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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by DPricey1(f): 3:31pm On Sep 14
This is a complicated subject.

Many teenage girls that got pregnant cos of their curiosity/naivety opts for an abortion because they feel having the child will make a man that should marry them not to

I think I can marry a man with a child
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by tobaseye: 3:32pm On Sep 14
Before now it's a no no... But now.. why not. Not all single mothers are promiscuous some, it might just be their first time of having sex and they were hooked and for morality sake, they didn't abort the baby.

Do you even know how many abortions those slay queens forming single without baby might have had before you even met them? I guess only God knows
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by baba11(m): 3:35pm On Sep 14
I can't because he will not have my time more. She would definitely be preoccupied with her child than towards me.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by DONADAMS(m): 3:36pm On Sep 14
bobolizim:
It's been long we've checked on each other so I saw her online on Facebook one day and we shared eachother's contact . On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does .

Well, I'd considered asking her out before this occurrence but this answer of hers put me off totally . Anyways, we ended up meeting and during the course of our discussion , I probed again ; at first I wasn't sure of her answer , I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry . She's not with any child but then she asked me whether I could marry a lady with a child or not ? Which I hurriedly said no .

She began to tell me reasons there's nothing bad in doing that using a story of a lady who was raped by a guy she'd never fallen in love with. It's not like she didn't have the person she's dating , it just occurred that she's forced and all. Well, she made it known to her boyfriend, her predicament;hmm, it's a cliche that ''love is blind'',her boyfriend who is madly in love promised to care of her and the baby when delivered of.

Well, i have empathy for such a person but my answer is still no. It's not like I'm selfish but I'd not train a child that'd eventually become someone else amongst ample reason.

Hence, I'd like to know whether you can marry a lady or guy with a child ?
I think I know you...are you from Edo?
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Teeboi56: 3:39pm On Sep 14
I don't thing so becos am Virgin my self
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by milky3(f): 3:39pm On Sep 14
[quote author=Keneking post=60451043] grin grin

" On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does "

- Useless inquiry shocked

"I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry ."

- Poor sentence construction and useless vocabulary..who do you want to impress , Don't mind him ,I had to open my dictionary for those meaning, he has forgotten this is naija not England

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by shaybebaby(f): 3:46pm On Sep 14
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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Peace2love: 3:50pm On Sep 14
If I love my man, why not.

There's no harm in marrying a single parent.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by milky3(f): 3:52pm On Sep 14
your sense of reasoning is superb, whats d meaning of ATEOTD pls
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by milky3(f): 3:55pm On Sep 14
989900:


I get your point (I've dated enough single mothers to last 3 lifetimes), but ur wife that you have all kids together with would do worse than that in some cases.
Women with attitude will always be women with attitude, regardless (I could say the same for men too).
There is no hard and fast rule about some things in life . . . . evaluation in choosing works better than stereotype.

BTW, every single case/situation has its own unique issues.
I've seen men leave their spouses they both have all their kids with pack up and leave, I've seen women do same too.

ATEOTD, life ain't math, we're all just trying to make the best out of our unique situations.

Even with your experience, there are still many single mothers out there if you absolutely have to pick one, that you will pick ahead of them single ladies without kids.

Nothing is set in stone.
your sense of reasoning is superb, whats d meaning of ATEOTD pls.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Priest69(m): 3:59pm On Sep 14
I've actually dated a baby mama. I loved her and her child as well, I even go out of my way to provide for her and child. The problem is, th drama was just too much, any little problem we have she will bring up the issue that it's because she has a baby for someone who doesn't want his son or brings up marriage issue of which I'm not ready as I'm still getting my feet to stand financially. I don't mind marrying a woman with a child but the drama got me thinking; what if the child never gets to like me or appreciate him, what kind of character does the biological father possess that the child might inherit, will she always defend the child if I want to scold him in future? yes, having a child isn't a disease but it's accepting responsibility of a human being.
I can still marry a baby mama only if the child is above 10yrs old at least I will be understand and predict the child's personality.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by 989900: 4:08pm On Sep 14
milky3:

your sense of reasoning is superb, whats d meaning of ATEOTD pls.

At the end of the day.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Codyt(m): 4:12pm On Sep 14
Keneking:
grin grin

" On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does "

- Useless inquiry shocked

"I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry ."

- Poor sentence construction and useless vocabulary..who do you want to impress undecided
Shut up
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Keneking: 4:14pm On Sep 14
Codyt:

Shut up


Waste of space
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by HERSLEY(f): 4:42pm On Sep 14
Gmasterp:
Depends...Its not like i'm a virgin myself,i am just smart enough to wear a rubber...
so if I give u, u ll av a rubber on angry
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Gmasterp(m): 4:59pm On Sep 14
HERSLEY:
so if I give u, u ll av a rubber on angry
sure na...altho you'd make the perfect baby mama!!!
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Orgym: 5:08pm On Sep 14
shaybebaby:
So what about me? I'm a single mum, open to a new relationship.
Who's willing to be dada to my little man?

Thank u for being confident.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by divineappo(m): 5:10pm On Sep 14
why not?
Is the child not a human being like me?
Love is all that matters jor
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by UncutSk(m): 5:13pm On Sep 14
Depending on how much she get grin
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by aahnnah(f): 5:32pm On Sep 14
wintersnow:
YES! AND LATER USE THE CHILD FOR RITUALS!


And you will be caught.. tortured to death.. eventually your soul will receive endless misery and pains in hell fire. Ritualist!!!
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by oruma19: 6:09pm On Sep 14
bobolizim:
It's been long we've checked on each other so I saw her online on Facebook one day and we shared eachother's contact . On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does .

Well, I'd considered asking her out before this occurrence but this answer of hers put me off totally . Anyways, we ended up meeting and during the course of our discussion , I probed again ; at first I wasn't sure of her answer , I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry . She's not with any child but then she asked me whether I could marry a lady with a child or not ? Which I hurriedly said no .

She began to tell me reasons there's nothing bad in doing that using a story of a lady who was raped by a guy she'd never fallen in love with. It's not like she didn't have the person she's dating , it just occurred that she's forced and all. Well, she made it known to her boyfriend, her predicament;hmm, it's a cliche that ''love is blind'',her boyfriend who is madly in love promised to care of her and the baby when delivered of.

Well, i have empathy for such a person but my answer is still no. It's not like I'm selfish but I'd not train a child that'd eventually become someone else amongst ample reason.

Hence, I'd like to know whether you can marry a lady or guy with a child ?
capital NO. If u ask those who did it they will advise u not to. The wahala involved is just too much. I know so because I have several friends who did and are regretting.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by emmafineboy(m): 7:07pm On Sep 14
Over my life body,na somy dad take marry my mum?Rubbish
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Blueberrie(f): 7:20pm On Sep 14
Honestly, I can't. Raising your own child is hard enough, imagine tryin to raise a child who isn't ur own. True, some grow up to really love their step-parent, but theyre very few..i cant risk that..and remember it's not jst about the child.. its abt the child's real parent who could still be bonded to ur hubby or wife, along with the child's entire family... its just complicated... so no for me
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Ameeria: 7:22pm On Sep 14
Why not?
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Blueberrie(f): 7:26pm On Sep 14
walera10:
Cant biliv most guys hear prefer ladies who went for abortion dan dos dat summoned d courage to face d consequence of dier action. A big yes for me..

Abortion?? why do you have to look for the worst in women? Just because she doesn't have a child, doesnt mean she aborted jeez
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Blueberrie(f): 7:27pm On Sep 14
abdulhamid0:
I would rather marry a lady with child than marry a lady who had abortion.

and what if she aborted the first one and kept the second one? :-D
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by cochtrane: 7:32pm On Sep 14
Big yes

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by juniorboy(m): 7:37pm On Sep 14
adims96:
yes I will, buh I will first check if her pussy is tight, and the boob still manageabl
Lol
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by gemale(m): 7:41pm On Sep 14
bobolizim:
It's been long we've checked on each other so I saw her online on Facebook one day and we shared eachother's contact . On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does .

Well, I'd considered asking her out before this occurrence but this answer of hers put me off totally . Anyways, we ended up meeting and during the course of our discussion , I probed again ; at first I wasn't sure of her answer , I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry . She's not with any child but then she asked me whether I could marry a lady with a child or not ? Which I hurriedly said no .

She began to tell me reasons there's nothing bad in doing that using a story of a lady who was raped by a guy she'd never fallen in love with. It's not like she didn't have the person she's dating , it just occurred that she's forced and all. Well, she made it known to her boyfriend, her predicament;hmm, it's a cliche that ''love is blind'',her boyfriend who is madly in love promised to care of her and the baby when delivered of.

Well, i have empathy for such a person but my answer is still no. It's not like I'm selfish but I'd not train a child that'd eventually become someone else amongst ample reason.

Hence, I'd like to know whether you can marry a lady or guy with a child ?
If i am able to take care of the child financially & other ways, why not? I might even go a step further & adopt the child as mine if the father is late or denied responsibility for the child if he/she is little. For me to have reached the stage of thinking about settling with the child's mom, it means i would have already had a relationship with the child & already sees him/her in my future plans. I believe it all boils down to a matter of taste & a certain degree of maturity & responsibility.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Blueberrie(f): 7:48pm On Sep 14
I know most guys will shy away from even dating a single mother. I once asked a male friend why this is so and they said..its not jst the child ur bringing into the relationship.. its the potential to lose her to her bby daddy, cuz the child connects them both.. and its bringing in her bby daddy's family, etc.
Far from that.. a good male friend of mine used to adore this girl so much.. he spoke so fondly of her, abt how pretty she is and all... the girl's parents are wealthy and she's so spoilt and basically "always has a long line of guys waiting to date her". This friend of mine comes from a humble background but is so hardworking.. he got a scholarship to study in the us. After high school, this pretty girl messed up and got pregnant..shes now a single mum of a 5yr old girl. Whats sad is how the tone of this guy changed about her. He no longer calls her pretty, he says her conversations are so boring, and he has a feeling she's trying to "get back with him". I feel sad for the girl, knowing how fond of her this friend of mine was..simply because she has a daughter
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by HERSLEY(f): 7:49pm On Sep 14
Gmasterp:
sure na...altho you'd make the perfect baby mama!!!
lol u r crazy
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Or Guy Who Already Has A Child? by Gmasterp(m): 7:59pm On Sep 14
HERSLEY:
lol u r crazy
yeah i get that alot grin!!!You lookin chic, DM'ing you.... guessin that ok!!!

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