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Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by yommen: 12:41pm On Sep 12, 2021
Bro, try listen to Victoria Orenze's song ' I can be real with you'.. check on YouTube. Listen to it with an earpiece and be ready for a change. Good luck.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by Lordgudline: 12:43pm On Sep 12, 2021
Bro, we are quite similar both in problem and age, masturbation has really affected my life negatively in so many ways. I've tried to stop countless, prayed about it, tried everything. But what I've come to find out that it takes major commitment and discipline to get over this shameful act.

i found this app online, it's free and well put together.

It's been over a week now since i started using it, as you can see it shows 7 days on the count down.

You can do it bro!

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Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by chigator2: 12:44pm On Sep 12, 2021
I will give you tips that you should reflect on to guide you to self recovery

... You have to decide how serious you are about breaking the habit.

Think about your situation, you are literally a slave to an unproductive addiction. Think about what masturbation has cost you ( dignity, social life, free conscience ). Think about how useful you can become without something useless occupying your time and mind.

... Open up to someone not a close friend but someone who is like a authority over you like your parents, pastor, teacher, the whole family. Tell them you are a chronic masturbator willing to repent. I am sure they will be willing to help you heal yourself.

This is hard, I admit but it is shame that emanates from you exposing yourself that breaks you free. Then if you still have some conscience you would sincerely almost magically strive to redeem your public image in their eyes.
Ironically, It is the secrecy and guilt of this act that leads the victims back to it. You can testify to it.

... Starve the Beast.

Delete social media. Forgo music videos and provocative websites.
Don't buy data ( if you can ), delete all suggestive movies, books, pictures and off course pornography from your devices.
Switch off your phone immediately you are done with a task.
Avoid staying alone any where.

There is a lot more you know that triggers you. If you mean it you have to play the part of a man fighting a lion barehanded. Be brutal and cut throat in approach. Because if you dare give room to any slight stimulus, your autonomic nervous system takes over, logic leaves you and you are back in the pit.

... Replace the habit.

As soon as you have decided to break free, pick up something to occupy your mind and brain. Strenous and tasking activities not entertainment.

Physical Exercise,
Books,
New skills and knowledge
Volunteer work,
Church / Mosque

In the end, breaking free from your addiction might make you a potential candidate for financial, academic etc Success.


... Don't dare relapse

If you dare backslide, the guilt will verbally speak to you and say " You just had a round, what's the big deal, you are as dirty as you were before, you strained yourself for nothing, go ahead and please yourself once more".

Then you go on in the show of shame.

Help yourself bro, don't be a slave.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by BioGreen: 12:50pm On Sep 12, 2021
If you are a believer/Christian and you believe in God, you believe in Jesus Christ, you believe in the Blessed Holy Spirit and also in the unshakeable and external power in the Word of God;

Go on 3 days of prayer and fasting and the appetite/urge to masturbate will leave you completely without any effort/struggle on your part.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by baloney: 12:50pm On Sep 12, 2021
Guy I personally don't know if you can get help, but Gonji will be Gonji anytime any day for both make & female folks, but if you can zombie up a bit it may help, abi no say Zombie no dey Bleep not to talk of masturbate, that basically what your pastor will help you do...
shocked shocked shocked
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by McOluOmo: 12:58pm On Sep 12, 2021
bodybuilder:
It's simple, you are not having sex that's why you masturbate alot. Just having sex once or twice a week can keep you away from daily masturbation. Get girl or girls. Make sure to always use condom.
having girlfriend or sex mate dose not stop masturbation at all... I was a victim to masturbation,
i just made up my mind one day to stop it, if you don't make up ur mind to stop it.....u can't stop it, no body helped me to stop it, i didn't speak to any man or woman, that thing is very bad, I know what I'm passing through now because of my pass lust to masturbation.....




Guys wey no get girlfriend get peace of mind

Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by LegendaryArnold(m): 1:03pm On Sep 12, 2021
SeyiFargo:
I started masturbating while I was 15yrs old, hence I have been trying on how to stop it.. All has been fruitless embarassed embarassed..
Anyone with a solid way of stopping this shiit, am tired of it..
All comments are welcomed
Let's push this to the fp so every Nl monikers can help me out ��

How old are you now?
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by Kandeed: 1:06pm On Sep 12, 2021
SeyiFargo:
I started masturbating while I was 15yrs old, hence I have been trying on how to stop it.. All has been fruitless embarassed embarassed..
Anyone with a solid way of stopping this shiit, am tired of it..
All comments are welcomed
Let's push this to the fp so every Nl monikers can help me out ��

The truth is if you've not given ur life to Christ, reading the Bible and inviting the Holy Spirit into you nothing will change cuz for you to stop something must replace that spirit controlling you. why is masturbation a spirit?? it's a spirit cuz it totally controls you to do what you don't like and what you won't do in ur normal senses

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Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by BePrepared: 1:10pm On Sep 12, 2021
SeyiFargo:
I started masturbating while I was 15yrs old, hence I have been trying on how to stop it.. All has been fruitless embarassed embarassed..
Anyone with a solid way of stopping this shiit, am tired of it..
All comments are welcomed
Let's push this to the fp so every Nl monikers can help me out ��

I believe I'm.the best person to help you here cos I was in your shoes, prior to 2008 I was heavily addicted to it, I made resolutions, cried, prayed all to no avail, until that day I turned to JESUS CHRIST and ask him to come take over, HE Came, was it easy initially NO, but I hanged on his grace and from 2008 till date I'm totally free even from the urge to do that, renewed daily by his word and prayer.

You too can be saved, don't mind those telling you its impossible or that it isn't even a sin, you know the guilt, turn to Jesus he's the only one licensed by God to take away sin. John 1v29
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by ned009(m): 1:14pm On Sep 12, 2021
Ty not to see sense in it...
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by ramatintin(m): 1:21pm On Sep 12, 2021
Oga go get a girlfriend and watch how you forget about that shit.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by MediMedi(m): 1:23pm On Sep 12, 2021
SeyiFargo:
I started masturbating while I was 15yrs old, hence I have been trying on how to stop it.. All has been fruitless embarassed embarassed..
Anyone with a solid way of stopping this shiit, am tired of it..
All comments are welcomed
Let's push this to the fp so every Nl monikers can help me out ��
Masturbation is the thing of the mind, before going into it you already have picture of something.

Stopping it also is thing of the mind.
When you off your mind towards all those lustful thought, it will stop.

Don't think of women, see them as nothing.
Have in mind you're okay even without sex, move on.
Still, don't think of having a girlfriend/lover
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by NGArmyTerrorist: 1:25pm On Sep 12, 2021
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by dayoyemi: 1:31pm On Sep 12, 2021
I have been through this before. Way out:
1) u need to be willing and determined to stop it.
2) go spiritual by making it a prayer point all d time.
3) stop porns. Deactivate any link to this access.
4) ultimately, get busy all d time. Engage urself in productive ventures. Things that task ur intellectual and consume ur time. Reduce ur privacy. Avoid female companionship.

However, goal is easier achieved with d above when u crown it with early marriage.

Note that there is more to this. But not until u are in ur 40s, u may not know

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Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by donjoesbry(m): 1:34pm On Sep 12, 2021
Happy sunday to you all. I am super excited to share this spirit lifting worship song .

As the song blesses you, please you a comment, like and share.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_PWJX9ePGfg
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by Athemisia: 1:36pm On Sep 12, 2021
frozen70:


Who told you that it doesn't?

It does so badly because your dick will be use to the palms you are using to jerk it out

By the time he gets to a pussy, it will not get attention quickly there by creating tension on him because she will be expecting a turgid dick

Secondly, the session will be too short and that means he is yet to bring her to orgasm, what does that means

It means he is a two minutes man, even Indomie is not cooked in two minutes

A man's dick already knows what he will get when it gets to a woman's body and not using finger's to replace it and cause more harm

If you feel it has no effect, go on with yours and find out the difference
Do you have a dïck
Or you are just quoting some random article you came across online??
I speak from experience because I have a dïck and I'm glad to tell you all your theories are bullcrap...

To last long wilth a woman is a mind control thing and a secret which most pornstars uses...

To masturbate increases your sex life with women and not the opposite. My sex life with women is super hot ���...
Maybe you need some of my dvck to help explain better. Don't be shy just dm me.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by Nobody: 1:44pm On Sep 12, 2021
Ola17:


Masturbating once in a while isn’t bad, same as having attraction for the opposite sex.

To beat masturbation, you have to give op watching pôrn. Avoid situations that encourages you to engage in the act. Whenever you have the urge, you may decide to go jogging, do some press ups or read the Bible.

If you usually masturbate several times in a day, cut it down to once and subsequently once every other day. Habits die hard, you may fail several times, don’t beat yourself up over that. Keep pushing.
Most helpful comment on the matter.

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Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by Boko619(m): 1:47pm On Sep 12, 2021
bodybuilder:
It's simple, you are not having sex that's why you masturbate alot. Just having sex once or twice a week can keep you away from daily masturbation. Get girl or girls. Make sure to always use condom.

What if I don't want to have sex
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by mayowascholar(m): 1:48pm On Sep 12, 2021
Pray to God with Psalms and salt.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by mudiana(m): 1:48pm On Sep 12, 2021
hey! I have been an addict of both porn and masturbation. And I can tell u for free it will mess up ur life. so I have been battling with this for over 15 years until 3 months ago I got serious about quitting for good. I came across this lady on YouTube that helps one to overcome this addiction. I will drop the link for u to watch her videos Nd start practicing. In no time u will be free like me. When ur brain has completely healed from d damage of porn and masturbation, u will hate porn and masturbation with passion.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fkzKTwLcSn8

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Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by Oyin2212(m): 1:49pm On Sep 12, 2021
Bro check out this thread. It'll really help you.

https://www.nairaland.com/5223408/masturbation-quitting-challenge-thread

I was once in your shoes, but now I'm 110 days free and counting.

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Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by eabiode: 1:54pm On Sep 12, 2021
SeyiFargo:
I started masturbating while I was 15yrs old, hence I have been trying on how to stop it.. All has been fruitless embarassed embarassed..
Anyone with a solid way of stopping this shiit, am tired of it..
All comments are welcomed
Let's push this to the fp so every Nl monikers can help me out ��

Be born gain. Completely surrender to Christ wholeheartedly ..only with Jesus you can conquer the world.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by msabdul(m): 1:54pm On Sep 12, 2021
You need God 's intervention. Is war between you and your instinct. First and fore most, you'll need to avoid pornographic videos and pictures, if you don't have a wife please try as much as possible to get one then always lower your gaze especially when you are in meanst of ladies who are half dressed. Then, try to avoid loneliness...always be in company of people at least your wife. Then, pray hard and ask people to pray for you (your pastor or imam) as the case may be.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by Geesunny: 1:56pm On Sep 12, 2021
Locate a Bible believing Church/ man of God to counsel and pray for you. It's a spirit that must be prayed out.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by Guardiola84: 2:00pm On Sep 12, 2021
Ola17:


Masturbating once in a while isn’t bad, same as having attraction for the opposite sex.

To beat masturbation, you have to give op watching pôrn. Avoid situations that encourages you to engage in the act. Whenever you have the urge, you may decide to go jogging, do some press ups or read the Bible.

If you usually masturbate several times in a day, cut it down to once and subsequently once every other day. Habits die hard, you may fail several times, don’t beat yourself up over that. Keep pushing.
Just get busy with a job or business,but to be sincere masturbting is better than have STI or HIV ooo I don talk mine finish,I masturbate once or twice a WK n I've never contacted any sti or HIV I d enjoy my life jeeje ,who woman help?
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by peculiaryemight: 2:03pm On Sep 12, 2021
You just have to control your mind. Everything started from your thought. And pray about it for the grace of God.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by OBA117(m): 2:08pm On Sep 12, 2021
SeyiFargo:
I started masturbating while I was 15yrs old, hence I have been trying on how to stop it.. All has been fruitless embarassed embarassed..
Anyone with a solid way of stopping this shiit, am tired of it..
All comments are welcomed
Let's push this to the fp so every Nl monikers can help me out ��

You need the help of God.
Firstly, genuinely give your heart to Jesus.
Second, get anointed sermons and worship songs by anointed Gospel artistes.
Third, always pray to God for divine help because you cannot break the spirit of ungodly addiction by your natural power.
Fourth, do away with anything that can easily lure you back into it.


NB: Whenever the urge comes quickly find something that interest you to do or start playing Christian Worship Songs to stir up your spirit man.

May God give you grace to overcome every power of ungodly addiction in Jesus name.

Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by Betboss(m): 2:12pm On Sep 12, 2021
Loverboi2cute:

I swear...we wey no con get girl wey fit give us nko... wetin we go do na??

Get busy with something else, better still get a roommate.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by ukwenjimmy: 2:13pm On Sep 12, 2021
If you want it to stop, tell your family members and friends.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by koyyess: 2:20pm On Sep 12, 2021
SeyiFargo:
I started masturbating while I was 15yrs old, hence I have been trying on how to stop it.. All has been fruitless embarassed embarassed..
Anyone with a solid way of stopping this shiit, am tired of it..
All comments are welcomed
Let's push this to the fp so every Nl monikers can help me out ��
Two things

1. Go and invent something like your white mates are doing.

2. Never ever entertain the thought of joining Islam. If you do, the sight of mannequin, kids, fellow males, animals and anything that has a hole will be temptation to you.

Know this and know peace.
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by blacknoir: 2:27pm On Sep 12, 2021
Kantebets:
Wetin una gain for soapy?
What do u gain romancing your dick
Disgusting bro
Get a life
If u don't have anything to say shut ur mouth. Porn /masturbation addiction is real. So many people are trying to quit from addictions be it porn ,alcohol, smoking etc ,u think if they had a choice they would still continue?
Re: Help Me Please This Masturbation Is Changing My Life by gulfer: 2:32pm On Sep 12, 2021
zaxbash:
Get married
Marriage does not solve the problem most times angry angry angry angry

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