theButterfly:
Most people I chat w| on Whatsapp
always capitalise the first letter of my name [moniker or actual], so this has never been an issue for me.

If it's my moniker being written I wouldn't mind that much. As you can see the "t" in the "the" isn't capitalised. I wrote it that way for a reason.

Now if it's my actual name I could let it slide a few times b|c mistakes do happen. If it's a regular occurrence, then I would most definitely correct them b|c it would look like I'm chatting with a 3-year old. It's clearly a habit for you to not capitalise the first letter of her name and it bothers her / has always bothered her, which is why she's telling you now.

You keep saying it's an "informal chat/convo". Just b|c it's informal doesn't mean you throw etiquette out the window.

Now if it's my actual name I could let it slide a few times b|c mistakes do happen. If it's a regular occurrence, then I would most definitely correct them b|c it would look like I'm chatting with a 3-year old. It's clearly a habit for you to not capitalise the first letter of her name and it bothers her / has always bothered her, which is why she's telling you now.

sinaj:


Go through my post and point out where I mentioned respect?

Na wa o!

Bonatheripper:

all this girls that don't even know the usefulness of uppercase in the names of people

sinaj:
these

bentenny:
You are getting it so wrong.....when it comes to informal conversations,everything goes.....hence,i dont think a lowercase or uppercase should suggest an offence or being belittled!
Its all about your perception of the personality!
Its your constant communication with such person that will make you conclude if this person is disrespectful and not because your name was uppercase or lowercase!
Like i said,she is taking things personal and being petty!

Names or countries are addressed in uppercase format to indicate some form of formality considering the platform!
This is not the case when you are having an informal or casual interaction with your peers where even Nigeria is shortened for 'naija'
So why should i get offended if someone tags Port-Harcourt as PHcity....?
So why should one be offended if Igbo is referred to as Ibo?
Does that in any way take away the respect or relevance of a tribe or LGA?

Well,different folks for different folks!

bentenny:

I either use lowercase or uppercase letters when addressing my 'friends' on a social media platform and they dont have a problem with that....i also dont feel any form of disrespect or irrelevance if am addressed that way know.....its just a casual conversation!

whether my moniker or actual name is lowercase or uppercase is not important to me as long as the content of our chats are causal without any form of disrespect!



That up there is your opinion!
which you are entitled to!
Unless you are referring to those who engage in informal chats as childish like you are unfortunately concluding!

Finally,your last point using etiquette is just preposterous and laughable!
well....thats your opinion!

theButterfly:
You're obviously stubborn and don't like taking to correction. Why did you create a thread if you don't want people disagreeing with you?

sinaj:
I hate it when people use lower case for the first letter of people's name, its wrong so op take correction instead of calling her names.

midnighter:


Nah..you are wrong. Its an informal conversation, yes. But if the person specifies that they would like to retain that aspect of formality then you have to oblige in order to respect the other person's sensibilities

midnighter:

The fact that you are belittling the person's request just because you yourself dont think it is important actually shows your own disrespect for your friend. A casual conversation isnt just about so-called "informality" but also respecting other people's boundaries so that everybody will be comfortable. You dont think it matters, therefore every other person on the planet shouldnt think so either? Thats arrogance my friend

midnighter:

At the bolded, you are just making the same mistake all over again. when spelling "Igbo", people let it slide if you spell it as "Ibo" because of our colonial history. However if somebody corrects you on it then its disrespectful to continue spelling somebodys name wrongly just because you cant be bothered.
If you cant spell somebodys name the way they like it, then dont bother writing it in the first place!
This isnt really about spelling but about respect. Just like some people can jokingly tell somebody "Ode!" or "you are talking nonsense!" It may sound like a joke to them but others get very upset about it.

midnighter:

You are not just having a conversation with yourself. You are having a conversation with another person and their own personality, emotions, mentality, upbringing, values, personal history, religion, and quirks.

midnighter:

If you go about using your own understanding of the world to judge others and tell them how they should feel about things then you shouldnt be surprised when you dont have any friends left at all!

bentenny:
Once a person picks that as an issue,i simply lose taste in the chats because it would be hard to form an interesting chat without being hampered by needless and unwanted issues!
Only God knows the next thing the person would not want!
Unless i have disrespected the person with the content of my chats then i would see it as disrespectful but using a lowercase to chat with a friend is just too petty!
Thats my opinion!
Simple!

Read carefully!
I never said i turned down the person's request....i didnt even tell the person!
If i did please refer it to me and i will apologize and correct it
Like i said,I simply converted all her names to uppercase while chatting!
Try to be more objective while reading rather than involving emotions!
Its too obvious that you take things too personal!

Like i said you take things too personal!
Go and check google!
Igbo was also referred to as ibo!
Nigeria is used during a formal function while naija is used during an informal conversation!
If you dont like such,then someone else does! Its not all about you are your perceptions!
Wahala dey ohhh

True!
Now if that person has a needless issue with me addressing him or her with a lowercase letter,i can as well call them Mrs or Mr or even Sir or Ma when i chat with them next time! smh

:DSorry dear you are actually the one that will end up with zero friend because you want formality in an informal platform!
Not everyone like you loves formality!
You are not like everyone okay?
maybe you might end up asking your friends to address address you on social media as Mrs when you get married or as a Professor when obtain such profession!
Kai

midnighter:

Paragraph 1: If you could lose interest in a chat because of something so insignificant then it means that you were never really interested in the chat in the first place.

midnighter:

You were just looking for a way to end the chat. Youre the one who is coming across as "petty" for making such a big deal out of a simple request.

midnighter:

Paragraph 2: You need to get a dictionary and check what the word "belittle" means.

midnighter:

I dont understand it, everyone on this forum rushes to tell other people to "read carefully" but they never bother to read the comment of the person they are quoting. When did I say you turned her request down? You're just saying something else without reading what I wrote.

midnighter:

Paragraph 4: You are mocking someones request by exaggerating, which doesnt make any sense. How can you say someone is exaggerating by exaggerating even further?

midnighter:

Paragraph 5: Not everyone is like me, but not everybody is like you either. Thats my point.

midnighter:

Im beginning to pity the girl you were talking to in this Monumental Chat you were having because trying to reason something with you is insufferable... you dont pay attention to what somebody is telling you at all!

Not everyone is like me, but not everybody is like you either. Thats my point.

midnighter:
Lol this guy is ridiculous

I wish you the best of luck in all future communications.

Hopefully nobody ever asks you to do anything ever again so that you can be satisfied.

What a guy. Osuofia in technological form.

bentenny:
Was having a very lovely conversation with a female friend on a social media platform...and during the conversation, I addressed her with lowercase letters ie 'amanda' but she said I should address her as 'Amanda'

I enquired about the reasoning behind such and wondered why she was insistent on the first letter of her name being an uppercase letter...I also reminded her that it was an informal chat that should not necessarily involve any formality on our part....

But she kept insisting on it....so I just placed all to full uppercase letters AMANDA

For me,I think its too petty and childish....and besides,being addressed with an 'amanda' does not in anyway take way one's relevance and respect!

Just wanted to share this and seek differing opinions from others on this platform...Thanks!

pocohantas:
OP comes off like a very argumentative incorrigible person. He asked questions, people answered and he is tearing clothe...


Jeezz!!

Thegamingorca:


She's teaching you how to express yourself better in English.
The name is a proper noun.

Don't be lazy

bentenny:

Am not lazy and you are obviously not blind not to notice its an informal or casual interaction in a private social media platform!
Read carefully before reacting like this.....

thelastorca:


Oya let NL lead the way by putting usernames in the correct case. Disrespecting users since 2003. Small

Thegamingorca:



You just began, the words "Am and Read" in capital letters despite this being an informal chat.
Thank your stars that she has taught you English. Stupid boy!!!

Thegamingorca:



You just began, the words "Am and Read" in capital letters despite this being an informal chat.
Thank your stars that she has taught you English.

Thegamingorca:

Stupid boy!!!

pocohantas:


I hate that "Am" with passion. It is "I'm" for fck sake!!!!!

pocohantas:


I hate that "Am" with passion. It is "I'm" for fck sake!!!!!

bentenny:

Thats my point!
Not being conditioned to make it lowercase or uppercase!
Well i guess you and your likes will never comprehend such due to your thatcher like formality!
Oga lecturer with no office!


You seriously dont want us to start with the insults this hot afternoon because it could get worse!

Thegamingorca:



Lol! Make he start dey crawl first before walking

bentenny:


see Aunty poco dey tear pidgin like agege bread...i thought you were from the United kingdom?

Thegamingorca:



You clearly don't have anything else to be doing perhaps.

I'll leave you to your whims now

bentenny:

"Let him start crawling before walking"
I thought you you were my linguistics lecturer on naira land!

pocohantas:


Pikin wey suppose take correction dey fight upandan. E get one oversabi boy like this OP wey come apply for IT, naso my oversabi oga kwa, tell am to write essay. The boy write that "Am". Na there my Oga stop to read o

E say make I shred the essay. Lmao

pocohantas:


Pikin wey suppose take correction dey fight upandan. E get one oversabi boy like this OP wey come apply for IT, naso my oversabi oga kwa, tell am to write essay. The boy write that "Am". Na there my Oga stop to read o

E say make I shred the essay. Lmao