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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Alech101(m): 1:55pm On Sep 14
yes i can...am even involved with one right now and we are happy together

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Emasel(m): 1:56pm On Sep 14
For me it's No. There are too many fresh girls to pick from.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Natureinspred: 2:01pm On Sep 14
for me sure i will. i have a friend who got pregnant when she was in secondary school and had a son for her boyfriend then. now the child is 7 years old and she is getting married next year to another man who loves her and the baby but the baby is definitely not going to leave with them but with his grandparents so thats cool
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by claremont(m): 2:01pm On Sep 14
No, there are many single ladies around with no extra baggage. There is a reason why the father of the child didn't marry the lady, I don't want to be the one to find out what the reason was. grin

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Justeenaleo(f): 2:04pm On Sep 14
There's nothing wrong with it. If I like you then I will like whatever you come with as long as you said it upfront.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by mistel: 2:05pm On Sep 14
The question is hard for singles to answer as i see they rush to say "YES."
As a married dude i wil advice guys "DO NOT EVEN TRY IT!"
Two things matters, 1. what kind of a child is d child? 2.wat kind of woman is ur wife? U wil never knw til u get married, u wil regret it later in marriage...

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Tamarapetty(f): 2:07pm On Sep 14

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by 989900: 2:07pm On Sep 14
If as a lady you say no you won't, and you end up marrying some other guy and this guy ends up giving another girl 'belle', what would you do?

We've seen a lot in this life.
cheesy
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by 989900: 2:11pm On Sep 14
mistel:
The question is hard for singles to answer as i see they rush to say "YES."
As a married dude i wil advice guys "DO NOT EVEN TRY IT!"
Two things matters, 1. what kind of a child is d child? 2.wat kind of woman is ur wife? U wil never knw til u get married, u wil regret it later in marriage...

Save this your post in your memory, and replay it in 20 years from now, I'm sure you will be far blessed with more experience of life then to realize life ain't math.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Maxi112: 2:13pm On Sep 14
Massive yes for me, I don't care! I can marry a single mom regardless.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by mistel: 2:13pm On Sep 14
Justeenaleo:
There's nothing wrong with it. If I like you then I will like whatever you come with as long as you said it upfront.

bro its not about saying it upfront or not. Wil u leave for work at 7am, return 8pm and the 15yrs old SS2 son is stil wit ur wife in d bedroom & u hv to go to parlour to sit, bath later and hang around outside til d over-pampered bastard is evicted from d room?
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by lilnick(m): 2:13pm On Sep 14
Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes y
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Agbgift(f): 2:14pm On Sep 14
Yes o.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by tosyne2much(m): 2:14pm On Sep 14
Papiikush:


Love is never enough to sustain marriage.


No, it strengthens love.

It's just that Sometimes people wonder to themselves during misunderstanding "why did I even marry this guy/babe in the first place" (reason I mentioned marriage being an eye opener).

It reveals your partner's true identity. Now you've got to deal with that for the rest of your life.

That's very the bro and that's why you need to trash out any habit you cannot condone while in relationship, otherwise, you will continue to live with it in marriage
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by tosyne2much(m): 2:16pm On Sep 14
As for me, I don't think I can

You don't put your head into something you will not be comfortable with just because you want to show that you're a real man

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by VeeBuzzer(f): 2:18pm On Sep 14
bluetrails7:



May your wisdom continue to grow, what deep yet easily expressed views


I like this part, It just boils down to tolerance and compromise ", the two pillars of sustainable and long term relationships, tolerance and compromise...

smiley thanks.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by RaeMystix(f): 2:18pm On Sep 14
If he is a widower, then yes....Can't stand baby mama drama.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Orgym: 2:19pm On Sep 14
It is not a crime to have kids before marriage. It is an accident of nature. If there is love, I can marry her depending on the circumstance surrounding it.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Papiikush: 2:19pm On Sep 14
tosyne2much:
That's very the bro and that's why you need to trash out any habit you cannot condone while in relationship, otherwise, you will continue to live with it in marriage

Women have a saying

"You will have to love me just the way I am" or "You met me this way, I can't change my lifestyle just to please a guy".

Then they call men trash when such guy decides to walk away.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by mistel: 2:19pm On Sep 14
989900:


Save this your post in your memory, and replay it in 20 years from now, I'm sure you will be far blessed with more experience of life then to realize life ain't math.
thanks, have u ever corrected a 14yr old child who went to toilet wit d bowl u use for making eba to wash bum-bum and wat ur wife can say is "ehen! Yes! I know u dont love my child" ?

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Coldfeets: 2:23pm On Sep 14
Why not?
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by mistel: 2:24pm On Sep 14
There is a diff btw marrying her and bring d child to marriage! For those saying yes e nor mean, i pray u last one month in marriage.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by ASERNALFOREVER: 2:24pm On Sep 14
bobolizim:
It's been long we've checked on each other so I saw her online on Facebook one day and we shared eachother's contact . On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does .

Well, I'd considered asking her out before this occurrence but this answer of hers put me off totally . Anyways, we ended up meeting and during the course of our discussion , I probed again ; at first I wasn't sure of her answer , I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry . She's not with any child but then she asked me whether I could marry a lady with a child or not ? Which I hurriedly said no .

She began to tell me reasons there's nothing bad in doing that using a story of a lady who was raped by a guy she'd never fallen in love with. It's not like she didn't have the person she's dating , it just occurred that she's forced and all. Well, she made it known to her boyfriend, her predicament;hmm, it's a cliche that ''love is blind'',her boyfriend who is madly in love promised to care of her and the baby when delivered of.

Well, i have empathy for such a person but my answer is still no. It's not like I'm selfish but I'd not train a child that'd eventually become someone else amongst ample reason.

Hence, I'd like to know whether you can marry a lady or guy with a child ?
On the condition that the other spouse is not alive
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by mistel: 2:25pm On Sep 14
Coldfeets:
Why not?
was it ok?
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by tosyne2much(m): 2:26pm On Sep 14
Papiikush:


Women have a saying

"You will have to love me just the way I am" or "You met me this way, I can't change my lifestyle just to please a guy".

Then they call men trash when such guy decides to walk away.
That's attitude is the destroyer of marriage and relationship and many ladies don't know. However, no matter how much a guy can loves a lady, such an attitude usually quench the love

Some of them are like, "that's my nature and I don't think I can change it," that's the way I've been right from my childhood and my parents know me for it", "my ex knows me for that and he's already used to my character

You will only be jumping from frying to fire if you wife such a lady with negative characters
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Coldfeets: 2:29pm On Sep 14
mistel:
was it ok?

Okay how?
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by lutek84: 2:31pm On Sep 14
yes and any lady interested, let her DM me
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Fit2Rule(m): 2:31pm On Sep 14
bobolizim:
It's been long we've checked on each other so I saw her online on Facebook one day and we shared eachother's contact . On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does .

Well, I'd considered asking her out before this occurrence but this answer of hers put me off totally . Anyways, we ended up meeting and during the course of our discussion , I probed again ; at first I wasn't sure of her answer , I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry . She's not with any child but then she asked me whether I could marry a lady with a child or not ? Which I hurriedly said no .

She began to tell me reasons there's nothing bad in doing that using a story of a lady who was raped by a guy she'd never fallen in love with. It's not like she didn't have the person she's dating , it just occurred that she's forced and all. Well, she made it known to her boyfriend, her predicament;hmm, it's a cliche that ''love is blind'',her boyfriend who is madly in love promised to care of her and the baby when delivered of.

Well, i have empathy for such a person but my answer is still no. It's not like I'm selfish but I'd not train a child that'd eventually become someone else amongst ample reason.

Hence, I'd like to know whether you can marry a lady or guy with a child ?
Yes. Yes and yes again! Infact, I'd prefer such kind of lady to the one who hasnt given birth before. At least I know she's fertile.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Papiikush: 2:32pm On Sep 14
tosyne2much:
That's attitude is the destroyer of marriage and relationship and many ladies don't know. However, no matter how much a guy can loves a lady, such an attitude usually quench the love

Some of them are like, "that's my nature and I don't think I can change it," that's the way I've been right from my childhood and my parents know me for it", "my ex knows me for that and he's already used to my character

You will only be jumping from frying to fire if you wife such a lady with negative characters

Question is; Will you let a good girl walk away due to a character that irritates?
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by menxer: 2:32pm On Sep 14
Don't marry a lady with a child If you can predict precisely what that child will become in future.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by mistel: 2:33pm On Sep 14
On a final note, start afresh if u are no baby papa wit a non-babymama or else ur kids wil learn all dirty manners from a 15yr old senior who over the years has seen his/her mum date multiple bfs, some of which press and fvck d mum in their presence.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Jilo83(m): 2:33pm On Sep 14
Is having child/children a disease or sin?

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