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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by tosyne2much(m): 2:35pm On Sep 14
Papiikush:


Question is; Will you let a good girl walk away due to a character that irritates?
That's a very complicated question

Well, I think it depends on the kind of characters sha
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Papiikush: 2:37pm On Sep 14
tosyne2much:
That's a very complicated question

Well, I think it depends on the kind of characters sha
I know the kindda character that irritates you. I know you will let her go without thinking twice. grin
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by tosyne2much(m): 2:39pm On Sep 14
Papiikush:

I know the kindda character that irritates you. I know you will let her go without thinking twice. grin
You ehn.. You know me better than I know myself cheesy

Ride on jawe cool
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by tkObserver(m): 2:39pm On Sep 14
TGoddess:
Right.



Life has no other desire but to fulfill itself. Its really no biggie once there's love and understanding. No one is a saint.... its only because a child is involved that one is able to use that as a basis. For me, one could reject such if the lady/guy had that child with someone else while both of you were still dating because faithfulness is a KEY to a lasting relationship.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by adims96: 2:40pm On Sep 14
yes I will, buh I will first check if her pussy is tight, and the boob still manageabl

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Papiikush: 2:41pm On Sep 14
tosyne2much:
You ehn.. You know me better than I know myself cheesy

Ride on jawe cool
Twale!
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Juliearth(f): 2:41pm On Sep 14
I see nothing wrong in that...thats if the child would love and respect me as his mother and if the biological mum wont interfere in anyway. If I love my man,then I should be able to love his baggages too.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Ferdyboss: 2:42pm On Sep 14
Yes oooo.... I can marry a single mom. Society is too quick to condemn single moms. There are many in this category who are good women but are stigmatized because of their past mistakes.

That makes me a dad to the baby. A dad must not be biological. The ability to show love, provide and care of a child makes you fill in the daddy role.

However, I wouldn't wish to have any issues with the biological dad to my wife's baby . Everything in Life is by understanding.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by goingape1: 2:43pm On Sep 14
bobolizim:
It's been long we've checked on each other so I saw her online on Facebook one day and we shared eachother's contact . On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does .

Well, I'd considered asking her out before this occurrence but this answer of hers put me off totally . Anyways, we ended up meeting and during the course of our discussion , I probed again ; at first I wasn't sure of her answer , I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry . She's not with any child but then she asked me whether I could marry a lady with a child or not ? Which I hurriedly said no .

She began to tell me reasons there's nothing bad in doing that using a story of a lady who was raped by a guy she'd never fallen in love with. It's not like she didn't have the person she's dating , it just occurred that she's forced and all. Well, she made it known to her boyfriend, her predicament;hmm, it's a cliche that ''love is blind'',her boyfriend who is madly in love promised to care of her and the baby when delivered of.

Well, i have empathy for such a person but my answer is still no. It's not like I'm selfish but I'd not train a child that'd eventually become someone else amongst ample reason.

Hence, I'd like to know whether you can marry a lady or guy with a child ?
try that piece of shiit thing at ya own risk! undecided


single mother are the worst set of woman being ya will ever come across!

there will love there bastard child more than you and still expect you to take care of her bastard child!

you will have that feeling that child will never be yours even if you take care of the bastard child.

blood is sticker than water: the bastard child will still find him/her real father even if you still take care of him/her.


DONT TRY THAT KIND OF SHIIT IN YOUR LIFE. THERE ARE MANY CONS THAN PRO! AND THE ONLY PRO IS JUST SEXundecided

EVEN THE SEX COMES WITH A PRICE.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Davidscott(m): 2:48pm On Sep 14
Yes, for the sake of love i will do anything
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by gentle136(m): 2:52pm On Sep 14
I will marry and even re-marry her again if I get dat strong happiness of love in d relationship.

We all have our dirty pass.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by udison(m): 2:55pm On Sep 14
Depends on hw old d child is.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by glothaddy(f): 2:56pm On Sep 14
I can. in as much as the kids r not more than 2, and I am very sure my hubby and the babymama r devoiced. YES I can

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by temmym4(m): 2:56pm On Sep 14
If i could, i would have considered being a baby Daddy by now.
i don't take what i can't give.
So it's a NO! and NEVER!!
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by pedrilo: 2:56pm On Sep 14
if u be tear rubber abeg marry tear rubber
make tokubor marry themselves
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by goingape1: 2:59pm On Sep 14
Papiikush:


Women have a saying

"You will have to love me just the way I am" or "You met me this way, I can't change my lifestyle just to please a guy".

Then they call men trash when such guy decides to walk away.
correct!

even if I married a woman and I discovered that you had a child Elsewhere. I will divorce you straight-up!
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Beedude(m): 2:59pm On Sep 14
folakemigeh:
This topic has been over flogged on this forum as if having a child is a disease.

I sure will marry a man that has a child as long as he is responsible and of a good character
U are 100% right. Character and sense of responsibility is the most important thing here. My wife had a child before I met her. She was just very mature and understanding in all areas than all the babes I met before her. I thank God for where we are today. If a lady without a child can't guarantee my happiness I will go for the one with child a thousand times if she makes me happy.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by missyadorable(f): 3:00pm On Sep 14
I cannot marry a man who already has a child
because that same man will not marry me if I already have a child
Not ready for drama
My first child must be your first child. QED

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Papiikush: 3:02pm On Sep 14
goingape1:
correct!

even if I married a woman and I discovered that you had a child Elsewhere. I will divorce you straight-up!

She shouldn't keep that secret from you.

Divorce is the only solution. Lord knows what else she might be hiding.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Oluwasaeon(m): 3:05pm On Sep 14
[quote author=Tamarapetty post=60452076][/quote]
Abi ?
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Wisebisho: 3:05pm On Sep 14
Yes, I can marry a lady with a child.. But not a lady with abortion.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by 989900: 3:07pm On Sep 14
mistel:
thanks, have u ever corrected a 14yr old child who went to toilet wit d bowl u use for making eba to wash bum-bum and wat ur wife can say is "ehen! Yes! I know u dont love my child" ?

I get your point (I've dated enough single mothers to last 3 lifetimes), but ur wife that you have all kids together with would do worse than that in some cases.
Women with attitude will always be women with attitude, regardless (I could say the same for men too).
There is no hard and fast rule about some things in life . . . . evaluation in choosing works better than stereotype.

BTW, every single case/situation has its own unique issues.
I've seen men leave their spouses they both have all their kids with pack up and leave, I've seen women do same too.

ATEOTD, life ain't math, we're all just trying to make the best out of our unique situations.

Even with your experience, there are still many single mothers out there if you absolutely have to pick one, that you will pick ahead of them single ladies without kids.

Nothing is set in stone.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by skylane(m): 3:08pm On Sep 14
I will marry her even if they are two children,love and contentment is the keyword
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Tamarapetty(f): 3:11pm On Sep 14
Oluwasaeon:
Abi ?
it depends. i prefer baby than adult
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Oluwasaeon(m): 3:14pm On Sep 14
Tamarapetty:
it depends. i prefer baby than adult
ILY
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Tamarapetty(f): 3:16pm On Sep 14
Oluwasaeon:
ILY
ILYT cheesy

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by swazpedro(m): 3:18pm On Sep 14
NO
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Chommieblaq(f): 3:18pm On Sep 14
Beedude:

U are 100% right. Character and sense of responsibility is the most important thing here. My wife had a child before I met her. She was just very mature and understanding in all areas than all the babes I met before her. I thank God for where we are today. If a lady without a child can't guarantee my happiness I will go for the one with child a thousand times if she makes me happy.

You and the lady you quoted just nailed it.
Character and sense of responsibility is the most important thing.
I have seen many single mom/dad turn out to be great wife/husband.



Don't let a good woman/man pass you by because he/she has child.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by ReneeNuttall(f): 3:20pm On Sep 14
Hell yeah!
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Chommieblaq(f): 3:21pm On Sep 14
989900:


I get your point (I've dated enough single mothers to last 3 lifetimes), but ur wife that you have all kids together with would do worse than that in some cases.
Women with attitude will always be women with attitude, regardless (I could say the same for men too).
There is no hard and fast rule about some things in life . . . . evaluation in choosing works better than stereotype.

BTW, every single case/situation has its own unique issues.
I've seen men leave their spouses they both have all their kids with pack up and leave, I've seen women do same too.

ATEOTD, life ain't math, we're all just trying to make the best out of our unique situations.

Even with your experience, there are still many single mothers out there if you absolutely have to pick one, that you will pick ahead of them single ladies without kids.

Nothing is set in stone.

You nailed it with just that sentence
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Rowj: 3:24pm On Sep 14
I don't think there is any thing wrong with that, just a individual perspective. but I can marry a lady with a kid
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by showstopperss: 3:29pm On Sep 14
[hmmmmmnnn...this part of the world makes it unacceptable or no go area to marry someone with a child,many factors could be the cause..my advice is go for what makes you happy,virginity does not makes a happy home..having a child out of wedlock does not too but attitude and character does.... e.g a lady friend of mine was a victim of circumstances,raped in a teenage days thus lost her virginity,discovered she was pregnant after abt 5 months..forced in marriage and things went berserk for her..now they are seperated for abt 8 yrs now..she is now ready to try a new relatiinship but every guy she come across flee when she told them about her past, some situations are just complex

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