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Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by laudate: 3:49am On Apr 25, 2018 |
DopeAngel: There is something you can do. You can pray and fast to God, that all the nonsensical, myopic so-called 'love' that is blinding their eyes, should scatter so they can receive sense. Pray until something happens (PUSH)! Love may be blind, but marriage is an eye-opener! |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by laudate: 3:52am On Apr 25, 2018 |
pomide:Will you give them the millions they need, to take advantage of that technology? Talk, nah! 1 Like |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by laudate: 3:59am On Apr 25, 2018 |
OkoYibo: codedcliq: OkoYibo:Do you think everyone's pockets are the same? Is it everyone that spends 5 million on a wedding? Don't believe all the hype you read in the society pages of several newspapers or online publications. A lot of people are still getting married for far less amounts, in Nigeria. Go to the same LUTH you mentioned earlier, and see how patients die like flies due to lack of adequate financial resources to buy medication, and undergo treatment that is critical to their healthcare. I have seen a widow lose her 3 week old baby before, due to lack of funds to buy drugs, inside that same LUTH ward. Are you the one going to stabilise the OP's brother financially? What if he gets married and they are not financially stable enough to do PGD, CVS and IVF? Even IVF has its own failure rate too, depending on age and other factors! I know women who did IVF 5 times, and yet - no pregnancy. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Alal(m): 4:03am On Apr 25, 2018 |
Scientifically, it isn't advisable but luck might come in. Let me give you 2 issues; 1)have seen a couple that are both AS, we warned them in fact the wife was my distant cousin, they got married via love,both inseparable. They had 4 kids and all died because they were all SS. 2) Have also seen another situation whereby a couple both AS had 6 kids,in fact the 5th is my mate, they ALL SURVIVED,all are AS. So what science will give is AVERAGE STATISTICAL DATA. But the risk is not worth taking because of love. |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by laudate: 4:11am On Apr 25, 2018 |
bong4: Thank you, o jare! Do you know how many women go through multiple IVF cycles and are unable to still get pregnant, or carry a pregnancy to full term? =N=3 million to =N=6 million for IVF, na beans? And the chances of getting successful IVF pregnancies, diminishes with age! juola: Are you the one going to give them money to save up, for the IVF? Or will you help them pay for the procedure? Just asking, o! IVF is not as simple as doing root canal or cesarean section, hope you know?! 1 Like |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by ice4u999(m): 4:12am On Apr 25, 2018 |
DopeAngel:There are ways of suppressing the S gene medically while the baby is still in the womb. Not sure if they do this in Nigeria but can be done overseas but your brother will to spend some good cash o. |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by laudate: 4:14am On Apr 25, 2018 |
1Sharon: Will amniocentesis prevent a woman from getting pregnant with an SS child? And after doing the test, she discovers the foetus is SS, how many times will she carry out an abortion, each time she gets pregnant and the results of such tests are not favourable? 1 Like |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by laudate: 4:17am On Apr 25, 2018 |
codedcliq: You are much smarter than this, nah! Not everyone can have an expensive wedding. Some people do a low-key traditional wedding, and head for the registry. Total cost would still be like 200k, or less if conducted outside Lagos! |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Charles478: 4:17am On Apr 25, 2018 |
andergirl:And you think God will answer the prayer. |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by steveDpro: 4:21am On Apr 25, 2018 |
Dangerous move |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by laudate: 4:29am On Apr 25, 2018 |
dayooye: I always tell people - if you carry an AS genotype, please be fvcking upfront about it, right from your very first date! Don't even postpone a discussion concerning this very sensitive issue. I mean what were you doing for 3 good years, that you did not discuss your genotype all through that period you were dating? Or didn't both of you know about it? As for AS+AS couples getting married, the only way it would not end in doom, is if the couple has lots of money to take advantage of the medical procedures like PGD, CVS & IVF, if they want to have kids. If they do not have the funds, they shouldn't even dream of getting married, until they do! |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by cyberguy72(m): 4:49am On Apr 25, 2018 |
DopeAngel:Just let him understand the financial implications of him having 2 SS children. |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by idNG: 4:52am On Apr 25, 2018 |
200k sir will tell you if the feotus is ss or not. A d and c will follow suit with undesirable result. laudate: |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by laudate: 4:58am On Apr 25, 2018 |
idNG: And how many times will this process be repeated, whenever the lady gets pregnant? Are you aware that she might have to undergo a D&C each time she falls pregnant, and the foetus is an SS? So if she conceives 4 times, and the foetus is an SS, that is 4 D&Cs. D&C takes a huge toll on women, o! For some people, 200k is a lot of money, even if it is pocket change to you and I. I have worked as a health volunteer in public hospitals before, and I have seen what some people go through. |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Funjosh(m): 4:58am On Apr 25, 2018 |
No....... No....... No......... They shouldn't make a decision that they will regret for the rest of their lives. |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Nobody: 4:59am On Apr 25, 2018 |
DopeAngel: My parents were both AS and I grew up to witness the agony of sickle cell and the death of beloved siblings. Six of my siblings passed on as a result of sickle cell. With my experience, I will never advise couples who are both AS to marry. But it is just a matter of choice and the courage to face whatever the outcome. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by cyberguy72(m): 5:06am On Apr 25, 2018 |
ologun01:MUMU 1 Like |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Funjosh(m): 5:07am On Apr 25, 2018 |
eyinjuege: Nothing to support, I am As, I will never marry As, I will never support marriage between two As. If you have ever have a first hand witness of SS person in pain you won't support such Union. It is not adviceable to take such risk. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Funjosh(m): 5:09am On Apr 25, 2018 |
jomonic: Brother what type of courage are you talking about again, nothing to be courageous in the outcome of such Union, it is a risk not worth taking at all. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by cyberguy72(m): 5:13am On Apr 25, 2018 |
jomonic:your conclusion spoilt this ur explanation |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Bianda24: 5:14am On Apr 25, 2018 |
I understand how you feel right now, knowing fully well that their unborn children might turn out to be SS. Try all you think you could do to prevent such relationship because when the problems start shooting up it will affect all and sundry. But be careful in dealing with the issue and avoid being in their wrong book. Make sure you have your mark because when it happens, you will be exonorated. |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Funjosh(m): 5:16am On Apr 25, 2018 |
DopeAngel: We shouldn't allow circumstances and age to decide our choice in marriage, the last relationship I had, the babe was As too also work at the laboratory in one hospital in Abuja, what surprised me most is when I we both finally knows about our genotype and I said we can't continue again, she tagged me as some that is wicked, that we can work it together, that our chances to born SS is same as to born As and AA, that I don't have faith in God, that I don't trust her bla bla bla.......... I just look at her Wetin this Mumu dey talk a medical practitioners for that matter. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Bianda24: 5:17am On Apr 25, 2018 |
I understand how you feel right now, knowing fully well that their unborn children might turn out to be SS. Try all you could do to prevent such relationship because when the problems start shooting up it will affect all and sundry. But mind you, be careful in dealing with the issue and avoid being in their wrong book. Make sure you imprint your mark for future reference. No one wants to see his offspring in anguish and agony. SS children drain one of his or her finance. |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by bolinjkezzy(m): 5:21am On Apr 25, 2018 |
folake4u:Sacrifice yes. But na until the inevitable happens they will know that this sacrifice can be avoided. Somehow I know very well had that experience and am telling you its not pleasant at all |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Luckybelt: 5:21am On Apr 25, 2018 |
Run Baby baby run!!!! |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Nobody: 5:27am On Apr 25, 2018 |
cyberguy72: How, my dear. Please note that I do not support marriage between couples who are both AS. |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Rockmyworld(m): 5:47am On Apr 25, 2018 |
Sultan5: Boss you have really said a lot thanks. Your point are so valid, but I have something to say. You see we Africans we think differently from the White people. when a decision is about to be made regarding ourselves, families and general public we don't consider hurting our own feelings but hurting hurting others as long as we are happy. You said the decision is theirs yes I agree but the Children involved will never support or happy at that decision. Because the subject is not having influence on a decision doesn't we Africans can just decide to act as we like. He can go on with the marriage ooo but its a bad decision even if he eventually escape the SS child. Such Parents should never claim they love their child. because Love for a child is shown even before the child is born. My point remains even if its his decision, Don't put a child at risk at your own pleasure. That's why Nigeria is where it is today. our politician take decision forgetting about next generation. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by BAVOSKI(m): 5:52am On Apr 25, 2018 |
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Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by LaClickLaBend: 5:54am On Apr 25, 2018 |
sentiments aside, your brother no get sense. He Lacks frog. Ko ni opolo |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by DJMicky(m): 6:14am On Apr 25, 2018 |
Surely the first born will be SS. take it or leave it. I'm about 95% sure. |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by talk2percy(m): 6:14am On Apr 25, 2018 |
misreal:Oga, u are saying this because u are not a product of AS union and most probably haven't haven't seen or lived with one to see what they are passing through. U don't just bring innocent kids into this world out of stupidity just to make them cry and suffer till they finally die. This isn't about God or faith, it's about reality. If he was HIV negative and she was HIV positive, would he had gone ahead to marry her and believing God to turn her to negative?? |
Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by Mhizrohzz(f): 6:18am On Apr 25, 2018 |
Sultan5:you have said it all... just wanna thank u for Dis insightful write up |
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