chriskosherbal:
Let me share my little thought on this :. Now there is NO woman that don't like sex, however three things can make a woman dislike sex.

1. She is a virgin ...you can't simply like what you have not eaten, no matter how good a soup smells, you still have to taste it to determine if it's sweet or not.

2. Rape/ Bad sexual event of the past: This can make any woman dislike sex, cos it's just keep reminding her of what she is trying to forget .

3. Below Par performance from her spouse: This is one of the major cause why many married women rejects sexual calls from thier below par performance hubby, and get it outside, these below reasons can further butress the above

3(a) he is faced with constant quick ejaculation and weak erection ....popularly known as the indomie men.

3(b)lack a good understanding of sex as well as thier spouses core areas of sexual pleasure, these men even if they last in bed don't really know how to manipulate thier way ( in terms of skills & positioning) through the woman's virgina bringing about the desired orgasm that she seek.

Be that as it may, sticking to point 3, a woman should be able to communicate with her hubby if she is not getting it properly and tell him what to do per time before, during and after sexual intercourse.

However, op with statement like this coming from your wife..."Always giving excuses. At night, Am tired. In d morning, go work abeg others have left and making money and it here looking for who to ram." am sorry op I doubt if she loves you deeply.

Op do this ..

- ignore her for sometime, I mean avoid being too needy sexually, just pretend you don't need it anymore & put up a smiling face while doing it ...watch her reactions for sometime.

- op, for God sake can you allow her do the buying of those food items herself, it's like you are spoiling her, she sees herself as the price..she maybe feeling like queen of England ( of course she is Queen, no disrespect).

- Deliberately delay the upkeep money you give to her all the time, making up some excuses for it, and reduce the attention and hype you give to her.

- spoil yourself a little, change your fashion sense abit, wear sneakers, neat jeans, t-shirts, knickers with sneakers, get perfumes that smell well...just look more polished ...nice gold chains ..let her feel Jealous that anoda woman might steal you outside .


If she does not respond to the above after a period of time ...then op am sorry She ain't love you.

tellsblinks:


Guy!! Grow up!! Sex is a good thing especially with married couples... Go get counselling!! And stop this "slave to sex" quote

AntiWailer
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May be her mileage was very high before u married her and she is tired of the thing.
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Oya calm down bro

When stressed they dnt think about sex. You need to create an environment and put her in the mood.

On a day u know ur chairman no go gree. Help her with chores. Don't ask for Eba, buy her favourite food and bring home.

Once in a while watch a movie u are so sure dem go do the thing plenty times. Think about her like a new girl u just met and u will not stop until u bang her. Laugh with her. Dont strong face all day and smile only when u want to off her pant.

Take her to the beach, while laughing and playing let her know "Waa fe ku laleyi, ma te soju laleyi" tell her u will Bleep her using ur traditional dialect. Laugh over it as if u no mean am.

Then clean up, brush, body spray. Your Nkwobi stinking onion breath can kill ( i can smell it from here) don't kill another person's daughter.

Learn to set the mood. Do daring things. Give head, pamper her. U dnt just bring that thing out and say "Mummy Kudi, spread your legs" it does not work that way.

I have combination of emojis on watz app dt looks like finger in a hole. i send from time to time to mine and she will be like "ASHAAWO" i say that is my middle name.


Lastly exkweez me Sa, i hope you last a bit longer on bed and dnt always leave her high or 'fuckstrated' in bed . Please confirm and dont mistaken 4 strokes for 4 rounds please ?

Don't mind the e-diots forming u must take it by force. Most of them just came back from village and na woman go send them back cos of lack of respect and common sense.

AntiWailer:
May be her mileage was very high before u married her and she is tired of the thing.
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Oya calm down bro

When stressed they dnt think about sex. You need to create an environment and put her in the mood.

On a day u know ur chairman no go gree. Help her with chores. Don't ask for Eba, buy her favourite food and bring home.

Once in a while watch a movie u are so sure dem go do the thing plenty times. Think about her like a new girl u just met and u will not stop until u bang her. Laugh with her. Dont strong face all day and smile only when u want to off her pant.

Take her to the beach, while laughing and playing let her know "Waa fe ku laleyi, ma te soju laleyi" tell her u will Bleep her using ur traditional dialect. Laugh over it as if u no mean am.

Then clean up, brush, body spray. Your Nkwobi stinking onion breath can kill ( i can smell it from here) don't kill another person's daughter.

Learn to set the mood. Do daring things. Give head, pamper her. U dnt just bring that thing out and say "Mummy Kudi, spread your legs" it does not work that way.

I have combination of emojis on watz app dt looks like finger in a hole. i send from time to time to mine and she will be like "ASHAAWO" i say that is my middle name.


Lastly exkweez me Sa, i hope you last a bit longer on bed and dnt always leave her high or 'fuckstrated' in bed . Please confirm and dont mistaken 4 strokes for 4 rounds please ?

Don't mind the e-diots forming u must take it by force. Most of them just came back from village and na woman go send them back cos of lack of respect and common sense.

bishopkay:


Then the best way about it is deny him his conjugal rights? If he is not good in bed, I've seen women spike their husband's food or drinks with aphrodisiacs which in turn would make the men want more.
NO MAN LOVES BEING A 2 MINUTES MAN and when a man is it actually affects his psyche even more than the lady and without encouragement he may resign to fate.

Katier00:
there is more to every story. Op painted himself as a saint here. Do you carry your wife along during love making or are you the open your legs let me enter man. How do you treat her? Yes you provide upkeep but what about respect? Is she your partner or just sex mate. There is no excuse for cheating. It is wrong in every ramifications. So don't crate a crack on the wall of your home

bukatyne:


I wonder why you are mixing issues up.

Even if you are jobless, it is the duty of your wife to satisfy you sexually and vice versa.

What you give her or don't give her absolutely has nothing to do with it.

When did the locking of shop start? How long have you been married? How many kids do you have?

bukatyne:


I believe in working towards solutions and not using problems to solve problems.

Let's assume the man is a selfish lover who is fine once he ejaculated,

Has she tried talking to him? Sharing sex books with him? Showing him what she wants? Or riding him and standing up halfway with 'this is how you make me feel'?

Is locking shop the answer?

Ditto if he doesn't treat her well.

Imagine the husband stops providing upkeep money because she doesn't cook well.

There is no excuse for cheating however, if he does, the wife would partake of the sin.

Not to say the husband would not be punished.

marvel2011:
Mine does the same thing but I give God the glory because I now occupy my heart with things that makes me serve God the more. I am not a slave to sex!

AwkaetitiBabe:
Good. I'm female so I should know better.

maasoap:


All these just to have free access to what is already his? Very unnecessary. He should just have a frank (and heated) discussion with her to find what is really wrong. This is not about two people dating one another.

Sparro:

Well, I like your argument but you think the woman is too precious to loose? Is the woman a programmed dummy that must be treated with in a particular way to function? From the look of things, the op may only have a little fault that can be overlooked. The woman is foolish

Lordswazz:

Then date any girl that catches your fancy. You'll have enough sex. just play safe, that's all. No need begging everyday for what is at your beck and call.

AntiWailer:


Nothing is his.

Dnt make that mistake because of African Man Ego.

You will end up just sleeping with her while they help u make love to her outside

This generation is different from that our Mother's generation.

There are boys who are ready to Bleep Ur pregnant wife while u do abomination.

maasoap:


So, the punishment and suffering continue? May be divorce will be better if the issue is not resolved

maasoap:


God bless you for your wisdom and understanding.

bukatyne:


Is she a prostitute that ties sex to money?

maasoap:


I don't know what you're driving at my man. If we were joined together as husband and wife and I'm playing my roles as much as I could. And if my wife still thinks that I'm lacking in some aspects, I deserved to be told and I will decide if I can put in extra efforts instead of her denying me what I deserve.
But you on the other hand came up with a lot of lists of things for the husbands not considering his schedule, work hours, work nature and others. I think that the best way to go about this is to ask his wife what is missing instead of going about it blindly with trial and error tactics.
If I can't have free access to my wife body after doing my part in the relationship, I think separation or divorce will be better for us. Call it African mentality or whatever

This is not about two people dating one another.

maikalaf:

Nawa o! The way some of you married men think, one would assume you guys are in still in the stone age.
So you bang her, cum and leave her high and dry. Have you ever been stopped just when you're about to reach your climax? The feeling isn't usually fun.
Now put yourself in her shoes....
If she satisfies you sexually, nigga you have every obligation to satisfy her also, by any means necessary.

Most you married men just want to enter there, satisfy yourself and move ahead, without thinking about her own satisfaction. Imagine she gives someone else a try and that person meets that particular need....
Abeg, make una do well o. Na 21st Century we dey o, mbok!

franchasng:
If you are a busy man you won't be spending all your time and strength on sex to satisfy a woman. So wait until you get married, then u will understand that marathon sex is for jobless boys who have nothing else to worry about aside how to sex a woman to cum

bukatyne:


I believe in working towards solutions and not using problems to solve problems.

Let's assume the man is a selfish lover who is fine once he ejaculated,

Has she tried talking to him? Sharing sex books with him? Showing him what she wants? Or riding him and standing up halfway with 'this is how you make me feel'?

Is locking shop the answer?

Ditto if he doesn't treat her well.

Imagine the husband stops providing upkeep money because she doesn't cook well.

There is no excuse for cheating however, if he does, the wife would partake of the sin.

Not to say the husband would not be punished.

maasoap:


I don't know what you're driving at my man. If we were joined together as husband and wife and I'm playing my roles as much as I could. And if my wife still thinks that I'm lacking in some aspects, I deserved to be told and I will decide if I can put in extra efforts instead of her denying me what I deserve.
But you on the other hand came up with a lot of lists of things for the husbands not considering his schedule, work hours, work nature and others. I think that the best way to go about this is to ask his wife what is missing instead of going about it blindly with trial and error tactics.
If I can't have free access to my wife body after doing my part in the relationship, I think separation or divorce will be better for us. Call it African mentality or whatever

AntiWailer:
May be her mileage was very high before u married her and she is tired of the thing.
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Oya calm down bro

When stressed they dnt think about sex. You need to create an environment and put her in the mood.

On a day u know ur chairman no go gree. Help her with chores. Don't ask for Eba, buy her favourite food and bring home.

Once in a while watch a movie u are so sure dem go do the thing plenty times. Think about her like a new girl u just met and u will not stop until u bang her. Laugh with her. Dont strong face all day and smile only when u want to off her pant.

Take her to the beach, while laughing and playing let her know "Waa fe ku laleyi, ma te soju laleyi" tell her u will Bleep her using ur traditional dialect. Laugh over it as if u no mean am.

Then clean up, brush, body spray. Your Nkwobi stinking onion breath can kill ( i can smell it from here) don't kill another person's daughter.

Learn to set the mood. Do daring things. Give head, pamper her. U dnt just bring that thing out and say "Mummy Kudi, spread your legs" it does not work that way.

I have combination of emojis on watz app dt looks like finger in a hole. i send from time to time to mine and she will be like "ASHAAWO" i say that is my middle name.


Lastly exkweez me Sa, i hope you last a bit longer on bed and dnt always leave her high or 'fuckstrated' in bed . Please confirm and dont mistaken 4 strokes for 4 rounds please ?

Don't mind the e-diots forming u must take it by force. Most of them just came back from village and na woman go send them back cos of lack of respect and common sense.

midnighter:


Youre just overcompensating. That you dont place emphasis on it in your relationship does not mean that others who do are jobless.

What obtains for you does not necessarily hold true for others; there is somebody out there for everybody

portune:
What should I do about this? I am gainfully employed. Gives her 60k for house upkeep. I buy bulk thinks like yam , rice, oil tomato etc. She locks shop on me always. I need your thoughts on this pls.

Always giving excuses. At night, "I am tired". In the morning, "go work abeg others have left and making money and you are here looking for who to ram."

Even few moments I press her to it she will insult me sotee my prick falls down.

maasoap:


All these just to have free access to what is already his? Very unnecessary. He should just have a frank (and heated) discussion with her to find out what is really wrong. This is not about two people dating one another.

franchasng:
No busy and successful man waste his time making sure a woman cum. If she cannot cum through normal sex with her boyfriend, she should not agree to marry him simple. Not after marriage she starts to whine about sex when she knew about the guy's sexual prowess before marriage.

If she cannot cum through normal sex, she should ask for money to buy a intimacy gadget. Life is simple

PrimadonnaO:


Kindly explain.

AntiWailer:


Woman is not too preciouse to lose but as long as you dnt consider losing them, making them feel loved is compulsory.

They are not our mothers' generation, these ones will response to love wherever it comes from.