Remijuice:
Please Forgive my Grammar.

A man and a woman living together as husband and wife with kid(s) but are not legally Married. That is, no Traditional or Court Wedding.

If one of them decides not interested in the Union, should he/she go to court before they are Separated?

Modified: If there is no Divorce Proceedings, what happens to the kids?

My opinion... If you are based in Lagos, kindly visit the ministry of justice (welfare department) in Alausa. They will be able to provide guild lines incase there is any case as regards the children.

1030:
The court can only come in when there is a legal document to show that both parties were married and in this case none exist.

As for the children welfare there is no clear guide on how this should be handle since no marriage exist here.

Stop the misinformation.

Customary marriage is recognised by law.

If you had any meeting/introduction/gift giving with the family of the lady, then you are married to her. A court will and must be there for divorce. Except you want to do it the streets way

UnknownQueen:


We have not... He probably wants me to call my people again... So they can beg him as usual and feed his manly ego... I only just want him to monetize my assets and liabilities with him. But this he will not agree to

I think a court can help to iron out an agreement that will favour both of you.

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NdiaraIGBO:


Idi£t what do you need 3 children for? 3!

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SUPERPACK:
I think a court can help to iron out an agreement that will favour both of you.

OK bro.

I don't have a problem with two adults starting a family with or without the parents consent.

Family is a man, his woman and the children. How they became a family isn't important but that they are a family.

I don't plan to get married if my gf is ok with that otherwise I will succumb to her wishes but all of it to me is "not so important".

GN

SUPERPACK:
Is he planning to marry another woman? If yes, I think it will be better to go with your kids so you can train and protect them too. But have you exhausted all means of reconciliation?

Yes he is planning to...

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FrLukas:
You are not married in the eyes of the law, which means the law doesn't recognize cohabitation.

You should have thought of the kids though before bringing them into this world.

Now the kids are going to suffer for the thoughtlessness of their parents.

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This is a civil partnership/ common law marriage in the eyes of the law. The man/woman must still take care of his/her responsibilities. Go to court and reach an agreement. He has children from the partnership who are eligible and have full rights of children within a marriage.

sisisioge:
Assually, this is the easiest situation when it comes to separation. The guy and babe should just amiably agree to go their separate ways, they could also decide on the living and maintenance arrangement for the kids as well. No court, no mediation...just separate yourselves plus belongings.

We are not like the oyinbo that considers a consistent year of living together as a sort of common law marriage.

even in some oyibo land common law marriage is not even applicable in this scenario sef.

Nwaonyishi69:
It depends on the peculiar culture. In some places who ever made a woman pregnant is the father of the child. Otherwise, the child would be regarded as a bastard. Forget the gra gra Tonto Dike is doing.

I think he’s referring to marriage not paternity

SUPERPACK:
What I see in this case is cohabitation not marriage. So both of them should separate themselves as they wish since there was never a union in the first instance. Have you ever heard a boyfriend or girlfriend going to court when they no longer want a relationship?
The court will help in getting child support for the kids and also determining who takes custody of the kids ( father or mother).

Stupid you.. Cohabitation is marriage under customary law. One of the parties must file for divorce in a magistrate court - especially when there is conflict on how they should separate or one party disagrees with the separation..

UnknownQueen:

I'm presently going thru this...

We are married.... Registry, church traditional..

He wants me to pack and leave his house before or on March ending...

He said I can always come to check the kids, girl 5 years, boy 1 year 3 months.

He didn't talk about assets sharing.

He has a landed property and started work on it but not yet completed yet.
I invested almost 500k into the laundry business he has.... Bought Gen, geepee tank washing machine.... Irons, shop rent etc.

But he is asking me to leave just like that... If not he will cause a scene....

How do I go about this?

1) you need a lawyer
2) you need evidence that you made those investments.if you have the receipts for the purchases or maybe evidence of transfers
3) you should also be prepared to cause your own scene. this is a time for my craze pass your own.
4) there are NGOs that can push your case
https://www.legit.ng/1116142-agencies-responsible-protection-womens-rights-nigeria.html

i do not remeber the names but Naptu2 does. he is an encylopedia on these things. i have tagged him. hopefully he will drop the contact .

vickydevoka:

If u are serious with ur words. Try call his people, of u are not close to Dem call ur people to meet his people to sort things out.
Wen u are eventually back together, please since u knw ur husband is short tempered, never u exchange words with him try to be submissive n try going closer to his people to caution him

The husband is the one with the problem here not her so advice the husband.
Instead you just tried to fault her in everything.The man has a problem.and he should deal with it.This is not the advice she sought that you gave her

AuroraB:
Stop this! The woman's got stolen because she's a loaf of bread, a purse or something
Isn't this very out of place?

I agree I was irritated by the comment.

So a woman is now a commodity that can be stolen what a village mentality

ornicus:


1) you need a lawyer
2) you need evidence that you made those investments.if you have the receipts for the purchases or maybe evidence of transfers
3) you should also be prepared to cause your own scene. this is a time for my craze pass your own.
4) there are NGOs that can push your case
https://www.legit.ng/1116142-agencies-responsible-protection-womens-rights-nigeria.html

i do not remeber the names but Naptu2 does. he is an encylopedia on these things. i have tagged him. hopefully he will drop the contact .

Unknownqueen please heed this advice don't let your husband eat his cake and have it get a lawyer and use all legal means necessary you can also contact your ministry of women affairs in your area and report the issue.

UnknownQueen:

I'm presently going thru this...

We are married.... Registry, church traditional..

He wants me to pack and leave his house before or on March ending...

He said I can always come to check the kids, girl 5 years, boy 1 year 3 months.

He didn't talk about assets sharing.

He has a landed property and started work on it but not yet completed yet.
I invested almost 500k into the laundry business he has.... Bought Gen, geepee tank washing machine.... Irons, shop rent etc.

But he is asking me to leave just like that... If not he will cause a scene....

How do I go about this?

Get a good lawyer ASAP. However, make sure it is properly reported, especially that 'cause a scene' part.

petitejolie:
I think he’s referring to marriage not paternity

Please, read again and see that he is more worried with the fate of their children.

Remijuice:
Please Forgive my Grammar.

A man and a woman living together as husband and wife with kid(s) but are not legally Married. That is, no Traditional or Court Wedding.

If one of them decides not interested in the Union, should he/she go to court before they are Separated?

Modified: If there is no Divorce Proceedings, what happens to the kids?

They have both been living in sin..... Sexually, traditional, legally and religiously........

A legal redress, cannot be sought for an illegal union......

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Remijuice:
Please Forgive my Grammar.

A man and a woman living together as husband and wife with kid(s) but are not legally Married. That is, no Traditional or Court Wedding.

If one of them decides not interested in the Union, should he/she go to court before they are Separated?

Modified: If there is no Divorce Proceedings, what happens to the kids?

Read the highlighted parts again! You are not legally married! You two are just boyfriend and girlfriend living together! And your kids were had out of wedlock!

So divorce is out of the equation! Only legally married couples can legally divorce!

If the relationship is no more conducive for you then you have to just walk away, but try to do so appropriately by informing your girlfriend and discuss how you guys gonna take care of the kids.

Remember, you need take care of your kids by law. Unless you want to lose your paternity right! Good luck.

AmazonHippolyta:

Unknownqueen please heed this advice don't let your husband eat his cake and have it get a lawyer and use all legal means necessary you can also contact your ministry of women affairs in your area and report the issue.

OK I will... By his grace...

Remijuice:
Please Forgive my Grammar.

A man and a woman living together as husband and wife with kid(s) but are not legally Married. That is, no Traditional or Court Wedding.

If one of them decides not interested in the Union, should he/she go to court before they are Separated?

Modified: If there is no Divorce Proceedings, what happens to the kids?

It’s not like you’re married but there is something in law which we call ‘presumption of existence’. That is to say by virtue of your cohabiting for a certain period of while with that man, the court presumes you two as married. Only a smart lawyer would know how to challenge that issue and raise a preliminary objection to the suit as a whole. Feel free to contact me if you need more guidance.

Madam

You don’t talk about your offence and Forget about your investment, ask your self if you really love the gentle man.







quote author=EJanni post=87622022] don't allow him to take your children away from you, they're too tender to stay without a mother. That said, proceed to court immediately.

Lastly, you can try out to resolve your differences and embrace peace. Just for the sake of your children. Marriage is not easy at all.[/quote]

Remijuice:

Ok
Just that I always read these PM News or something (all these Igando Customary Court). You will find out that most of the cases of Infidelity or Domestic violence before the Court, most of the people involved were never married legally before the court.
They would be like "he got me pregnant when I was 20 years old, he promised me he will take care of me bla bla bla".

Things are never as easy or straightforward as common sense make them look.

There is something called Common Law Marriage (sui iuris)

Though it depends on legal system of a country.

But it's used to be called Lagos marriage. People from different parts of Nigeria got together, had kids, and hardly ever went back to their village with their family,

When you now have kids involved, you have to sort out custody and maintenance when relationship breaks down.
The court may have to step in.

greall12:
Madam

You don’t talk about your offence and Forget about your investment, ask your self if you really love the gentle man.

quote author=EJanni post=87622022] don't allow him to take your children away from you, they're too tender to stay without a mother. That said, proceed to court immediately.

Lastly, you can try out to resolve your differences and embrace peace. Just for the sake of your children. Marriage is not easy at all.

If the man wants to quit, then he better pay back. With interest. What nonsense.

Remijuice:
Please Forgive my Grammar.

A man and a woman living together as husband and wife with kid(s) but are not legally Married. That is, no Traditional or Court Wedding.

If one of them decides not interested in the Union, should he/she go to court before they are Separated?

Modified: If there is no Divorce Proceedings, what happens to the kids?

Op ,I dey suspect you?if you know,you know