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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by snoppyd111(m): 6:53pm On Jan 29, 2020
telling your gf will change everything especially if she has been faithful.. Her love and respect for you will die down.. this is the kind of secret that a man should keep but not for life. if you can cover your tracks properly and maybe tell her much later into the marriage like 10years or so. Remember this, don't ever ever cheat in your life time again if you get out of this

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Czartega(m): 6:53pm On Jan 29, 2020
chigoizie7:
When I have the strength, I will come back to advice you.

Meanwhile let me discharge this girl that came over, I no Bleep again. Your story touch me. Few minutes of ecstasy with lifetime regrets and guilts. I no get babe ooh.

Lol guilty conscience catch am [color=#006600][/color] grin
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by mechanics(m): 6:55pm On Jan 29, 2020
Just tell her what you have done, assuming you didn't pregnant her, it would have been better, but now that a baby is involved, she has to know about it, because once she finds out, she will see you as an unfaithful man.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Czartega(m): 6:59pm On Jan 29, 2020
IcraveLove:

..

Na this kind people Dem suppose to give unwanted pregnancy so dey no go get time to come and post two dots grin
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by psalmsonovic(m): 7:01pm On Jan 29, 2020
The guy should make a decision fast and give us update abeg
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Seyi4misamuel(m): 7:15pm On Jan 29, 2020
This is so serious!
Anyway, the deed had been done already. But seeking for some pieces of advice from anyhow people may worsen the scenario.
So, you need to be very-very careful. What good will a piece of advice from an inexperienced person or ungodly person do you?
But, my own point is this. You've already cheated on your fiancee while she has so much trusted you. By & large, I'll implore you to pray unto The Almighty God for a divine guidance.
I strongly believe that The Almighty God will still get you instructed to confess to her & seek for her forgiveness. As regards this, she'd had been so softened in her heart(I so much believe in this). But if you refuse to expose your shame now to her, certainty it will boomerang in the future as this will pave way for the worst of your life or the worst scenery of your life will surface & would be so disastrous than expected which in most cases irredeemable.
Then, as regards your girlfriend's pregnancy, let her have it as a pleasure so as to avoid any unexpected which could result to a loss of her life which invariably could lead you into a murdered case since you're already likened to "a needle with an attached thread"
I mean you're very traceable if you dare to even run away or relocate. She has friends & relatives who will all testify against you if the unexpected happens against her.
(Sorry for this lengthy reply)

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by ykalhaji(m): 7:17pm On Jan 29, 2020
Jeffmonti:
My concern is what my girlfriend will do to herself, if she leaves I’ll have my self to blame and move on. if i have my way i will pay child support to for the child when he/she come out after a DNA test of course. But I’ll never marry a desperate woman. I was thinking of calling Lola on another phone and set up a meeting to let her i know I’ll pay child support. But not sure if i should wait for the child to be born first or just do it today. I have been really restless for many weeks.

Brothers learn from my mistakes abeg


Guy man wait make she born do dna before you accept pikin oooo.

Also postpone your wedding or outright cancel the wedding,your fiance will ask why, beg you tire, (now you have leverage)then tell her you are trying to protect her because of a mistake you made and it makes you question if you will be faithful or loyal husband(no tell am say belle or anything dey ooo, and portray it is as meaningless as possible without overtly making it seem that is your intention, explain it in a way her need for not being embarrased for a cancelled engagement makes her mind wish it away as a flimsy fling).

Watch as she go tell you say she don forgive you. So when the weyrey baby mama carry her foolishness come back after una don marry(best believe she go come back with the way baby stuff dey cost) you don already prepare your fiance mind and in the meanwhile your main job na to dey do all the work to give your fiance belle now, so she no go too jealous when she finds out another woman dey carry or get your pikin.

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by manitoba(m): 7:40pm On Jan 29, 2020
That Lola is just black mailing you .

It's either she doesn't have any pregnancy or it's not yours.

I know how those babes behave.

Firstly, open up to your fiancee so that she knows the worst.

If you can gain her trust on this, you people can easily chase away the desperate lady.
.secondly, call the 'lola' and tell her you are sorry for what happened in the past and you are now ready to take the baby and herself .

Then tell her in your family, you have a tradition that your pregnant women must pass through a rite in your village failure to do so will make the child problematic and sickly.

You can give her other formats too, before you know it, she will come clean on the truth.

I have handled those desperate ladies many times.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Bianda24: 7:45pm On Jan 29, 2020
If I got you correctly, you are 29 years who is about to be engaged. I also understand from your epistle that you love your girl and the future seems planned for. I equally understand that you are more scared to tell her about the escapades because she said she will murder the guy based on the picture you painted.

Listen, do not engage her yet. Open up to her and tell her your fear and hinge on her word that she will murder the guy that does such thing. Tell her how much you love her and how you intend to marry her and have a sweet future with her but with her utterance, you are scared. Push back the fault on her, she will come begging.

So with that you have your girl's support.

As par the other girl, pack out of that vicinity and never see her again. She collected 100k from you, yet she did not honour the agreement. If she knew she won't terminate the pregnancy, why collect money? Such people deserve mean treatment which I will not fail to do.

Takia
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by GerogeI(m): 7:51pm On Jan 29, 2020
Innomama7:
That is are one skirt one to use pregnancy to hold me. I told her to abort it she said know that their gods forbid that. They I invited her to my place play with her told her that me I want to be a father too, that I love her so much omo evening of that same day I invite her to one joint in a bar. Before they I have bought abortion drug from my chemist man. When we where in the bar I order malt for her and star for my self, as we where drinking I told her to go across the road and get suya from aboki me why I grand the drug in a piss of paper before she come back I have mix it with is drink that is are she drank it that is are the storm was over her call me a week time that she have miscarriage after that I flu .

Let's clap for you for killing you own child. Now you will marry an innocent woman, who will not know what she is suffering, when the spiritual realm starts with you. The way the blood of Abel cried to heaven against Cain, is the same way the blood of your own child is crying on your heard through out your lifetime. Go read the book of Revelations 6:10. That you have not seen the repercussion does not mean it is not on the table. How stupid to do such just to solve a little problem. Child that you will soon be asking God for.

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by chewwie(m): 8:08pm On Jan 29, 2020
Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.
s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I
Sorry oh bros, but you're a fool. A big fool! So you're cool with killing your unborn child? What's wrong with you! Make sure that kid's yours. Fulfill your fatherly responsibilities! Tell your girlfriend, if she stays, fine, if she doesn't MOVE THE HELL ON! You caused this!
Be a good father to that child, you made him/her.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by bigfather(m): 8:10pm On Jan 29, 2020
Oyo is ur case o ! Don't even know what kind of advise to give u sef.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by may320: 8:55pm On Jan 29, 2020
amSammie:
Keep that secret to yourself... if possible take it to the grave alone.
This is very wrong. Pls you need to change your orientation about this.
There's no more forgiveness in the grave.
Truth is sometimes bitter, it sometimes hurt but it will set you free.
#Peace.

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Brightgem(f): 9:12pm On Jan 29, 2020
Fisher007:


Hmm this is a newyear. I thought I dumped you last year shocked. But it seems you are addicted to me ba kiss

I know you love hardcore, redpill and bitter truth.
Who am I to say no to your advances. grin

Continue following me around ooo.
Thanks so much for proving further that you are so, if you have my likes following you around, I believe you'll be smarter, now stop typing trash, okay. It's 2020.

There's no bitter truth in anything you typed, maybe your own life truth.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by vision2050: 9:29pm On Jan 29, 2020
I have a similar experience, I nearly commit suicide. But I escaped. Now married with kid. cheating is not good
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by vision2050: 9:34pm On Jan 29, 2020
Find that lady and be sure maybe she pregnant or not.




she may want to turn you to cash-cow, Confirm the pregnant!
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Nobody: 9:38pm On Jan 29, 2020
Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.


I'm not
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Onojasteve(m): 9:43pm On Jan 29, 2020
Guy, this is life and you must be honest and truthful to yourself. Tell your girlfriend the truth.
I have been in a similar situation but I open up to my girlfriend though she thought I was joking but move on with the new girl and we are gud
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by ronyman(m): 10:10pm On Jan 29, 2020
Bro no one here is a saint, especially here on nairaland. The deed is done face your fears,
tell your woman and find a way to settle with Lola... I know how hard it is baba
Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Fisher007: 10:13pm On Jan 29, 2020
Brightgem:
Thanks so much for proving further that you are so, if you have my likes following you around, I believe you'll be smarter, now stop typing trash, okay. It's 2020.

There's no bitter truth in anything you typed, maybe your own life truth.

Hmm me and you are like 5 and 6 for this nairaland. You just dont know yet. cool grin grin

Better go and fix your life. Keep wasting your time judging mine. Hmm OK ooo

Happy New Year though. Later.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by pacehood(m): 10:38pm On Jan 29, 2020
My advice to you is that you come clean to your girlfriend so you clear you conscience. You can still make it work. You're entangling your self in a situation that will end in tears. Confess and come clean so no one can blackmail you and your conscience will be clean Dont live a lie I beg you. Confess and beg for her forgiveness
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Chuks7807(m): 10:42pm On Jan 29, 2020
This advice is the best I have seen so far.
Youngkingjaey1:

Haa egbon
The only advice I can borrow you is that call your pastor,cleric or close family member and explain everything to them, that they should help you to beg your gf and you have realized your mistake and make she forgive you.
And if she insist that she wan break up with
Let her go ahead, at least you try your best to tell her the truth before you engage her.

Pay your unborn child bill and look for another girl to marry

But free Toto dey sweet aha


Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by KenModi(m): 11:16pm On Jan 29, 2020
Bola146:
Like seriously, who else doesn't bother to read this long episode grin grin

Only you oo. I read to the last word of the post. cool
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by ominirajj: 11:21pm On Jan 29, 2020
SUPERPACK:
FUCKGRATULATIONS.
Kikikik..... But people funny somehow Sha . Thanks for making me laugh
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by unibenakpos(m): 11:29pm On Jan 29, 2020
next time dont give girls money for abortion follow them there, be impatient like someone whose wife is in the delivery room after that, check the name of the drugs given to her.. google search it and know how it works...that is the time to show fake care once everything is settled and she has seen her period you move on. i think i know how to put girls in their place thats why they only want to be friends... they dont want a warri boy as boy friend
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Abcruz(m): 11:31pm On Jan 29, 2020
Most evenings when I return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street...

Moral Lesson:

A man who follows the direction of his erection while end in total confusion.

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Nobody: 12:04am On Jan 30, 2020
You get a waka about, you complain.

You get a decent girl, you still mess with the waka about.

Men no longer exist in the sh1t hole.

What ever your gf does when she finds out changes nothing.

You have messed up any good foundation you intend creating for your future family.

People like you usually end up living unhappy lives. I pity you o.

Let's hope you will live long.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by ifiokbenzy(m): 2:35am On Jan 30, 2020
My guy Lola is pregnant no be problem abi you think say after all your labor she go produce plasma tv. Delay the wedding to do the following:
Find out if she aborted or not, If she aborts then wonderful else allow her bore the child and do DNA.
If DNA catch you then tell your wifey else shutdown and tell your priick to be compatible to one pussie. Good ladies are just a rare commodity, so I feel bad when guys loss them for crazy hoe
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by miniziter(m): 4:20am On Jan 30, 2020
Youngkingjaey1:
This story long o

But the story sweet sha

Tell her the truth and if she did not forgive you
Run away for your life.
Mk your case no be like mayram

But free Toto dey sweet
Chai #100 will have save you from this mess you put yourself into


What do you mean by 100naira? May be you never see stubborn pikin wey ready to come life.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Nobody: 8:42am On Jan 30, 2020
Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.

Omo! This one deep ooo. But the truth is you have to tell your gf the truth. It will be difficult at first but she will still come around.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Nobody: 12:22pm On Jan 30, 2020
Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.


The truth is, TELL YOUR FIANCEE...

It's obvious the other lady would still blackmail you .

So, whatever comes up .... Accept your fate...

It's better than fixing your wedding and the other girl tell your wife about the whole sh*t..

Then, it would be a DISASTER!

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