Safiaa:
men and women are not the same. Get that into your thick skull, ode. You are marrying a woman who has more than you, financially, she’s older than you and she controls you. She has you wrapped around her finger and you’re brainwashed by the lifestyle she provides for you. Honey, your own case is a different story entirely. You need Jesus, Jehovah jireh to touch your life

Safiaa:
Don’t listen to these men above please.

If you are ready to settle down now, although I think you should wait some years then go ahead and get married. Most guys your age are not ready for any commitment, it’s rare to come by. There’s nothing wrong with dating an older man, my current is 37 and I’m 23. Good luck!

Intrepid01:


Lol...you mean your current contractual partner cos we know you're in for the benefits...innit?

ladiesreject:


Everything is not about money, true, but everything about a Nigerian girl is about money. Nigerian girls are the only set of people that will never love you because you're a human being, it's about what they get. So it's either they are loving you because of your money (most times) or they are loving you cos of your academic qualifications. SMH for 9ja girls

SoapQueen:



I wonder why you would say same thing. I fell in love with a guy recently. I loved him truly. The God I serve knows I didn't love him because of his money. I may not have much neither can I buy myself the Moon on a stick but I am thankful. I hustle very, very well.

Now, I noticed this guy has no respect for me whatsoever. He has so much pride in him. He called me a "chicken" just because I told him I was worried about him. I told myself that I was going to end everything because I couldn't see the reason why he would disrespect me.

This guy will go somewhere tomorrow and start ranting about Nigerian girls when he knows deep down that he messed up.

Long story short, there are exceptions to every rule. Thank you.

ladiesreject:


Hahaha .
The part where you said he called you a "chicken" really got me laughing.

But thank God for your type, hope to meet someone like you soon.

Cos 9ja girls mata tire me

B

SoapQueen:



Oga, na so the thing tire me that day. I felt so so ashamed of myself. It is well though.

Rukkydelta:

A 19years old guy can pregnant a Lady .But seriously op how do you relate with him as a lover? cos I personally see anyone older than me with 10years and above as a uncle.
Hope you are not in love with the money though, everybody is different and I guess you ain't comfortable with the age difference like you were you couldn't have asked this question. I will advise you to do what's on your mind and sincerely check yourself well if this man goes broke with nothing to fall back on financially will you still like him and be attracted to him?
And please if you decided to go ahead with the marriage plans get something doing so that you won't be find in a situation were you will be treated less a human cos you are totally dependent on someone. People do change

Safiaa:
I’m in it for all the reasons you can think of

Intrepid01:


Lol...you and I know you're in it for the material gains, just ensure you're reciprocating the material gesture with your punany...well, you know that already, afteral that's all you've got to offer in the commensalistic association...

lenghtinny:



You are the one that needs Jesus because your hypocrisy stinks to high heaven.
Your fellow comrade ( NwanyiAwkaetiti) said love conquers all but if the genders are switched now ( a 21 year old boy dating a 40 year old woman), it's a sugar mama relationship.

You are acting as if you know all about prechbills and his fiance. The fiance is not a zombie, what makes you think she doesn't know what she wants for herself.

If your society encourages women marrying their ancestors, it doesn't make it a must for everyone. It's different strokes for different folks.

Men and women are not the same but they are all humans and love doesn't discriminate.

SoapQueen:



Oghenerukevwe, shocking thing is that I like guys that are a bit older than me. Say 8-12 years gap. It's good. The good ones pet their women ( I don't mean in monetary terms). Like, you can behave like a baby and feel safe in his arms.

predmine20:
I am 21 years old and I am in a relationship with a 40 years old man.
He says he is ready to settle down any moment from now.

I am happy with that because we love each other.
Do you think the age difference is too much?

Will it affect me or my partner?

Jamie90:



Babes see, I judge from what I have seen so far around me.

Most older men tend not to acknowledge their wife's advice. They see it as chidish and therefore, shouldn't be considered.

At 21, I am sure she is still very much dependent on her parents for all her needs. If she were to get married now, she would be immediately welcomed to the bandwagon of wailers who bemoan about how they are been treated like trash by their husbands.

My advice is this: get married to someone whom
Literally you can sit down and talk some sense into, and not someone who probably still sees you as a child.

I know you are in the same kind of situation, but yours is not as as severe hers

Jamie90:
What did a man of 40 see in a girl of 21 years old.

LadyAimy:
You will regret marrying him.

TheCabal:



Zahra Buhari married @ 21 and her husband was in his mid thirties.
She is now pregnant @ 22; not only that she is well educated and from a respectable family.

Are you going to marry this girl when she is 29 and counting, after your uncles and security guards have signed her vj?
Wont you be among the men, ridiculing her and calling her desperate?
Why do Nigerians enjoying destroying?

sassysure:
I will advice you to discover yourself first before you go into marriage.

Rukkydelta:

A 19years old guy can pregnant a Lady .But seriously op how do you relate with him as a lover? cos I personally see anyone older than me with 10years and above as a uncle.

TheCabal:


But you can service him for an iphone.

... leaders of tommorow

predmine20:
I am 21 years old and I am in a relationship with a 40 years old man.
He says he is ready to settle down any moment from now.

I am happy with that because we love each other.
Do you think the age difference is too much?

Will it affect me or my partner?