Sometimes, I feel like majority of people in a relationship are not "in love" with their partner. Or they are waiting for the love to develop over time.

To me, it's difficult to have a relationship where both partners are in love with each other. One is usually on the short end of the stick. That's my belief. What's your take?

how many people have you dated? you sure you were "in love" or attracted to all of them?

how old are you?
that's great. are you one of those who fall in love easily?

what do you mean by "story of 190"?
hahah so you're 26 . anyways that's good.

I think you are an exception to the rule sha until I hear more responses. who knows, I might be wrong.

@topic
attraction comes b4 datin
even if u r gonna b flings
m always attracted 2 my own men sha
i date only dose m attracted 2

I am very much attracted to my partner and I have never dated a guy I am not attracted to.
I think OP has attraction and love all mixed up as one and same thing! People start relationships because they are attracted to each other and may have fallen in love or hope to fall in love along the line. The attraction is what starts the relationship and its love that keeps it going.

hbabe:

People start relationships because they are attracted to each other and may have fallen in love or hope to fall in love along the line.

yea  I meant love. i've modified the topic title sha
how do you know when you are in love? have you dated guys you were not in love with? when did you realize you were falling in love or in love?

Hmmmm! I am not good at this love stuff. When I am in love I have so many feelings including:-
Admiration and respect for the person; the desire to spend time with him; excitement when he calls; always happy to see him or hear his name or stories about him; feeling of protection towards him from pain, shame and hurt; like to be cuddled close to him; always looking out for things that will please him and help him make progress; interest in his affairs and a strong desire to have sex with him.
I will say there's the general desire to see him happy and a willingness to make sacrifices to be with him and make the relationship grow.
Did I mention that I am always happy to be with him and that he always makes me smile even if his jokes are dry!

congrats. i dey envy u o
have you dated someone you were not in love with in d past? if yes, how did that work?

hbabe:

Hmmmm! I am not good at this love stuff. When I am in love I have so many feelings including:-
Admiration and respect for the person; the desire to spend time with him; excitement when he calls; always happy to see him or hear his name or stories about him; feeling of protection towards him from pain, shame and hurt; like to be cuddled close to him; always looking out for things that will please him and help him make progress; interest in his affairs and a strong desire to have intimacy with him.
I will say there's the general desire to see him happy and a willingness to make sacrifices to be with him and make the relationship grow.
Did I mention that I am always happy to be with him and that he always makes me smile even if his jokes are dry!

wow! Who says love isn't life. Live ya life.

I have done that; once it worked out and we actually had a beautiful relationship and another time it didn't work out, I couldn't love him enough. Everyone said we were right for each other so I went in with the hope that love will come but alas nothing changed and that unfortunately is my most bitter break-up coz family and friends were involved.

@Meklex
Thanks. I dey try.

@190 I can see your siggy has changed again. Had a fight with Mzdark? U must be a very confused guy

You dey try no be small(thumbs up) anyways 'my girl' nah another tori for another bwoody day!

^ tell us your story biko. shey u dey sing d'banj fall in love every time u set ur eyes on her?
what about her? is it reciprocal?

me i'm curious.

Jenifa_:

^ tell us your story biko. shey u dey sing d'banj fall in love every time u set your eyes on her?
what about her? is it reciprocal?

me i'm curious.

my song don turn to Grenade by bruno mars.
The girl is everything the dictionary explained as heartless.

and you are in love with her. am i correct?
accept my sincere condolences sha

You cannot just fall in love with some1 just like that but u can get attracted to him/her then love will come in along the line.

BTW,what is love,

@Meklex
Sorry o. I hope this year brings true love your way.

Hmmm.
Well as for, most of gurls the i've dated, the love, the lust and attraction towards them died gradually, cos the more i live with them, i get to know them more, those things i taught i saw in them vanishes and then i get bored with time, the relationship becomes too dull for my liking - lacking dat initial glow, chemistry, fire and attraction that existed during the toasting/wooing stage.

Orton1_0:

Hmmm.
Well as for, most of gurls the i've dated, the love, the lust and attraction towards them died gradually, cos the more i live with them, i get to know them more, those things i taught i saw in them vanishes and then i get bored with time, the relationship becomes too dull for my liking - lacking dat initial glow, chemistry, fire and attraction that existed during the toasting/wooing stage.

and how do they feel? were they still in love with you? how did you leave the relationships?

Jenifa_:

and you are in love with her. am i correct?
accept my sincere condolences sha  

initially I loved her anyways she aint my wifey so why the condolences lol Life must go on!

hbabe:

@Meklex
Sorry o. I hope this year brings true love your way.

Thanks.

Meklex:

initially I loved her anyways she aint my wifey so why the condolences lol Life must go on!

my apologies then. why do you call her "your girl" then? she's your ex right?

Yes o! am not only in love, am inside love! didnt know i could ever be dis much in love

^ una don come again.
aren't you 190's e-girlfriend abi na e-ex-girlfriend? I lost track.
anyways congrats. i'm just pulling ur leg

yaaaay! how u take know dat one na? anyway, am veri sure ds isnt about e-love, its d real syd, ryt?