DanDeeBoss:
coercion without her consent or will is rape.....

Stephenmoka4:
If having relations with her is the aim of flexing her, there are some girls you can find for this position, if a girl wants to wait till marriage does that means you can't love her and flex her...

Apeshy101:
During the case of Busola-COZA pastor's rape saga, I was rooting for Busola. My judgement was clouded by my hatred for rapist.

Well, here I have a similar case, a Lady I had a fling with told me outrightly that I raped her.

This is someone I've been going out with for some time now, though that was our first fling.

When the accusation came, I just adjusted the topic and saved it for another day, we would trash it out where I can get evidence in case the accusation comes up next time.

Women can do and undo, pls because, always have evidence of consented sex.

Even when you are accused of rape, don't react, just follow it up quickly, saved your reaction till you've gotten enough evidence to back it up.

Don't address it orally, use a medium you can snap, or even make a video recording during the dialogue.

Your image will be tarnished before you are proven innocent.

Below is the screenshots of our chat

2buffagain:


F*ck out of here with that noise. Rape is only rape when it involves physically preventing her from making a choice.
Very few women will say "Bleep me". They always want to feel like you want to Bleep them more. Now if she says "Stop" or "I don't want" or equivalent, then you stop and let her sleep off her wetness. But you have to be clear on what coercion means and not say normal man initiating woman for sex is rape.

If she wants to wait till marriage thats good. She can leave the relationship if he does not want to wait.
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"Coercion" is something most nigerian girls have been trained to WANT from men before they both have sex. In their eyes they see it as a power play i.e "You want it more than me (big lie), so you now OWE me for this sex".

If you want to redefine rape to the point where even the man "bringing sex up" is considered rape....na women go lose o.
A lot of women are completely useless and the game of "it is you that wants it" is the only thing keeping a good number of them fed in life.

If that definition passes, The sexual market will only then be for the assertive/aggressive "Bleep me" women, thots, and sex dolls.

BigJoe19:
If not for reproduction, women would have been useless to humanity.

Ardar:
The girl clearly said you forced her to have sex with you, not physically but vocally i.e even when she told you "no" initially you still found a way to manipulate her into having sex with you. She never wanted it in the first place.

You men should stop this habit of making a girl who visited you to have sex with you especially when she's not in the mood.

Stephenmoka4:
Exactly, let's say A and B are dating and B is telling A if you love me you would lay with me, come on everyone is doing it, you are mine, I thought you say you love me and would do anything... seriously A will feel guilty and do it. B just manipulated A. A can say all my friends partner are taking them on a luxurious vacation and showering gifts look here Madison got a Silver bracelet in Sydney, Jane's bf gave a golden necklace while they were in Singapore City, why won't you break the bank for me, you love me so much don't you, remember love is blind. B will likely do it, which is not right

Stephenmoka4:
If having relations with her is the aim of flexing her, there are some girls you can find for this position, [b]if a girl wants to wait till marriage does that means you can't love her and flex her...

DanDeeBoss:
A and B both have the rights to not do what you mentioned, it's not as if a gun was put to their head or they were coerced "against their will"........BTW your analogy doesn't fit into what's discussed here

Op didn't assault(beat, gagged)her physically to get what he wanted......it was done with her consent ..

Stephenmoka4:
You don't need to put a gun on someone's head, A and B have a choice but, the manipulative ways of one on the other is the coercion. Have you ever done or be pressured something you don't want to, you'll understand

AstroG:
[b]


Nah,ah cannor come and be wasting my money and fake emotions on a liability

DanDeeBoss:
What is rape Pls??

Stephenmoka4:
Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual
intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out
against a person without that person's consent. The act
may be carried out by physical force, coercion , abuse of
authority , or against a person who is incapable of giving
valid consent, such as one who is unconscious,
incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the
legal age of consent.

DanDeeBoss:
Yeah

Stephenmoka4:
I'm sure you read between the lines checkout coercion, authority etc

Stephenmoka4:
Wasting money, nope. There are some guys that hang out and spend on their friends, they love 'em and don't care for a reward or something. They can take their girl out and not mind spending time/money with them without anything as reward or something, everyone is different though.

Apeshy101:
During the case of Busola-COZA pastor's rape saga, I was rooting for Busola. My judgement was clouded by my hatred for rapist.

Well, here I have a similar case, a Lady I had a fling with told me outrightly that I raped her.

This is someone I've been going out with for some time now, though that was our first fling.

When the accusation came, I just adjusted the topic and saved it for another day, we would trash it out where I can get evidence in case the accusation comes up next time.

Women can do and undo, pls because, always have evidence of consented sex.

Even when you are accused of rape, don't react, just follow it up quickly, saved your reaction till you've gotten enough evidence to back it up.

Don't address it orally, use a medium you can snap, or even make a video recording during the dialogue.

Your image will be tarnished before you are proven innocent.

Below is the screenshots of our chat

Stephenmoka4:
You don't need to put a gun on someone's head, A and B have a choice but, the manipulative ways of one on the other is the coercion. Have you ever done or be pressured something you don't want to, you'll understand

Apeshy101:


All of you shouting coercion up and down

Here you have it,

I never raped her!
The context here clearly doesn't depict threat!

If this is what you call rape, I give up on you girls

angelfallz:
go and prove it in court

Apeshy101:


I wouldn't call her an illiterate though she used the word carelessly.

Let me hint you more
She later told me she was scared of losing me and that she thought I would take her for granted bla bla bla

But the thing be say na she still dey rush me.

Apeshy101:


All of you shouting coercion up and down

Here you have it,

I never raped her!
The context here clearly doesn't depict threat!

If this is what you call rape, I give up on you girls

Stephenmoka4:
That is coercion, now let's fixed that in this situation.




If someone makes you feel obligated or forced to do
something you don’t want to, you may be experiencing
coercion. By definition, sexual coercion is “the act of
using pressure, alcohol or drugs, or force to have sexual
contact with someone against his or her will” and
includes “persistent attempts to have sexual contact
with someone who has already refused.

Apeshy101:


Still out of this context

Stephenmoka4:
Suit yourself, some people who did wrong always find a way to justify it. BTW you do know the reward of this act (fornication) you are doing, be careful, protection is not 100% and I'm not encouraging you to keep up with it *** "What you did, is it right"***, you can never answer that part with yes or no, I can wager on that one. Sorry for the girl. God have mercy on you both

Apeshy101:


What's wrong with two adults having sex?

Stephenmoka4:
Two married adult with full consent, nothing wrong. You haven't answer my question and I'm sure you will turn around to skip it, yes or no is simple but, it will be difficult for you. ***What you did is it right***