have spent perfecting my web design and programming skills. So, I sleep in the bus in the morning and the evening. I also sleep at work during my break time then. Getting an outside job won't solve it.

I am an introvert who hardly talk to girls. I am kind of shy and hardly look anyone in the face. But I am financially comfortable, average looking with taller than average height. I dress okay but not flamboyant. Girls try to talk to me at times but I don't respond well due to my shyness.

I feel like an hypocrite. Among my friends, I go to church the most and they have a kind of respect for me since I don't sleep around, drink or indulge in other vices. But I masturbate almost everyday. These guys may not sleep with their girlfriends for a week. But me, I hardly go without masturbating. Deep inside me, I know I am far worse than them.

When I gave my life to Christ, the urge went away for about 2 weeks and I was very happy with my life generally. But I fell back to it again. A lot of times, I feel so guilty that I can't pray. I was one of those mocking our chaplain in secondary school when he talked about the hazards of masturbation. This was because I hadn't engaged in it then and I didn't know the consequences.

Now I am so unproductive. I used to be very innovative and creative, brimming with several ideas that a lot of people look up to me. But now, I hardly have time for anything. It's just from one deadline to another. I know I can finish my jobs comfortably but pornography takes a huge chunk of my time. Plus after you masturbate, you get depressed and you don't have that deep motivation to work fast and accomplish lots of things in little time.

It's been 10 years now. My life is wasting away. I have started facing that marriage pressure from my parents. On the outside, I look perfectly okay and many people admire me. They come to me for advise and financial aid. But on the inside I am dying. I know I have a lot of potential in me. I know I am not meant to be mediocre. I don't want to live that average life of just earning some money, marriage and death. I know I am meant to impact a lot of people. I had a lot of plans that went dead.

Sometimes I even have suicidal thoughts. I feel death will be better rather than this misery. I have tried a lot of things but I can't just stop. The worst part is pornography make me see women as sexual objects some times. A lot of Nigerian men also hold this viewpoint but I know it is terribly wrong.

Sometimes after listening to Christian tapes and messages, the urge goes away for two days but it comes again and I fall. I don't to fall at all.

Maybe I will just start listening to Christian tapes and music 24/7. But I can't concentrate on work if I do that. Or I could just take 2 hour breaks to listen to Godly messages.
you are not alone... just still glue to this thread with great determination that you wanna stop it.. together we will overcome... try reading this link http://www.wordatwork.org.uk/answers/how-can-i-overcome-masturbation
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by shotizzy: 9:19am On Sep 07
acevic:


Few tips bro
1. Pray about it every day and night.
2. Find something you love doing apart from watching porn and try to do it more.
3. Watching porn video is the root of masturbation and no matter how hard you try to stop masturbating without putting an end to porn, you may not make any headway. avoid porn like plaque and any movie that is xrated
4. Masturbation makes you feel lesser than a man, puts you deeper in the introverted cave, strengths your shyness, erodes your confidence and self esteem, affects your memory negatively, destroys your conversation skills, alters your sexual performance, makes you look older than your age, shrinks the he'll outta you....and on and on and on......think about all the negative effects and resist the urge of watch porn first. Stopping masturbation becomes easier afterwards.
5. Start with a day target, 3 days , 7 days ,30 days. Chances are you might have a relapse in between but don't give up.
6. Rewards yourself with a nice treat after any target completion. You go see a movie, go to restaurant and have a good treat.
7. Make having a relationship a priority. Start talking to people more than you ever did. Your skill may have become rusty but keep trying.
8. Use rubber band reminder caution. Put a rubber band on your wrist. Anytime you feel like watching porn, masturbating. ...just give yourself a hot snap and smile.
9. Christian audio books and messages will help too and try to read books about that interests you.
10. Pray more about it.
11. See the act as more of a betrayal to yourself.
12. Don't judge yourself or curse yourself thinking it will make you stop. Won't work. Instead see yourself as a better person when not indulging in the act.
13. I bet you agree with me that you are a happier and more productive person when you go 3 days without it.

Nb. You might start experiencing wet dreams few days or weeks after withdrawing from masturbating. No worries. Pray about it every TIME. It will just pass and you won't even notice.

You can pm me.
how do you know, yesterday marks one week I masturbate last, and this morning I discover I had a wet dream, the devil is a lier...
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by paulbets: 11:20am On Sep 07
A practical advise.
1. First do not be ashamed of Masturbation, feel free to talk about it with friends both male and female. Joke about it too and do not be scared or embarrassed to acknowledge to friends when ever the talk comes up that you also do Masturbate whether occasionally or frequently. Never ever feel that you are just the only weird person on earth with high uncontrollable sexual urge that masturbates chronically at slight provocation or boredom or even once in blue moon. Honest truth is that about more than 95% of male and 85% of females in the world engages in Masturbation or have done it couple of times at a time in their lives, and may still do it in the future. YES: Chances are that, that your close friend whether male or female masturbates equally as much as you do.

2. Now with the above understanding, if you Masturbate so much that it affects your life routine or you feel you are addicted and want to stop; Just know that it is greatly possible to stop totally as much as you want. YES: you are not consumed yet, irrespective of how much you masturbate in a day; you can still stop and go months and years without stroking or stimulating your sex organ even at the occassional or accidental presence of materials or things that initially get you easily fired up for Masturbation.

3. To quit Masturbation or reduce the intensity and rate at which you masturbate daily or weekly is a gradual process. More like a ladder you are climbing.. and the higher the stronger you become. First things first, do away with porn; both hardcore and softcore as it will help to reduce your sexual excitations. Restricting your eyes from porn maybe hard but try to hold out even is for a month. And if you must masturbate, don't ever stimulate your mind with porn or anybody's picture... just you, your hands or sex machine.

4. To actually go two weeks to several months without Masturbation requires outside help. And from abstaining for months, you will get a hang of it and can then take full charge to go as long as you want all by yourself. Therefore to go two weeks and above, get in touch with a close friend whether opposite or same sex... tell him or her your challenge and ask that they help you to achieve your goal of going some months without Masturbation. Now start with two weeks challenge and report to this friend about your progress. Also you might put a reward system and Loss system for reaching the target or failing respectively... When you meet each target, keep increasing the weeks by multiple of two weeks..
You may fail, but be honest to admit to your guide, and also accept the consequences in the Loss System and bear the Loss... Make corrections to yourself and take on the challenge again. In all this, try as much as possible to restrict yourself from seeing actual Porn; both hardcore and softcore.
Also Note; you should masturbate after reaching the target of each challenge before going on to higher number of weeks or months challenge. Be honest with it, and before one year you will get a total hang of yourself.

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by itzmarvyx(m): 12:09pm On Sep 07
Nice.... It's also good to be accountable to someone throughout the challenge. That helps me a lot.. You could even create a whatsapp group where you can encourage each other. I'm currently in one.

I'll also advise that you should pray to God for a total restoration of all you've lost through masturbation... The spiritual controls the physical whether you believe it or not. Cheers smiley
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by acevic(m): 4:42pm On Sep 07
shotizzy:
how do you know, yesterday marks one week I masturbate last, and this morning I discover I had a wet dream, the devil is a lier...

It's just your body system trying to adjust to a new way of life.

Just pray about it.

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by edoboy33(m): 10:40pm On Sep 07
this is nice l
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by shotizzy: 5:37am On Sep 08
8/14
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Porn0addict: 11:53am On Sep 08
acevic:


Few tips bro
1. Pray about it every day and night.
2. Find something you love doing apart from watching porn and try to do it more.
3. Watching porn video is the root of masturbation and no matter how hard you try to stop masturbating without putting an end to porn, you may not make any headway. avoid porn like plaque and any movie that is xrated
4. Masturbation makes you feel lesser than a man, puts you deeper in the introverted cave, strengths your shyness, erodes your confidence and self esteem, affects your memory negatively, destroys your conversation skills, alters your sexual performance, makes you look older than your age, shrinks the he'll outta you....and on and on and on......think about all the negative effects and resist the urge of watch porn first. Stopping masturbation becomes easier afterwards.
5. Start with a day target, 3 days , 7 days ,30 days. Chances are you might have a relapse in between but don't give up.
6. Rewards yourself with a nice treat after any target completion. You go see a movie, go to restaurant and have a good treat.
7. Make having a relationship a priority. Start talking to people more than you ever did. Your skill may have become rusty but keep trying.
8. Use rubber band reminder caution. Put a rubber band on your wrist. Anytime you feel like watching porn, masturbating. ...just give yourself a hot snap and smile.
9. Christian audio books and messages will help too and try to read books about that interests you.
10. Pray more about it.
11. See the act as more of a betrayal to yourself.
12. Don't judge yourself or curse yourself thinking it will make you stop. Won't work. Instead see yourself as a better person when not indulging in the act.
13. I bet you agree with me that you are a happier and more productive person when you go 3 days without it.

Nb. You might start experiencing wet dreams few days or weeks after withdrawing from masturbating. No worries. Pray about it every TIME. It will just pass and you won't even notice.

You can pm me.

Thanks Bro. I really appreciate.
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Porn0addict: 11:54am On Sep 08
2/7 for me.

So happy. It's been ages since I went 2 full days without fapping. Glory to God!

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by paulbets: 12:49pm On Sep 08
Porn0addict:
2/7 for me.

So happy. It's been ages since I went 2 full days without fapping. Glory to God!
Congratulations bro..
You are making a huge progress
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Naaseer01(m): 3:30pm On Sep 08
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by antiFapping: 4:09pm On Sep 08
I am fully in... 9/14

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Bamidele539: 5:27pm On Sep 08
Guys are the only ones going tru trauma, am sure the girls are not involved, or are they??
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Bamidele539: 5:44pm On Sep 08
Ginaz:
I'm a girl and very honest and straightforward...so I'm gon' be.

Seriously I wonder what the excitement about porn. Then I was a teen (very curious one at that) I used to watch porn with my cousin, my dad carelessly left his piles of porn it was a free show for us. Even my mom too. I think they were just grossly neglectful.

I would take, hide and watch till morning. It never had any effects on me. In fact as the years run by I don't get stimulated by porns at all. I can't even remember the last time I watched a porn. Since 4 years, it was last year and this year I watched (since April) . ( I was going through some emotional stuff and needed the distraction)

I find it hard to think someone would get so addicted to masturbation that they can't stop. I won't lie, I used to self-service but I can go a whole year without masturbating. What's it dudes?

You guys need to chill, what thy fuccck! You gonna masturbate yourselves to death. It's a thing of the MIND. LEARN TO CONTROL IT. If you can have the power over your mind then you will lose the addiction.

Don't be a slave to your additions, you are the one with the mind, body. Don't let the mind be controlling you instead you ought to be the one to control it.

I could have been a very bad girl at a tender age. There were very bad friends around me( all pregnant before we finished our SS3 exams. My mom and dad were not diligent embarassed .take a look at what they left carelessly (hard core porns that would make an angel turn devil in less than a minute) but I controlled them through my mind in such an extent they never left any effects on me.

Everything starts with the mind, good or bad. Anybody can change but they need to decide if they wanna change at all. I wish you guys wellness and progress in overcoming this "addiction "

Sorry for my lengthy write ups cheesy


you made your point dear!

Its obvious that hormones found in girls is totally different from that of the guys....

It all boils down to the fact that SELF-DISCIPLINE matters alot!

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by ezzo09(m): 7:48pm On Sep 08
0/7
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Geosystem(m): 8:53pm On Sep 08
the most i have gone is 4months. now am 12/14. I actually started before the birth of this thread. so am officially joining the Family. antiflapping good job bro. I actually want to go for more than 6 months and beyond that's my target.
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by antiFapping: 1:34am On Sep 09
Geosystem:
the most i have gone is 4months. now am 12/14. I actually started before the birth of this thread. so am officially joining the Family. antiflapping good job bro. I actually want to go for more than 6 months and beyond that's my target.
Welcome to the community bro, let's kick this poo out together

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by shotizzy: 7:55am On Sep 09
9/14

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