I dont blame that guy o,hw are we sure u are a virgin as u claim and hw are we sure u can give birth to a baby.That guy is 100% right o

poster sounds like a naieve 17 year old gal whoever told u he's gonna fullfill his promise afta avin sex with u.trust me if u let him have his way he'll deny dat he eva promised u marriage,d condition d agbaya put u on sef sounds funny am sure dat wount work 4 a 23 yr old gal upward,u'll likely hear "den Bleep off",if u cant wait 4 marriage den go marry someone who cant wait 2 have sex b4 marriage,

There is this guy i met on my way coming back from work and he approach me and tell me that he want me to be her girl and two weeks after i see it in him that he is very serious about it and i make up my mind to give him a trial and after ten month of datting each other i found myself in love with him, now our relationship is a year plus.
one day he called me on phone to come to his office and i quickly ran down to his office and he sat me down and told me that this boy friend ande girl friend relationship of ours is getting too long that he want to settle down with me and he want me to get pregnant before our marriage.
Now am totaly confuse cos he knows that am a vergin and have made a convenant between me and God that before a man can sleep with me it must be after we left the alter, Now i dont know what to do maybe i should go on and do what he want or i should stick with my convenant until the right man comes on my way and he said without sleeping with me he will not take me to the alter and i love this guy so much, what should i do ? is he real or he want to diceive me ? plz i need you people advice or opinion ?


Are u seriously asking us to counsel u on whether or not it is better for U to break a covenant u made with the supreme deity to please a fellow mortal who myt in the long run prove to be lacking in character and a dishonorable person?

The guy myt just want sex. Wat if he's one of those immature guys that guage a woman's possibilities of performance in marriage based on what they get outside marriage? What if he really just didnt know how to get sex from U and is trying his final call card?

If he truly loves U he will respect ur covenant with God.

IRAPADA:

I dont blame that guy o,hw are we sure u are a virgin as u claim and hw are we sure u can give birth to a baby.That guy is 100% right o

you are absolutely right. also how does she knows that he is not impotent?! how does she knows that he is fertile?!

its all about deciding what is right for each other. so if she doesnt want to have s e x before marriage and that guy wants to have s e x before marriage then they have nothing to do together and they should each go their separate ways.

@poster- I feel your pain, I'm goin thru same thin with my guy of some months.
Don't do it! Let him wait if he knows he truly wants to take you to the alter. In our society, bein an unwed mother is looked down upon, why shud he want to put u to ridicule? What if he changes his mind that he doesnt want you anymore when u're heavy?
If U know that your mind is plain to him and to God, then dont even try it!

Me personally, am thinkin of breakin up with my guy. Havin a baby as a married woman is hard enough, I can't allow anybody to turn down the switch of my 'marketability'. He's not married to me but wants to turn me to after 1.

Irapada and MrBrownJay, I'm totally amused at your points of view on the workings of the institution called marriage. U have in your comments shown Urselves ignorant to a certain degree on what marriage is.

From what U have said, do I take it that should the girl be whole and able to take in and she looses that child, ending up with complications that render her unable to bear children again U would say U have found grounds for divorce and/or re-marriage?

Do i also assume that should U, being potent and able to impregnate a girl, have an accident after U've married her and it leaves U impotent/sterile, then she can leave U or worse still bring men home to service her and still be called your wife?

Make una dey try think before una talk. Marriage was set up by God and to get the best out of it we need to follow his rules.

However if U both are willing to take the heat off of her when retribution comes in a covenant against what she has with God so her bf can have his way it won't be bad if U did. After all U feel strongly that she is wrong and he is right and a covenant with God means nothing in the civilized world.

If n be devil dey find how him go take do U strong thing after U don marry (if at all U marry her last last) why U no go just leave her and her God in the name of the love U claim to have for her? If U impregnate the girl she born U come get accident die nko. Make she no get husband easily again?

dont do it girl, if he is truly the one for u he will stick around, if not plsssssssssss let him go. Who wld u rather please, God or man listen to ur gut

Now that's a new way to get into a girl's pants!
Any man who gives you such an ultimatum doesn't have your best interest at heart. If he won't marry you the way you are then tell him to f^^k off!

@poster, don't even think of doing it, else the guy go run leave u like 'ALAMESEIYA' by the time he gets wat he wants.

try it dear @ poster see if you can cry me a river

^^
Its like u are high on sugarcane this morning!!

@onchedu
whatever you have been smoking this morning, you should let it rest!
if you are a religious fanatic then thats you damn problem, live with it! there are people out there who will put their"bibles" down and use their MIND instead.

anyone can decide what is right or wrong for THEM to stay in a marriage. if YOU want to use your bible instead of your damn mind then so be it but dont make the assumption that everyone is a religious fanatic who will follow the word of your bible to a T.
to each their own!

hahahhahahahah see the sharp man wants se.x and is using cheap excuse

dont do it my dear, try it and you will never see him again, i promise you

na so