Sarang:
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Women are just too nice.. the only quote that actually sounds respectful. Thank you

You're welcome.

has she legally divorce the man? where are the four kids going to be when u marry her? if you ain't selfish and you truly love her, you should consider the kids too while thinking about love



my brother be careful before them go put magun for the lady body or else you're a goner oo

bobolizim:
he started beating her when he found out about her new low ordeals

So in your little mind, it's justified.

Jogunomi1:
The situation that led to her having four kids before her marriage crashed was beyond control. There are also solid reasons why the marriage will never work again. She's madly in love with me. I'm older than her.

As it stands today, if she doesn't feel me in a day, she feels suicidal. I'm the reason why the marriage failed because it started in high school but I didn't woo her.
Do you think we should let it lead to marriage?

Love with your brain, not your heart........

chocorex:


I don't think so, if the man was a bully and a monster like you said, he'd have killed the woman for having an affair and for the op he would have killed him too. the man isn't here to defend himself.

So it's until he kills the woman that you'll know he's a monster.

Where are all these idiots springing up from?

i dont even understand what it means to be in love with someone, for your information i used my left hand to type this

makydebbie:
Because I don't want to break your heart like that.

I understand but just one tiny bit will be okay, even if it's just two.

Khiaa, for your own piece of mind, ignore these people.

Men that are justifying rape and domestic violence. God save us.

My dear is up to u. Is ur life . I know u love her and she loves u too. I will advice u to marry her .marry her ! yes. Don't spend ur whole life and her life ng unhappy. I am telling u out of experience. I didn't marry my high school sweet heart and till today after so many kids and marriage l am still waiting for him to come to heal me which will never happen.Some people missed that one in life when they where young and can't find replacement till today. I tell u u owe her and she owe u . Is a pity the marriage scattered then what are u waiting for. I know our culture will say this or that but my dear marry her and be happy. Don't do what u will regret. As u see her now she can never be happy with any one. Goggle lost and found lovers by Nancy. But u guys have battles to look forward to to fight. But no matter the battle go and make agreement with her to love her kids. Even if u marry someone else u will still be having affair with her. Who is deceiving who. Abeg go and wed that babe and live happily ever after. A word is enough for a wise. People will curse u but some situations is only u can solve it.

Twoclans:


I understand but just one tiny bit will be okay, even if it's just two.

It's not a promise. The person voting for me is in Nigeria.

Jogunomi1:
The situation that led to her having four kids before her marriage crashed was beyond control. There are also solid reasons why the marriage will never work again. She's madly in love with me. I'm older than her.

As it stands today, if she doesn't feel me in a day, she feels suicidal. I'm the reason why the marriage failed because it started in high school but I didn't woo her.
Do you think we should let it lead to marriage?

Just as you lead to somebody else's marriage to crash, so u think some other man will not crash you and her and take her from you?

Jogunomi1:
The situation that led to her having four kids before her marriage crashed was beyond control. There are also solid reasons why the marriage will never work again. She's madly in love with me. I'm older than her.

As it stands today, if she doesn't feel me in a day, she feels suicidal. I'm the reason why the marriage failed because it started in high school but I didn't woo her.
Do you think we should let it lead to marriage?

The issue is screwed. Most guys have same challenge like this in our societies, but when such occurs, make effort to let her marriage be, but now her initial marriage is crashed, you think of marrying her legally? Well before that, let her legally dissolved her marriage then you may both follow your heart desires. To overcome temptation it has to be cut off from its roots, you should have killed that emotions from the beginning after ... Well in life, we are meant to act scripts, I think this part of yours. Try to seek more advice before you come to conclusion. But remember, whatever advice you get, you alone still have the final decision. Be sure not to taka the path that will damage both you and the girl.
Take care. I wish you well.

makydebbie:
So in your little mind, it's justified.

its not justified. Domestic violence, women ain't animals but then, what's she looking for after four kids?

bobolizim:
its not justified. Domestic violence, women ain't animals but then, what's she looking for after four kids?

It's still not justified.
Ask the op. After all, she didn't marry in love. The worst thing that could happen to a rape victim is marrying her rapist. I'll rather die.

ndindiatu:
My dear is up to u. Is ur life . I know u love her and she loves u too. I will advice u to marry her .marry her ! yes. Don't spend ur whole life and her life ng unhappy. I am telling u out of experience. I didn't marry my high school sweet heart and till today after so many kids and marriage l am still waiting for him to come to heal me which will never happen.Some people missed that one in life when they where young and can't find replacement till today. I tell u u owe her and she owe u . Is a pity the marriage scattered then what are u waiting for. I know our culture will say this or that but my dear marry her and be happy. Don't do what u will regret. As u see her now she can never be happy with any one. Goggle lost and found lovers by Nancy. But u guys have battles to look forward to to fight. But no matter the battle go and make agreement with her to love her kids. Even if u marry someone else u will still be having affair with her. Who is deceiving who. Abeg go and wed that babe and live happily ever after. A word is enough for a wise. People will curse u but some situations is only u can solve it.

smiles, I can say you've used your husband. Love is not enough. Even though it's important. Why didn't you think of your teen boyfriend before getting married to your husband ? And you're here advising someone to heal another person's shit.
You shouldn't have married in the first instance. You ought to have waited till the last day for your high school love. It's pathetic and saddening that people can't grow into love. Carried by youthful exuberance you think you're teen forever and he is as you were then. The way adult love is quite different from how teens do,the differing factor is experience.

khiaa:


There wasn't a home, her parents forced her to marry a rapist for God sake. What the hell is wrong with you people.

The issue of her being raped in the past ain't the subject matter here. Rape is a crime and the other man restituted by marrying her so the OP bringing that up here is just to justify his destroying her marriage.

In your sincerest of hearts, would you advise your brother, uncle or male cousin to go ahead & be involved with a married woman & mother of 4? Let's be rational.

Like someone said earlier, OP should come & give the full gist after introducing her to his family

ndindiatu:
My dear is up to u. Is ur life . I know u love her and she loves u too. I will advice u to marry her .marry her ! yes. Don't spend ur whole life and her life ng unhappy. I am telling u out of experience. I didn't marry my high school sweet heart and till today after so many kids and marriage l am still waiting for him to come to heal me which will never happen.Some people missed that one in life when they where young and can't find replacement till today. I tell u u owe her and she owe u . Is a pity the marriage scattered then what are u waiting for. I know our culture will say this or that but my dear marry her and be happy. Don't do what u will regret. As u see her now she can never be happy with any one. Goggle lost and found lovers by Nancy. But u guys have battles to look forward to to fight. But no matter the battle go and make agreement with her to love her kids. Even if u marry someone else u will still be having affair with her. Who is deceiving who. Abeg go and wed that babe and live happily ever after. A word is enough for a wise. People will curse u but some situations is only u can solve it.

Ummm...

Jogunomi1:
The situation that led to her having four kids before her marriage crashed was beyond control. There are also solid reasons why the marriage will never work again. She's madly in love with me. I'm older than her.

As it stands today, if she doesn't feel me in a day, she feels suicidal. I'm the reason why the marriage failed because it started in high school but I didn't woo her.
Do you think we should let it lead to marriage?

Ok.

I would have thought it very incredible that someone would wilfully walk into a mine like you are about to. But, having not too long ago walked from such entanglement with its very toxic complications and with my elder brother saddlled with such cross, I am inclined to advice you.

Pls flee from all appearance of evil, including adopting and be a 'father' to four kids that ain't yours. If you already have yours prior to this, you may very soon have to deal with a family crisis and its attendant effects that would have been easily avoided.

Love would not be sufficient to help you on the long run. However, I have a very distasteful comment about her extreme show of love now that she's divorced: it's a bait!

Asowari:
well wat did she do that makes him to beat her?

No matter what she did. He's a monster and I feel sorry for the lady.

makydebbie:
So it's until he kills the woman that you'll know he's a monster.

Where are all these idiots springing up from?

it's clear you're the one who is an idiot, if presumly the man was beating the lady, it's only fair for her to seek a divorce and not cheat while been married. I ParAay your wife bleeps your next gate barchalor all because you beat her,AMEN.

note: there is no evidence the man beats this woman.

oh you're a girl
I hope your mom fuc.s the aboki selling suya down the street because your father beats her instead of filing divorce and leaving the marriage. taste the medicine you re supporting.

Earthbound:


I knew it! Iyawo o ni iyawo ni o ma n dun mo yin.
I know your type. Home breaker!!!

I can't laugh oo!

makydebbie:
It's still not justified.
Ask the op. After all, she didn't marry in love. The worst thing that could happen to a rape victim is marrying her rapist. I'll rather die.

who forced her to stay with him? She could have been single after the first pregnancy.Moreover, I can't be so gullible and credible to believe stories like this easily. Girls are the one that'd agree to have sex with and still say it's rapping. That's how my ex lied to me that she was raped by her first lover. Most girls are liers, just to gain the love birthed from empathy of the other.

Better run for your life and stop playing God in her life..if you marry her out of pity you may never come out of pity..don't even play with fire ,run and let her fix her life..things have really gone bad in her life already and she really need time to get herself healed..if you don't allow her to be she will fall into another error with you and I doubt if your family will ever allow her to stay in peace with you..except you aren't from Africa

bobolizim:
who forced her to stay with him? She could have been single after the first pregnancy.Moreover, I can't be so gullible and credible to believe stories like this easily. Girls are the one that'd agree to have sex with and still say it's rapping. That's how my ex lied to me that she was raped by her first lover. Most girls are liers, just to gain the love birthed from empathy of the other.

you're correct, almost all the girls I've dated told. me they were raped and that's how they got disvirgined.i used to pity them till I got to know it's a scam.

khiaa:


He's already beating her daily so how would you call that a marriage? The guy was a monster from the start and so are the girls parents.

When we met and I understood that this would cause a big problem for her, I severed every contact with her. That was in 2014. We met this year again, and she's divorced.

chocorex:


it's clear you're the one who is an idiot, if presumly the man was beating the lady, it's only fair for her to seek a divorce and not cheat while been married. I ParAay your wife bleeps your next gate barchalor all because you beat her,Amen.

note: there is no evidence the man beats this woman.
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Okay keep praying for my future wife.



You're just unbelievable. You're saying the man is not a monster because he has not killed the lady in question and her supposed lover. So he should keep beating her as long as she's still alive, he's not a monster.


*Spits on your bald head*


The man was a monster from day one who raped the girl and still married her. What greater punishment do you give a rape victim than allowing her marry her rapist?
I don't blame you involving my parents, at least I was brought up well unlike you, product of a failed marriage maybe.

Jogunomi1:


I'm the reason. We met in high school but I didn't woo her. She was a virgin. The man raped her and was surprised dt she was a virgin. The rape led to pregnancy and parents sent her to the man. The man then truly fell in love. But when we met again, everything covering her eyes disappeared. The man found out from our chats and beating to stupor on daily basis began.

na so ur own eyes go clear bro..just one day

bobolizim:
who forced her to stay with him? She could have been single after the first pregnancy.Moreover, I can't be so gullible and credible to believe stories like this easily. Girls are the one that'd agree to have sex with and still say it's rapping. That's how my ex lied to me that she was raped by her first lover. Most girls are liers, just to gain the love birthed from empathy of the other.

Okay, I'm not arguing with you bye.

Asowari:
well wat did she do that makes him to beat her?

In the chat, she kept saying she wouldn't stop loving me. And told me how she became the man's wife. Sensing the problem will be more felt by her children, I blocked her from all forms of contact. I even stopped returning to my hometown(city) where she lives when I was billed to start a work there so dt we won't meet again. That was in 2014. She divorced him in 2016 and we met again last month.

makydebbie:
Okay keep praying for my future wife.
Cc ibkayee


You're just unbelievable. You're saying the man is not a monster because he has not killed the lady in question and her supposed lover. So he should keep beating her as long as she's still alive, he's not a monster.


*Spits on your bald head*


The man was a monster from day one who raped the girl and still married her. What greater punishment do you give a rape victim than allowing her marry her rapist?
I don't blame you involving my parents, at least I was brought up well unlike you, product of a failed marriage maybe.

sorry for including your parents, but you called me an idiot, I've never engaged in a cyber war with anyone and I don't intend to do that. so I'm sorry if I pissed you. but you have to understand that I have a say form my perspective and you don't have to tagged me an idiot for that. the woman might have lied to op that she was raped and abused just to be pitied? do you. support a married woman sleeping with another man. marriage rules says for better / worse.

Jogunomi1:
The situation that led to her having four kids before her marriage crashed was beyond control. There are also solid reasons why the marriage will never work again. She's madly in love with me. I'm older than her.

As it stands today, if she doesn't feel me in a day, she feels suicidal. I'm the reason why the marriage failed because it started in high school but I didn't woo her.
Do you think we should let it lead to marriage?

What happened to the Muslim girl that you were in love with?