I wonder why i am askin this; but is it wise to share or your wife to be, to share her little past life with you or rather hear the story outside?

cos, i am in a mess wit one, i have this girl i wish to marry. I never intended keepin an ear to the ground or listen to stories that would purge me abt her. But, as d devil would want it, a friend or school mate of hers, whom i know, walked up to me. she beamed a smile and invited me to her street. i honoured her I.V as one that knows me. but, surprisingly scary, she opened a full carton of bad life story of my angel. i could not believe her at first cos this my angel was so principled that i was always faulted.

After 3 days of hard thinking, i invited my angel to come stay out wit me as i carefully watched her moves. It was sometime else. it was like adam,when he ate the fruit in d garden. but, when i gradually asked questions driftin to the right bone of contention. she first swore wit herself, mother and God and later sprang up wit annoyance denyin every bit of the story.

Guys, what decision do u suggest i should take, cos, marriage is neither by pity, sympathy or management. i am in a dilemma,

It's possible the so-called friend was lying on your girl. Perhaps she's jealous of your relationship.

As far as her past, she really doesn't owe you an explanation of what's she's done. Everyone

makes mistakes. Is your past clean? Oh yeah, get tested.

Why would a man wants to know how many dicks the woman sucked or bleeped? In the same token why would a woman wants to know how many pussies her man sucked or bleeped?

The past need to stay in the past and if it becomes a big problem then you do not need to get married at all until the issue is resolved. Do not bring baggage of the past to your new future that why it called the PAST. duh.

If you have a disease like HIV AND AIDS then you need to consider three things:

Is it worth potentially infecting my partner?
Will I allow my illness to determine my behaviors in the future?
Do I feel that I am stronger in will to fight the battle until the end?

If you answer to any of these honestly then you have made our decision.

OP.
I actually don't like the idea off sharing the past with your partner,Most people don't support the idea either.

But when i hear strange stuffs about my girl from outsiders i get nervous/stoic though i wouldn't like the idea of sitting her down and start telling her to voice out what she's been through.
Surprisingly and interestinly my girl tells me about her past ''without being interrogated'' and i really don't find anything wrong with it. . . .Infact it's fun!!! . . .SAME THING with me.

The point is that if it's being carried out occationally then i would say it's fine.But to delibretaly sit her down for this matter . . .

Not really necessary.

i agree with some of u hia. but, i think is preferable i hia from her than hearing from outside thou!!!

Jus like if she gets married to u. after a kid or, she walks into a friends shop who happens to be her childhood friend. jus d normal gossip and discovers the reason why vivian her friend stopped coming to visit her. as the friend playfully updates her of her hubbies swagga wit chics and ha best friend bhind her nose.\

that day, d guy would come home and never find food.

hmm,

It is quiet pathetic but sharing the past could be good but not too exact. "I was bad before but not now". Unless the woman does not knw what she wants and is pretending only to get married. However, if she is truly in luv, she shud emotionally, remorsefully tell u to hide the past and hear not of it. Young girls of this days are terrible. Especially graduates from private universities. Guys be guided.

This days, the story shared by two love birds are used against each other during their misunderstanding.

The other day, I was busy sipping my JD, when I heard a glass plate break. It was my neighbor again. The wife screamed on top of her voice, this is the way u go fxxking about all the sales girl in alaba market. I took it for the normal yarns. But sprew up when I heard a deep louder voice of the husband say, "If I had listened to my friend who fxxked u, I wouldn't have been ur husband".

Then silence took over the compound. Holy!!! I froze then tiptoed to my window to ..

afrika:
This days, the story shared by two love birds are used against each other during their misunderstanding.

The other day, I was busy sipping my JD, when I heard a glass plate break. It was my neighbor again. The wife screamed on top of her voice, this is the way u go fxxking about all the sales girl in alaba market. I took it for the normal yarns. But sprew up when I heard a deep louder voice of the husband say, "If I had listened to my friend who fxxked u, I wouldn't have been ur husband".

Then silence took over the compound. Holy!!! I froze then tiptoed to my window to ..

Wooooow

Bro, its called past 4 a reason, because there aint anything u can do 2 change it. Even if d story is true, its in d past, what shld matter 2 u now is if she's faithful 2 u. U cn't dig into any gal's past without unearthing a few dirt. I bet u hv a few of ur own. Life is abt d now, make it count.