Well Nairalanders, I must say that this really hard for me cos I am not the type of guy who reveals how he feels. However, I have to state here that I feel really terrible about what has happened to me. August 31st 2010, my fiancée told me that she doesn't love me. I cant seem to understand it. We had been dating for 3 years, and everything seemed so perfect. I know I love her beyond words but right now I feel so betrayed and my heart is pieces. I doubt if I can love or trust another woman again. She has dumped me without any other explanation other than she doesn't love me anymore. We have already set dates for our wedding and now this. Please I am trying to make sense of the whole thing and right now it feels like a dream. Please someone help me.

Take heart, It Happens in life. Thank god she did not disappaer on ur wedding day or start affair when she is fully married.

Thank your star now and move on, check beside, around you, there are ladies there that loves you. Get along and get a new life


Peleeeee

^^^^^^
Thanks, I am trying to forget her, but to be frank it is so frigging hard. We were so close, she was my best friend, sister and lover. I built my world around her. I wish I can stop feeling the way I am feeling now. I told a few of my close friends and my family and they were outraged. I guess this is one of those things we see in life.

It happens, It's as if the world is crumbling on your head, it's as if you don't know how to make things work. Nevertheless, look inward nd draw strenght from your inner ability, Pray if you can. Get something else you can push the pain into.

e.g see yourself as somebody that want to be better than she left you so you can channel alll the energy into a professional course, I bet you you will pass, . or Channel it into sport if you like 1, u will excel or be reading books or be attending programs. Men you will come out better.

It's not meant to be , if it has been meant to be, it will work out.

**Big Hug**

Am really sorry about what happened to you. u should be thankful she did this before the wedding. take heart~

Women!Women!!Women!!!They are not to be trusted.If u see a snake and a woman passing kill d woman first before killing d snake cos dey are 1 of d deadiest creature on earth.Take care bruz,gather ur pieces 2gether and move on,live goes on.

@Olami, So you would rather kill your mother instead of a snake, bah~

Olami099:

Women!Women!!Women!!!They are not to be trusted.If u see a snake and a woman passing kill d woman first before killing d snake cos dey are 1 of d deadiest creature on earth.Take care bruz,gather your pieces 2gether and move on,live goes on.

haba!y i go kill woman b4 snake. . .dat proverb get as e be!

You still need to investigate the reasons,its very important you know why she did that,because your new relationship could end up the same way or in the same fashion.I guess you live in Nigeria,i know there are so many pastors that say a lot of bullshit.Its possible they might have told her something .Get to find out .

pls my dear, thank God that it happened now. Every disappointment is always a blessing.

Someone (parent or pastor) obviously told her something.

Ladies dont usually behave like that after planning for a wedding.

What else can I say? Suck it up and move on.

I know it is tough but you have to - for your own good and future.

Please do not take it out on other women - your wife is out there waiting for you.

^^^ Nobody told her anything.

I know what happened.

She met another guy that has excited/is exciting her. She has to explore those feelings, thinking the grass is greener and all that rubbish.

She will realize that the other grass is brown later. It may or may not be too late then.

In the meantime bro, try and hold yourself together and keep your dignity - that's all you gat left o. Do NOT beg!

I know it is easier said than done (trust me, I KNOW). Natural instinct is to beg and convince and cajole and pamper. DONT DO IT

Really sorry to hear this. Tough sit to deal with. But everything happens for a reason sweetheart. Looking back, can you honesty say that there were no warning signs? Personally, I think she met someone else. I don't think a woman would do this after three years of dating and an engagement.

Bro, before anything happens, they must have been signs and traits, i bet you were too blinded by love and didn't take note of these little signs, sorry bro, for every disappointment comes a reward (Blessing in abundance). just count it as one of those things that a man should (must or otherwise) pass through.


Get someone to confide with, don't keep to yourself, go out with friends, try to get yourself engaged with other things, sooner enough, you'd be just fine to face life and relationship again.


God is watching us all!

@All, I appreciate all your comments, well I cant say I know what caused this. Well she did show some funny signs some months ago, but I dismissed it as cold feet. I have tried to ask her why she did this to me, but she has offered is that she doesnt love me and she doesnt want to continue with the relationship. I told my mum about it and she is so disturbed about it. Everyone in my family really liked her all my friends liked her and to top it off I loved her too much (maybe I still do). But I am goin to forget her and channel my energy into my work.

Omolola1:

@Olami, So you would rather kill your mother instead of a snake, bah~

God forbid!!!IMPOSSIBLE!!!Nowadays badwomen has corrupted d goodones.It is hardly to find a quality woman nowadays. @omolola is dat understood,i hope wat happens to dis poster wld not happen to 190 cos he is going to,

thebaron:

@All, I appreciate all your comments, well I cant say I know what caused this. Well she did show some funny signs some months ago, but I dismissed it as cold feet. I have tried to ask her why she did this to me, but she has offered is that she doesnt love me and she doesnt want to continue with the relationship. I told my mum about it and she is so disturbed about it. Everyone in my family really liked her all my friends liked her and to top it off I loved her too much (maybe I still do). But I am goin to forget her and channel my energy into my work.

Maybe there's someone else like omo fat said earlier then.

Good luck to you

Take heart, It Happens in life. Thank god she did not disappaer on your wedding day or start affair when she is fully married.

gbam.

broken engagement is bad, but still better than broken marriage.

Is very obvious that she is not meant 4 u.Open ur eyes n look @ d other lady nxt 2 u.D lord is ur strength.I must say that there re still so wonder n lovely ladies out there.So dnt let d bitter experience of this affect ur further r/ship.

If u close ur eyes because u think that there re bad people around,when the good would pass ur eyes would still b close.Free urself.

olas2u:

You still need to investigate the reasons,its very important you know why she did that,because your new relationship could end up the same way or in the same fashion.I guess you live in Nigeria,i know there are so many pastors that say a lot of bullshit.Its possible they might have told her something .Get to find out .

@poster
first and foremost, i suggest you follow the above statement because not doing so will turn you into a bitter person against women for the rest of your life. be mature and try to sit down with your "ex"and communicate in an adult manner so that you can understand where y'all went wrong and, therefore, be wiser in your next relationship.
what a waste of life if you cant even learn anything positive from this unfortunate experience.

also you have to understand that 3yrs is a long time and, just because it was all great 2yrs ago, doesnt mean that it will stay that way forever. some people dont WORK on their relationship, they just believe that once they get the gal, its all good and they can relax!
getting the gal was the easy part, making sure that she stays attracted and crazy about you is the hard part.

btw: did you actually expect her to love you for the rest of your natural life?!

maybe she just does not love you anymore.It happens to men y do you think it cnt happen to a woman?

well its better you found now than later. i mean it could have been worse if she kept quiet and married you and then started to cheat on you with your best friend. not easy i know but its better now than never.

At least it's better than what happened to my neighbor last year. his wife's ex
showed up from yankee on their wedding day in his tear-rubber Hummer Jeep-mind u when he arrived

they had exchanged vows and were seated with all guests at the reception.when she saw the ex,
she screamed, ran to him, kissed him and they
drove off-end of reception,end of marriage,end of story

pardon me for doubting this actually happened.

^^Lmao! u dey mind am?

consider yourself lucky

@ MrWaters, why do you want me to consider myself lucky?

Well this experience has been really horrible. I am just trying to forget her and move on with my life for now.

your girl MOST probably found someone else

move on guy. such is life. you will find your own someday; atleast u be man

guy you just have to take heart and move on with your life.just thank God she told you this on time.remeber that the darkest part of the night is the part closest to morning,just take this period as that darkest part and watch for the dawn of the morning.

Awwwww poster, come give momma a big hug (looking through the side of my eye at husband)

Uhmmm let shake hands,

It gon be alright suga, she done gave her heart to another man and KNOW THIS SHE WAS NEVER YOURS,

What belongs to you will always love you no matter what, REMEMBER THAT SUGA!