pocohantas:


Yenyenyen! They ignored guys in their prime. But when your gf breaks up with you to marry a ready man, you will come crying on Nairaland.

Some of you here have been dating your gfs for years without marriage. If they leave you now, another wailing go start.

You marry early? All Naija women want is marriage. They don’t build themselves.

You say make you stand before marriage? Double wahala. Evening newspaper, borehole pussy. Edede! Who go marry this one?

Abeg make una getaut!

I understand your frustration, but you are too beautiful not to be able to find and keep a man.

Maybe it has a lot to do with your character.

Brightw278:
I was discussing with a friend of mine during one of his visits this past weekend, we talked about politics, football and a whole lot of interesting topics. We were in the middle of discussion when we tuned in into this popular reality tv series on dstv, “finding the one”. So we switched topic

I was trying to explain to him why we have many ladies looking for suitors in Nigeria and the main reason being this harsh economy. I told him no man would want to settle down until he has something to fall onto and has a good job that can sustain a family but my friend thinks otherwise.

He said the reason why some ladies get really old without suitors coming their way is because they must have ignored a lot of guys during their prime (20-28) and once reality set in they become desperate.

I told him I have a sister who is perfectly fine and doing well but good men ain’t just coming her way, but he just wouldn’t agree. I can’t believe people still think this way in this 21st century. He was telling me no matter your looks and all someone must approach you, I had to calm him down what if those coming your way ain’t even somebody you can settle with. Guess his reply? You just have to endure and get married like that.

This a guy went on for some hours before I just decided to call it a quit and told him we should just enjoy our football match.Personally to me I think nobody should be forced into marriage when he /she ain’t ready.

I just want to seek you guys opinion, he will also be on nairaland reading this. Should the sole reason of not being able to find suitors be attributed to youthful exuberance alone? Do girls who find it difficult to find a man must have been to choosy in the past? Your opinions will be highly appreciated

Some of them are " where did you get my number?"

Brightw278:
I was discussing with a friend of mine during one of his visits this past weekend, we talked about politics, football and a whole lot of interesting topics. We were in the middle of discussion when we tuned in into this popular reality tv series on dstv, “finding the one”. So we switched topic

I was trying to explain to him why we have many ladies looking for suitors in Nigeria and the main reason being this harsh economy. I told him no man would want to settle down until he has something to fall onto and has a good job that can sustain a family but my friend thinks otherwise.

He said the reason why some ladies get really old without suitors coming their way is because they must have ignored a lot of guys during their prime (20-28) and once reality set in they become desperate.

I told him I have a sister who is perfectly fine and doing well but good men ain’t just coming her way, but he just wouldn’t agree. I can’t believe people still think this way in this 21st century. He was telling me no matter your looks and all someone must approach you, I had to calm him down what if those coming your way ain’t even somebody you can settle with. Guess his reply? You just have to endure and get married like that.

This a guy went on for some hours before I just decided to call it a quit and told him we should just enjoy our football match.Personally to me I think nobody should be forced into marriage when he /she ain’t ready.

I just want to seek you guys opinion, he will also be on nairaland reading this. Should the sole reason of not being able to find suitors be attributed to youthful exuberance alone? Do girls who find it difficult to find a man must have been to choosy in the past? Your opinions will be highly appreciated

The biggest reason that I think (75%) is because of men, only few guys ready to go into marriage and mainly cos of economy situation, also, few who are ready financially are not ready to carry responsibilities that attached to marriage, and for few guys who entered it, when they see the huge responsibility that attached to it , they ran away and that results to single motherhood.

If you are not man enough you will see marriage as a complete prison, cos thre is wide gap BTW be single and married.

Brightw278:
likewise money, children, heaven and good things. People who see marriage as an achievement should be left alone

Abi oh!
Dem say na student wey nor know book dey say las las school na scam.

pocohantas:


Yenyenyen! They ignored guys in their prime. But when your gf breaks up with you to marry a ready man, you will come crying on Nairaland.

Some of you here have been dating your gfs for years without marriage. If they leave you now, another wailing go start.

You marry early? All Naija women want is marriage. They don’t build themselves.

You say make you stand before marriage? Double wahala. Evening newspaper, borehole pussy. Edede! Who go marry this one?

Abeg make una getaut!

Pocoha on the beat

AutoChick4U:
When fate has written you'll marry in your 30s or 40s, no matter how you push in your 20s things won't fall in place. You push much, u may regret. Everyone got an appointed time.

Men (women) are sometimes masters of their own destinies, architects of their own fate.

Beebah2000:
Here to read comments

What else can you offer?

Perfection doesn’t exist
Love with your head & not with emotions
Select certain standards you cannot compromise and pick a partner based on that.
A little attraction at the initial stage isn’t bad, but this eventually fades with time.
*But if the other person in question is just too charismatic or too attractive: it’s best you run because evil is sexy.

Very soon every woman go dey marry themselves... no time for stress

As a fellow foolish Nairalander I am disappointed that you men engaged in something other than political news or soccer. What rubbish! As for your thread nothing concern me. It makes front page every other week with different titles. There’s nothing people will type here which we haven’t seen thousands of times.

Come to think of it, girls suffer in the hands of guys, because 99% of guys that approach a girl just wants to bed her,of Which they come with marriage promises that will make the girl open her legs for him

pocohantas:


Yenyenyen! They ignored guys in their prime. But when your gf breaks up with you to marry a ready man, you will come crying on Nairaland.

Some of you here have been dating your gfs for years without marriage. If they leave you now, another wailing go start.

You marry early? All Naija women want is marriage. They don’t build themselves.

You say make you stand before marriage? Double wahala. Evening newspaper, borehole pussy. Edede! Who go marry this one?

Abeg make una getaut!

Realistically, ladies flex during their prime time then expect the same best of men during their older time to marry them. Who does that?

Best is to use that their young, attractive and beautiful times to settle down when men are lurking around them.

It's their nature, that's why there is a saying that women are hypergamy generally.

As for men, their power and charms never fade provided that there is constant inflow of money, different kind of women will always come for them because of their well to do essence. Women don't want to suffer a bit so they chose an advantageous man over and over again without thinking twice bout their decision.

Sadly, Love in relationships is fast fading away. Much less in percentage compared to the older times of our parents. everyone is calculating to give themselves the best of what life have to offer for them - both man-woman relationships and otherwise.

Men have married mpkumiri or wetin b dat drug name.

Afriqan:
Even as a man, I sometimes feel for ladies, but you can't settle down out of pity.

It's majorly the economy that has prevented a lot of well meaning guys from settling down. A lot of Nigerian women will tell you they love you, but if there is no money, there won't be respect in the relationship, that's why most guys are just staying single nowadays.

Na wetin sure pass.

You can have a fantastic job and all that, the moment you loose your source of income she turns into a devil and that's where the problem starts.

Nigerian women are something else to be honest.

I can't even think about marriage now, I'd just wallow in perpetual poverty.

Aksnoopy:
I understand your frustration, but you are too beautiful not to be able to find and keep a man.

Maybe it has a lot to do with your character.

And who told you I am trying to “KEEP” a man?
Always forcing yourselves into the picture. For people who do not care about marriage, it is quite surprising. KEEP your fckeen selves.

Yoighaman:


Men (women) are sometimes masters of their own destinies, architects of their own fate.

You'd be surprised

Most Nigerian girls (90%) girls suffer from a very bad disease called ( doupi) meaning dreams of an unreal perfect individual. They choose, and choose till they start getting near their menopausal age then reality sets in, this disease I have researched to be the cause of so many single women out there getting old. Nigerian women should put hands together to fight this devastating disease..

SmartGadgetz:


Realistically, ladies flex during their prime time then expect the same best of man during their older time to marry them. Who does that? Best is to use that their young and beautiful time to settle down during the times men are lurking around them.

In which country is this realistic? In this same Nigeria that you guys said women rush into marriage immediately after NYSC?

Y’all would speak from every hole in your body to defend whatever agenda you want.

Dshocker:
Come to think of it, girls suffer in the hands of guys, because 99% of guys that approach a girl just wants to bed her,of Which they come with marriage promises that will make the girl open her legs for him

Wickedness in low places

Marriage is a blessing

I concur

tihamu:
All Nigerian girl are useless all of them

Including FutureIsFemale(f)

Only struggling guys wants to settle while the made ones just wanna flex all girls that comes their way, and, that's why ladies say they don't see the responsible ones.

If you are ready to committing yourself with a man struggling to better his welfarism, go for him and build up with him, but sadly, many of the ladies just want to enjoy life without contributing anything...


I see baby mama and papa becomes the norm in 30yrs..

joyandfaith:

If marriage institution is destabilized, families would be destroyed and our society would pay for it. Bad families, bad societies.

I hate when marriage is called an "institution"....its a nightmare in which guys have to cope with greedy selfish women

Brightw278:
I disagree, marriage is not overatted, it has always been the building block that held our community together

What community would that be?

The same one in which thievery and dishonesty are the norm?

The one in which security, electricity and safe drinking water are luxuries?

Tell me more about these building blocks....

Edusouls:
Most Nigerian girls (90%) girls suffer from a very bad disease called ( doupi) meaning dreams of an unreal perfect individual. They choose, and choose till they start getting near their menopausal age then reality sets in, this disease I have researched to be the cause of so many single women out there getting old. Nigerian women should put hands together to fight this devastating disease..

So people should marry even if not compatible?

siofra:


I think it's love. People place too much value on finding romantic love. The media has set ridiculous standards for love. Everyone wants to experience that feeling of being in love (romantic love)

Some are not even ready to commit themselves and sacrifice. They just want people to love them. After all with the way media has shown it (thanks to romantic movies, novels and reality shows) it has to be a sweet, wonderful feeling.

Hmmm... For the first time, I'm reading something quite intelligible from you... You try...

siofra:


I think it's love. People place too much value on finding romantic love.
The media has set ridiculous standards for love. A Everyone wants to experience that feeling of being in love (romantic love)

Some are not even ready to commit themselves and sacrifice. They just want people to love them. After all with the way media has shown it (thanks to romantic movies, novels and reality shows) it has to be a sweet, wonderful feeling.

The sentence in bold is the issue, it should be a happy one, not necessarily expecting to live in Disney land.

As old as I am, each time I remembered that someday I will marry, I usually feel weight on my chest, even though all my younger ones are married with children.

I don't know why

Brightw278:
I was discussing with a friend of mine during one of his visits this past weekend, we talked about politics, football and a whole lot of interesting topics. We were in the middle of discussion when we tuned in into this popular reality tv series on dstv, “finding the one”. So we switched topic

I was trying to explain to him why we have many ladies looking for suitors in Nigeria and the main reason being this harsh economy. I told him no man would want to settle down until he has something to fall onto and has a good job that can sustain a family but my friend thinks otherwise.

He said the reason why some ladies get really old without suitors coming their way is because they must have ignored a lot of guys during their prime (20-28) and once reality set in they become desperate.

I told him I have a sister who is perfectly fine and doing well but good men ain’t just coming her way, but he just wouldn’t agree. I can’t believe people still think this way in this 21st century. He was telling me no matter your looks and all someone must approach you, I had to calm him down what if those coming your way ain’t even somebody you can settle with. Guess his reply? You just have to endure and get married like that.

This a guy went on for some hours before I just decided to call it a quit and told him we should just enjoy our football match.Personally to me I think nobody should be forced into marriage when he /she ain’t ready.

I just want to seek you guys opinion, he will also be on nairaland reading this. Should the sole reason of not being able to find suitors be attributed to youthful exuberance alone? Do girls who find it difficult to find a man must have been to choosy in the past? Your opinions will be highly appreciated

I noticed these days females are open to referred relationship where a female tells her fellow female/Male friends that they are open for relationship so those friends become the scout when they travel to other states and see another person of the opposite sex who is willing they give that person their friends contact and I ask myself wats going on..someone you dont know and have never met..all they are concerned about is does he have money. Today's women are desperate..

Brightw278:
I was discussing with a friend of mine during one of his visits this past weekend, we talked about politics, football and a whole lot of interesting topics. We were in the middle of discussion when we tuned in into this popular reality tv series on dstv, “finding the one”. So we switched topic

I was trying to explain to him why we have many ladies looking for suitors in Nigeria and the main reason being this harsh economy. I told him no man would want to settle down until he has something to fall onto and has a good job that can sustain a family but my friend thinks otherwise.

He said the reason why some ladies get really old without suitors coming their way is because they must have ignored a lot of guys during their prime (20-28) and once reality set in they become desperate.

I told him I have a sister who is perfectly fine and doing well but good men ain’t just coming her way, but he just wouldn’t agree. I can’t believe people still think this way in this 21st century. He was telling me no matter your looks and all someone must approach you, I had to calm him down what if those coming your way ain’t even somebody you can settle with. Guess his reply? You just have to endure and get married like that.

This a guy went on for some hours before I just decided to call it a quit and told him we should just enjoy our football match.Personally to me I think nobody should be forced into marriage when he /she ain’t ready.

I just want to seek you guys opinion, he will also be on nairaland reading this. Should the sole reason of not being able to find suitors be attributed to youthful exuberance alone? Do girls who find it difficult to find a man must have been to choosy in the past? Your opinions will be highly appreciated

Hell no to enduring, The main fact is there are three things involved for people like your sister.
1. She is avoiding or friend-zoned alot of the men that could or be suitable for her (he is short, doesnt have money, he doesnt have a matching executive job, etc etc all those classes we place good men into and seek them wrong men with non important factors)
2. She is attracting those wrong men, so she is a relection of what she is getting and cant blame those men for approaching as thats what she is giving off.
3. She is relaxed and waiting, Women esp those that we tag as loose are ready and are out there looking for men, good men to settle with and will go to place where they can be to get them. how much time does she spending socalizing or being in gathering of where responsible young men will be, or she is at home or working and expect to meet her suppose wonderful suitor there, she needs to get out there, be available, approachable and in some cases ask the guy out for a date or drinks, abi we are now modern no more green light, go for the man you like no time o. you think side chick get the men from working and sitting at home after work na they are out there.