BreiAna:

Everything you guys are saying i do believe. But he's the first Nigerian guy I've been involved with. We've been together for 8 yrs. I always thought immigration takes DNA test before the kids come to the US. Pls don't think I'm a dumb American no that's not the case. I just wanted to know if I'm being paranoid. I've been checking things out i just need proof

chaircover:

Why must we always think the worse when faced with an uncommon situation, especially in a situation like this where we have been given minimal information

My instinct tells me that Yes the girl maybe the mans daughter and no the man may not be sleeping with his daughter.

From what I've read here it may jolly well be that the poster has misunderstood or misinterpreted things.

Folks I am not saying the poster is not telling the truth or the husband isnt indeed playing a fast one. I am just saying we should look at the wider picture and be 100% sure before writing the man off completely.

Before I go any further I want to ask the poster the following;

How old is the "daughter"

How often did "dad" see the daughter before she came over to the USA

What kind of relationship did the "father" have with his daughter and other children

Where is this girls mother? Is your husband in touch with the mother

Did you husband use to go the mosque to pray early in the morning before his "daughter" came into town

When you say she is nasty to her brother, I am assuming that this is a child that you and your husband have together?

Let be realistic;  If they were indeed having an affair, I would thought that they will do much better at hiding it away. The bathroom  shower story doesn't quite sit right with me.

If indeed this girl is his daughter, the husband no doubt made a big blunder by bringing in a teenage girl into the home without throuroughy thinking about the issues that this will bring.

Bringing in a teenage child into an already stable relationship will no doubt upset the dynamics of the home and there will almost always be resentment between the daughter and the wife until boundaries are drawn and the relationships built.

As someone suggested, you can install a camera; I sincerely pray that you dont find what you are suggesting.

sorry ive written an essay but at least this woman is accusing her husbabd of adultry and at worse incest.

chaircover:

Why must we always think the worse when faced with an uncommon situation, especially in a situation like this where we have been given minimal information

My instinct tells me that Yes the girl maybe the mans daughter and no the man may not be sleeping with his daughter.

From what I've read here it may jolly well be that the poster has misunderstood or misinterpreted things.

Folks I am not saying the poster is not telling the truth or the husband isnt indeed playing a fast one. I am just saying we should look at the wider picture and be 100% sure before writing the man off completely.

Before I go any further I want to ask the poster the following;

How old is the "daughter"

How often did "dad" see the daughter before she came over to the USA

What kind of relationship did the "father" have with his daughter and other children

Where is this girls mother? Is your husband in touch with the mother

Did you husband use to go the mosque to pray early in the morning before his "daughter" came into town

When you say she is nasty to her brother, I am assuming that this is a child that you and your husband have together?

Let be realistic;  If they were indeed having an affair, I would thought that they will do much better at hiding it away. The bathroom  shower story doesn't quite sit right with me.

If indeed this girl is his daughter, the husband no doubt made a big blunder by bringing in a teenage girl into the home without throuroughy thinking about the issues that this will bring.

Bringing in a teenage child into an already stable relationship will no doubt upset the dynamics of the home and there will almost always be resentment between the daughter and the wife until boundaries are drawn and the relationships built.

As someone suggested, you can install a camera; I sincerely pray that you dont find what you are suggesting.

sorry ive written an essay but at least this woman is accusing her husbabd of adultry and at worse incest.

hauler:

@ Chaircover,
You're the only rational person that's posted on this thread so far. Everybody else seems to be facing the same direction. I still think there's more to this than meets the eye, and the poster has so far managed to tell us whats going on in her mind, i'm sure there are some other things she sees that prove her wrong, but she hasn't stated them. If she was 100% sure about this i doubt if she would be asking for advice on this forum.
Anyway, based on what she has typed so far i can understand why everyone has jumped to the same conclusion.

MsTom:

I dont blame anyone for jumping to the same conclusion. It is because it happens in America. Nigerians and funny people from other countries do crazy stuffs to get a visa or citizenship. I have heard of men who do such to their wives. One is a Nigerian man who is married to this time around, another Nigerian woman who had 3 kids for him. Only for him to bring another woman who had a kid into his basement in the guise that she was evicted from her house and she was a related to him. It was about a year later that the first wife got to find out that the woman in the basement was his second wife from nigeria (his village) and her kid was his. This happened in maryland state. It happens. Some men still have their wives in Nigeria. Some other "first wives" are aware that their man has a second wife and they actually live in the same apartment. He man owes his wife to tell her if he wants to have a second wife. That way, she can be ready to face whatever. Nigerians and some other groups practise polygamy here. It is estimated that about 50,000 people do. My problem is the deceipt. If you must do it, tell your present woman so that she can decide on the next move.

BreiAna:

I ask this ? because I'm married to a Nigerian man whom i love dearly. But I'm having trouble with his teenage daughter. They spend time in her room with the door closed and locked plus they often leave at all times of the night and day without informing me. One day the left at 4:45 am and came back around 7 am in time for to go to school. When i do inquire about their whereabouts he states we went to the Mosque. (He's Muslim). He washes her clothes, she walks around in front of him wearing only a towel, he goes inside the bathroom sometimes when she's in the shower, and often waits on her inside the room when she gets out the shower and he shops for her on a regular basis. Don't get me wrong i know father's loves their daughters but this relationship is very strange and besides she just arrived in the U.S. I've tried everything i can to make her like me but nothing works. She does evil things behind his back to me and her brother and when i tell him he says im just being jealous. Pls help, do you think I'm being paranoid?

Sis, are you SURE this is his daughter?! I mean it is possible that you are reading into things wrong however it would also be possible (and sickening) that a man can fall inlove with his daughter. Well unfortunately such a thing has happened in my house hold growing up . I will add that some things are worth sticking to the side lines and observing (you've got enough evidence i am sure) and others need to be recktified/confronted asap.

He washes her clothes, she walks around in front of him wearing only a towel, he goes inside the bathroom sometimes when she's in the shower, and often waits on her inside the room when she gets out the shower

blandyne:



Both ways, i really don't see what's the problem. I live with my parents and my sisters. They all have seen me unclothed.

i even heard that the devil is creating a brand new hell just for nigerians, he said the rate at which we are selling pure water in hell is getting out of hand  Grin Grin Grin

lwkmd!  


@ OP, you're in a really dicey situation at the moment. maybe, just maybe you're reading too much meaning to their relationship as you're from two totally different cultures.

or maybe he's a pedo or the grand-dad of them all: he's brought his wife or girlfriend from naija.  if it's the last one, then agbada don hook wire true true be dat o!

like most have suggested, install a well-hidden cam. . .what a minute, u should know this already being an american!

hmm, why do i have a feeling you've just cooked this up. . .

Peace!

ayettymama:

^^its prob against thier religion to shout!

*runs away*