HUSBAND NOT MASTER

A lady is in dilemma. Her husband to be is mandating that after their traditional marriage, she'll have to close down her bank account and use his own. She isn't permitted to have a personal or different account. And he's so bent on this, so much that he advises her to leave now if she won't submit all her money to him in marriage, and their marriage is supposed to be in two weeks time.

I read comments on the thread questioning those who asked her to leave, that she's not submissive. Some postulated that she should marry him first and talk it out in marriage.

This is very dicey.

There's a culture of talking about it in marriage rather than before marriage. This culture prevails in the African society. We manipulate people, especially ladies to get married by just any way. No consideration of future implications.

I am so much a fan of “talk about it all before marriage”. Discuss about everything that'd happen in marriage. This is the purpose of dating/courting. Talking. Asking questions. Interviewing your partner. All to know if their perspectives accommodate yours, because if you both have lots of contradictory opinions, polarisation will be close.

It's a pity that this lady didn't even discuss finance with her prospective husband till it popped up just few weeks to marriage. Everything is supposed to be settled before marriage is agreed on. You must be sure.

Now, I support she leaves the man. Even if it's a day to the marriage. Marriage is too serious to delve into it with uncertainty and conflict of interest.

Why should a man request his wife transfers all her money to him and closes down her account?
And subsequently in marriage, her income will be at his feet for determination of how it'll be expensed.

This is domestic tyranny. This is just a slave master not a husband.

What again is marriage?
Loving a woman and committing to her or controlling her?

I'm not against having a joint account. It's okay but consent must be mutual. Understanding must be established. Voluntarily not with coercion.

But a woman having to work for a month, or do whatever she does to earn a living, then at the end of it all, she submits her salary to you because you're her husband is a stupid thing to do.

No reasonable man does this.

One who works should enjoy and keep his/her money. What nonsense submission is that?

Many times when I read stories like this, I cringe. Honestly many men are grown up babies. They make me feel I'm ready for marriage than they are, even if they are older, and maybe financially ahead.

Women shine your eyes. You need husbands, not masters.

Solomon Buchi Bartholomew
Life Coach/Motivational Speaker

Harzard marriage in d making if consummated

God forbid... I won't even encourage my enemy s sister to go on to marry such a fellow dude

The husband to be is a wuss.

scam alert

adontcare:
Harzard marriage in d making if consummated

take it easy with the bleaching cream, its too obvious, wear a glove next time biko

It is best to dump the man......

Hahahaha

Stewpid ole like him

I'll fling the ring at him. He's mad!

iamJ:
take it easy with the bleaching cream, its too obvious, wear a glove next time biko

Na ur body? Busy body

adontcare:
Na ur body? Busy body

na so Micheal jackson talk, u look like him so

May thunder fire the said man. He's not only domineering but also both disingenuous and opportunistic. The lady shouldn't think twice before dumping his sorry ass. Submissiveness doesn't mean slavery.

iamJ:
na so Micheal jackson talk, u look like him so

ehn, I gree. Face ur own body

slave trade loading in progress...

Dnt transfer anything


Infact don't marry again