renewa29:


Bolded part above is where you are twisted. No one is asking that or comparing communities, but be our guest on nairaland. Explore your fantasies. You can revise history all you want, Nigerians will never qualify as minorities for things such as FAFSA scholarships, welfare or anything an American citizen will be entitled to.

https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/white-house/micheal-cohen-says-trump-made-racist-remarks-conversations-n930596

AkataWoman:


Nothing in that article says Trump accused BA women (or BAs period) of being just good for sex. However it does mention the Africa being a shithole comment that we all knew about.

Secondly, post the stats that show I got the BA women as most educated twisted. And why does bother you so much. I wouldn’t care if Nigerian women were the most educated group in Nigeria. In fact, I’d applaud my sisters. Women (people in general) need to have each other’s backs.

2buffagain:


To your question, yes BA can make great wives, but that doesn't necessarily make them great mates. Especially to a man who did not grow up in the US.

Cultures differ.

Cooking is the usual one mentioned but that is easy to surmount and it's not everything. If Jovi or basketmouth came to town, it would almost be impossible for her to really catch on to the jokes if we went out. Conc. Pidgin is hard for people who didn't actually grow up in naija or around naija people as family.

Instead you both kicking back and laughing because you both get it, he has to be translating the jokes for you.

As much as BA are good, a Nigerian man... Myself included, would likely prefer dating a fellow educated and professional Nigerian woman... Of which there are a lot!

SilentListener:
have you ever watch interracial porn before? especially ghetto gaggers?

lilwetdick:


i am in nigeria and dont want old women, the younger the better since i am a young guy too.

AkataWoman:


Noooooo....Why would I do that?

Are you trying to make the argument that because there are black porn stars (representing less an 1% of the black population) that ALL-or even MOST- BA women are promiscuous?! LOL! The logic I’m seeing in this thread is hysterical! I’d be embarrassed if I were a Nigerian. You’re making your people look stupid.

If that’s the case, EVERYBODY’S promiscuous because their are pornstars of EVERY nationality-including NIGERIAN!

Aunty take it easy, you type as if you want to beat me up or something ok you don't watch it fine.

AkataWoman:


[b]Nothing in that article says Trump accused BA women (or BAs period) of being just good for sex. However it does mention the Africa being a shithole comment that we all knew about.

Secondly, post the stats that show I got the BA women as most educated twisted. And why does bother you so much. I wouldn’t care if Nigerian women were the most educated group in Nigeria. In fact, I’d applaud my sisters. Women (people in general) need to have each other’s backs.

AkataWoman:


Nothing in that article says Trump accused BA women (or BAs period) of being just good for sex. However it does mention the Africa being a shithole comment that we all knew about.

Secondly, post the stats that show I got the BA women as most educated twisted. And why does bother you so much. I wouldn’t care if Nigerian women were the most educated group in Nigeria. In fact, I’d applaud my sisters. Women (people in general) need to have each other’s backs.

AkataWoman:


Nothing in that article says Trump accused BA women (or BAs period) of being just good for sex. However it does mention the Africa being a shithole comment that we all knew about.

Secondly, post the stats that show I got the BA women as most educated twisted. And why does bother you so much. I wouldn’t care if Nigerian women were the most educated group in Nigeria. In fact, I’d applaud my sisters. Women (people in general) need to have each other’s backs.

Backfornow:

Ok fine to each their own. I just know the same folks going around saying it's ok to use terms like that, would be equally offended being called African bootie scrat cher. Nobody is embracing that term, so I'm just saying let's be honest about it. Anyways, good day to you.

AkataWoman:


We make great wives but not great mates!!! That makes NO sense. You’d have to be a great mate first to get to the wife part.

And here’s the funny part: Because Americans are so diverse, your scenario could happen in a marriage with two Americans of the same race! Family comes to town and they’re laughing at stories and telling inside jokes that hubby has to explain to you. Or their accent and terms could be difficult to decipher if they’re from a different region (north vs south vs New England vs Midwest). If hubby’s friends /family works in a different profession, you may not get the medical language/jokes. Does that mean you limit your spouse to your profession?

Being raised in a country that requires you to interact with people from all different backgrounds, family structures, makes Americans great spouses for people from other cultures.

That said, I see nothing wrong with a person sticking to their “kind”. I say DO YOU!

JjBankys:
Trump don't need to mention anything, it is what it is.

anyway, anytime black America women are being mentioned,the only thing i can think of is

1)They can fvck very well( all night long)

2) They can twerk very well( they can twerk for Jesus)

3) They have Onion booty and big boobs

That's how the western media portrayed your sisters

renewa29:



Queer mentality.

You are going off at tangents. Where did I mention Nigerian women in relation to AA women? Well, it is the reason why I said we are welcome to indulge you on Nairaland.

I was referring to a whole population and not one gender, in case you are mistaken.

And the information I am trying to point to you, which you seem not to get is that sexual promiscuity is a human issue, it is more pronounced in populations ravaged by poverty, irrespective of race.

Secondly, you seem blind to the fact that you can only speak for yourself. You cannot conclude for a whole population of persons. If you are disciplined that's you; don't go around arguing like you are some statistician-general of the US for people whom you have never met or seen, when you cannot see beyond what happens in the circles you belong to and research which is conducted on a fraction of the population.

This is because beyond you, you CANNOT prove beyond yourself and your clique of friends, that black women are not viewed are sexual objects. Heck you can't even vouch for what some friends do in secret, and you want to plead for an entire nation? That's just ridiculous.

Frankie Lymon is a classic example. If African American women were as pure as you claim, why the struggle to determine who was his legitimate wife? (My point is people are people, motivated individually, and not collectively to showcase their personality.)

2buffagain:


Bovi and Basketmouth are comedians. Most Naija comedians usually tell their jokes in pidgin...which is basically a whole other language. It goes deeper than accents. I basically won't be able to take her to Naija Comedy shows, which I love.
Can't be explaining jokes mid-show.

I applaud the american trait of being open to other cultures (having grown up in a melting pot of cultures), but sometimes that's only good enough on a friendship level. Marriage goes deeper than just friendship.

Not saying it's not possible, its just A LOT of extra work. Speaking as a guy, we generally have the power to configure our lives any which way we want due to the fact that women have placed the burden of approach on us.

I understand that from the perspective of a woman, receptiveness to the new is the most sensible option to take being that men are usually the ones that approach...and the woman generally just sits and sort amongst who has approached her....through low-quality AND high-quality options.

But from the perspective of a man who does the approaching...if I really want a professional Nigerian woman who matches my taste, those types of women are exactly who I would be approaching from the get-go....basically sorting only through high-quality options.

Hence why a Nigerian man can afford to be that picky I guess.

SilentListener:
have you ever watch interracial porn before? especially ghetto gaggers?

AkataWoman:


Please don’t be offended but after this, I am going to have to stop engaging you. Nothing you say is logical or makes sense. You’re truly embarrassing Nigerians, and I’m starting to wonder if there isn’t some type of mental delay happening with you.

Frankie Lymon’s Polygamy issues of the 1950’s/60’s says everything about his dishonesty and poor choices as a young drug addicted celebrity. It says NOTHING about BA women except those particular women gave their hearts to the wrong man-a contention I’ve made throughout this thread.

Secondly, my point remains-and nothing you’ve said refuted it: BA women make great wives (for Nigerian men). That some BA women are promiscuous or have babies out of wedlock, or some people may or may not view us as promiscuous (an irrelevant point) takes nothing away from that.

Your JEALOUSY of BA women is very clear. To the brother who said he prefers and will only approach an educated Nigerian woman, I say YOU GO BOY! I’m not going to try to prove that BA women are better, more hygienic, smarter, prettier, faster etc. Let the man enjoy his life. I smiled reading about him appreciating “his” women.

Be happy.

AkataWoman:
I’ve seen and heard several things from Nigerian men about akatas. It’s usually that we’re good for sex only or if they’re in a relationship it comes down to them not having their stuff together enough to date Nigerian women. I was shown a video where several married to/dating said they were surprised at how attentive and loving we are to our mates. They believe it’s because so many of us grow up without fathers that we love having a man in our lives.

Why can’t you just admit your stereotypes about black American women was just WRONG! I believe it comes from growing up in a backward culture that believes because we aren’t circumcised or have virginity checks done on us we must be promiscuous.

Ok. So you’re being told this while growing up in Africa. I get it. (The funny thing is that at the same time in America black American women are viewed as the least promiscuous). But once you’re here and see how hardworking and loyal (often to men who don’t deserve it) we are, why continue to try to stereotype us even as you date us? I think some of it is the Nigerian stubborn pride. You MUST be culturally superior to akatas.

At what point will you find it okay to say: We had them all wrong?

AkataWoman:


You’ll get no argument from me.

Cultural differences CAN be deal breakers. However, for many couples, they are the ties that bind. I say to each his own.

YOU have to live with the person-not me.

renewa29:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0361684315627459?journalCode=pwqa

The Jezebel Stereotype revisited.

A comment was made about this on this thread. I suggest anyone who wants to get some more knowledge should read this. And there's some proper research paper on the topic of African American women been viewed as sexual objects more than white women.

This puts an end to the OP's false notion, that black women in America have never been stereotyped as sex objects.

2buffagain:


For every black woman gagging on white sticks in porn, there are at least 15 white girls gagging on black sticks.
Doesn't this devalue your point?

Open sexuality is a western thing, not an akata thing.

Maths125:


This doesn't nullify her claim that Akata women make great wife with Nigerian men.
If that's all you have, then I will agree with her claim and discard all the stereotype I have been hearing before now especially from @2Buffagain and others before now.

iammo:



Reading through the comments, i have really really laughed so hard.... you should know on nairaland the fun thing here is deliberately stretching an arguement .

If your Topic was why can't 9ja men admit akata women don't make Good mates, the same people would still argue you all day on how you're wrong and akata makes the best mates quoting links and trump quotes where he praised B.A, anywas if you're less busy and you don't mind I still got some questions, to get more facts on black community culture

Bojack:
are you a Nigerian American

AkataWoman:


Isn’t it hilarious?! Some of it had me literally laughing out loud! Other parts had me wondering what is mentally wrong with some people.

All I said is that Nigerian men (the ones who entertain BA women) need to just admit we’re good partners-and not for all the condescending reasons they give. You’d think I said Nigerian women ain’t shyt, they need to be dropped in the ocean, and Nigerian men should slap their mothers cause they ain’t shyt either and only marry BA women! Lol!

Anyway, ask away, but I won’t be able to get to your questions for a few hours.

AkataWoman:


Black American-not Nigerian.

iammo:
Ok,cool


Just currious, you seem to handle your arguements quite well without using insult to drive in facts, and the composure and confidence, are you a trained lawyer or some similar discipline, ?


What was it like for you growing up in a multi racial country as yours, i mean sometimes here i can go just about a month without seeing a different race, but for you , you have hispanic,Asian,Rednecks,migrant africans, it must have been an experience growing up?


Do blacks from other states share similar culture?

and lastly, I know the "N" word is offensive, but why is it still been used in the black commiunities?

AkataWoman:
By the way, some black American women DO have nasty attitudes that repel even other black women. But they’re no worse than the white B-h or the “spicy Latina” or hotheaded Italian.

Now that I think of it, it seems women in general have a reputation for being difficult.

AkataWoman:

So from now on I’ll use BA.

BA women don’t carry negative stereotypes about ANY type of black men. If we did....can you imagine? Have you heard the stereotypes about BA men??!! Part of our fierce loyalty to them is trying to protect them because we feel the world judges them so harshly. It blinds many of us to their faults. So in our need to protect and love our men through their issues, many of us end up seriously hurt. Repeatedly. But we won’t throw in the towel on them and move on to other races of men. When we could EASILY do so.

So when an African man comes along, we just see a BLACK man-the loves of our souls. And when it turns out that he’s hardworking and loving towards us, well, we’re in heaven. Most of us don’t know enough about Africans to realize there are cultural differences. So there are no stereotypes. Just another chance to love and protect a black man. And love will make you work through those differences. Learning to pound yam and make jollof rice is a hell of a lot easier than dealing with a lot of the baggage some BA men carry.

AkataWoman:


It’s shorter than black American.

I understand the word to simply mean the equivalent of black American. So why not?