nwaezeemmanuel:
Okay. This is good.

Sad thing is that you will find many comments on Nairaland that can lead you to a terrible rabbit hole.

You're 26, if you need to settle down - i think you're at a better and safer chance of hooking up with an adult like yourself - waiting for a 16 year old to come of age is silly and troubling to me.

The guys telling you so will come and blast you if you talk about how things went south. Be wise.

Akinpresident:
Thanks a lot!!!

Chii59:

Only a handful of men give assistance (especially financial assistance) to females in this country without expecting to be paid in kind.
I don't trust this young man's intentions. I don't care what he says. She's 16. Far too young for him. Now if she were 21, he's 31, that won't be a problem, but she's still a child. And with the assistance he's giving her, I'd be so shocked if he doesn't end up having sex with her before she turns 18.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Things can still go wrong. I'm sure you've heard news of good Samaritan lovers that end up heartbroken because all they could offer was assistance.

A lot can happen between 16 and 18 years and she can end up not having that connection.

Remember he's 26, what happened to the women in the market that are 20+ already. They haven't vanished now.

Akinpresident:
Hello guys

There's this girl that I love.
I believe I love her because she's respectful, well reserved, intelligent and hard-working.

We just got talking and trying to get along.

But she's much younger than me.
She's 16, I'm 26.

She likes me but not with any emotional attachment.

I haven't asked her out yet but I know she'll agree if I do.

I am established running my own business and would love to settle down anytime soon.

Is it a good idea to date her and allow her to come up with age and marry her or should I keep our relationship platonic?

Honestly I wouldn't want to lose her.

It's not as if I don't know what I want.
But the truth is that, I'd love to learn from the wisdom of you all about my situation.

Kindly advice me.

Akinpresident:
Hello guys

There's this girl that I love.
I believe I love her because she's respectful, well reserved, intelligent and hard-working.

We just got talking and trying to get along.

But she's much younger than me.
She's 16, I'm 26.

She likes me but not with any emotional attachment.

I haven't asked her out yet but I know she'll agree if I do.

I am established running my own business and would love to settle down anytime soon.

Is it a good idea to date her and allow her to come up with age and marry her or should I keep our relationship platonic?

Honestly I wouldn't want to lose her.

It's not as if I don't know what I want.
But the truth is that, I'd love to learn from the wisdom of you all about my situation.

Kindly advice me.

Lightangel65:


Well when I was 15-16 I dated a lady of 24 for a short periods

But if genders were reversed I would be a paedophile

Don't date her she is too young let her date her agemates or wait till she is 19

Akinpresident:
Hello guys

There's this girl that I love.
I believe I love her because she's respectful, well reserved, intelligent and hard-working.

We just got talking and trying to get along.

But she's much younger than me.
She's 16, I'm 26.

She likes me but not with any emotional attachment.

I haven't asked her out yet but I know she'll agree if I do.

I am established running my own business and would love to settle down anytime soon.

Is it a good idea to date her and allow her to come up with age and marry her or should I keep our relationship platonic?

Honestly I wouldn't want to lose her.

It's not as if I don't know what I want.
But the truth is that, I'd love to learn from the wisdom of you all about my situation.

Kindly advice me.

technicaly, u a Peterfile sir for chassin under age girls....this is sick.
here in london, bro u will head straight to jail!! (reAL Talk)

TheCork:



technicaly, u a Peterfile sir for chassin under age girls....this is sick.
here in london, bro u will head straight to jail!! (reAL Talk)

chatinent:
If she's 16 and doesn't look 16 and you want to marry her, go for her.



.. of course, only if you want to marry her.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Chai!

chatinent:



Man has good intentions, bro.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Bro, paedophilia has nothing to do with gender. A woman sexually exploiting a minor male is a paedophile as much as if the reverse was the case.

Lightangel65:


If a person can make a proper deduction on his/her own they aren't minors anymore. At 16 I was mature enough to know what is wrong and right so?

nwaezeemmanuel:
Terrible things sometimes start with good intentions.

chatinent:


I'm trying to solely see the good in him.


Excuse you, there are some sixteens looking like mid-tweenties too.


More to that, he didn't say dating, trophy or sex, he said love for marriage.

I advocate relationship for marriage.

Slyzen:


You don't disturb nature. Que sera sera. Him nurturing her is not to get anything in return. He is just doing humanitarian work. He is being a friend. If she isn't smart enough to know someone who genuinely cares for her, then it's her loss.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Okay, i am not judging him - so calm down.

Sixteen looking mid twenties does not change age.

A 26 year old looking for marriage from a 16 year old (that has a long way to go and will most likely lose interest) should concern you if you really care for him.

Let's be real.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Terrible things sometimes start with good intentions.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Okay, i am not judging him - so calm down.

Sixteen looking mid twenties does not change age.

A 26 year old looking for marriage from a 16 year old (that has a long way to go and will most likely lose interest) should concern you if you really care for him.

Let's be real.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Chai!

Akinpresident:
I'm not soliciting for marriage from her now.

And I've not mentioned dating to her.

Like I said, my intention is to get real close and nuture her.
And if all things go well, possibly date her when she's of age and then marry her.

I just want to be sure this is harmless as I'm thinking it, that's why I'm seeking for opinions to look at my thoughts from a different perspective.

Even if I end up seeing reasons not to date her, it won't change my original intention of assisting her without anything in return.

Abouwaza:


Hmm i don finally confirm say this moniker nah man with sagggy balls

Akinpresident:
I'm not soliciting for marriage from her now.

And I've not mentioned dating to her.

Like I said, my intention is to get real close and nuture her.
And if all things go well, possibly date her when she's of age and then marry her.

I just want to be sure this is harmless as I'm thinking it, that's why I'm seeking for opinions to look at my thoughts from a different perspective.

Even if I end up seeing reasons not to date her, it won't change my original intention of assisting her without anything in return.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Just don't end up having regrets.

Your story should not be like those that come here to lament about how they helped one girl that ended up turning them down.

Be ready for that, because i can see your mind is made up. Again, you're better off finding an adult to settle down with and may be denying yourself of a good partner in the name of a 16 year old that is pending.

Akinpresident:
Hello guys

There's this girl that I love.
I believe I love her because she's respectful, well reserved, intelligent and hard-working.

We just got talking and trying to get along.

But she's much younger than me.
She's 16, I'm 26.

She likes me but not with any emotional attachment.

I haven't asked her out yet but I know she'll agree if I do.

I am established running my own business and would love to settle down anytime soon.

Is it a good idea to date her and allow her to come up with age and marry her or should I keep our relationship platonic?

Honestly I wouldn't want to lose her.

It's not as if I don't know what I want.
But the truth is that, I'd love to learn from the wisdom of you all about my situation.

Kindly advice me.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Okay, i am not judging him - so calm down.

Sixteen looking mid twenties does not change age.

A 26 year old looking for marriage from a 16 year old (that has a long way to go and will most likely lose interest) should concern you if you really care for him.

Let's be real.

nwaezeemmanuel:
See ehn, the idea that she likes you isn't really new or unique.

Many teenagers can grow fond of anyone without so much effort. I'm worried that you're assisting her, don't expect so much biko.

She's just 16.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Just don't end up having regrets.

Your story should not be like those that come here to lament about how they helped one girl that ended up turning them down.

Be ready for that, because i can see your mind is made up. Again, you're better off finding an adult to settle down with and may be denying yourself of a good partner in the name of a 16 year old that is pending.