IcraveLove:


You don't even sound remorseful for what you have done. So I will say it's good this happened, you would have cheated later on. Better she finds someone else that respect and love her.
How can you say you are planning to get married and you are cheating?
I caste and bind men like you from coming my way IJN amen.

Woman leave this matter, you don't sound like someone who has been tempted. It's a struggle, Some years ago this could have been my own story.
I found out after the lady had gone ahead with the deed.

Wickedest

SUPERPACK:
FUCKGRATULATIONS.

Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.

This is my word for you so read it. Proverbs 6:23-32 KJV
For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life: [24] To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. [25] Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. [26] For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life. [27] Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? [28] Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? [29] So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent. [30] Men do not despise a thief, if he steal to satisfy his soul when he is hungry; [31] But if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house. [32] But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.

Jeffmonti:
My concern is what my girlfriend will do to herself, if she leaves I’ll have my self to blame and move on. if i have my way i will pay child support to for the child when he/she come out after a DNA test of course. But I’ll never marry a desperate woman. I was thinking of calling Lola on another phone and set up a meeting to let her i know I’ll pay child support. But not sure if i should wait for the child to be born first or just do it today. I have been really restless for many weeks.

Brothers learn from my mistakes abeg

Why are you calling "Lola" desperate?
She has said she doesn't want to marry you too, hasn't she?
You can't call her desperate because she chose not to commit an illegal abortion, and expose herself to quacks out there.
You're the one sounding desperate right now.

It is what is is fam- my advise is this , leave the other girl to do what she wants , keep or abort it way the baby , go ahead and marry your fiancée , one day the girl will come back with your child , then you can beg your wife - don’t worry she won’t kill you in your sleep - but don’t ever make the mistake of telling her before you marry her

guy u no try at all what about if your girl friend told u she once had a child after marrying her how will u feel?u cant be trusted.let her go and face d music it will always hurt her

Everybody trying to lend their voices asking him to confess to the fiancée. You think it's easy for her to accept it having already told him in the scenario that he painted that she'd kill him. And if he decides to keep the secret from the girlfriend, certainly one day the baby mama would most likely try to blackmail him on his refusal to provide for the upkeep of his child outside wedlock.

So the best thing is to call off the relationship or suspend the marriage so as to allow time heal the wound. He should dialogue with the babymama on how to raise the baby because the baby is his, and even if she (babymama) eventually marries, no man would accept to father another man's child.

Guy don’t overthink it! Tell your girlfriend the truth. If she’s still down for the marriage fine, if she’s not that’s also fine.

You are bringing a real person into this world, that child is important. You wouldn’t be happy if you’re dad had abandoned you the way you’re about to abandon this child.

Now is the time to be ready for whatever. You’d probably win some and lose some.

Fisher007:
First of all who told you that your babe is a good girl.

Although you are stupid too. Infact very stupid.

Advice:

Let her have the child. Cause you might realise it is the best decision you ever made in future.

Imagine your so called babe too don abort and can't bear a child. Hmmm

Tell your girlfriend. If she breaks up with you good and fair which is the right thing to do. Move on.

Or break up with her, tell her you dont deserve her. She will beg and ask why. Tell her the truth and you sincerly feel she deserves better.
Trust me she will stay but watch your back if that happens.

Focus on your career and money.

Left for me. I for just accept the child and wont marry at all (none of the two).

Will enjoy my life Jeje.

l

Good man

IcraveLove:
Please break up with your girlfriend and focus on your baby mama.

The scammer?

The baby might not even be yours. Don't be too sure. I know how we women can be.

Jeffmonti:
My concern is what my girlfriend will do to herself, if she leaves I’ll have my self to blame and move on. if i have my way i will pay child support to for the child when he/she come out after a DNA test of course. But I’ll never marry a desperate woman. I was thinking of calling Lola on another phone and set up a meeting to let her i know I’ll pay child support. But not sure if i should wait for the child to be born first or just do it today. I have been really restless for many weeks.

Brothers learn from my mistakes abeg

good one..I beg you don't marry a desperate woman..

Tell your girlfriend but expect her not to trust you again if she comes back..

Iamsoworried123:


Abeg rest. Everything in life is not all about money.

Dude, as long as you are fairly intelligent (and you seem to be) , you will soon understand that everything actually is about money in this life.

Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.

Why do i feel that you are scammed here, well at least all this should be getting to 3 month now, try and see the girl and confirm she's pregnant which my guess is she's not. Because if you don't confirm now be ready for big blackmail that is coming.

What kind of human being are you that you can't control yourself? Despite the fact that you have ur own GF that u're about to wedd yet u're sleeping with another girl that has her own BF 3 times in a week resulting to uncountable number of times u've slept with her knowing fully well that u can't marry her. If you want to have peace for the rest of ur life is better you marry her and accept the child with all sense of responsibilities. Ah ah!

Jeffmonti:


I told my girlfriend i want to move out, she nor gree o. She said she like the place and we will stay there until i complete my building which is still at the very early stages.

AHH, it's not negotiable. You are a man. Just insist you are leaving with a tangible excuse joor

U still learning

IcraveLove:


You don't even sound remorseful for what you have done. So I will say it's good this happened, you would have cheated later on. Better she finds someone else that respect and love her.
How can you say you are planning to get married and you are cheating?
I caste and bind men like you from coming my way IJN amen.

Jesus girl, be deceiving yourself. Almost all married men cheat these days including your pastor.

Do you believe in God. If Yes, Humble yourself and appologize to him First. Trust me he created us and he knows better.

Secondly.. Dont give yourself unnecessary worry , Either there is an awaiting baby somewhere or not. Just believe in your heart that you have a baby somewhere. If she decides to keep it cool n she changes her mind..Its all okay too.Dont disturb yourself. Sometimes watching your baby's smiles can be so cute

Thirdly, This might sound crazy but forget it...If you can run it, No problem. Look for a well respected man in your fiancee's family n tell him. It can be her Dad depending on his kind of person n closeness. You have 3 advantages. No matter what, He will appreciate the respect you have accorded him. 2. You have won fiancee's confidence forever through the person. she might not tell you but believe me she will respect you more 3. You have overcome self confidence for life.

Expect all lashes , but no shaking. Dont be arrogant at same time dont fidget. The little secret is that there is no responsible guy out there, every parent knows and whoever is sincerely is a best short for their daughter .

Make more money ,Build your moral virtues and trust
...Just flow through the process, It will play out well.

You made your bed. No be mistake. So tell your gf. If she wants she will continue. If not na your own fault. You should beg the other girl and take her to the abortion. Pay her for her pain and trauma. And if she borns, you may end up loving this same child and feel bad you wanted it aborted to begin with. Think am o

Jeffmonti:


Thanks man, I’ll do just that.

don't be a bad father. For fvcking without protection means you are ready for the consequence and the girl Lola is worth it. Tell your girlfriend even if she is the DEVIL we talk about cos such big issue can't be kept secret since the Lola is keeping the child.

Who knows if the Lola is your future wife and your long time gf isn't? That's how God does his thing sometimes cos it isn't always how far but how well.

Don't joke with a lady that's carrying your baby because you don't know what the future holds for u.

Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.

Bro how do you sleep with this kind of things going on ,

We have the power to avoid trouble but you refuse,.

Must you help a lady and still go ahead and collect her number?

Man u messed up .

Na fear they do u so I suspect.

Bro you shouldn't have asked her to sign any documents for real man ,u messed up ,let your present girl know ,the situation and if she is cool no problem,and if she isn't then make everyone Waka ,are u even in Nigeria u for learn from 2face experience

CsRockefeller:


Let me tell you this for free

There are only two kinds of men that won't cheat on their wives

1. Very principled men. These men are too goal oriented, too intelligent, too immersed in their work or goal. Men in this category are Barrack Obama, Albert Einstein, Chinua Achebe.

2. Men filled with the holy spirit. Many Pastor's fall in this category. Men like Daddy Adeboye, Pastor Bamiloye, and the Olukoya's of this world.

Any man that is not in the category of these 2, will definitely cheat notwithstanding his status, looks or any other variable that pertains to this discuss.



Choose carefully.

Don't ask me which of the group I find myself because I'm still on my journey of self discovery.

Humourous. Honest. Succinct. All things equal, you should belong to the former group; your logical awareness, approach and presentation give you away

Perhaps you can tell us how the OP could have given a clear narrative to his plight in few sentences. Next time when you feel lazy to read, I will advice you to just jump over threads like this without a comment.

Bola146:
Like seriously, who else doesn't bother to read this long episode

Mistake 1.

Jeffmonti:
Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

Never fcvk without protection a babe/man you don't want to marry or are not married to.

Mistake 2.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then

You are really a small boy.
Indiscipline dey worry you big time.
You don commit but you no want pay the bail conditions.
when she asked for 150k, you would have agreed to 175k to pamper her and paid first instalment of whatever you have, accompanied her to the clinic like sey you be serious boyfriend and complete the payment. You will remain friends and may still fcvk her regularly while both of you marry your fiances.
Lawlessness and wanting to get something for nothing has brought you this palaver.
I hope that others learn sha although that is doubtful since we too like to dey think sey we dey too smart.

Maybe you should save your girlfriend from marrying someone with a wandering manhood. Because you cannot be trusted.

A man that cannot exercise self control that just throws his life away, sells his birthright, safety, conscience all for sexual pleasure is a ticking bomb.

The wife to be, should prepare to be infected with deadly diseases because her man cannot put his thing in his pants.

I take responsibility of every of my Bleep ups . Just tell her the truth , if she doesnt forgive u break up and accept it as the cost of your messing and for the baby give ur best as a father.

CsRockefeller:
Let me tell you this for free

There are only two kinds of men that won't cheat on their wives

1. Very principled men. These men are too goal oriented, too intelligent, too immersed in their work or goal. Men in this category are Barrack Obama, Albert Einstein, Chinua Achebe.

2. Men filled with the holy spirit. Many Pastor's fall in this category. Men like Daddy Adeboye, Pastor Bamiloye, and the Olukoya's of this world.

Any man that is not in the category of these 2, will definitely cheat notwithstanding his status, looks or any other variable that pertains to this discuss.



Choose carefully.

Don't ask me which of the group I find myself because I'm still on my journey of self discovery.

You should not have given names because you don't know about anyone's dark secrets.
Otherwise you are spot on.

IcraveLove:
Please break up with your girlfriend and focus on your baby mama.

because she have a baby, pregnancy that was agreed to terminate. This mumu boy was played from the onset by a desperate girl. He should move out from the area, destroy all contact and social media account and start a new life with his GF ..

At least let her know whats up, she is the only one that deserve his focus. Let the mumu baby mama deal with it

djon78:



Those casual sex they offer are poisoned challice to pervert your destiny, most especially if you have a great God given destiny.

Nothing destroys a man like a cheap available sex easily offered you. Nothing destroys destiny like it.
Many women out there are packaged from the pit of hell. That's why young men have to be very careful.

My brother, you get the situation, 100/100. Yorunas would say eni ti ti e ti baaje, toun was eni to ma ba ti e je

your fiancee has promised to kill you
settle with your baby mama and marry her don't proceed with your wife To be o, my take though

ianq:
Dude, as long as you are fairly intelligent (and you seem to be) , you will soon understand that everything actually is about money in this life.

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